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This E/N thread about a mysterious 19-year-old letter carrying a deep family secret http://forums.somethingawful.com/showthread.php?threadid=3744453&userid=0&perpage=40&pagenumber=1 has me wondering: Have you ever received a bombshell about something that happened in your family's past? Or maybe they built up that there was a big dark secret and it turned out to be nothing, or something an older generation freaks out about but modern people don't? For me, it's kind of tame, but my father revealed that he had had a gay lover for ten years before he met and married my mom. It wasn't shocking for the usual reasons, the reason why it freaked me out was because he supposedly discovered he was gay while married to my mom and that was why he left. Now I know that it had to be for another reason, my wife and I suspect he just wanted to ghost on raising me (I was a difficult baby). TL:DR: Dad still gay, so... WHAT?!
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Oct 7, 2015 02:01
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a few months ago my dad told me that i was almost aborted because my parents didn't think they were financially ready for a kid. they went to the clinic but it closed 10 minutes before they arrived. the day after my dad got promoted and so yeah, here i am.
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Oct 7, 2015 02:10
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symbolic posted:a few months ago my dad told me that i was almost aborted because my parents didn't think they were financially ready for a kid. they went to the clinic but it closed 10 minutes before they arrived. the day after my dad got promoted and so yeah, here i am. You're lucky, my parents got there in time and I was never born.
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Oct 7, 2015 02:12
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my dad is gay, but its not a big deal
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Oct 7, 2015 02:13
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I'm the skeleton. They haven't revealed me. yet
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Oct 7, 2015 02:13
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came here expecting literal skeletons
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Oct 7, 2015 02:15
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Drunk Nerds posted:This E/N thread about a mysterious 19-year-old letter carrying a deep family secret that post u linked had lots of words and exclamation points also u turned ur dad gay lol
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Oct 7, 2015 02:15
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Drunk Nerds posted:This E/N thread about a mysterious 19-year-old letter carrying a deep family secret So he had a gay lover, then met and married your mom, but discovered he was gay while married to your mom? That must have been an awkward 10 years of gay sex.
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Oct 7, 2015 02:15
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Dave_Indeed posted:So he had a gay lover, then met and married your mom, but discovered he was gay while married to your mom? lol good catch
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Oct 7, 2015 02:21
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no my family is boring as gently caress well i mean both of my parents were previously married (dad twice, mom once) but nothing juicy there one time my mom and her ex-husband went out to a really expensive dinner and he ordered filet mignon, sent it back for being "undercooked" and then asked for ketchup to put on it also my dad was in the vietnam war but he never talked about it that's about all
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Oct 7, 2015 02:23
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Both my parents are Nazis.
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Oct 7, 2015 02:24
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My family sells dead baby dicks at Planned Parenthood. It's an old-fashioned family business.
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Oct 7, 2015 02:24
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chest of nazi gold no but seriously there was some family members who left germany right around the beginning of ww2 and brought with them a chest, no one knows what happened to it the chest was described as being "full of gold" hm.
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Oct 7, 2015 02:25
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Oct 7, 2015 02:25
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standard "i have a mentally handicapped sister i never told you about" early 20th C. fare thanks grandma  also some friend-of-the-family sexual abuse stuff that ruined my uncle emotionally welp thanks
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Oct 7, 2015 02:25
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Once in college my dad smoked weed
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Oct 7, 2015 02:26
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Dave_Indeed posted:So he had a gay lover, then met and married your mom, but discovered he was gay while married to your mom? Put discovered in quotes and you've got it
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Oct 7, 2015 02:26
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Hector Beerlioz posted:Once in college my dad smoked weed
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Oct 7, 2015 02:27
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The woman I thought was my mother was my grandmother and the woman I thought was my sister was my great-grandmother.
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Oct 7, 2015 02:28
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Joust posted:The woman I thought was my mother was my grandmother and the woman I thought was my sister was my great-grandmother. it's me, I'm your daddy
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Oct 7, 2015 02:32
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my dad did my mom
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Oct 7, 2015 02:33
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jackyl posted:it's me, I'm your daddy 
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Oct 7, 2015 02:34
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no theres some pretty hosed up stuff but they mostly didnt bother to try and hide it eg my alcoholic aunt got pregnant at 17 married three different people including at least one heroin addict and im fairly sure a child molester but shes dead now though or maybe there are worse things i dont know about 
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Oct 7, 2015 02:38
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it turns out i'm 1/16 Cherokee. it came as quite a shock when i found out. i had to struggle with a lot of very difficult questions about my racial identity, like whether or not i should continue to identify myself as a "white man"
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Oct 7, 2015 02:40
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tbh its probably the second option actually i vaguely recall some story about my dead alcoholic (bit of a theme here) great uncle intimidating his wife with a shotgun but im hazy on the details he also had some maine coons and a fallout shelter
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Oct 7, 2015 02:41
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I found out that I have a ridiculous amount of family members through my dad that I will probably never know outside of Facebook. Conservative estimates put the number at 65, the high estimate is 95. They're scattered all over the world, but about 40 of them are half-siblings of my father and his sister through their father. I kind of hate that side of the family but I'm curious about them. Also that grandfather was a rapist, pedophile, and possible murderer. But on the plus side that side of the family owns a fruit company that sells throughout the US. You've probably seen my family name in the supermarket produce section lately.
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Oct 7, 2015 02:43
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gamingCaffeinator posted:You've probably seen my family name in the supermarket produce section lately. janitors have name tags?
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Oct 7, 2015 03:00
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We owned a LOT of slaves,. On our tobacco plantation. Which is shocking, I know.
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Oct 7, 2015 03:03
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im my own grandpa
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Oct 7, 2015 03:04
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I've never been told this, so all of my reasoning is purely speculative, but I think my mom had an abortion at some point, probably before I was born. My parents were in their early 30s when they had me and my mom absolutely shuts down and becomes incredibly stressed whenever the topic of abortion comes up. Once, when I was very little, I read an anti-abortion bumper sticker in a parking lot aloud, having no idea what it actually meant, and my mom got really upset. That night, my dad told me to never talk to her about abortion ever again. Other incidents like this popped up throughout my childhood and adolescence. Despite my mom never actually coming out and condemning abortion despite being a Southern Baptist, it's a subject she clearly doesn't want to talk about for personal reasons. It wouldn't devastate me or anything if it turned out that I'm right (I'm 99% certain that I am), but I've assumed that to be the family secret since I started putting the pieces together about 15 years ago.
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Oct 7, 2015 03:16
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Time_pants posted:I've never been told this, so all of my reasoning is purely speculative, but I think my mom had an abortion at some point, probably before I was born. have you ever considered that maybe she didn't abort you because of her beliefs and that is what causes her and your dad pain?
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Oct 7, 2015 03:18
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jackyl posted:have you ever considered that maybe she didn't abort you because of her beliefs and that is what causes her and your dad pain? That's the part of my theory I didn't mention, but yes.
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Oct 7, 2015 03:21
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well you weren't supposed to take it that well but ok
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Oct 7, 2015 03:23
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My grandfather dosed himself with poison and wrapped himself around a tree in a car in an effort to make sure he was extra dead from his suicide.
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Oct 7, 2015 03:28
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Time_pants posted:I've never been told this, so all of my reasoning is purely speculative, but I think my mom had an abortion at some point, probably before I was born. This seems like not something to angst over for decades.
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Oct 7, 2015 03:28
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Time_pants posted:I've never been told this, so all of my reasoning is purely speculative, but I think my mom had an abortion at some point, probably before I was born. Ehhh you probably don't want to delve into this.
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Oct 7, 2015 03:30
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oh yeah, my grandfather on my mom's side participated in the air traffic controller strike back in the 80s and was fired by Reagan. he wrote him a letter calling him a "big old political oval office". i think he has a copy framed in his office.
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Oct 7, 2015 03:31
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My mom discovered a few months back that my great great grandfather, back in the 40s, murdered his house maid after she told him he would have to wait for his supper and then proceeded to eat his own bullet. We both had a good laugh about it.
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Oct 7, 2015 03:34
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Harald posted:came here expecting literal skeletons 
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Oct 7, 2015 03:35
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I recently learned that my Aunt's first husband used to beat her. She told us a story about how she finally had enough of him and called my dad and my uncle to come get her and take her back to my grandparents' place, and when they arrived she lied and told them her husband was away at work when he was really passed out drunk upstairs. I asked my dad what he was going to do if the husband was there, and he just shrugged and said, "I was gonna kill him." I'd normally write that off as hyperbole but this happened in South Florida around 1980 and my family is definitely Florida-crazy so that dude was 100% almost gator food. Hearing my dad casually talk about the time he almost murdered a guy was pretty jarring, though.
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Oct 7, 2015 03:42
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