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My wife works at a rape trauma center and they serve plenty of male survivors. While male survivors of abuse by women make up a very small percentage of their total service population (most men are abused by other men), men abused by women get the same services as anyone else. It gets a little more complicated, because there is a subset of men who sexualize the idea of being raped by a woman and try to use rape trauma lines as the world's creepiest free phone sex. What that, functionally, means is that the most experienced people handle calls from male callers to make sure that those who need it get the best service and that perverts can be filtered out. Edit: Just to be explicitly clear, this is actually a form of male privilege since we're more likely to get more experienced counselors just by virtue of being men, despite being much less in need of this particular service. At the hospital, there isn't a need for that kind of filtering because, well, it's the hospital. Again, at hospitals, there tends to be a special focus on men. Cops are generally pretty terrible. With women, there is a lot of victim blaming. With men, there is a presumption that men are the aggressors. It is the job of the rape trauma counselor to act as an intermediary between the survivor and the cops. The survivor needs to balance their emotional needs with the legal/righteous needs of making the perp take responsibility. While there are exceptions to any generalization, demographically, rape trauma counselors are universally feminist. And they are the best allies that male survivors have. Social structures that are traditionally aligned with the patriarchy, such as the medical establishment and the police, are substantially more hostile to male survivors. It's almost like the challenges faced by male survivors can be best addressed by smashing the patriarchy. Huh. Funny how that works. Shbobdb fucked around with this message at 06:46 on Aug 20, 2015 |
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quote:When they are substantially smaller and weaker than you, guilt+++. Throw in a societal mandate for people like you to protect people like them. Guilt++++,shame+. And he said right at the beginning that he didn't consider it rape at the time but only came to realize it was after contemplating the meaning of consent later on. So at the time he couldn't justify his actions to himself as self defense. Hopefully he can now because they totally were, a shove was totally reasonable, and the foot an accident. Note that the multipliers here rely on a patriarchal conception of the male/female relationship and that the delay in realizing what happened is a function of the patriarchal conception of sex. If sex is something a man does to a woman, how can a man get raped by a woman. It simply does not compute. And that is toxic to male rape survivors because they have trouble articulating and even conceptualizing their violation. "If it was just a drunken hook up, why do i feel so bad?" Female rape survivors also have to deal with similar questions. Consent and agency can seem subtle but they are really loving important.
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