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lately I'm having to prune my list of ladies. it's taken a while to find people who are interested and now I have too many. I still have a wife and family to maintain which are a priority and I don't want to be a dick and give the ladies too thin of a slice and I'm thinking 2 or 3 is probably a good number but than depends on their level
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older ladies are the key. younger people don't really "get it" and even people my age [35] don't much either. some have tried to drive a wedge between my wife and I, or thought they had special ownership over me. coz it's not just about sex but mostly sex but what's sex without cuddles idk???????
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Jul 3, 2016 07:08
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wth is bumble? ahah have you seen the dudes on tinder? so drat tragic, try looking good in a photo for once maybe
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Jul 3, 2016 07:21
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Jul 3, 2016 07:50
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ladies on and around t: 22 or so. hippy parents. independent but still young. kinda big. very sexual. she seemed like a goer but hasn't been putting in the effort with me.. still chats but I've made time for her but whenever we have arranged time to meet its always fallen through on her end :/ j: 51. from London. gorgeous I'm into her but idk what she wants. she matched by accident and was intrigued by the idea of a three some. good life attitude. willing to chat but never starts conversations. willing to meet but won't make time to do so.. I think this is gonna fall away on its own d: 44. total fox. awesome hair I'm quite into her, kinda feel she's out of my league. quite keen to meet me to see if we will click s: 39. dirty as absolute gently caress gonna keep her around. she's a bit different is that she is a total sex addict and just wants a range of dudes to use her. had a threesome planned with her which turned into a foursome. hottest fuckin night. good memories c: 40. she gets it this one understands what it means to be involved. her biggest concern is my wife's feelings. we get on well. she's funny, cute, independent and has a interesting job. sex is good and interesting c: 26. hot as gently caress! we had a threesome with this girl, took her to dinner then did the dee. first time for all of us. good human vibes experience. then she booty called me once but was awkward coz as I later learned she was half seeing a guy and got the guilts half way thru. left that occasion feeling bogus but once I found out why it was fine. I guess she might be down again if she goes single. unlike the others I don't really get on with her that well though.. a shake coz she is really hot and LOVES having her rear end eaten maybe another time I will post about the trainwrecks and disasters and people I've had to cut off
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Jul 3, 2016 08:05
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Agile Vector posted:Fuckin work clothes like they need to show they're not unemployed so desperately. ie overweight 40 somethings wearing a hard hat and a Singlet
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Jul 3, 2016 08:05
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just to be clear here before anyone gets the wrong idea I'm 100% up front with everyone I meet and match. everyone knows I'm married. meeting my wife is essential if they wanna get past the first date and into my pants. all the convos I have with the ladies are open for me wife to read if she wishes. no secrets. full disclosure. big emphasis on consent. safe sex every time
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Jul 3, 2016 08:11
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great success I had talked about that in the POS but this was like last year when it started. at least I thought I did. some of those "rules" have evolved so maybe I didn't? who knows
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Jul 3, 2016 08:23
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echinopsis posted:just to be clear here before anyone gets the wrong idea lmao I tried to edit the OP to add this in but you can't do that? jesus Graff posted:I think you should buy them all forum accounts so that we can cross examine them. these ladies are far too class to be on here talking about computers
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Jul 3, 2016 08:24
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and their age
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Jul 3, 2016 08:36
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usual tinder goes like this "hi" "hi" *small talk for few paragraphs "so what are you looking for?" I ask if they say "to settle down" or you know the vibe "sorry I can't offer what you're looking for" "good luck out there" "you too" ends nicely but if they are more open minded with what they looking for "oh yeah well to be honest I'm in open relationship so something compatible with that" and that results in either a] interested and chat (usually goes nowhere) b] me being abused for cheating and not loving my wife or c] instant unmatch c] just happened right now. welp. her loss maybe?
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Jul 3, 2016 09:00
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nah I just don't mention her exploits overall she probably gets more action, but mine is more divvied up. she found someone early on that ticked the boxes and works well with us, whereas it's taken me a lot longer to get to that stage, but I have had a few failed trial and errors getting there
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Jul 3, 2016 10:03
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plus believe it or not the whole thing was kind of her idea... we'll sort of. it wasn't like one of us suggested it and the other agreed but she was the one that laid the first stone
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Jul 3, 2016 10:04
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DiggityDoink posted:how old are you by the way echopenis? I'm 35. Married for 11 years. started this maybe 9 months ago and yeah I think I will. but ditch is a mean word. I mean these are people.. we're facebook friends.. I'm not a pump and dump kind of dude. But she is muddying the waters. my wife is concerned I have too many on the go, even though I haven't met some of them, you know? And of course I need to respect her needs above anyone elses. I think the old "slow fade" is going to be my friend here Raluek posted:Ah, that's good. Sounds like everything is working out, then. Keep on keepin' on. Mate cheers fun hater posted:what a coincidence, i too am so beautiful that it makes everyone want to have sex with me. I am appealing on the short term.. the longer people know me the less appealing I become
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Jul 3, 2016 10:56
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yeah one thing I am being kinda self aware is that a) this kind of thing in your life kinda takes over, like I'm not as concerned about world peace as I used to be.. and b) I realise it's a great distraction from real life, as in, talking to new girls is always fun and exciting and they say nice things and ya feel good, but it's clearly a distraction and easy to use as an escape. Also I notice the flip side of the coin of the warm fuzzy feelings from them saying nice things is that you can get an ego-dip from a lack of it. Never before have I been so concerned about impressing women.. I wouldn't say I "have" these ladies though. Only 3 of those 6 are "active" and one I haven't met (yet?)..
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Jul 3, 2016 12:07
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masked sex hero posted:op i am skeptical about of the sustainability of open relationships but i wish you luck with your thing I know what you mean. at some stage we accept it'll probably have to stop if we are to retain our own relationship.. but it might not be so fun? I guess maybe we would slow it down to threesomes only? inviting another party to join both is significantly less problematic
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Jul 3, 2016 19:45
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mishaq posted:thank your for making this thread echi Love you too brother
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Jul 3, 2016 20:29
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2 perhaps not far away we might have to slow down or whatever when they get old enough to work out what's going on certainly less group sex in the lounge 
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vodkat posted:this is a good thread. i have subscribed to your newsletter and look forward to future updates. all the best on your adventures echi m8 cheers bud. trying to keep it sexy, not sleazy
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Jul 4, 2016 00:18
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you can do better than that
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Jul 4, 2016 02:05
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there are some healthy things that come out of this, some couple have a lot of jealousy in their relationship with one or the other even having friends of the opposite gender but now we are pretty casual about it because the fundamental rule about openness applies across the board. and it's cool to know I could go out drinking and hookup in a bar if I felt the need. there is a large part about encouraging the other to experience all those fun new experiences because some of these experiences really only come from being with new people and the exciting times in new relationships. I want my wife to experience that! she wants me to. and then we have sexy with each other and we have new tricks etc too
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Jul 4, 2016 02:09
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at least I can do that now, was confirmed sterile yesterday
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Jul 4, 2016 21:22
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my sex dreams have come true
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Jul 4, 2016 22:36
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well to make it less exciting but more real you need to understand that this open marriage isn't a free for all. emotions and poo poo are involved. how will my wife feel when I meet a girl off tinder at a bar and go back to her place.. well we just don't know but let's give it a shot. and what happens if during this event my wife doesn't feel good by herself at home knowing I'm out chatting up a 21 year old looking to take her back to her place.. well we made it clear she could call and say "this isn't working" and it sounds like a bummer maybe but it's how it has to go and so I met her. she was into gaming. she had the biggest boobies. she had a couple of drinks and so we went back to her place but her place was a dump! her cat lived in her room. but she wanted a piece of me so I took off clothes and we tried to have sex. as I have learned now, getting it up when you're not into condoms or used to new people isn't always so easy.. and so at first there was only a poor attempt at sex. then sex actually happened. but then my wife called not feeling that flash about it all so I went home and this is where we learned that me going off with random young girls is not the key to a happy marriage lol
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Jul 5, 2016 00:27
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I don't want to get too crass but if anyone wants details of what goes on in a foursome with 30 year olds I can give you an insight
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it was a planned threesome with another women, the filthy one, and my wife was contacted by a guy we suspected would be into it and we invited him it was hot. I mean idk if the other dude made it even hotter than it was before but it meant we were all in a firing mood. everyone seems to bring their A game in these situations I can't bring myself to write the actual sex acts we did but involved were cocks mouths pussys rear end and an assortment of combinations of these things. kinds of poo poo you see in porn. girl wanted a facial from the other guy and he gave it and she did porno things after he jizzed. she must love porn coz everything she did was really porn like. she brought a pump dispenser of lube. was a good idea. fuckin went through boatloads of condoms. stayed up late and I showered with her. she's a good kisser too. I made her eggs on toast. these situations seem like a big deal until you're in them and then they sort of seem normal and I guess it's coz were all just people touching each other's bits
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Jul 5, 2016 08:31
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so far we have learned that every girl loves deepthroating: it's not if they do, just how much they do
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Jul 5, 2016 08:32
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Graff posted:echi have you voted anyone off yet hmm I want to navigate this carefully coz I'm not an rear end in a top hat. the younger hippy is getting the slow fade. older lady essentially gone. leaves the 40 year old, she's good value. the 39 year old filthy woman who is very good value and 44 year old with amazing hair who I haven't met but am mega into
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Jul 5, 2016 08:34
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Graff posted:I am mostly just taking the piss and really hope u have a great time, but when u describe other human beings as "great value" it maybe doesn't transmit the "not an arsehole" playful experimental broad minded personal brand that u maybe think it does Maybe that's not a turn of phrase you're used to but it means they are fun and up for a good time?
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Graff posted:tell us more about these weird alien creatures called "girls" And I'm trying to talk as much as I can without being too serious and of course I am generalising here, but just laying down my experience is that not one women I have met has not been SUPER into it..
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Jul 5, 2016 10:10
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Yeah, it can't be that women actually have agency and love sex
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Jul 5, 2016 20:28
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how does it make you feel
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Jul 5, 2016 22:14
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Carmant posted:Look I'm just trying to say that "deep" "throating" is probably a lot more enjoyable with someone who has a small dick, like the OP, not start a big argument. I don't know why he said that women don't have agency or enjoy sex. That seems really sexist and kind of a non sequitur but whatever dude. Let's just move on. Mate, most of the reason I "know" they like it is because of the conversations we had before we hopped in the bedroom. The bedroom just confirmed it. mishaq posted:echi my friend, have you ever considered that women have no pleasure receptors in their throats and that deepthroating is degrading behavior learned from extreme hardcore pornography? Sex is inherently psychological, and I don't know what to say to this except that it's fine to accept that a LOT of people seem to enjoy slight sub/dom acts in the bedroom, and trying to make it an issue about women learning degrading behaviours from porn kind of says more about the lack of agency you attribute to the women themselves.
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I don't actually think deepthroating is pleasurable, in the same way sex is, for either party. It's an exchange of power, and anything like that is only going to work if the person "doing it" to the other does it with care and respect, and believe it or not that's entirely possible and I think the reason why it seems to be so popular. Woman I was with hadn't really done it so much before but she goes out of her way to say she LOVES doing it. You'd have to have a low opinion of someone to presume they reason they love it is because it's what they've seen in porn and are trying to be like that. I talked to another girl who loved the idea because she worked a highly stressful job with lots of responsibility, and for her it was a way of giving up control. Mate I love women too much to want to do something to them they wouldn't want to do,
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Jul 6, 2016 00:03
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mishaq posted:i disagree my friend, because we have plenty of fine members of the opposite gender who when surveyed say they do not orgasm many times during sexy fun time, and often fake it I don't inherently disagree with you, and that first problem comes from a lack of communication and care and love, I suspect. Sex should be good and fun for both parties, but what that means amongst consenting adults varies. A good point is rear end sex. Woman I am thinking off had a dude that said to her "I wanna shove it up your rear end", no WAY was that going to work. Wasn't going to be good or fun for her at all. With me though, she says I'm the first person she's actually ever wanted to do it with, because she can see that with me, she'd feel safe and cared for. It's about the intent and the people, the acts themselves are just a form of communication.
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Jul 6, 2016 00:09
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Unlike you or your posting
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Jul 6, 2016 00:17
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mate I ain't giving any advice yet. you don't get good at sex, you get good at people. care about them, and that'll translate into being good at the sex.
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Jul 6, 2016 00:32
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I get berated when I try to talk about it in the pos so I brought it here. I hope you enjoy
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mate don't try to gain approval from me, just come out and say what you're into
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