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MY PALE GOTH SKIN posted:I know the phrase. If I mentioned the "he is" instead of "he's" and thought the phrase itself was weird, I would have mentioned it too. I wasn't talking about the phrase. I meant the sentence as a whole. Granted, I'm more used to 'has passed on,' but that's probably a regional thing. Yes I know. As of right now I have the kids every other weekend. And the court denied her any funds that I have to pay. I will be holding out hope that this works out because I do want my family together. She isn't who she normally is right now. Maybe this is the new her maybe it's not. I will be fighting this as best I can. I dint have the resources she does. A near limitless supply of cash for one. And acres to a whole law firm of her step father's lawyers at no cost to her.
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1. Lawyer up. 2. Lawyer the gently caress up. 3. After lawyering the gently caress up, get off the internet for awhile. Go to work, see some movies, walk around town a bit.
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Jun 13, 2015 09:17
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Error 404 posted:1. Lawyer up. Yes I know. Everyone else has said this. I will. I'm going to get some sleep. I'll post more tomorrow.
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Jun 13, 2015 09:31
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r00tn00b posted:Yes I know. Everyone else has said this. I will. Now that we know you're paying attention the "LAWYER LAWYER LAWYER" bit, you'd be fine.. not.. posting so much. You need to actively watch what you say about any legal precedings and the actions of anyone involved online. If you're posting because you're scared, sad, pissed-off, and lonely, that's 100% okay. Venting is healthy. I'd be all 'abloo bloo goons tell me everything's gonna be okay' if I were in your situation, since it sounds like everyone you're close to in the world is at your wife's place.
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Jun 13, 2015 09:46
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Also, keep in mind that if this new guy dumps her, she may come running back to you. You'd have to resist the urge to get back together, which it sounds like will be a huge temptation for you. Maintaining the wife+kids family was so important to you even in the face of her blatant infidelity and seriously terrible treatment of you.
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Jun 13, 2015 12:33
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r00tn00b posted:I will be holding out hope that this works out because I do want my family together. She isn't who she normally is right now. Maybe this is the new her maybe it's not. Yeah man. Like I said, its probably just a phase. You should contact the guy she has been cheating on you with in Texas via facebook. Tell him shes crazy and tried to cut your dick off 
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Jun 13, 2015 13:07
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 Know OP said he's getting a lawyer but I really want it to stick.
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Jun 13, 2015 16:10
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Also start looking into getting a divorce. Don't pull a Zaurg and think there's some magical recovery in the works and you just need to stick it out till she gets right.
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Jun 13, 2015 16:29
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Mega64 posted:
Why should he? The game is over. She has a family of free lawyers at her disposable , has the kids, has the money and has painted him as a psycho wielding box cutter maniac. Time to pack it up and go the gently caress back home OP.
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Jun 13, 2015 16:32
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a creepy colon posted:Why should he? The game is over. She has a family of free lawyers at her disposable , has the kids, has the money and has painted him as a psycho wielding box cutter maniac. Because, as posted, he loves his kids and has practically non-refutable evidence that she didn't think he was dangerous and crazy. There's so much negotiable stuff here: money, time with kids, etc... getting a lawyer just increases the amount he can get, no matter what. OP, keep in mind, you can get a lawyer AND hold out hope that you can work things out.
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Jun 13, 2015 16:50
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Getting a lawyer will just lighten his pockets more than they already have been by his succubus wife, while she moves to Texas to be with her new boyfriend. Dont bother with the lawyer OP, just keep visiting every other weekend until she gets tired of her kids and moves to texas, abandoning them with you.
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Jun 13, 2015 16:53
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Drunk Nerds posted:OP, keep in mind, you can get a lawyer AND hold out hope that you can work things out. Don't hold out too much hope though. Could you ever trust her again?
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Jun 13, 2015 17:06
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Bill Pullman posted:Don't hold out too much hope though. Could you ever trust her again? Totally agreed. Just trying to nudge OP.
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Jun 13, 2015 17:07
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a creepy colon posted:Getting a lawyer will just lighten his pockets more than they already have been by his succubus wife, while she moves to Texas to be with her new boyfriend. I guess we have different opinions, then. I'd go bankrupt and in debt for 5-6 figures if it meant that I got even one more day a month with my kids out of a divorce proceeding.
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Jun 13, 2015 17:08
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a creepy colon's gimmick is to give the worst advice possible and see who he reels in.
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Jun 13, 2015 17:24
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Bill Pullman posted:Don't hold out too much hope though. Could you ever trust her again? Trust can be rebuilt with time. I know it's slim. But if there is a chance.l I'll take it.
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Jun 13, 2015 17:28
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r00tn00b posted:Trust can be rebuilt with time. Well then I guess it's  time
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Jun 13, 2015 17:35
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r00tn00b posted:Trust can be rebuilt with time. Oh yay another Zaurg
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Jun 13, 2015 17:56
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Thank-you for taking us all on this ride.
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Jun 13, 2015 18:28
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platedlizard posted:a creepy colon's gimmick is to give the worst advice possible and see who he reels in. gently caress you.
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Jun 13, 2015 18:38
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r00tn00b posted:Trust can be rebuilt with time. This whole episode should be pointing out to you that you don't have a hot loving clue where your wife is at, no ability to understand what she now wants (not you) nor even judge if a chance existed (which it loving doesn't). She doesn't want to be with you. Doesn't want to live with you, certainly doesn't want to sleep with you, doesn't want to even loving talk to you. You going to keep loving around in the well OP? How's that working out so far? I understand that it's got to be incredibly hard to have any perspective on this from your position, with so much of your life invested in her, you kids - your world. She has burnt it down, and loving hates you, and everything about you as a couple. Get a loving grip.
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Jun 13, 2015 18:43
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Sorry to be right op.  . Oh, I'd stop stalking her Facebook too. Nothing good will come of that
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Jun 13, 2015 18:48
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Darth123123 posted:Sorry to be right op. I wasn't staking her. Just a friend sent me a screen cap of it. I didn't ask for it or ask him to check on her.
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Jun 13, 2015 19:05
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Who is the boyfriend in Texas?
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Jun 13, 2015 19:30
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Like, who is this joker anyway?
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Jun 13, 2015 19:30
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a creepy colon posted:Like, who is this joker anyway? He is me. Literally in every way he is me. He has the same job. Interests hobbies. He is a clone of me. He even has the same name of my twin brother. He is a cheap knockoff of me. She literally replaced me for me. He just happened to be there for her when u couldn't.
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Jun 13, 2015 19:33
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r00tn00b posted:He is me. Literally in every way he is me. He has the same job. Interests and hobbies. He is a clone of me. He even has the same name as my twin brother. He is a cheap knockoff of me. She literally replaced me for me. He just happened to be there for her when i couldn't. Edited for autocorrect issues
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Jun 13, 2015 19:34
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r00tn00b posted:Trust can be rebuilt with time. You loving idiot.
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Jun 13, 2015 20:32
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r00tn00b posted:Edited for autocorrect issues Couldn't be there? Wut
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Jun 13, 2015 20:35
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r00tn00b posted:He is me. Literally in every way he is me. He has the same job. Interests hobbies. He is a clone of me. He even has the same name of my twin brother. He is a cheap knockoff of me. She literally replaced me for me. He just happened to be there for her when u couldn't. Ok, now we are getting somewhere. If this dude is your doppleganger then he CAN be defeated. Think, what would a Texas version of you be thinking next? What is his next move? And what did he do exactly to seduce your wife?!
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Jun 13, 2015 20:59
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a creepy colon posted:Ok, now we are getting somewhere. If this dude is your doppleganger then he CAN be defeated. Think, what would a Texas version of you be thinking next? What is his next move? And what did he do exactly to seduce your wife?! I know you are being insincere. But sure. He was just there for her in a time of need. Plain as that. Where I couldn't be.
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Jun 13, 2015 21:03
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Im not being insincere, if we can help you win back your family thatd be pretty cool. Anyway, the past is in the past so they say. except when the past comes back and steals your wife. you gotta stop this dude in his tracks somehow. And the only way is by getting into his head. Give us more background info on the initial affair since you have confirmed that this is basically a continuation of that (did she ever STOP talking to him i wonder??)
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Jun 13, 2015 21:08
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Fake your death, kill the Texas man and take his place. Your wife and kids will never notice.
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Jun 13, 2015 21:14
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r00tn00b posted:I know you are being insincere. But sure. He was just there for her in a time of need. Plain as that. Where I couldn't be. Why?
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r00tn00b posted:I know you are being insincere. But sure. He was just there for her in a time of need. Plain as that. Where I couldn't be. Yeah, I'm sure that's what she told you, or what you surmised. Why would that be all there is? Your wife is tired of you, resents you, doesn't want to have anything to do with you. He wasn't just convenient you idiot; people don't uproot their kids and change their lives over "accessible" or "more handy than my husband". I am blown away by the level of self deception, and complete lack of insight you have - so much so its becoming easier and easier to see why she wanted you loving out of her life. Most people would have taken the cheating, the distant behaviour, the endless lies, the manipulation as a clear sign that the relationship is over but no, you keep blithely pushing to get what you want and she has now forced you the gently caress out of her life, presumably because you just aren't getting it. You are going to have to come to terms that she is in love with someone else, and loathes you but I'm pretty sure you'll just keep jamming your head up your rear end, so enjoy! Get a therapist, as well as a lawyer, because otherwise you're going to make some very stupid decisions that you will be legally bound to shortly
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Jun 13, 2015 21:24
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Blitter posted:I am blown away by the level of self deception, and complete lack of insight you have - so much so its becoming easier and easier to see why she wanted you loving out of her life. Yikes
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Jun 13, 2015 21:28
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Hey, OP, last week was the time to : Seriously, you're coming across as passive as gently caress and unwilling to take the actions necessary to handle this like a grown rear end man with kids to consider.
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Jun 13, 2015 21:35
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r00tn00b posted:Trust can be rebuilt with time. you dumb piece of idiot
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Jun 13, 2015 21:48
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It's weird how all the 'nice' and 'sincere' posters from earlier are now turning against you simply because you choose to try and stay together for the kids. You guys realize insulting him over and over again because he isnt doing exactly what you want is stupid right?
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You guys, you're not going to dissuade him from having hope and wanting his family to return to normal. As long as he gets a lawyer, and listens to said lawyer, he can daydream about her calling, apologizing, and asking if they can reconcile. That's how some people cope with this sort of poo poo.
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