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McAlister posted:Note: I did know that hysterectomies existed in the 90's but was unable to find a doctor willing to perform one on me as a healthy childless twenty something woman. I know men of that age who were able to get vasectomies at that time. They got a moderate amount of pushback and couldn't get the first doc they called to do it. But in the end their control of their fertility was respected in a way mine wasn't. Hey, first off: You've shared a lot of great stuff, and it's awesome, thanks. Second, I wanted to springboard off this bit of personal info because this is my exact issue, too. My entire life, pregnancy has been my #1 fear because it has a 100% chance of killing me. Abortion bans are straight up on my mind 24/7. So, here's the fun, gender thing: I am a woman, was born as one, and present as such by whatever that means - but I can't have children. Periods are useless to me. I want the poo poo removed. To everyone I know, that is the -one- thing that makes you a woman: childbearing. Can't do it: Am I a woman? You'd be shocked by the answers. You'd be even more shocked by the weird near-reptilian tone people take with me and suddenly spring nightmares onto me: "God had a plan, go with it." "Don't take birth control, it'll ruin your brain/body/hormones." "Maybe they can induce a coma on you and surgically remove your ribcage to induce labor!" "Maybe you should give your life for the child, I mean, you can't -not- have kids." "Why would you do such a selfish thing to the men in your life?" "You can't have kids? Oh man, you're never going to find a guy." "Why should I wear a condom? It feels bad. We can just, like, do stuff to get rid of it if you get pregnant, right?" "Well, it's cool you want to adopt, but I kinda want to spread MY genes, you know...?" Since I was like, 10 years old. It's hosed. It's some kind of gross sexual projection dressed up as concern. E: for the super nerdy goons, please refer to the cinema classic Prometheus to get a wonderful metaphor of how horrific and unreal this natural and biological act feels to me. Thanks for reading, have a great day, keep posting.
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Guavanaut posted:These two are wonderful in combination. This dude gets it. The other fun thing is complete faux-concern over my 'biological clock' like I'm some sort of slowly dying oven that can't bake poo poo right. That happens to every woman I know to some degree, though.
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WoodrowSkillson posted:Most won't and its about fulfilling your purpose by creating new life, not mathematically growing the species. Yeah, OwlFancier - it's breaking down my useful parts as a woman to basically 'make another brand new person at any cost.' I find a lot of uncomfortable roots of this 'concern' is religious or racially provoked. The hidden idea, I felt sometimes, was my making a child, even with my death, is like a way of 'apologizing' for being broken. A brand new thing to love and antagonize by society that I left in my useless wake. I am adopting though, if I ever make the bank to keep a child happy, educated, and safe. Kids loving own. Another fun litmus test this poo poo has granted me: how people really feel about parental leave, welfare and food stamps for children. So many people wanting me knocked up - not one person to offer with the post-birth fallout! Typical.
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