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Violet_Sky posted:I've been on the SSRI for over a year. But the fact that I do have somewhat of a sex drive means it can come back, right? Yes, potentially. Unfortunately it's a very normal effect of SSRIs though, and many people have to try changing doses or switching between different medicines to find one that has the best balance of effects v. side-effects. It's clearly affecting your life, so be sure to talk to your doctor about it.
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Mathematics posted:The thing is, the way he acts, his previous partners have never had a problem with it. "Just put it in," he helpfully advised. Hahahah, that's pretty funny. "Oh thanks why didn't I think of that? I'm a girl so I obviously have no idea how dicks work!" quote:So yeah, any advice? I basically just can't get the angle right. It works best when he's not rock hard so his dick isn't as parallel to his stomach. I might try a couple of variations on the cowgirl to see if you can find one that works better for the pair of you. Some experimenting with similar positions might make it easier to figure out the cowgirl. Check out this Cosmo how-to: http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/carnal-counselor-reverse-cowgirl
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Mathematics posted:I am actually trying regular cowgirl. I'm not sure why he says he doesn't like bending it that way, but every time I try to put it in a way that I think is sensible, he says it's uncomfortable. How about reverse missionary? It'll have the same angles as missionary but have you on top. Or there's several other straight-forward positions with the girl on top. Really the idea is to get you up there having successful sex, and that will give both of you the confidence and experience needed to figure out cowgirl. Alternatively, maybe put yourself on top but have him help by thrusting up into you? It'll be a little tiresome for him, but that way he's controlling the angle and you don't have to worry about hurting him. And once you two have a good rhythm going you should be able to take over. Communication is tricky, but I'm sure that he'll be receptive if you start talking about wanting to do some "advanced sex ed" - particularly if you start talking about it a little ahead of time so that he can get on board with the idea. If that doesn't seem to work, maybe sweeten the pot with a kama sutra book or a tasteful couple's porn night featuring the position you want. edit: And if none of that really seems to work for you, my best suggestion would be to sit forward a bit and focus on gently rocking your hips forward and around rather than pumping up and down. There's more to cowgirl than that, but that's basically just grinding so it's easy to do and it's pretty unlikely to hurt anybody with. Kaal fucked around with this message at 06:15 on Mar 27, 2014 |
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Violet_Sky posted:I have talked to my doctor about it and it's a wait and see game at the moment. It also could depression, stress or nervousness. My dosage has increased, so we're waiting to see if it's depression related. I'm learning how to try and get it back in the meantime. I had a girlfriend who went through the exact same issue. It sucked but it was eventually resolved in time. I'm sure that you'll be able to figure it out too. In the meantime, remember that moderate exercise and getting outside in the sun are great ways of simultaneously combating depression and improving your libido. You mentioned earlier that you have a physical disability and have to sit for 12 hours a day - maybe do some of that sitting in a garden or a greenhouse reading 50 Shades of Grey. Kaal fucked around with this message at 06:13 on Mar 27, 2014 |
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Squalid posted:Many people find stuff that "borders of frightening" arousing. It's the same feeling that draws people to roller coasters, fear is exciting. Though that's not necessarily the main reason doctor patient scenarios are common, I bet more people are drawn to it by the power relationship inherent in the circumstance, and also just by their own familiarity with the situation. This is definitely what it is. That and the fact that it's a forbidden relationship. That's why you'll see lots of variations on the power theme (teachers/students, bosses/secretaries, etc.) Plus the medical-themed scenes are often a play on the idea of the nurse as a traditional icon of femininity. Those kinds of gender roles still have a deep resonance in our culture. If I were to pick out one of the common porn plots that I dislike the most, it'd probably be the "fake audition" concept, which just reeks of misogyny and exploitation. The entire scenario just serves to break down the fourth wall and invite the viewer to be complicit in the fantasy of taking advantage of a woman. Kaal fucked around with this message at 06:34 on Mar 29, 2014 |
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Pinball posted:A dude mowing his lawn with a riding mower and dragging this woman in bondage behind the tractor and through the grass clippings. Hah, that's fantastic. That blows the shoes (but not the socks) off of the most amazing thing I've seen, which was the 1970s singing and dancing Alice in Wonderland porn parody that has to be seen to be believed.
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SavageGentleman posted:Linguistic question: Is "the taint" really an acceptable term for the vagina nowadays? For a non-native speaker like me, it really has a negative connotation. Slumpy posted:edit: to above poster, the taint is not the vagina in this context or any context I've ever heard of. It's basically the patch of skin between the vaginal opening and the anus. Technically it's called the perineum. It's very common American slang, but I suppose it's still a bit of an ugly word when you think about it. I might try to switch up my vocab a bit, particularly since I'm sure your girlfriend will be feeling very sensitive about it right now.
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Filboid Studge posted:Can the word 'sexytime' go away? Yes it can: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WGOohBytKTU
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Geoj posted:I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you completely missed this: Nah that's a legit mistake on your part. No one was talking about demanding that your long-term monogamous partner submit to an STI test. Asking a new partner about their sexual health is completely normal, and there shouldn't be any implication that the only way to get STIs is by "loving whores".
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