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Slow Motion posted:Cluster B personality disorder. Until you've lived though a relationship like r00tn00b's it's hard to believe it could be real. I had to look this up and I have to say that it's not really accurate and the only one that comes close is "Narcissistic Personality Disorder" this hits it right on the head. She fits that to a loving T.
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r00tn00b posted:I had to look this up and I have to say that it's not really accurate and the only one that comes close is "Narcissistic Personality Disorder" this hits it right on the head. She fits that to a loving T. NPD is a cluster B personality disorder.
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gently caress man have a hug 
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r00tn00b posted:I had to look this up and I have to say that it's not really accurate and the only one that comes close is "Narcissistic Personality Disorder" this hits it right on the head. She fits that to a loving T. Cluster B encompasses NPD, ASPD, and HPD. What you saying, in effect, is that you don't see anything that fits, but you see something that fits perfectly. "Slow Motion" nailed it. Until you've experienced, intimately, someone with a cluster B, you can't imagine it. This, of course, assumes you are not a sociopath.
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Yeah it's hell on earth.
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The Noble Nobbler posted:Cluster B encompasses NPD, ASPD, and HPD. Okay I'm not a doctor. But yes that is her. She is NPD
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I used to be in a relationship with someone with borderline personality disorder and while it never reached the heights of this thread, some of this reading has been pretty familiar. Glad to read that things are turning around for you and your kids OP.
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I was rereading this thread because I wanted to see where I was when this started and this caught my eye, he might be a weirdo who is now banned for some reason or another but holy poo poo this is almost what happened IRLa creepy colon posted:Dont bother with the lawyer OP, just keep visiting every other weekend until she gets tired of her kids and moves to texas, abandoning them with you.
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Oct 16, 2015 11:55
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Don't gently caress the nanny.
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dogcrash truther posted:Don't gently caress the nanny. Yeah no worries there. Not going to happen.
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Oct 16, 2015 21:51
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r00tn00b posted:Yeah no worries there. Not going to happen. Good cuz it's amazing the proportion of recently divorced/separated dads I know who made that mistake
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dogcrash truther posted:Good cuz it's amazing the proportion of recently divorced/separated dads I know who made that mistake
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So this is mostly over, I just got out of a meeting with my lawyer and we are literally in the home stretch. by this time next Tuesday I should have custody of the kids. Once that is done my wife loses any leverage she had on me and I will try to get her to settle the divorce out of court in dec without going to court. My lawyer is super confident that this will all be over before the new year and well in my favor. Next update milestone, Nov 17th with hopefully a small victory getting custody!
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Thanks for keeping us posted. It's nice to get updates on long-term stories like this.
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Nov 6, 2015 23:36
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 Congrats, it's been a helluva ride and your perseverance has been inspiring.
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Nov 7, 2015 04:23
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Fantastic news, best of luck!
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That's great, sounds like you and the kids can settle into your new life soon!
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Just dropped off the paperwork at the lawyers for the custody hearing next week. I am stressed more than ever right now so nervous she is going to show up this weekend and take my kids. 5 days.
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r00tn00b posted:Just dropped off the paperwork at the lawyers for the custody hearing next week. I am stressed more than ever right now so nervous she is going to show up this weekend and take my kids. 5 days. Did they serve papers directly?
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Darth123123 posted:Did they serve papers directly? Papers wont be served till tomorrow, and will be served to her lawyer, this is the last small stretch here. by 1:30pm PDT I should be able to say that I have legal custody of my kids. I am nervous/excited and cant loving sleep right now i'm wired.
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r00tn00b posted:Papers wont be served till tomorrow, and will be served to her lawyer, this is the last small stretch here. by 1:30pm PDT I should be able to say that I have legal custody of my kids. I am nervous/excited and cant loving sleep right now i'm wired. Hope you're doing okay. Good luck today!
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Congrats man. Seems like you've come a long way. I just read through your thread. Happy endings are a rarity here. It's nice to see them when they pop up.
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Paperwork was singed by the judge and delivered to her lawyer today. who promptly sent it to her with a notice that he is withdrawing from being her lawyer, once the judge approves it. according to my lawyer, they do that kind of thing when the client is, and this is a quote, a "total gently caress up" So she has been served with two great pieces of information today, and that is good news for me, as she no longer qualifies for the state assisted lawyer from Oregon as she doesn't live here, and can't afford an actual lawyer. this might actually work out all in my favor and OMG this is great.
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r00tn00b posted:Paperwork was singed by the judge and delivered to her lawyer today. who promptly sent it to her with a notice that he is withdrawing from being her lawyer, once the judge approves it. EEEEE! I was thinking of you today, hoping for this update!  Congratulations!
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Nov 19, 2015 06:23
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Great news and good job! Maybe it will be a nice thanksgiving after all 
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I am really happy that this seems to be working out for you.
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Just finished reading the thread. OP you are a great father and kept yourself together and handled the situation wonderfully. I'm so glad things are coming out in your favor, it's horrifying to think what would've happened if she got custody of those kids. Thank you for being so open about everything, even just what you were thinking during those first weeks. I have no doubt that there will be people who are going through something similar and reading this thread helps them immensely.
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Kiss Kiss Bang Bang posted:Great news and good job! Maybe it will be a nice thanksgiving after all Thank you, I can only hope! something clever posted:I am really happy that this seems to be working out for you. thanks! Bastard Man posted:Just finished reading the thread. OP you are a great father and kept yourself together and handled the situation wonderfully. I'm so glad things are coming out in your favor, it's horrifying to think what would've happened if she got custody of those kids. Thank you for being so open about everything, even just what you were thinking during those first weeks. I have no doubt that there will be people who are going through something similar and reading this thread helps them immensely. If this helps anyone to get through a rough time, I would be so happy.
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OP at first I thought you were a tool for failing to respond to your crumbling marriage and putting your kids in a lovely spot but you really pulled it out and did the right stuff, responded well to the absolute worst case scenario and now I think you are cool and good.
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Ciprian Maricon posted:OP at first I thought you were a tool for failing to respond to your crumbling marriage and putting your kids in a lovely spot but you really pulled it out and did the right stuff, responded well to the absolute worst case scenario and now I think you are cool and good. I'm pretty much just emptyquoting this.
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Ciprian Maricon posted:OP at first I thought you were a tool for failing to respond to your crumbling marriage and putting your kids in a lovely spot but you really pulled it out and did the right stuff, responded well to the absolute worst case scenario and now I think you are cool and good. Error 404 posted:I'm pretty much just emptyquoting this. thanks I think? Sorry I was such a mess, 8 years of my life had just kinda gone away. I'm better now, even moved on with my dating life.
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r00tn00b posted:thanks I think? Sorry I was such a mess, 8 years of my life had just kinda gone away. I'm better now, even moved on with my dating life. Well, you were being a tool at first, but you were also under a lot of distress. The important part is you pulled together and handled poo poo.
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Error 404 posted:Well, you were being a tool at first, but you were also under a lot of distress. The important part is you pulled together and handled poo poo. There was also a lot of weird and goony "how dare your emotions not line up with logic" posting as well. Like, he'd post about how he missed her but knew things were for the best, and people jumped on him for it.
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New update, Holiday/Birthday edition! It was our Youngest son's birthday last week, she did not attempt to contact him by any means to wish him a happy birthday. One of my friends who is in loving Afghanistan found time to call him and sing him happy birthday but she can't be bothered to wish her own son a happy birthday. It was also my birthday and I would like to say things for me have not been better. A friend of mine threw me a surprise party(the friend in Afghanistan), bought me and 11 of my friends tickets to a minor league hockey game and got me a sweet custom cake. She is about the best thing to come out of this whole ordeal. So I am feeling pretty good. We are basically just counting the days down until the court date comes and everything is final, so just over 2 months. I think its time to close this thread, this is a success story as far as I am concerned and there isn't much more to update, the divorce is a formality at this point and a given, and I know I will get what I want out of it. So if Detectivemonkey says it's okay, I would like to close it.
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r00tn00b posted:New update, Holiday/Birthday edition! Congratulations! I hope the new year treats you well and you have many happy days in the future, you've certainly earned them 
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Congrats! Give your kids a hug and make their Christmas (or Hanukkah or festivus) really awesome!
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It's ok, this was a good success!
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r00tn00b posted:gently caress gently caress gently caress gently caress gently caress gently caress gently caress gently caress gently caress gently caress gently caress gently caress gently caress gently caress gently caress gently caress gently caress gently caress gently caress gently caress That's horrible, but you know the answer: mental illness + is a generally horrible person. You'll come out on top.
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