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I've been dealing with depression for 6-8 years now (it's hard to pinpoint the start). I always used to play games as an escape from dealing with real problems, and just buried my head in the sand. I'm doing a lot better recently, and I can't play MMO's any more because they bore me to hell, but I used to play WoW waaaay too much. When I was at high school I played from 3pm til 11pm, then would get up at 4am to play until school started at 9am. Same sort of deal when I was at University - games from 5pm til 2am, get up and go to Uni at 7am, sleep in student lounge til 12pm, play games until 4pm and go home. Skipped all my lectures, skipped all my exams. Failed out, obviously. These days I still play too much, and I'm trying to reduce my computer usage. If left to my own devices I'll blow an entire day just browsing the net and refreshing facebook. The psych I'm seeing is really helpful though, and I can more and more often pull myself out of the haze and do something worthwhile with my time. I'm doing an ESOL Tutor Certification course this week, and I actually have weekly activities outside the house. If I'm really honest with myself I should just throw my laptop into a lake. It would be better for me and everyone I care about. It's just really difficult to take that step.
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Meander posted:The worst part of the gaming addiction was how much of a crutch it was to real life. I looked like poo poo, felt like poo poo, and the game felt like an escape. I was the same way with fighting games for a long time. I was playing fighting games so I could feel some sense of worth when I beat some random guy online in competitive play. I was overweight, single, and depressed so it was a escape and gave some feeling of being powerful when I was not in my own life. I did not think I could do anything intensely physical from being inactive for so many years after college so I kept playing games to have a power fantasy I could escape to. It became more than a hobby and I spent a lot of my time playing games just to escape. Buying games all the time was putting me into the poor house. I never kept a relationship long after Exs saw what I was doing and checked out after seeing the lifestyle I was living at home. I was unwilling to change for anyone. A close female friend of mine told me 2 years ago "All you do is play Street Fighter. Why not try real martial arts?" and she invited me to go to her Brazilian jiu-jitsu class as she was a Brown Belt. I didn't want to go but she made me do it as she was really worried about my well being. It was a eye opener on how much time I was wasting playing games all day. Martial Arts was the challenge I needed as it was engaging my mind and full body. I felt better after one class of BJJ and wanted to keep doing something like this. I ended up practicing Judo, but it got me more motivated to do something about my situation and change my lifestyle for the better. I started to hit the gym more often to help me with my Judo, which got allowed me to meet my current girlfriend. My girlfriend expanded my social circle so we always have something to do than hermit in the apartment. I started to get help with my depression and ate a much healthier diet that cut a lot of excess fat from me. 2 years later, I have gotten in the best shape of my life, gained muscle mass and actively competing in judo. My girlfriend and I are more active in our passions like fitness, cosplay and doing a weekly role playing session with friends. I play less than 5 hours of video games a week now, buy a game every few month and terrible at fighting games. I seriously wished I did all of this a long time ago. Cutting video games made me into a more interesting and rounded person.
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I was addicted to wow. I only regret the brief period I kept playing after it stopped being fun. For a while it was really super fun, I met up with my guildmates a few times in real life and we had a blast, we only raided weeknights and were mostly all students who partied on weekends. I played way too much outside of the raids but I don't really regret the time spent, I probably would have played another equally useless videogame instead. I also got a lot of tv, reading, and studying in while playing by abusing various macros and autorun.
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I was addicted to wow for a couple years. I had a bunch of experiences starting in middle school all the way to early college that eroded my self esteem down to nothing and I had a lot of anger because of it. I probably would still be playing but some changes made a few months into the first expansion pissed me off so I quit. I might have went back or moved onto another mmo but surprisingly the real world wasn't as bad as I remembered. I started dating/working again and things just worked out for me.
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Cage posted:Oh yeah I still care for her but totally over her. We text occasionally and shes been dropping little hints that she made a mistake and that I was pretty good to her but no way am I getting back on that ship. I'd met a trainwreck like her on WoW before. It was incredible. At the time I wasn't single so her myriad advances weren't reciprocated but she tried them enough for me to assume she's got serious emotional damage. Basically she'd met her husband (eleven years her junior) on City of Heroes, a game in which he proposed to her. Yep he still lived with Mom & Dad. So he moved in with her, after a visit which left her pregnant, and they had babies. They named them after other video game characters. Anyway, she and her child-husband had issues stemming from her cybering a lot of dudes in WoW and they nearly split up, but then didn't. Because both of them were too into some video games, and I assume they were codependent. Mrs. Neckbeard had a job, in which she was some kind of telemarketer, and Mr. Neckbeard I believe remained unemployed so he could play Michael Keaton to his Final Fantasy babies between raids. After a year or two, she got in touch with me again (I had unsubbed from WoW and online games in general), and it turns out she's still awful. Half the conversation was informing me of how lovely her child-husband is to her; he cheats on her "With a seventeen year old girl!" on make-believe game servers, he "forces" himself onto her at night (which I soon learned wasn't forceful so much as dubiously timed - still a poo poo thing to do unless it's some kind of kink they'd discussed), and the best part was that she went to visit one of her boyfriends a couple states over and he left her high and dry for his half of the costs. She still believes he's going to make good on three grand. (What kind of trip costs three grand? I've stayed in Canada for less than $2,000 and that was for a week.) Last I heard, her mother was attempting to file against her in court to get custody of her little FF7 babies - both of which are most likely victims of neglect. She hasn't held down a job in the last year or two, and her husband has all but left her for his other E-love who is actually much nearer to his own age. She's most likely an undiagnosed borderline personality, but honestly I can't help from peeking in every now and then to get a voyeur's dose of that much dysfunction. WoW didn't ruin their lives - it just performed nicely as a symptom of their extreme, untreated problems.
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James Trickington posted:Last I heard, her mother was attempting to file against her in court to get custody of her little FF7 babies - both of which are most likely victims of neglect. Was at least one of the names Sephiroth? Edit: huh, what a neat spike in popularity. I guess that would be right around the time people who were kids in 1997 would start having their own kids.
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I once briefly dated a guy who was nationally ranked in one of the MMORPGs, he ended up failing out of school because of skipping class to raid. He then became severely depressed after realizing what a dumb mistake he'd made and instead of going back to school he picked up a cocaine addiction instead. Now close to 10 years later he's finally getting his poo poo together. I also dated a guy who wasn't into MMORPGs, but was still on his Xbox constantly playing stuff like FIFA and COD. We were long-distance for a bit and we'd schedule Skype dates which he'd then bail on because he needed the bandwidth for his games, then when he would visit me in person he spent most of his time at my neighbor's house playing games on his Xbox. Then when I'd visit him he'd start up a game when I was in the shower or something and then play for HOURS while I sat there bored. He then proceeded to not understand why this upset me. I wasn't going to fight for his attention with an Xbox so I left. He, unsurprisingly, also failed classes because of video games. The worst though, was my sister. She got really, really into WoW for a period of a couple years to the point where she'd bring her laptop with her EVERYWHERE. There was one time she came to visit me while I was at college, brought her laptop, and refused to do anything but sit on the couch and play WoW the entire visit. Every trip home over the holidays was like that, too. One time that sticks out was one time my dad decided to be nice and take her car to the carwash to get cleaned and detailed one morning before she woke up which required taking her keys, on which was a keyfob with a rotating code to log in to her WoW account. She woke up and freaked the hell out that her keys were missing and she couldn't play WoW for a whole hour or so. Like yelling and in tears upset that she couldn't log in to WoW and snatched her keys back like a toddler throwing a tantrum as soon as he got home. It was goddamn ridiculous and we tried to have a talk with her about it but she wouldn't stop her game for long enough to listen. I was talking to a few former MMORPG addicts a while ago and they brought up an interesting point that more often that not people refer to when they stopped playing WoW and such as "quitting" in the sense of quitting smoking or such instead of just losing interest and just stopping one day. Seems pretty accurate to me.
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i graduated school and suddenly had way too much free time so i played ffxiv, husband said it was taking too much time, immediately altered my habits so now i only play it a couple hours a week. i like tablet games more tho anyways because it's a nice way to keep your hands occupied (im one of those people who always has to have something) while still being able to chat on the couch and chill. i guess i lucked out in being able to do that based on these posts but i think i was just bored instead of addicted. a full time job has greatly helped with that still thinking about picking up another hobby, maybe ill turn into an old woman and start knitting not being able to pause in a game is the worst btw edit: in case it's not clear this post is meant to be reassurance that the "someone who loves you would have changed" statements hold definite weight. hope you find someone better op A Spider Covets fucked around with this message at 00:23 on Nov 20, 2014 |
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Nov 19, 2014 23:59
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Foyes36 posted:Was at least one of the names Sephiroth? None are named Sephiroth, to her credit. Of the three names, one is a legitimate name (her only son); the other two are from FF7 as well and from Warcraft, and basically no women in the real world have these names. If there could be any doubt whether she named her son after Final Fantasy 7, she'll happily dispel that doubt. She's unashamed of this.
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James Trickington posted:None are named Sephiroth, to her credit. Of the three names, one is a legitimate name (her only son); the other two are from FF7 as well and from Warcraft, and basically no women in the real world have these names. If there could be any doubt whether she named her son after Final Fantasy 7, she'll happily dispel that doubt. She's unashamed of this. one month later reply 
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Welp, since the thread's back up, is there any update on your end, OP?
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Octarine Dream posted:Welp, since the thread's back up, is there any update on your end, OP? Well in the end - not really. Through the last weeks it seemed he lost a little interest in the online game because he didn't skype with his online "friends" at all. But it wasn't like he would leave his room more often, he just watched lots of crappy anime and chatted with other online people. After a little more than a week he started playing FFIV again with his online entourage and even though he sometimes played a game on his 3DS or did something at his laptop this lovely MMORPG was always on! When I ask why he doesn't turn it off to save some freaking power he either has a craftsman class character working on some wood an other poo poo or he has to wait for a new party and it could happen any second that a new dungeon raid starts.. I've tried and tried to get him to do something else in the outside world with me but he declined most of the times. And when I managed to get him out he rushed into his room and turned on the PS3 as soon we entered through the door. I'm losing all the hope for him, I'm already pretty sure that if he ends up with a girl ever again it will be with one dysfunctional specimen I've read about in this thread. He and his room also smell really bad at the weekends, during the working days he at least manages to shower before he goes to work.
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As someone who has been that guy, if you want him to stop you need to steal his laptop and PS3. Maybe his 3DS too, if he just swaps to that. Force him out of his digital environment for a couple weeks and the haze might clear up enough for him to see the light.
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diarmuidqq posted:As someone who has been that guy, if you want him to stop you need to steal his laptop and PS3. Maybe his 3DS too, if he just swaps to that. Force him out of his digital environment for a couple weeks and the haze might clear up enough for him to see the light. This sounds like it would end similarly to trying to get a drug addict to quit doing drugs by flushing their drugs down the toilet. With a lot of people it could get ugly fast. See my previous post about my sister having a meltdown about not having her WoW password for an hour.
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Maybe. I would have been upset for a while if someone did that to me but personally I think it would have helped me a lot. I guess it depends on the person.
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That won't work unless he realizes he has a problem. You'll find a PS4 in your closet a month later or something. Just like any addiction, nothing you do like that will help until he wants to get help.
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Just curious do any of these mmorpg addicts turn into born again Christians like some regular old drug and alcohol addicts seem to
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Otto Von Jizzmark posted:Just curious do any of these mmorpg addicts turn into born again Christians like some regular old drug and alcohol addicts seem to They get really into board games without persistent stats.
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canyoneer posted:They get really into board games without persistent stats. I mean, at least that's social and easy to put away. Board games: the weed of gaming addiction.
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Ultima Online destroyed my only relationship that mattered - my relationship with our lord and saviour, Jesus Christ.
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Intoner posted:Well in the end - not really. I didn't read the entire thread. The simple answer is you need to drag his rear end to therapy. I played games and read obsessively. When that didn't work I started taking psychiatric medication and switched to mindlessly browsing the internet all day. I wanted to work on my willpower so I made myself stay off the internet for two weeks and I kept having all these epiphanies, starting with the realization that I was deeply unhappy with where I was in life. Then I realized rather than doing something productive about it I was enabling myself to not even think about it by being permanently distracted. People can escape into anything - I met a guy that quit drinking and started building furniture all the time. It seemed healthier, but he had just replaced one form of escapism for another without working on the emotions he wanted to avoid. If you put your foot down about online gaming and he actually stopped, it would just be something else. How sexually interested is he in you? If you are having sex less than once every other day he is probably also looking at porn and that could be another issue in your relationship. He doesn't crave emotional intimacy with you because fantasy is better. It isn't up to you to fix him though. The real question is: If this makes you unhappy, why are/did you put up with it? If you think he is worth staying with and this is the only issue for you, then tell him you are unhappy, why you are unhappy, and that the relationship can't continue if things don't really change. Tell him you want him to see a therapist because it could help. If he isn't charming in every other way, kick him to the curb and move on.
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Here's a textbook from my Behavior Modification class. Or better yet just get him in to see a Behaviorist. MMO's are Skinner boxes that accept credit cards.
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This is one of those questions that probably seems kind of victim-blamey, but what kind of social circles/hobbies/life situations are you people in that you end up getting romantically involved with people like this?
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Faux-rear end Nonsense posted:This is one of those questions that probably seems kind of victim-blamey, but what kind of social circles/hobbies/life situations are you people in that you end up getting romantically involved with people like this? I wouldn't exactly call the op a victim. The entirety of this relationship she has the option of walking away. Using victim blaming in this way tumblrfies it. Believe it or not society could not function if we couldn't criticize people for things they voluntarily do to themselves. Op, please give us an update.
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Here's an update: she already broke up with him. It's in the OP.
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keyvin posted:I wouldn't exactly call the op a victim. The entirety of this relationship she has the option of walking away. Using victim blaming in this way tumblrfies it. Believe it or not society could not function if we couldn't criticize people for things they voluntarily do to themselves. Jesus, just read the thread. The whole point is that she already left him and doesn't want to get back together with him.
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Here I am with an update – lots of poo poo happened so I wasn’t here on the forums for a while. I didn’t send my ex to therapy, I was through with talking, we were only living in the same appartment sharing expenses, because the city we live in is pretty expensive. We both weren’t interested in each other anymore, only chatted or watched a little TV together. At least that’s what I thought. By december he already had a new „girlfriend“ (a chick he visited and acted lovey-dovey around, of course they met over FFXIV) and told me the beginning of the year that he’ll be out of the appartment in one or two months. That was a little sudden as I haven’t looked for a new place to stay myself but I searched a little and had a new contract two weeks later. That’s when things started to get really awkward. He left for a week vacation with his gf and suddenly called me while he was at her place saying he had something very urgent to talk about. So when we were talking later he cried in my ear, that he didn’t want us to live in different appartments and that I shouldn’t move out.. When I told him that I’m definitely moving out, he came home a few days earlier from his vacation and gave me a super awkward love letter, with stuff like he wanted to get married and take on my name and how much he loved me and so on. Too bad, that I didn’t have any feelings for him – in fact I was in love with another guy by that time – so I turned him down. Since then he’s been nearly constantly apologizing for what an rear end he was all the time and how he wants to be friends, which would be okay with me, if he still wasn’t in love with me. I’m trying to be nice to him, but I’m afraid he reads the signs wrong, as I’m not romantically interested in him.. I’m moving out this week and to my horror he found a flat in the same building as me. Seems a bit stalkerish, but whatever, if he gets too attached I’ll let him know, even physically when I have to. In the end he quit FFXIV, dumped that girl he found there, sold the game and told me that he’ll stay away from online games in the future. At least he got out of it, I really hope for him it stays that way. So I guess it’s kind of a happy ending?
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I was addicted to wow and it was the main reason my gf left me. I was fairly pleased with that cause it meant less annoyinf nagging while I played. Then some time later I put /played in the chat and the output was something ridiculous like "1y 2m 6d 32m" and then I quit and I haven't been able to really enjoy a mmorpg since vOv OP that same building poo poo is psycho creepy and it's been nice knowing you how me a frog fucked around with this message at 15:53 on Mar 4, 2015 |
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how me a frog posted:OP that same building poo poo is psycho creepy and it's been nice knowing you The strategy you're looking for is "sever," which is so oft-repeated on these forums that it's a cliche/meme/in-joke. Cut him off completely; aside from what is required for disentangling your living arrangements, no phone, no email, delete him from all of your social media, etc. Maybe you can be friends after awhile (at least several months), but for now there's just too much hosed-up-ness between you for it to end in any way but disaster. Also, save that crazy letter, and start documenting everything, just in case you need it in order to get a protective order (wouldn't surprise me in the slightest, dude sounds crazy). If you're not, get in the habit of locking your deadbolt, too.
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You need to become a negative vortex of non-communication because this guy seems delusional. If you smile sympathetically at him, he'll start planning the wedding. Tell him you are 100% not comfortable with him living in the same building...
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My father's MMO addiction ruined his life and by proxy my relationship with him. He spent $50 a day for more than a year in the Cash Shop of FlyForFun (Probably $20k+). He ran a computer repair business and would multibox 10+ accounts using customers computers while they were in the store waiting to be picked up. Eventually my stepmother found out and they split up. He eventually ran out of money and called me a few weeks before I graduated high school and told me to find somewhere to live because he can't afford the rent anymore. Lost his business, divorced, etc. I lost contact with him after that from pure vitriol on my part. I was taken in by a friends parent while I finished high school and couldn't forgive him for this. I got into contact with him in the last year or so (it's been about 8 years since I last saw him) and found out he went to a homeless shelter of sorts and started volunteering to keep himself together after his divorce and going bankrupt and losing his business. He recently had a stroke and can no longer talk or move very well and I still haven't seen him yet.
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First Time Caller posted:My father's MMO addiction ruined his life and by proxy my relationship with him. He spent $50 a day for more than a year in the Cash Shop of FlyForFun (Probably $20k+). He ran a computer repair business and would multibox 10+ accounts using customers computers while they were in the store waiting to be picked up. Jeez, dude, go visit your dad.
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Wow ruined my entire life and also my relationship. It was the burning crusade era and my guild was pushing for a server first Sunwell Plat clear. I woke up and played Wow, went to sleep at the keyboard, played wirelessly at fast food joints, played wow on my lunch breaks, and would even take my laptop into the bathroom and take a poo poo while playing wow. Eventually I got fired when my boss caught me farming at work during a meeting. I had recently spent all my savings on getting an extremely high-speed connection and a new razor mouse with 19 customizable keys; so I had to sell my car to keep playing and afford the rent. My next logical move was to start borrowing the girlfriend's car whenever I needed to stock up on Doritos and mountain dew for a long week of raiding. The problem hit a peak one night when my laptop ran out of batteries about 10 minutes before raid time; and I had forgotten the charger. Rushing out of McDonald's, I frantically started speeding towards home. Tonight was a Kil'jaeden attempt, and I HAD to be there. While going 10 over the limit, my eyes were darting between my cell phone and the road as I raced around a corner. Hitting a particularly bad pothole, the phone was ejected from my hand and landed somewhere near my feet. Since my car is pretty small compared to my size, I could not actually see where it went, so I started blindly groping around my legs with one hand. Too distracted; the car hit another pothole and careened off the side of the road. It was totaled, exactly the same as my relationship after she found out.
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Pixelated Dragon posted:You need to become a negative vortex of non-communication because this guy seems delusional. If you smile sympathetically at him, he'll start planning the wedding. ^^^ Do this, and start saving things, and give the police a heads up. That way you're on record with having a discussion in case he ratchets up the creepy. First Time Caller posted:My father's MMO addiction ruined his life and by proxy my relationship with him. He spent $50 a day for more than a year in the Cash Shop of FlyForFun (Probably $20k+). He ran a computer repair business and would multibox 10+ accounts using customers computers while they were in the store waiting to be picked up. Go see your dad, dude.
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First Time Caller posted:My father's MMO addiction ruined his life and by proxy my relationship with him. He spent $50 a day for more than a year in the Cash Shop of FlyForFun (Probably $20k+). He ran a computer repair business and would multibox 10+ accounts using customers computers while they were in the store waiting to be picked up. What the gently caress dude. Yeah he did a lot wrong, but go visit your dad.
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DizzyBum posted:I used to be heavily addicted to MMOs while I was in college during the first half of the 2000's. It greatly affected my schoolwork and my relationships. I'd regularly skip class and ditch plans with my girlfriend or friends to just sit in my room and play games. I was more worried about buying a new computer and playing Final Fantasy XI than I was about visiting my girlfriend over one summer; that relationship didn't last much longer after that. I failed quite a few classes and had to take summer classes to make up for all the time I pissed away into games. Did this to myself back when I first tried college as well. Only it was in 1999, and I was playing Counterstrike. Broke an ankle, turned into a hermit for a year doing nothing but playing CS and drinking. Lost my girlfriend at the time over it because she was a crazy horse lady and with me sitting around in front of screens all day we didn't ever do anything together anymore. Intoner, jesus christ that's creepy. Think that they'd let you out of your lease before move-in if you told them your stalker just got a place in the building to be close to you? Odds are the property managers don't want an inevitable domestic incident in the building. Liquid Communism fucked around with this message at 20:20 on Mar 7, 2015 |
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Used to play WoW for a good 2 years then like my 2nd weekend in College I was waiting for a raid to start and was drinking rum and coke while some of my roomies headed out. Somewhere around mid drunk I thought, "well this is loving dumb" and canceled. So maybe you should get into college
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So not really the same dangerous influence, but the new MH4U came out for 3ds and I was putting like every moment of free time towards that to the detriment of my fiance. I'd be playing online and she'd ask me to do something and my first reaction was always to snap at her. I ended up banning myself from playing (having her hide my 3ds because I am a literal child when it comes to impulse control) until I find a new job because I know a lot of this is stemming from my depression and anxiety related to work. That's always something to keep in mind. A lot of people use it as an escape from there problems because they've been trained to do it since childhood. Oh man bad day at school? Better relax and play videogames.
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My best buddy in high school was addicted to online loot games like Diablo II and Phantasy Star Online. He was looking forward to WoW when I fell out of contact with him. So, uh, while playing WoW all night and sleeping all day, he met a girl in the game, she moved cross country to live with him, and now they've got the married life and parenthood and are looking to buy a house. It happens, is all. You DO interact with other people a lot in WoW, though in the current retail product a lot of those people are brief pairings with random people from other servers. But if you're doing "real" raiding an not the easy mode designed for people with no friends, you're even doing things with the same group of people over and over. That CAN form bonds, though it isn't guaranteed. What I don't like about an entire genre of games that I've just started calling "Blizzard Games" (because they're not all made by Blizzard, but most if not all are inspired by WoW and Diablo) is the concept of appointment gaming. Raiding is, naturally, an appointment. You agree with a group of people to put all other concerns aside for a game, which is weird but there's at least a shared suffering element to it. But Blizzards games are all heavy on time-gated content that refreshes every day or week. "Doing your dailies" to optimal level eventually makes playing the game feel like having a job. I don't play games for virtual chores, so even though I am a video game nerd with few friends or other hobbies, I avoid almost all of those games. The only one I play is Hearthstone, because I spend a lot of time on the road away from home with a tablet as my primary Internet device, and mobile games are such pay to win money-sinks that Hearthstone is actually one of the most fair games on the platform. I think those money sinks are worse, as they're just offering you to pay to overcome obstacles that are designed to only be overcome with payment. And if you do pay, you just get another obstacle immediately. Craptacular! fucked around with this message at 18:47 on Mar 8, 2015 |
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Back in 2012 my gf dumped me. I would implicate distance more than video games since I had moved over an hour away for a job. (she was stuck with her parents while waiting completing her final 2 years of university) My strategy was to visit every other weekend (frequently every weekend) and play world of tanks and voice chat with her during the week. So, I can tell you from personal experience that online gaming may not destroy relationships. But it definitely does not save them.
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