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Dren posted:Hi I hope I have done this right and posted this in the right place. Not really a dating question but advice needed
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Though really I think this is something the OP should be dealing with
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Dec 30, 2015 23:24
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This might seem like a deja vu to you, but that's because I posted about a month ago, but I forgot what the thread was. But basically I'm posting this because things have gone for the worse and I really badly need advice. So basically, I seem to only be attracted to girls who are obsessed with The Legend of Zelda like me. A few weeks ago I met this girl in my class who is very sweet and quite honestly, I feel I might have a shot with her if I put in some effort. And at first I felt like going for it. However my brain came to its "senses" and figured since she doesn't like Zelda, then she's no good. And I'm honestly really sad by this. I know I make a big deal out of mentioning Zelda but I think that in general there is a bigger underlying problem. I am a part of a minority since my parents are immigrants in this country and for a few years I've only gone for girls who were culturally similar to me. As in girls who grew up with the same culture and traditions as me. This was a big deal to me and I refused to date outside of my culture. This was by the way completely my desire, my parents never pressured me into this. I feel it was a part of my "identity crisis" that many immigrant kids go through, growing up. Well, I dated a few girls who were culturally compatible with me however things turned bad and in general I stopped caring for my parents culture so I decided that I no longer wanted to date girls from my parents culture. However without noticing it, I must have replaced the cultural requirement with the gaming requirement. Now the girl had to share the same passion for Zelda as me since that gaming series meant a lot to me, growing up. Basically, what I think this is, is me being attracted to girls I have things in common with. And not just any things, it has to be things that mean a lot to me. But of these requirements have meant that my dating pool is extremely small and honestly, I wish I could stop thinking like this. But I can't. For instance this girl I met in my class, since we don't have Zelda in common, the fear of later meeting a girl who does like Zelda will result in me getting really jealous and feel like I "settled" when I could have gotten my dream girl, somebody with the same passion in common. I honestly don't know how to deal with this. It's not just something I can switch off. All I can think about is just meeting a girl who shares the same love for Zelda as me and I feel like that's the only way to get over this.
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Dec 30, 2015 23:44
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I understand anger. I keep my anger suppressed, but it's always there. 15 years of therapy and it's still there, only now I understand it. My wife and I went to see Star Wars (Outstanding!). She gets the tickets, I park the car. What a freaking nightmare. I drive around and around. Endlessly. If you're not in front of a car pulling out you don't get the spot. A half hour later I spot daddy and the kids as they leave the theater and I follow them to their parking spot. I'm off to the side with my blinker on waiting for them to leave. They pull out of their parking spot and I head for it. Until... Some punks in an Honda Civic try to dive right in. I cut them off, giving them every possible opportunity to hit my new minivan, which didn't happen. Junior pops out of his pitiful little rice-burner. I pop out of my beautiful new minivan. Freaking teenage waste products. Now I'm mad. Really freaking mad. I tell the kid that I am willing to die to get that parking spot. Then I ask if he is. He gets back in his rust bucket, flips me off and drives away. The truth is that, after driving over 1,000,000 miles in an NYC taxi, I really was prepared to die before I let that putz get that spot away from me. And to think, I thought Trump supporters are crazy angry.
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Dec 31, 2015 00:10
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I got advice for AA but I want OP to go first.
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Dec 31, 2015 00:43
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Chris Benoit is a murderer. He killed his wife and child. We will probably never know exactly what he was thinking. Obviously I did not know Chris Benoit. I never saw him in person and never spoke to him. But he represented something very special to me. In such a cut-throat, dirty, dark, often disgusting, business he was one of the good ones. When people talked poo poo about wrestling and the bastards involved in it, you could always muffin out Chris Benoit as the exception to the rule. He was the one you could muffin to as a true professional who honored the sport he loved, who was passionate about it, who proved that you could dedicate your life to professional wrestling without being insane or scum or a monster. He was the ace in the hole. He was the one who wasn't in it for the pussy or because he was a failed jock in another sport or because he wanted to get rich quick or because he wanted to be a movie star or because he saw wrestling as a means to an end. He was in it for professional wrestling. He was dedicated to being the best professional wrestler he could be, and it showed in the ring. I wanted to be a professional wrestler since I was a little kid, and one of the very worst moments of my life was a cold night in San Antonio when I was on the phone to my girlfriend a thousand miles away and finally admitted to myself and to her that coming to Texas to be a wrestler had been a mistake. Coming to grips that I was simply not athletically or charismatically talented enough to be a professional wrestler was one of the worst moments of my life. The business glorifies the boyhood dreams that come true. My boyhood dream wasn't going to come true, and it was an upsetting, soul-crushing revelation that upsets and discourages me to this day. Since then I lived vicariously through Chris Benoit in a lot of ways. He wasn't a man who was destined to be a WWE champion. He couldn't talk. He wasn't charismatic in the usual way. He was quiet. He was short. The only thing he had going for him was his work ethic. He wasn't a third generation wrestler. He wasn't physically gifted. He wasn't someone who had words come easy to him. But through sheer effort he was able to become one of the greatest professional wrestlers in history. By 40 years-old. Chris Benoit was only forty, and he was already a legend on the verge of myth. That's how talented he was, and how respected. I cannot reconcile in my mind that the man who unnecessarily gave back so much to the sport could end his life the way he did. I can't understand how a man could spend weeks and months trying to give back to younger guys like MVP, putting forth the care and effort to help them find their voice in the ring, and that that same man could strangle his wife and child only weeks later. It doesn't make sense. It shouldn't have happened this way. Not for him, not for Nancy, and not for their child. Chris Benoit owed me nothing. But I still feel the loss. I selfishly lived through many of his accomplishments and now feel lost. I can only speak for myself, but I feel that for a lot of us Mondays and Fridays are rocks of stability in a storm of stress and uncertainty. Every week the show goes on. Every week the show is from somewhere new, somewhere in the world, but every week it comes into our homes. And that will continue. But Chris Benoit is dead. And he died a murderer. And whether it be insanity, drugs, or just the actions of a clear-eyed monster, what is done is done. And one of the pillars for the guys backstage and one of the pillars for fans is gone. And everything that pillar held up is tainted and dripping with blood. Chris Benoit was a murderer. And I don't know how to accept that.
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Dec 31, 2015 00:54
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Thanks everyone for the advice but I am looking for advice from someone with dating experience like OP which is why I posted in this thread
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Dec 31, 2015 01:02
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I want to know how skinny is too skinny when it comes to wearing raw denim and attracting a female. OP, please respond.
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Dec 31, 2015 01:09
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Dren posted:Thanks everyone for the advice but I am looking for advice from someone with dating experience like OP which is why I posted in this thread I've been on a date and I can tell you with full confidence that you need to sever from your boss.
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Dec 31, 2015 01:26
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Nolan Orion posted:
quoting for posterity
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Dec 31, 2015 02:24
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it never gets old, artists can hate on stuff for like years
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Dec 31, 2015 02:32
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hi liter posted:This might be the most inappropriate subforum possible for this thread. Nice. I don't know about that, given the type of people I've seen toting medium format cameras around.
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Dec 31, 2015 02:33
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Hello. Welcome to the Best Thread In Dorkroom.
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Dec 31, 2015 23:42
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gEJHrmliVQw
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Dec 31, 2015 23:42
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ban this sick filth
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Jan 1, 2016 03:01
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relevant:
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Jan 1, 2016 04:12
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Jan 1, 2016 04:59
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gently caress YEAH
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Jan 1, 2016 08:42
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Mr. Despair posted:gently caress
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Jan 1, 2016 20:42
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guys i dont think the op is coming back to fix our dating problems
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Jan 1, 2016 23:32
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HookShot posted:guys i dont think the op is coming back to fix our dating problems :foreveralone:
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Jan 2, 2016 02:11
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well thanks for being entertaining on my first and probably last trip to this subform at least 
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Jan 2, 2016 20:24
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Parallel Paraplegic posted:well thanks for being entertaining on my first and probably last trip to this subform at least Nah, stick around and hangout. It's fun here
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Jan 4, 2016 03:37
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Mr. Despair posted:Nah, stick around and hangout. It's fun here This is the chill thread where you can post real bad. I mean not like as bad as you usually do but worse than regular posting.
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Jan 5, 2016 10:38
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On a first date should I be talking about simple things like the exposure triangle or more complicated things like rules of composition and how far right the clarity slider has to go?
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Jan 8, 2016 18:17
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If she doesn't follow "sliders to the right" as gospel already you should probably sever
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Jan 8, 2016 23:46
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HookShot posted:If she doesn't follow "sliders to the right" as gospel already you should probably sever
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Jan 9, 2016 00:04
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Fart Amplifier posted:On a first date should I be talking about simple things like the exposure triangle or more complicated things like rules of composition and how far right the clarity slider has to go? women love talking about the nuances of different film stock
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Jan 9, 2016 00:14
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lol if you dont show up to the date and plunk down a large format camera to show her that you a baller
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Jan 9, 2016 03:49
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What if the date is literally inside a camera obscura
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Jan 9, 2016 03:53
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i no joke list owning an 8x10 camera on my tinder profile, life is too short to gently caress people that dont respect your art
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Jan 9, 2016 04:36
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"this isn't the only thing I own that shoots 8 inches" 
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Jan 9, 2016 04:36
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If she's not into the Zone System, pull the chute.
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Jan 9, 2016 09:41
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if she's into olympus, she'd probably also be into piss.
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Jan 9, 2016 09:49
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The only canon that should be pressed against your face bb is my love cannon
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Jan 9, 2016 10:06
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Wild EEPROM posted:if she's into olympus, she'd probably also be into piss. I thought that was Pentax. Dren posted:I went through 5 used Pentax bodies that reeked of piss before I gave up on weather sealing and got a Nikon, so yeah, this is a legit concern. There must be a golden shower forum out there recommending pentaxes.
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Jan 9, 2016 14:43
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It's not about the size of your sensor, it's how you use it. That's what I tell myself anyway.
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Jan 10, 2016 23:48
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EL BROMANCE posted:It's not about the size of your sensor, it's how you use it. Pentax actually displayed a prototype full-frame DSLR a decently long time ago. A prototype that never entered production. Pentax, you were SO CLOSE.
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Jan 11, 2016 02:05
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SoundMonkey posted:Pentax actually displayed a prototype full-frame DSLR a decently long time ago. A prototype that never entered production. Pentax, you were SO CLOSE. http://www.pentax.com/en/pentaxff/ 2016 is the year of the pentax ff camera
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Mr. Despair posted:http://www.pentax.com/en/pentaxff/ Can't wait for all the folks super happy that they invested an asston of money in glass for a system they were assuming would always be cropped.
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