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Is there any other reason why your partner does not like tongues other than them being slimy and gross? I mean, I don't like anal because it sounds gross to me, but I also need to be able to sit on my rear end for at least 12 hours a day. (At least when you're physically disabled like me you have a valid excuse.) I'm worried something could end up injuring my rear end during anal and getting an rear end injury is not good for my daily life.
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Kimmalah posted:Those women, am I right guys? Yeah, some men find shaved pussy gross, while others are skeeved out by one hair.
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Mar 16, 2014 18:55
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Turtlicious posted:Nah it's literally just "I don't like tongues touching me they have a weird texture." Well, now you know. You can try to discuss your feelings with her about tongues - I recommend that you still do that - or just dump her. (NOT a good idea) Maybe you and her can go see a sex therapist of some kind about this.
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I think that my libido's acting like a dying fish. I'm on SSRI's right now, but my doctor gave me Wellbutrin to help with the SSRI problem. However, my libido is like ping-pong ball. I feel attracted to a picture of hot guy cuddling a puppy and the next I just react like I'm looking at a brick wall. I'm 20 and I have trouble even thinking of being attracted to someone sometimes. Help?
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Mar 23, 2014 20:10
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I've been on the SSRI for over a year. But the fact that I do have somewhat of a sex drive means it can come back, right? 
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Mar 23, 2014 21:02
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Kaal posted:Yes, potentially. Unfortunately it's a very normal effect of SSRIs though, and many people have to try changing doses or switching between different medicines to find one that has the best balance of effects v. side-effects. It's clearly affecting your life, so be sure to talk to your doctor about it. I have talked to my doctor about it and it's a wait and see game at the moment. It also could depression, stress or nervousness. My dosage has increased, so we're waiting to see if it's depression related. I'm learning how to try and get it back in the meantime.
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Mar 27, 2014 05:57
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The only "normal" porn scenario (I assume hardcore gagging and bukkake don't count as Vanilla) that makes me cringe is the male doctor and female patient scenario. Not only have male doctors been charged for sexually assaulting women over the years. It just baffles me that a doctor would violate the Hippocratic Oath. Yeah, I know I'm reading too much into a fantasy, but that kind of stuff borders on frightening for me.
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I can't seem to relax when I masturbate. I try to do when I'm lying down, but then my brain says "Okay, we've got to climax so that we can feel normal to other people. Our vagina isn't broke-ah,crap arousals gone again." I'm female, by the way. How do I masturbate normal? 
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Apr 13, 2014 06:15
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hoobajoo posted:Make sure she knows it's fine to have sex that doesn't end with an orgasm, and an orgasm won't have to end the sex either. A lot, and I mean a LOT, of women think a man won't do anything sexual to finish her off if he comes first, and these same men will bitch and moan if they don't get their blowjob-PIV-nut-cleanup flowchart sex like in the pornos. Also make it clear you'll never ego trip out if she didn't like something, she wanted to stop, or if she has any criticism. I've always thought like this. Of course, it doesn't help that most of the Internet that I read as a teenager consisted of "Hey, my girl won't deep-throat me after I watched that romantic comedy with her, what do?"  It made me feel like sex was a bargaining tool and that I'd better be prepared to deep throat my guy or else he'd leave me for the more attractive and able-bodied girl. I didn't bother to ask any counselors about this because I didn't have any boyfriends and I assume that was what you had to do to keep a guy. As a result, I now have this mind-set where I have to make a guy happy because being with a disabled women is stressful and there is ALWAYS someone better. But you and Captain Log give me hope that maybe guys can be patient human beings after all.  TL;DR: Growing up as a disabled woman can really gently caress-up your self esteem and the Internet can sometimes make it worse.
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Yeah, I should really seek therapy for my E/N issues involving sex and attraction, but I really don't know if its worth it. It basically is a lifetime of issues that I just learned existed a year ago and I feel that most people wouldn't understand.  Also, I recently took a history of sexuality class and we watched a few scenes from Deep Throat It almost blew my mind that the female characters pursued their own sexuality and got men to pleasure them. I understand that Deep Throat was shown in mainstream cinemas, so it was pretty sophisticated by porn standards, but what the hell happened to hetero porn? A lot of the heterosexual female students said that they preferred watching lesbian porn to het porn.
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Anne Whateley posted:That's, uh, an optimistic reading of a woman "pursuing her sexuality" (only getting off by giving blowjobs). You don't think it's about the male fantasy of "what if I got blowjobs all the time and I didn't have to do anything"? I'm aware of Linda's claims, but somehow I thought that Deep Throat actually attempted to portray women in porn in a somewhat better light. It's supposed to be a comedic piece and the premise is weird, (someone in class said afterwards that "somewhere, a biologist is crying"), but the portrayal of women could be worse. Violet_Sky fucked around with this message at 03:03 on Dec 16, 2014 |
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I was raised in a non-religious family, but disability and depression hosed me up. My parents are nice people, but my mother did not like talking about sex. (Yet, my parents watch Game of Thrones, so I guess sex is okay if it's on television?) Because of that, I grew up thinking that even masturbation was dirty and wrong. I still don't like doing it, because I feel gross and wrong. Part of it's disability, part of it stems from my mother's attitude towards sex.
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Dec 23, 2014 22:35
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hoobajoo posted:It won't warp his dog psychology if that's what you're worried about. Yeah, dogs eat each others poo poo, OP. He won't be scarred for life. Is he a cute doggie? I want to pet him in a platonic way.
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Jan 26, 2015 06:25
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I'm going to move into an apartment type place soon and was wondering: How do you have the sexytimes when other people might hear you? The loud-rear end stereo isn't an option; there's regulations on noise level.
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Yeah, the only thing in the rules is to keep noise to a reasonable level after 10PM which is understandable. My apartment's more of a singles type place, so there won't be any kids. I just kinda want to show some respect for my neighbors as well. It's my first apartment and I don't know what rules are enforced or not and oh god HELP.
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Dec 18, 2015 18:06
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Cuckoo posted:It is nice of you to not have screaming sessions at 3AM or something, no matter what the activity is. I'm a straight woman, so
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Dec 18, 2015 18:39
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Are the condoms with lube in them any good?
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Feb 11, 2016 20:11
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Im a het female with cerebral palsy who found out today that I really cant have sex. My legs wont spread open far enough and my vagina burns when something goes in it. Am I doomed to not have sex forever. I made an appointment to see my GP on monday because looking up similar stories on the internet told me it was the best option. I cant even orgasm because my bodys too tight.
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Jul 22, 2016 23:58
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I also feel like poo poo because we couldnt do poo poo and I ended up apologizing a lot. I couldnt even suck him off because I have a strong gag reflex.
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Jul 23, 2016 01:19
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Was? I think I still am. We couldn't even get the drat thing in. And no, no toys or poo poo like that. Was I supposed to?
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Jul 23, 2016 04:28
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Welp the guy I saw blocked me and didnt answer my texts. I apologized a lot and we ended up having really bad sex but that isnt a reason to block someone. Again, I know this isnt e/n but I feel like poo poo. : :
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Jul 23, 2016 08:57
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Well we couldnt do anything so we just cuddled and I felt terrible. He kept saying it was okay and we'll figure it out. Maybe he was just upset I dunno.
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He couldnt even get the thing in. Im not sure we even had sex because it hurt too much when he close to the opening.
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I just feel so lovely. I think my mental illnesses scared him away as well. I just want the pain to stop.
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Jul 23, 2016 20:14
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Ghosting really sucks. Why do people even bother dating if people are just going to be immature and not tell people how they feel? 
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TBF the guy had been through some Bad poo poo recently. And when I get upset I cant help apologizing over and over again. It got annoying.
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KillHour posted:Completely unrelated, but here's an ad I saw on a porn site: Dont doxx me tia.
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I have a weird thing where my clit hurts after rubbing it too long. At first it feels good, but then everything goes away after a while and nopes out. Im on anti-depressants which I take 25mg every other day, but I don't think that could be it.
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My inability to have PiV sex due to my tightness down there which is caused by my cerebral palsy is giving me bad anxiety. I'm worried people are going to leave me over this. How disappointed would penis-havers be if they couldn't have PiV sex?
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I can't be penetrated due to tightness down there and an efriend made fun of me for it. As a result I'm more scared and anxious about sex now. Apparently this tightness is common for people with cerebral palsy, (which I have) How do I make myself less anxious about sex?
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Xand_Man posted:Anti-depressants and their ilk can play havoc on sexual response as well but yeah collect more data points I was gonna say this. I don't have a dick but I've felt similar things down there that OP mentioned. SSRIs do be like that.
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Also AFAB people can have trouble orgasming due to societal bullshit at first. My advice is to make her feel special and loved while you take it slow. Reassure her if she's nervous and if she decides to want to pause things or tap out, let her.
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GoGoGadget posted:Yes, she has told me she is happy with things as they are. I have asked her to be more verbally expressive, which is why she now will tell me when something is feeling good. But if I ask her to express what exactly feels good it's difficult for her. I imagine this'll get better with experience, and is another reason I bought her the vibrator. We just need to get around to using it... Expressing what feels good could be due to her upbringing as well. Unpacking patriarchal sex bullshit is a lot of work without adding religion into the mix.
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This whole conversation kinda worries me. I'm someone that for whom sex is physically difficult due to a disability It sucks rear end that I can't do much in bed. Also patriarchal sex bullshit blahblahblah. I'm worried that I won't be able to please my future partner. I'm a cis woman, btw.
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BlankSystemDaemon posted:Please just loving communicate. I'll communicate while loving.
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Nobody Interesting posted:My partner (we are a heteronormative cis f/m couple) constantly has this worry, and tells me often how she feels "guilty" that she can't - for example - jump on top of me and ride me into the sunset. She's overweight and has some injuries that make mobility tricky for her, so some positions are out of the question and general endurance is a problem. The weight she can (and is) working on, but the limiting injuries to her legs, feet, and back prevent her from being more wild. I have cerebral palsy and am a wheelchair user which limits my positions. I'm working on physio to help me with non-sex stuff but I'll see if that helps with bedroom matters.
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Question: Lately I found that getting off for getting off's sake does nothing for me. I need be to emotionally invested. I'm a cis woman on SSRIs which I'm sure aren't helping. But when I try to get off normally I just get bored. Is my junk broke or am I just demisexual?
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