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Ghogargi -- I created an account on this forum just to say thanks for sharing your experience. I do not identify as a nerd and I know next to nothing about gaming but I do consider myself a generally open-minded person, especially when it comes to new experiences. So, when the guy I was casually dating said he was into vampire larping I thought ok this is new, I'll check it out and see what I think. Well, the novelty wore off quickly when I went to a game to watch and interacted with the other players -- within a short time I observed all of the behaviors that you address throughout this thread. I tried to be open-minded but after going to a few games and cons, the overt instability and questionable mental health of the players was what finally turned me off to it. So when you say it's an organization that attracts and ensnares the unwell, unsocialized, insecure, maladjusted, etc..I found that to be 100% accurate. Whenever I tried to point out any of my observations, or any criticisms of players behavior at all, I was quickly branded an enemy by all of my bf's "friends." The female players had no respect for our relationship, for example, and sometimes would try to sit on his lap or flirt with him with me sitting right next to him. Now, I don't know much about nerd social dynamics but I am not a person who is afraid of calling out bad behavior. So whenever something like that would happen, and I'd openly say to the the girl "uhhh, wtf do you think you're doing? that's not okay." I was somehow looked at as the bad guy for standing up for myself. And that is nowhere near the worst of what I observed. I guess I won't go into much more detail but I eventually broke up with my bf bc it was slowly revealed that he was also a larp lifer and held a major position in his region that took up unreal amounts of time (in the beginning of our relationship he hid how much a part of MES he actually was) For a long time his friends tried to convince me that larp really wasn't that bad and that I was overreacting, etc. etc. So when I came across this thread it was really vindicating and refreshing bc I admit, they did have me second-guessing myself thinking maybe I was just overly judgmental and harsh about a world I didn't understand. One more thing I wanted to mention is that I completely support a documentary on these topics and hope you consider it. I think it's almost negligent to create a larp documentary without acknowledging the behaviors, neurosis, etc of some of these communities and the players. I think you have an especially unique perspective having had a foot in both worlds, so to speak. I hope you will consider it bc it could have saved me a lot of time trying to figure out just what exactly was going on with this group. Edit: For a laugh, here's how I felt at vampire larp http://imgur.com/HzumHhX TAK2412 fucked around with this message at 05:12 on Oct 2, 2016 |
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