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Telsa Cola posted:Yeah, I think I might have went into it with to much stress and was not relaxed enough and that was the issue, I am going to keep the doctor as a back up plan though. My partner had a lot of self-esteem issues and stress in his life when we first got together and he thought he had ED. Turns out it was all "between the ears," as he likes to say. After a few weeks of me being very patient and telling him that it was okay whether we ever got to do anything or not, and building him up emotionally, we were able to have Sexy Times without any issues. We do sometimes use a cock ring and that helps a lot too. It's totally normal to not be able to get/stay hard due to stress. Communication and patience are key. And lastly the doc would definitely be a good option if you find out it's an issue that's not between the ears. If that is the case there is nothing wrong with you as a person, and you can still have a fulfilling sex life with the right workarounds. Good luck (and report back)!
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Mechafunkzilla posted:You're not the first person to run into the dreaded doggy butt smell, but it's probably not a result of her ability to wipe her rear end. A butt has a ton of sweat glands and lymph nodes and it's dark and hot and the skin is pressed together, so bacteria can thrive and produce strong odors. Diet and things like how breathable her underwear/pants are can also be factors. Whenever there is the remotest possibility of canoodling, I make sure to at least wipe both holes just in case - baby wipes are handy to have around. If it's totally spontaneous, or I forgot to clean up, or if I had no access to cleaning items, I warn my partner. And if I smell bad, I sure as hell want to be told about it - I'll clean up post haste and we can start over. It's just common courtesy to be proactive about smell and overall cleanliness since we are humans and this poo poo happens. Sometimes my dude has been kinda rank, especially for morning sex before he's showered. If it's too bad to proceed (plus, cleaner cocks make for happier lady parts), I'll say "yo, you didn't shower yet, can you just quick wash up your crotch?" and he'll go do that. I may wash up as well if needed, otherwise I'll warm up/primp/etc while waiting. It's not difficult to communicate effectively: Don't be a jerk about telling stuff to your partner and don't be butthurt about receiving similar info, especially when conveyed in a non-jerky fashion.
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Warchicken posted:What are those for exactly? They've always sounded dangerous to me. Common use for cock rings is maintaining an erection if you can't always keep it up, and they also seem to make the erection harder (as in, scary bulging veins). Apply around base of dick while flaccid, get monster boner; ejaculate and you will get soft again. Too tight and it may be uncomfortable, too loose and it won't do its job. If you're just experimenting then see if your local store has a multi-pack which comes with several sizes so you can figure out what works best for your girth. And yes, beware the hairs! e:fb. Also, vibrating cock rings? Would that even do anything for the dude?
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May 29, 2014 02:39
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FactsAreUseless posted:Can confirm this. I bought a cheap jelly toy for my girlfriend to use with a condom to see if she liked the style. It melted and stained everything it touched. How the hell did it melt?!  I have a jelly one and it feels really great. (I always use a condom over it.)
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CeramicPig posted:When I drink and get down I have a hard time getting and staying wet. Just be aware that just like sometimes happens with men, when women drink: desire goes up, inhibition goes down, and performance goes down as well. With women this usually means decrease in natural lubrication and decrease in ability to orgasm. I really don't know why this would affect the performance of lubes that aren't water-based, such as Astroglide like you said you are using. So I guess either you just need to keep your lube of choice on hand for easy (albeit frequent) application, or if that's a mood killer, perhaps switch to alternate methods of getting off while drunk such as oral or external (clitoral) as opposed to penetration. I tend to run dry myself, even without inebriation, and I just use good ol' KY and add spit as needed if it gets too gooey  neongrey posted:Your other solution is to use a silicone lube. That poo poo will keep you lubed until it gets wiped off.
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enthe0s posted:Thanks for the replies all. Good to know that all I need to do is basically chill the gently caress out and have her put it on me. Seems easy enough Also my college roommate claimed she knew how to (properly) apply a condom ... with her mouth. That sounds quite advanced to me but I imagine it surely helped out the mood! loki k zen posted:It might be you. The gagging sound is a porn thing. To me it sounds like a dying duck or something, totally unsexy. Vocal sounds during blowjobs are unnatural, the girlfriend probably saw it in porn and figured that's how it's done but it's totally unnecessary. To me, vocalizations during blowjobs should be limited to "mmmmmm!" Also if it's really a size issue then you're right, hands are awesome. You (er, now I mean the blowjob giver) can be holding the base and give the illusion of a genuine deepthroat when really it's much less penetration - the action of smashing your head into your hand seems to be as psychologically satisfying for the man as your mouth actually reaching the base, and all without getting your tonsils mashed. If you can deepthroat then hell yeah, go hog wild, but if not, then holding the base while sucking is infinitely more sustainable - after all, the tip of the penis is much more sensitive than the shaft anyway. And keeping that in mind, if you have the coordination, another good move is flicking your tongue around the head every time it hits the deepest point in your mouth. And teeth are a bad thing. Occasional incidental scraping is normal, but penises are sensitive, you (now I mean blowjob receiver) have got to tell her that it hurts and you'd like it better if she try and keep her lips over her teeth. It's all just a matter of practice. She is hopefully turned on by blowjobs - if not, then situate her so you can finger her while she's blowing you (such as her kneeling next to you on a couch or something as opposed to her kneeling in front of you). Anne Whateley posted:In general, you could talk about more teasing and less facefucking. It sounds like if she did more of the fun stuff and less of the "come now" violent in-and-out, that would solve the gagging and the toothiness, plus it might be more fun for you. 
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beefart posted:Any tips for minimizing pain when dealing with a large dick and a smaller sized vagina beyond lots of foreplay and lube? I've had several girlfriends in the past just straight up stop having sex with me for several months because it was too painful, and my most recent hookup is complaining of pretty intense soreness after last night, so I'd like to find a way to avoid that before once again fulfilling my destiny as The Vagina Mauler. Dick-in-vag is not all there is to sex. Mix it up. Oral and manual and toys. Experiment!
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