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muscles like this!
Jan 17, 2005


Bruceski posted:

Venmo is like Paypal but without the web integration. It's just folks through the app sending money to each other. As far as I know the app's not shady, but last I heard it was treated like sending cash so if, for example, someone got ahold of your phone and sent themselves your bank account's contents Venmo wouldn't do anything to help.

Venmo is actually owned by Paypal.

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Smirking_Serpent
Aug 27, 2009

AITA For being upset that the girl I’ve been seeing let herself into my place and did my laundry and dishes?

I’ve been seeing a girl for just over a month and things have been really good! She is generally good with boundaries. Always asks if she can stay the night, etc.

Enter yesterday. It’s my mother’s 60th Birthday and I’ve spent the whole day setting up this party. It’s finally midnight and we are leaving the hall. I turn on Spotify and I get notified that I am listening on my Xbox. I live alone in a studio apartment and haven’t been home since 9am.

Turns out she decided to surprise me. Let herself in and did all my laundry and washed all my dishes.

I live in a studio apartment and have virtually no privacy and after the hellish day that was my mom’s birthday-I was just exhausted. That last thing I wanted was for her to come to my place unannounced and do my laundry.

AITA for being annoyed? She just said her peace and was upset I didn’t do a good job acknowledging how much work it was.

EDIT: Thanks everyone for the advice. I think part of the problem is she still lives with her parents and it isn’t as big of a deal to her. We talked. She cried but ultimately I’m not breaking up with her over this. Going forward she knows that I need my personal space and I’ll for sure be locking my door no matter what going forward.

Beachcomber
May 21, 2007

Another day in paradise.


Slippery Tilde
You gave a 1mo gf a key?

wizardofloneliness
Dec 30, 2008

Beachcomber posted:

You gave a 1mo gf a key?

His edit makes it sound like he just leaves his door unlocked all the time.

Motherfucker
Jul 16, 2011

I certainly dont have deep-seated issues involving birthdays.
this guys an ingrate dipshit

muscles like this!
Jan 17, 2005


wizardofloneliness posted:

His edit makes it sound like he just leaves his door unlocked all the time.

Which is extremely dumb.

Sjs00
Jun 29, 2013

Yeah Baby Yeah !

Motherfucker posted:

this guys an ingrate dipshit

Yeah we get that he left dishes out in true ingrate fashion. What we never investigate is just what the women in these threads must look like/ living situation in order to feel willing to settle for these fuckups

Motherfucker
Jul 16, 2011

I certainly dont have deep-seated issues involving birthdays.
Oh the AGONY of my mothers birthday, now a girl is doing my chores that I did not do for myself, for me, UNINVITED no less!! Why must everyone be so inconsiderate and CRU-EL!!

TheDeadlyShoe
Feb 14, 2014

pretense is my co-pilot

wouldnt we call this stalker behavior if it was a guy

Motherfucker
Jul 16, 2011

I certainly dont have deep-seated issues involving birthdays.

TheDeadlyShoe posted:

wouldnt we call this stalker behavior if it was a guy

Eh, different dynamic. Plus this dude sounds like a reddit issue weenie so I feel less charitable.

Pirate Radar
Apr 18, 2008

You're not my Ruthie!
You're not my Debbie!
You're not my Sherry!
Doing chores is aggression

PHIZ KALIFA
Dec 21, 2011

#mood
sneaking into my exes apartment to get revenge by stealing the gobbets of hair she sticks to the side of the shower

pentyne
Nov 7, 2012

Bruceski posted:

Venmo is like Paypal but without the web integration. It's just folks through the app sending money to each other. As far as I know the app's not shady, but last I heard it was treated like sending cash so if, for example, someone got ahold of your phone and sent themselves your bank account's contents Venmo wouldn't do anything to help.

A while back there was a convoluted post in legal advice about a guy claiming he was robbed by an escort who also accessed his phone and sent $2k from his account to hers and what were his legal options.

The vast majority of responses were "you learned an expensive lesson" with a follow up of "lock your drat phone you moron"

Dazerbeams
Jul 8, 2009

That guy really hit the jackpot. Normally unlocked doors result in getting robbed blind. Instead he got a surprise cleaning service. The girlfriend probably assumed the unlocked door was an open invitation to let herself in.

QuarkJets
Sep 8, 2008

Motherfucker posted:

Oh the AGONY of my mothers birthday, now a girl is doing my chores that I did not do for myself, for me, UNINVITED no less!! Why must everyone be so inconsiderate and CRU-EL!!

It's actually super hosed up to enter someone's home without permission, especially during a time when you know they're going to be gone, hth

The Lone Badger
Sep 24, 2007

pentyne posted:

A while back there was a convoluted post in legal advice about a guy claiming he was robbed by an escort who also accessed his phone and sent $2k from his account to hers and what were his legal options.

The vast majority of responses were "you learned an expensive lesson" with a follow up of "lock your drat phone you moron"

I have an app on my phone from my credit union which allows me to do phone banking, including transfers etc. The app has its own PIN which it requires, separate from the phone. Does venmo not have that?

Cockmaster
Feb 24, 2002
AITA for absolutely refusing to pay my ex girlfriend and her child after I came into money?

quote:

My ex girlfriend of 7 years cheated on me and initially led me to believe the child was mine when she was pregnant. Shortly before giving birth her father asked me to meet him where he told me he had reason to believe I wasn’t the father.

I was obviously devastated being as I wanted to marry this girl and she was my life. We were each other’s first everything’s. The reason she gave for cheating on me is that technically we were broken up (we weren’t.. we had an argument and she moved to her parents house for a few days to calm down) and that she had never been with anyone apart from me.

Regardless I broke up with her. Apparently she has been heartbroken for the past year and has never moved on, she gave the kid the name I chose when I thought the baby was actually mine, etc. I’ve heard from friends back home she asks after me and how I’m doing. She’s been diagnosed with depression which is sad for her but not my problem.

My dad recently won a good amount of money from a legal dispute (that has been dragging on years...) and he gave me some money that let me buy two homes outright one to rent one to live in.

She found out because my dad and her dad are friends and she called me begging for a loan. She said she would pay me back blah blah but if I could please help her out because she was struggling.

I told her to F off and lose my number. Literally every single person I know is telling me I’m a bad person because we were together so long and I have basically left her to fend for herself. To make it worse my mom and dad are actually on her side and are trying to encourage me to do the ‘right thing’. They want to give her the money but wont out of respect for me but they are pressuring me. I just feel like I’m in goddamn crazy land here.

How could anyone rationally argue that he would have any duty of care towards a woman who'd betray him like that?

Batterypowered7
Aug 8, 2009

The mist that chills you keeps me warm.

Maybe he keeps a spare key under the welcome mat or something.

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Cockmaster posted:

AITA for absolutely refusing to pay my ex girlfriend and her child after I came into money?


How could anyone rationally argue that he would have any duty of care towards a woman who'd betray him like that?

Other people hoping hell loan them money they wont repay

TheDeadlyShoe
Feb 14, 2014

pretense is my co-pilot

Cockmaster posted:

AITA for absolutely refusing to pay my ex girlfriend and her child after I came into money?


How could anyone rationally argue that he would have any duty of care towards a woman who'd betray him like that?

Is it a worse use of money than 'becoming a landlord' though?

ScentOfAnOtaku
Aug 25, 2006

I have no control, I just keep eating, and eating.

Cockmaster posted:

AITA for absolutely refusing to pay my ex girlfriend and her child after I came into money?


How could anyone rationally argue that he would have any duty of care towards a woman who'd betray him like that?

You know, they never once say if the kid is theirs or not.

Wonder if that's on purpose?

Barudak
May 7, 2007

I have the same question about the kid

TheDeadlyShoe posted:

Is it a worse use of money than 'becoming a landlord' though?

It does not say what she wants the money for so its hard to judge, because there remains the possibility she wants to open a restaurant.

Sandwich Anarchist
Sep 12, 2008

ScentOfAnOtaku posted:

You know, they never once say if the kid is theirs or not.

Wonder if that's on purpose?

The language he uses pretty clearly implies that it isn't his

HMS Beagle
Feb 13, 2009



He clarifies in the comments that the kid isn't his.

The Lone Badger
Sep 24, 2007

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for not going to my brothers wedding over 'politics'?

Siri, show me straight priviliege.

therobit
Aug 19, 2008

I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

ScentOfAnOtaku posted:

You know, they never once say if the kid is theirs or not.

Wonder if that's on purpose?

Comments say he got a paternity test and it isn't his.

EIDE Van Hagar
Dec 8, 2000

Beep Boop

QuarkJets posted:

It's actually super hosed up to enter someone's home without permission, especially during a time when you know they're going to be gone, hth

Show me on the doll where your friends sneaking into your apartment for a surprise birthday party hurt you.

Patrick Spens
Jul 21, 2006

"Every quarterback says they've got guts, But how many have actually seen 'em?"
Pillbug

Motherfucker posted:

Eh, different dynamic. Plus this dude sounds like a reddit issue weenie so I feel less charitable.

Both wanting your own space after a gathering, and being weirded out that someone is in your own without your knowledge or permission are really normal reactions. And you going so hard after this dude is frigging odd.

Xenocides
Jan 14, 2008

This world looks very scary....


Dating my taken ex and the most jealous/toxic argument and situation you’ve probably heard about

TL;DR - WE KNOW WE ARE TOXIC WE WANT ANSWERS NOT TO TELL US SOMETHING WE ALREADY KNOW No judgements we know we’re terrible just looking for answers (PLEASE READ THE WHOLE THING DOWN BELOW) Me and ex are still in love. She’s super jealous, tells me to drop a platonic friend but she won’t breakup with the boyfriend she’s been cheating on with me. She wants me all to herself. Who should drop who and is it fair for her to keep her bf if i can keep my friend.

Me [18M] and my Ex [18] dated for a good 9 months. We’re still madly in love hardcore to the point where we can’t be separated and always crawl right back to each other. She’s found a boyfriend, i have not been in a relationship since. We have been cheating without his knowledge throughout their entire relationship and once he found out recently my ex faced social consequences even after her bf forgave her. It’s been about a week and we’ve gone right back to cheating. We’re both heavily jealous, me of her boyfriend and her of any girl that isn’t family. She’s dating him to preserve her social life which was minimal to begin with. She’s forcing me to drop a platonic friend because she doesn’t want another girl to be talking to me. I said I won’t drop her because she hasn’t done anything wrong and won’t even consider it until she breaks up with her boyfriend. She refuses to break up with him because it’s “different”. She harasses my platonic with mean dms and i say that if she doesn’t stop I’ll let her bf know we’re still talking as he wanted her to block me on everything and is like a prison guard having her check her phone for messages and everything. If i message him he will break up with her and have her social life pretty much torn to shreds as she is involved with a lot of groups her bf is involved with or completely stop contact between the two of us. We’re not looking for judgement we just want a clear answer on who’s more in the wrong for all of our horrible actions as terrible people.



I hate you both but you are nowhere near the most toxic. What you describe is also not love.

HIJK
Nov 25, 2012
in the room where you sleep
Don't leave your door unlocked, holy poo poo. Don't invite yourself over to your SO's place without their permission either, that's not cool.

Xenocides
Jan 14, 2008

This world looks very scary....


I (F31) live with my ex of ten years (M30) after he came out as gay a year ago. I’m trying to date someone new.

If you’re anything like my friends your initial reaction will be “girl get the heck outta there!!” But it’s not so simple. I work full time but my wages are not enough to live alone. At this age all my friends are married with kids and can’t take me on. I have no family here as I live in a different city. I could flat with University students but at my ripe age I know it wouldn’t be good... So - I live in my own bedroom/lounge in the house me and ex hubby rent together.

The thing is I’m finally hitting the dating scene. The guy I’ve started seeing knows my story and seemingly doesn’t mind. But deep down I feel like it may be damaging things. He can’t ever come here, and I have to drive out of town to see him.

My ex has been dating since July. He has a steady boyfriend and to my disgust a girl he fools around with too. I’m over being upset about that... but I know I’m never going to truly get over it while I’m stuck here. Rent in this city is madly high, I could live in a small turd box with no money left, or I can live a comfortable life here in this emotional prison. I can’t weight it up.

I know I’m not moving on the way I should be while I have to see the ex every day. And, if I was my new date I’d be slightly uncomfortable knowing he lived with his ex - even if she were gay...

Financial ruin or never moving on??

I’m trying to get promoted at work but it’ll take time and a bit more of my soul. I could move back to my home city but all my friends and my new date are up here... and my job is the first job I’ve ever liked going to and I don’t want to lose that.
I don’t know if advice will help... but any is appreciated.

TL;DR: I live with my ex due to difficult circumstances and am anxious about dating and stuffing it up.



Hi, this is my gay ex that I still live with. This is his boyfriend and this is the girl he is also fooling around with. He is totally gay though. Are you a character from a really bad soap opera?

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Gaunab
Feb 13, 2012
LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL
Made a new thread for you guys to post in: https://forums.somethingawful.com/showthread.php?threadid=3910844

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