Sex Questions Megathread: I got herpes from my grandma

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Spikes32: Jul 25, 2013; Happy trees

dadrips posted:

I'm a male in my late twenties who has had a "sporadic" sex life, and hooking up with someone again for the first time in a few years has made me realise that in all of my encounters past and present going back 7 years I've never successfully got it up long enough for oral or penetrative sex. In fact the only time I've successfully climaxed with a partner was through vigorous handjobs from the last person I slept with, which would leave her with a sore wrist.

This is a bit upsetting because it can make both people involved a bit sad and disappointed, and on a personal level I do feel like I've lost out on a lot of potential fun and intimacy over the years. Each time I've still managed to make my partners feel good, which in itself is something that I definitely enjoy! At the same time I do wish it was easier for my partners to reciprocate on that, and that I could also Successfully gently caress

I've obviously been pre-occupied with this, and am almost certain it's down to the semi-religious nightly porn & masturbation (and later, weed) routine I fell into in my teens which I'm only just now trying to kick. I've got an appointment with a doctor in a month to hopefully rule out any kind of physical issues all the same

Has anybody else had experience with this before, and if so, how did they deal with it? I do get the feeling that whatever the solution is, it's probably not going to be an overnight one

tl;dr sad man with chronic flop disorder seeks reassurance and/or advice

Short answer, when you're in a place where you are regularly seeing someone you don't get to masturbate or finish yourself off at all. Only through whatever you're doing with them or they're doing to you. Eventually your brain will reprogram when it learns it doesn't get to cum like it's used to.

Long answer, go look up some info on death grip syndrome.

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Spikes32: Jul 25, 2013; Happy trees

Jedit posted:

Sounds to me more like you have a problem getting fully erect.

(Also a problem with talking about your dick in the third person, but that's another issue entirely.)

Try cock rings? Then figure out the condom issue. Check the diameter because all those magnum ones in the US have the same max width. You can buy my size from the UK on Amazon though if it turns out you need it

# ¿ Nov 7, 2018 15:11

Spikes32: Jul 25, 2013; Happy trees

Will you be going down the foreskin restoration route now that you've had such success with this?

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Spikes32: Jul 25, 2013; Happy trees

Is she on medication? Because if so outbreaks are much less common and contagious.

# ¿ Jul 17, 2023 13:45

Spikes32: Jul 25, 2013; Happy trees

Silicone lube and non silicone condoms on the toys?

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# ¿ May 8, 2024 12:45

Spikes32: Jul 25, 2013; Happy trees

No extra effects, that can make it harder for the receiving partner to feel pain or discomfort. I recommend silicone instead of water based, you'll need to reapply much less often and thus your partner will have a better experience.

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