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Are there any studies on the effects of unisex bathrooms?
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# ¿ Mar 22, 2016 23:28 |
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# ¿ May 14, 2024 19:35 |
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blowfish posted:Yeah and?
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# ¿ Mar 28, 2016 00:01 |
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The Kingfish posted:Why? What if they are acting like idiots? (I'm not saying the two are equivalent, but they're similar.) That is, if you want to be rude, which you still probably shouldn't.
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# ¿ Mar 28, 2016 02:27 |
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SwimmingSpider posted:People who use non-standard pronouns, no matter how esoteric, hurt absolutely no one by using them. Acknowledging those pronouns takes little to no effort and makes a world of difference to the people using them, so what's the point in refusing to? - a member of a historically and currently marginalized group who is trying to not abide by a language they experience to co-constitute this marginalization - a weird teenager who just wants to be special and insists on being called thyr I guess the difference is not always, but usually, obvious, and #2 should be really rate either way. I also, and I understand I'm saying this from a not particularly informed, and rather privileged, position, that pronouns aren't that important in the grand scheme of things.
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# ¿ Mar 28, 2016 02:38 |
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OwlFancier posted:It demonstrably makes trans people less likely to kill themselves.
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# ¿ Mar 28, 2016 12:44 |
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The nice thing about singular they is that it's under specified. It doesn't mean "neuter", it means "I don't know". Currently it's super insulting to keep using it once you've been informed about what to use for a particular person, but I can imagine it taking over and becoming totally neutral so English loses gender marking on third person singular pronouns and the whole debate becomes moot. Not saying this will happen, but it is one possible future.
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# ¿ Mar 28, 2016 20:10 |
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OwlFancier posted:It demonstrably makes trans people less likely to kill themselves. That's pretty important. Cingulate posted:Source? Cause this thread moves way too fast.
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# ¿ Mar 28, 2016 22:13 |
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I'm really sure in a calmer mood, we'd quickly see blowfish and his detractors are much more in agreement than in disagreement, and about the remainder, a cool-header productive debate could be had.
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# ¿ Mar 28, 2016 22:35 |
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The Kingfish posted:Exactly? Gender is a bad social construct, and personal genders do nothing to undermine gender as a force in our society. We should be working to abolish gender, not strengthen its grip.
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# ¿ Mar 28, 2016 22:40 |
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blowfish posted:I'm of the opinion that people doing or saying absurd things should be actively educated. Climate change deniers, anti-vaxxers, neoliberals (neo liberals), lolbertarians, and xe people who think other people need to actually call them that. blowfish posted:Climate change deniers, anti-vaxxers, neoliberals (neo liberals), lolbertarians, and xe people who think other people need to actually call them that
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# ¿ Mar 28, 2016 22:56 |
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Sulphuric rear end in a top hat posted:Sounds like privilege to me.
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# ¿ Mar 28, 2016 23:06 |
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The Kingfish posted:Because I don't believe in using personal genders for the reasons already given.
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# ¿ Mar 28, 2016 23:09 |
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Sulphuric rear end in a top hat posted:The entitling one group to extra respect, based on how they were born, over another. That sounds like someone is being granted privilege. The Kingfish posted:"they/their"
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# ¿ Mar 28, 2016 23:22 |
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The Kingfish posted:Its only rude because xe people are looking to feel special.
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# ¿ Mar 28, 2016 23:30 |
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Kingfish:Cingulate posted:Let's say I am just a naturally skeptical person. (I am.) I am skeptical about your explanation for the personal motivation of these people's actions. What evidence do you have that their motivation is truly wanting to feel "special", whatever that means?
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# ¿ Mar 28, 2016 23:45 |
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The Kingfish posted:My evidence is that they chose to use a pronoun they made up for themselves instead of the non-binary pronoun we already have.
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# ¿ Mar 28, 2016 23:54 |
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SHISHKABOB posted:Human behavior is in part a function of the societies that they live in. It's impossible to conceive of a human being's behavior who does not live in some kind of society. Sure, the full-blown psychotic or sociopath may be physically interacting with society, but they're not living in it. The Kingfish posted:I honestly wish you good luck finding strong evidence for any of this non-binary stuff. I can assure you that you won't find any for xe people one way or another.
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# ¿ Mar 29, 2016 00:27 |
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Brainiac Five posted:This is smug and doesn't actually answer the question. If we don't know what "natural" behaviors are for women or men, the entire line of argumentation is moot because it's over something meaningless in the first place! So you do need to answer, at least tentatively, what a "natural" woman or man would behave like.
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# ¿ Mar 29, 2016 00:41 |
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SwimmingSpider posted:This thread is a never-ending cycle of cis people making statements about trans people, trans people explaining to the cis people why they're wrong and the cis people ignoring them and then saying the same thing they said before. SHISHKABOB posted:I guess that would depend on the reasons for why they are not "living in" society. Those reasons could be related to the societies themselves, or they could be "natural" or physical reasons (brain tumor?).
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# ¿ Mar 29, 2016 00:45 |
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OwlFancier posted:No it isn't? Hermits do exist. They're certainly rare but human beings living with close to zero social contact is a thing that has happened, even from a young age.
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# ¿ Mar 29, 2016 01:19 |
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Nostalgia4Infinity posted:I feel like this thread in a nutshell is: I'm not saying it's complicated, but it's not as simple as what you're saying.
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# ¿ Mar 29, 2016 12:08 |
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blowfish posted:It is very simple: it's different depending on how much I identify with the
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# ¿ Mar 29, 2016 12:29 |
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blowfish posted:Since I don't consider any socially constructed identities real, I don't care beyond "people are stupid and do retarded poo poo".
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# ¿ Mar 29, 2016 12:55 |
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blowfish posted:Unless those people want to implement their dumb poo poo in badly thought out policy I really don't want to. Too bad we're now at that point.
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# ¿ Mar 29, 2016 13:02 |
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blowfish posted:If something is supposed to be valid, it needs to be valid regardless of the suicide rate of people it applies to. Archonex posted:Last I checked Trump didn't have a 50% suicide rate.
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# ¿ Mar 29, 2016 13:51 |
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Generally speaking, people are wrong all the time about their identity. Personal intuitions are really bad and basically never authoritative. Example: I have often heard that many poorer Americans consider themselves, and actually act in many ways congruent with being, temporally inconvenienced millionaires. Now I am not saying this is somehow a great analogy for gender identity - the point is simply that people can in principle be very wrong about what they are, by very reasonable standards. Now treating someone with respect probably always requires somehow acknowledging their self identity, and I guess it's very often absolutely essential to treating someone with basic human decency. But that is a normative statement, about what people morally deserve - not about what gives us an informed insight into what they are.
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# ¿ Mar 29, 2016 16:03 |
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blowfish posted:Offense itself is not wrong. There will always be someone, somewhere offended about whatever you are saying. If what you are saying causes nobody offense, it is trivial and uninteresting. It's totally important to be able to offend those in comfortable positions - the established, the mighty. But that doesn't necessarily extend to offending those who're already constantly abused.
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# ¿ Mar 29, 2016 16:06 |
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Nostalgic Cashew posted:Could someone answer this? I think it would help a lot with my understanding. I get very confused when it's said that gender is an individually asserted part of identity, but other elements of identity do/don't deserve the same consideration by others. IMO it's very good you're asking for clarification on something you don't yet see though.
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# ¿ Mar 29, 2016 16:10 |
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OwlFancier posted:You're correct, that is a very poor analogy. Because the response to it is "this identity is causing you to harm yourself and there are other ones available to you which fulfil your desire for self-value" which, despite much effort attempting to discover an alternative, has not been found to be true for trans people.
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# ¿ Mar 29, 2016 16:12 |
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OwlFancier posted:Because it's a poor analogy and equivocating the two is disingenuous.
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# ¿ Mar 29, 2016 16:46 |
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So why would anyone think there is a difference between those two cases: - Donald Trump, having lost the election, with a very bruised ego, demands that from now on, everyone writing and talking to and about him must respect his personal identity, what he feels himself to be, by referring to him as lordsir. - a person with severe and clinical gender dysphoria requests to be adressed as she or as xhir although they were born with XY chromosomes, has a penis, and is legally recognized as a male. Now to a lot of people, this is a ridiculous proposition - possibly even insulting to trans people. To them, it is obviously clear where the difference is. Well, there is zero gain in yelling at people who do not see a difference here that they are wrong wrong wrong. This is not going to give anyone a proper reason for seeing a difference. But I think a reasonable cause can be made. I'm not saying this is a really well thought out position, or even that it's necessarily mine. I'm also not particularly inclined to argue or defend it, I just want to present that it's totally possible to simply present one's reasons on this issue. First, I will address a few possible reasons that I think are distractions. - Trump is actually truly upset, and he does hate not being addressed as lordsir. In fact, Trump has been diagnosed with depression resulting from severe narcissistic injury. - Correlations with reality. By all possible measures, Trump is just as much or more of a lordsir than our transgender example is a she or xhir. He even got a nobility title from somewhere, and a faux medieval castle, whereas "she" generally refers to people with two Xs and no penis, and "xhir" doesn't even exist. We don't have any strong, replicable evidence that transsexuality has a clear biological base yet, and Trump's personal delusion may well have been caused by an undiagnosed biological constellation. - The intersection of these: personal choice. Trump decides he wants to be addressed so just as much as our trans person decides for themselves. Here is the major difference I see. Donald Trump does not stand in a long and ongoing tradition of being injured over his identity. In fact, Trump stands in a long tradition of being rewarded for his identity. (Criminals also stand in a long tradition of being persecuted over their identities; but we think it only just to persecute them precisely to the degree with which the cause others harm, and our trans person does not cause anyone harm by asking for a specific pronoun.) This aspect does in fact make a gigantic difference. It's the most important difference in the world. Consider free speech, or freedom of religion, or any other liberty. They're not important in themselves, as an abstract good, they're important in what they are for. The point of defending free speech is not to keep it legal to call Black people niggers, it is to keep it legal to criticize the government and not be tortured to death by the king's personal guard over it. The point of freedom of religion is not to allow schools to not teach evolution if it makes being a fundamentalist Christian a bit harder, but to prevent pogroms against Jews. The point of freedom of the press is not to instigate hatred of immigrants, but to keep venture capitalists and lobbyists at least a bit accountable instead of allowing them to sue you into oblivion and shut down your newspaper. The point of respecting a trans person's wishes regarding their pronouns is to not stand in a long tradition of dismembering and defenestrating gay men and raping lesbian women. And it's a tradition - the Worst Tradition, in fact. If you call them a she, that's not somehow taking away an important, unique voice from the marketplace of ideas. Everyone else is still calling them a he or an it. Joining that chorus reinforces a tradition of violent intolerance. Disagreeing with it is taking a very minor stance against the Worst Tradition, or at least not joining this tradition. Because if you join in in the chorus, that's being part of all of society bearing down on that person. If you insult Trump, he has all of society his money can by to prop him up. Corollary: what if Donald Trump turns out to be trans, and wishes to be addressed as a she? He still has his money and social support, right? Yes, but when you come down on that part of society which disrespects trans people, that part is not selectively calling Trump a he against his wishes, it's making it clear that the tradition of violating trans people's concerns is generally still going on. So even if Trump/Hitler/whoever were to turn out trans, we should still grudgingly respect his (her) wishes - not for his sake, but because the Worst Tradition really doesn't need even more support. It already has a hundred million people on its side. The day persecution of trans people has become ancient history may be the day where it's cool to make a joke about them and we can all just laugh at it. (This may already be somewhere on the horizon with gays and Jews in some parts of the world.) Conversely, if people actually started being oppressed (that is, attacked not by individuals, but by society) for being Christians by the atheist mainstream, theirs would become a position deserving respect and protection. Cingulate fucked around with this message at 17:03 on Mar 29, 2016 |
# ¿ Mar 29, 2016 17:00 |
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the trump tutelage posted:Do you believe that society is only as happy as it's unhappiest individual, then? Where does the happiness and wellbeing of 0.5% factor in to the wellbeing of society as a whole?
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# ¿ Mar 29, 2016 17:10 |
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Although it may be a great stress relief, ultimately, nobody is served well by yelling.
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# ¿ Mar 29, 2016 17:16 |
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jivjov posted:Given than Amused to Death so far has not responded well to rational discourse, I figured that all caps might penetrate the thick wall of marginalization and bigotry that seems to serve them for a skull.
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# ¿ Mar 29, 2016 17:23 |
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SedanChair posted:The idiotic Trump comparison, like all other idiotic comparisons, has no body of clinical research behind it. You picked an example to deliberately show your willful and ongoing ignorance of trans issues. Also you didn't read the trump comparison posts.
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# ¿ Mar 29, 2016 17:52 |
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If you're convinced trans people should be addressed with pronouns of their choosing, the Trump analogy is not for you. It's for those who're not. If you think it's bad, you could try doing a better one though. Or keep yelling I guess. SedanChair posted:You'll never know. I am the seal preventing you from attaining this knowledge. I'm drunk with power now.
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# ¿ Mar 29, 2016 18:49 |
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Who What Now posted:your analogy ... people aren't responding to it the way you want... Don't get pissy because you failed at getting through to people.
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# ¿ Mar 29, 2016 19:04 |
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Archonex posted:Look at the definition of what a transgender person is. You see how it mentions stuff like gender dysphoria, issues with the gender they've had to present to society, etc, etc?
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# ¿ Mar 29, 2016 19:14 |
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Who What Now posted:^^^^^^
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# ¿ Mar 29, 2016 19:25 |
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# ¿ May 14, 2024 19:35 |
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Nostalgic Cashew posted:I do have an intuitive feeling, but I am looking for a logical framework, if someone asks why they should do that (like my parents) I'd like to have some force of logic, and not feelings. There probably isn't an objectively true answer anyways.
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# ¿ Mar 29, 2016 19:27 |