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Telsa Cola: Aug 19, 2011; No... this is all wrong... this whole operation has just gone completely sidewaysface

So I have quite the problem. Was finally with a lady after a looong dry spell and could not preform, she said it was alright but I feel like poo poo about it and I feel like me worrying about it is going to affect me the next time we are together any thoughts or suggestions would be great. In addition I did some looking around and I was wondering if PIED is a real thing or not, the only real website I found about it was a bit new agey so I do not know if i should trust it or not.

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Telsa Cola: Aug 19, 2011; No... this is all wrong... this whole operation has just gone completely sidewaysface

stratdax posted:

What's PIED?

These things happen. If you want to be sure for next time get a perscription for viagra so you won't be worried and you'll get over your mental roadblock.

Porn induced erectile disfunction. I don't know if it is an actual thing or not and was wondering if anybody could confirm or deny its existence.

Yeah I was thinking of giving that a shot since I figured it might be a mental issue, thanks for the suggestion.

# ¿ May 6, 2014 00:48

Telsa Cola: Aug 19, 2011; No... this is all wrong... this whole operation has just gone completely sidewaysface

stratdax posted:

Definitely. Porn numbs you mentally. I mean, it's over-the-top constant mental stimulation, and just like anything you'll just get numb to normal things.

ED can be triggered by so many things, including the stress of not performing, so it's a nasty cycle. Viagra will remove that stress - it's not a permanent thing, once you perform once or twice your confidence will be back and you'll be able to perform naturally.

In the meantime cut out the porn entirely. Just stop watching it. It's definitely not beneficial.

Alright well thats good to know. I will go pick up a prescription as soon as i can and I'm definitely going to cut porn out completely. Thanks for the advice.

# ¿ May 6, 2014 01:38

Telsa Cola: Aug 19, 2011; No... this is all wrong... this whole operation has just gone completely sidewaysface

Kimmalah posted:

Personally I think you should just try to relax as much as you can and give it another shot before you go off to try and get a Viagra prescription. This is the kind of thing that happens to every guy at some point and in particular, is really common when you're with a new partner after a long spell. Especially if you've grown accustomed to getting stimulation from masturbating in that time.

I know that's easier said than done and definitely talk to your doctor if you really want. But most likely you just had an off-day combined with the weirdness that comes with having a partner after not really having another person around for a while.

Yeah, I think I might have went into it with to much stress and was not relaxed enough and that was the issue, I am going to keep the doctor as a back up plan though.

stratdax posted:

That's true too. Tesla Cola have you been watching porn and beating it every day? Because cutting that out will make an improvement. Did you get hard then were unable to maintain, or did you not get an erection at all? Because getting hard and not maintaining is a big indicator of psychological, not physical, problems. Which again, points back to porn watching or being stressed at not being able to perform. Did you engage in a lot of foreplay? Because that's not just for the woman.

Pretty much, I stopped watching porn and masturbating after it happened so hopefully there will be some improvement apparent. Yeah it gets hard and I cant maintain it, I also get morning wood and night erections so I don't think its physical problems. We did not do much foreplay last time but I will see about going about it more for the next time.

necrobobsledder posted:

If you're able to masturbate and anticipate when you'll be able to get hard and have a pretty darn good idea of if you're going to finish, it's basically all in your head and this can be triggered by stress, anxiety, depression, or mood variances in general. Sometimes normally sexually active guys can go for hours no problem, sometimes they're finished in 20 seconds, we all have ups and downs and that's just life. People with medically significant erectile dysfunctions tend to have trouble even if they're alone and it's prolonged (longer than a month or two).

If you still watch porn regularly and can go at it day to day with no adverse effect on your sex life, that's fine. But it's something worth stopping cold turkey for a while to see if you just got too used to dating Palmela Handerson.

Otherwise, you may be having some general metabolism / energy issues barring mood disorders like anxiety / depression and exercise can help (it's counterintuitive that you should exercise when you're feeling sluggish but that's the science).

I am almost certain that the issue is mostly in my head (New partner after dry spell, stress from upcoming finals, etc). Yeah I am attempting a cold turkey stop so we shall see how that goes, any idea how long it will take before there will be improvement?

# ¿ May 7, 2014 01:36

Telsa Cola: Aug 19, 2011; No... this is all wrong... this whole operation has just gone completely sidewaysface

PlatinumJukebox posted:

On the topic of PIED: does anyone have tips for cold turkeying? I have basically no self control about this kinda thing.

Suggestions I have seen are install a web-filter and type in a passcode you wont remember, other suggestions include working out whenever you get too horny. Basically if you start thinking about it go do something else productive for a bit.

# ¿ May 7, 2014 18:01

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