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tsa posted:On the other hand the OP is a huge moron and makes astonishingly bad choices. It's pretty much just this. Op is dumb Goons gave good advice Op is still dumb Goons now make fun of Op.
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The no contact order is likely a temporary order of protection until a court hearing, and the op hasn't made that distinction. It doesn't require anything except someone filing for an order for protection. They're generally issued as a stopgap because of how our cost system has pesky things like "needing to be served" and "due process" and the like. Op when is the court date?
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Proud Rat Mom posted:All men in solidarity against the female menace I salute you brother. Im more astonished at the amount of "man up" rhetoric from self described "enlightened" posters. The man asked for advice after getting burned for making a well meaning but horrendously misguided decision to trust the woman he loved. The amount of personal belittlement is baffiling. tsa posted:This thread would have gone way differently if the genders were switched in the OP, for some reason goons go full JUSTWORLD when the op is a man. On the other hand the OP is a huge moron and makes astonishingly bad choices. Thank god Im not the only one
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Jun 10, 2015 01:45
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She hosed another guy out of state, said so, then went out of state again. Called the cops and took his children while he was penniless. I think you misrepresent the story. And there was a butcher blade. And a begging for in laws to support him. And That was some fine drat pussy.
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r00tn00b posted:Hey, been a while since I posted here. honestly I think it's time SA instituted a policy where upon you posting a third thread in E/N it just autobans you and directs you to mental health resources
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Fool and the World posted:Im more astonished at the amount of "man up" rhetoric from self described "enlightened" posters. The man asked for advice after getting burned for making a well meaning but horrendously misguided decision to trust the woman he loved. The amount of personal belittlement is baffiling.
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Jun 10, 2015 04:35
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Theres a difference between "Lol cucked" And "Are you sure you didn't hit your wife?" X 30 Dont be disingenuous
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Jun 10, 2015 04:53
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Don't blow things out of proportion. There were only a few people saying the latter.
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Jun 10, 2015 05:28
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OP you should prooooobably re-read this thread and figure out if you're responding how you normally would. Your responses seem kinda automatic, without much thought put into them. Are you on medication that makes you fuzzy-headed? Or on 'medication' you bought from a guy or an eBay seller? Drinking? I suppose it could just be shock, but honestly some part of you shouldn't be shocked, after she flew from OH to TX to gently caress a guy. I don't know what terms you use in your head but you know she's capable of been impulsive, or selfish, or whatever's going on. As an example. When mentioning the 'why would you threaten me with a knife' thing, most people would add "I had the knife in my pocket because I'd been breaking down boxes and getting rid of poo poo, I forgot about it. She saw the clip and asked me what it was. I told her, and then I told her I was putting it in my glove box." Instead people had to pry that poo poo from you. The fact that she took that as threatening her with a knife (which it isn't, even if you pulled it out of your pocket and showed it to her) shows she's in a unstable state of mind. Unless you actually waved it at her while it was open or something. If you did that, you did threaten her with a knife. If she's unstable, it doesn't matter what you want for her and you romantically. Your kids shouldn't be minded by an unstable person, and she herself probably needs help. Which is going to be a hell of a lot harder for you to help her get because of the no-contact order. If there's a court date, loving go. She might not have told you about the court date. I'm pretty sure you can call someone, although I personally don't know who, and find out if you have any court appearances scheduled for any version of your name, and when they are. You might have to go to a building and show someone your ID so they know they're telling you, I don't know. I have no idea if they give a poo poo about privacy. Actually, a lawyer can do that for you. Do you have one yet? If you don't, get one. If you do, tell them that you're worried the no-contact is the temp kind designed to protect people until a longer-term one can be ruled on by a judge, and that she's purposefully not telling you so you can't show up. If you have paperwork, study that poo poo. There might be a court date on the back that your dazed rear end hasn't looked at. She was okayish for a while after she flew to TX and rode some dude's dick because that was some kind of weird coping mechanism. Now the positive effects on her brainspace are long gone. She is not herself, unless you're leaving massive things out. Which is possible, because you seem out of it. But, assuming you haven't left anything massive out, she's not herself, she's viewing everything you do in a negative light, and trying to 'work things out' with her is going to lead to a massive loving disaster. ANYWAY This is 100% true: Thanatosian posted:None of the details or bullshit people are asking about really matter. Even if your story is completely one-sided, 90% made-up, if your wife took your kids and left you homeless, you need to get a lawyer. Period. Full-stop. But goons can help if you want the help, if you're willing to be halfway logical and work with us. If you don't, well, everybody pees.
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Okay I was having trouble finding a post to verify a comment you made, OP, and I took a gander at your post history. I was honestly expecting TCC posts. I don't know if anime posts are better or worse tbh. Anyway, you said this. r00tn00b posted:How would that make sense, if I had done those things, I would be in JAIL. It's not like cops weren't involved. You also said the neighbors never called the cops. So who did? You or her? It doesn't really matter if one of you called them instead of the neighbors, if they were called for what's legally a domestic dispute, that's kind of important information, here. What happen when the cops were called? Were they called more than once? If so, detail each incident separately, unless it's "We argued and then the same thing happened" x30. You need a loving lawyer, man. Why do you believe her when she says the kids will live with you? Why do you believe anything she says?
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Jun 10, 2015 06:10
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Read the drat thread. The cops were involved because they were at her parents' house when he showed up on Sunday.
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Jun 10, 2015 06:54
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OP is actually the wife. It would explain everything. Prove you aren't your wife, OP.
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MY PALE GOTH SKIN posted:OP you should prooooobably re-read this thread and figure out if you're responding how you normally would. Your responses seem kinda automatic, without much thought put into them. Are you on medication that makes you fuzzy-headed? Or on 'medication' you bought from a guy or an eBay seller? Drinking? I suppose it could just be shock, but honestly some part of you shouldn't be shocked, after she flew from OH to TX to gently caress a guy. I don't know what terms you use in your head but you know she's capable of been impulsive, or selfish, or whatever's going on. I think it's been shock? I don't know I'm not medicated or drinking or doing any sort of drugs. I'm not sleeping well. That's one thing. There is no paper work for me to look at it was a verbal order from an officer. I would have to look into the court date thing that worries me. I would like to point out that even though I have said that I want things to work out with me and her. And I do. I have not attempted to do anything since Sunday. I'm taking ask the advice here and digesting it. I'm not going to just ignore it because it's not what I want to hear. I came here for help not to be told everything is going to be okay. There was no waving an open knife around there was no waving a closed knife around. I didn't threaten her in any way. I dint know why I believe her but I do. She said she didn't gently caress the guy. Then until proven otherwise she didn't. Maybe I'm to trusting but that's how I am. I don't think the kids are in any danger with her. They talk to me everyday and they are safe and having fun. Now for new updates about me: I'm not homeless I moved into an appt today. I have not found a lawyer but I have the number to a sort of support center for these kinds of things. I will be contacting then tomorrow. They offer free services. My new job is great and things on my own personal front are looking better. I just wish I could share these things with my kids. I'm sorry I couldn't get to everyone I've had a long day. I'll try to get more in tomorrow when I can type in a computer and not my phone.
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Well here's the threads from the 2 other goons with similar situations, now to complete both E/N themes for this year you have to fall in love with an 18 year old (but only if you're in your 30's). It's good to keep on trend. NecessaryEvil http://forums.somethingawful.com/showthread.php?threadid=3685778&perpage=40 FunWithWombats http://forums.somethingawful.com/showthread.php?threadid=3590946&perpage=40
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I'm still really confused.
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Miranda posted:I'm still really confused. Basically the OPs wife has been with another man for some time but the OP is delusional and refuses to acknowledge it despite the fact his wife has told him she's loving other dudes and doesn't want anything to do with him. The wife then fled to Portland where her family is located, for support. The OP then followed her out there and ambushed her at her parents house. Somewhere along the way he also threatened her with a box cutter.
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My situation last year had some similarities to this (although no kids, thank god.) just lawyer up and divorce this maniac. Sorry this happened but your life will be so much better without her.
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Jun 10, 2015 12:06
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Also, get counselling.
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Check the portland news for the next few days. Im guessing there will be a story of a deranged man cutting up his wife with a box cutter.
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Jun 10, 2015 13:16
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I don't know how Oregon's court system goes but chances are if she mentions that she "feels threatened" or is "scared" of you, she'll get her protection order in the court system. So like everyone else is saying talk to a lawyer!
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Liquid Communism posted:Read the drat thread. The cops were involved because they were at her parents' house when he showed up on Sunday. I did, I thought he meant they were called to the arguments they'd had previously. My bad, OP. OP you seem to be less.. dazed, which is good, but you still need a lawyer. Get one. Also, when I mention the kids, I'm not concerned she's smacking them around, since she's with family that presumably wouldn't allow it. If the father of my kid started acting irrationally or seemed mentally unstable, I'd be worried about him sharing his crazy fantasies (like the one your wife has about you threatening her with a knife) with my kid. Stressed parents often say too much of adult matters to their children when they're not mentally or emotionally unstable, seems more likely if she's had this sudden personality change. Get a lawyer. Get a lawyer. Get a lawyer.
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Jun 10, 2015 15:08
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What does he need a lawyer for exactly? His life is already ruined. Just go back to Ohio with your tail between your legs and beg for your old job back while you try and pick up the pieces.
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Jun 10, 2015 16:14
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I dont' see why OP needs a lawyer seeing how he's gonna work it out with her and everything is going to be alright 
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Volume posted:I dont' see why OP needs a lawyer seeing how he's gonna work it out with her and everything is going to be alright Upon rereading the thread I'd actually agree. This just seems like a "phase" and once she starts therapy she will see how wrong she has treated this man. Just hang in there OP, she will come around!
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Jun 10, 2015 16:29
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Sounds like she is prolly just PMSing OP, it'll be fine
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So this no contact order thing has been in the back of my head for a day. Something just doesn't add up. A policeman can't issue the order, not according to the official Oregon Judicial Courts page:quote:No Contact Orders: http://courts.oregon.gov/OJD/OSCA/cpsd/courtimprovement/familylaw/pages/domesticviolence.aspx What charges were filed? When is/was your court date?
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Darth123123 posted:So this no contact order thing has been in the back of my head for a day. Something just doesn't add up. A policeman can't issue the order, not according to the official Oregon Judicial Courts page: There was no charge filed and no court date that I am aware of.
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You can tell us what really happened. It's safe here. I get pretty rough with my wife when I'm drunk and she gets on my nerves too. I bet you just lost your temper right? What was she hospitalized for exactly? Did you break any bones??
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r00tn00b posted:There was no charge filed and no court date that I am aware of. Did they give you any paperwork with the order to stay away? If not, then there really isn't any protective order, I think.
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CravingSolace posted:Did they give you any paperwork with the order to stay away? If not, then there really isn't any protective order, I think. No I got no paper work or written order.
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Jun 10, 2015 19:19
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Ignore all advice in this thread other than the get a lawyer advice and then do what the lawyer says.
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ThePeavstenator posted:Ignore all advice in this thread other than the get a lawyer advice and then do what the lawyer says. I'm a lawyer. r00tn00b posted:No I got no paper work or written order. You got no no contact order
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Jun 10, 2015 19:22
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Also divorce your wife. That's good advice too.
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Also divorce your wife. That's good advice too.
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Ok, recap here again: So up until the Sunday phone call you all had been looking for apartments together and planning on moving in together. Before that she had been acting a bit weird, such as suggesting you stay in a hotel and expressing concern over the boxcutter. You ask to borrow money from mom, leading to an argument. You go by her house to find the police who tell you not to contact your wife. Nothing since then? It's been 3 days.
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GunChicka posted:Ok, recap here again: So up until the Sunday phone call you all had been looking for apartments together and planning on moving in together. Before that she had been acting a bit weird, such as suggesting you stay in a hotel and expressing concern over the boxcutter. You ask to borrow money from mom, leading to an argument. You go by her house to find the police who tell you not to contact your wife. Nothing since then? It's been 3 days. I have spoken to my children, but only about their days and how they are doing. She has refused to answer my requests to see my children outright which the cops said she cannot do. other than that nothing.
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What exactly did the police say to you? Exactly means to try to actually say what they said, not to give a rough estimate.
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GunChicka posted:Ok, recap here again: So up until the Sunday phone call you all had been looking for apartments together and planning on moving in together. Before that she had been acting a bit weird, such as suggesting you stay in a hotel and expressing concern over the boxcutter. You ask to borrow money from mom, leading to an argument. You go by her house to find the police who tell you not to contact your wife. Nothing since then? It's been 3 days. He's gotten a job, so that will help with the $800 child support payments.
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Obdicut posted:What exactly did the police say to you? The home owners and your wife has requested a no-contact order be placed, you are not to contact them via phone or text until they say otherwise.
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