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loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

Yeah I was about to type a response to the poly one because it's poly.txt but

then I read the last one and my heart isn't in it anymore. Jesus. :smith:

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ruddiger
Jun 3, 2004

Sorry I beat the poo poo out of you baby, wait, what do you mean your body is in physical pain from my drunken assault and you don't want to gently caress?

TehRedWheelbarrow
Mar 16, 2011



Fan of Britches

quote:

So,my friend[14F],has some depression and self-harm issues,and was encouraged to go see his high school counselor. Our school has a policy of "you can tell us anything,and we won't judge."Our school also takes depression and self-harm ultra-seriously,and tends to overreact to this kind of thing(some of my friends have had depression hat they went to the counselor for before at this school)

But when he went to his counselor,he was decided to be a criminal,and his counselor jumped the gun and decided he needed to go to a hospital for help.

He also has to sign and follow a safety plan,that means he can no longer walk to school with us,and has to be escorted by a parent or guardian,and other limitations,and the entire school staff wants him to sign this safety plan,and if he doesn't follow the safety plan,he gets expelled from school.The worst part is,the questions on the paper,according to him,refer to a sex offender,which isn't even the issue he went to the counselor for,and seems totally incorrect. He hasn't signed this safety plan yet,but he is being pressured by school and parents are pressuring him to right away.

I know this may seem like my friends' and the school's issue,and not my issue, but he is my friend,and I don't want to see him hurt,but he can't do anything about this unfair plan,because his peers and the school support this unfair plan,which,to recap,has him escorted to school by a parent or guardian,overreacted on his depressions an self-harm to him seeking help from his counselor,was INCORRECT on the issue he was facing,and if he doesn't strictly follow will get him expelled from school,and I want to help himbut I don't know how or what to do.

tl;dr: Friend went to see help for depression,now counselor wants him to sign a safety plan that will limit his rights,and I want to help,but don't know what to do. What do I do Reddit?

Me [14/M] with my friend [14/M],My friend asked for help from high school counsellors for depression,now entire school staff wants him to sign a safety plan that will limit his rights.

:smithfrog:

ziasquinn
Jan 1, 2006

Fallen Rib
Holy poo poo that abuse one

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

ruddiger posted:

Sorry I beat the poo poo out of you baby, wait, what do you mean your body is in physical pain from my drunken assault and you don't want to gently caress?

Yeah the most inexplicable part of that one to me is that he doesn't seem to grasp the idea that the fact that he beat her up might make her not want sex with him so much anymore, and so she had to give a different reason like "I'm still kind of sore from the time you beat the poo poo out of me"

like, he doesn't even see a reason not to keep drinking heavily


did the comments mention anything that this friend may possibly have done to warrant being treated like a criminal

Like, I get that that might not make any difference to a 14-year-old but there's "they want to treat him like a criminal for no reason" and then there's "they want to treat him like a criminal because he confessed to burning down the groundskeeper shed"

canyoneer
Sep 13, 2005


I only have canyoneyes for you
Dude at work today told me that his 24 year old roommate has been booty calling this 36 year old woman like 5 times a week.
He says that she'll come over for literally 10 minutes (last time he timed it at 9 minutes, 54 seconds) to just bump uglies and then part ways. :lol:

boner confessor
Apr 25, 2013

by R. Guyovich
:nws: barely http://i.imgur.com/JUdRxOO.jpg

Cough Drop The Beat
Jan 22, 2012

by Lowtax

quote:

My [24M] girlfriend [24F] is a strong Donald Trump supporter. I'm a Muslim, and it makes me very uncomfortable
So my girlfriend and I have been dating since our freshman year of college. We've been living together since our sophomore year, and I'm planning on proposing soon enough.

She's really into politics, while I'm... not. I really couldn't care less. She's was in the debate club in high school and college, was very much into campus politics, and has a major in political science, so you could definitely say politics is her passion.

A few months ago, she told me how she was a Donald Trump supporter. I didn't really think much of it at the time, just thought she was caught up in the hysteria of "make America great again". Her entire family are also Trump supporters, and they make sure to let everyone know through Facebook. My feed is littered with pro-Trump posts from her family {that reminds me, I really need to stop following them)

When Trump announced his Muslim ban, it made very uncomfortable, and pretty drat angry to be perfectly honest. I'm not a very religious person by any stretch, but I am proud of my heritage and do believe in God.

I never really talked to my girlfriend about why she supported Trump, but after he announced his ban, I decided to talk to her about it. So I asked her why she supported Trump, and the basic gist of her argument was that illegal immigration was a huge problem in our country, and he seemed like the only one willing to address it, as well as him being a multi-billionaire dollar businessman meant that he knew how to make deals that would better support Americans rather than foreigners. She also liked the fact that he didn't care for being politically correct.

I asked her what she thought of the Muslim ban, and she said she didn't necessarily agree with it, but did support banning citizens from risky countries like Iraq and Syria. I told her I thought this was very wrong of him to say, and this will only increase vitriol against Muslims in this country and is completely counter-productive. She said she doesn't believe what he was saying was anti-Muslim, and he's just trying to keep this country safe.

The topic really hasn't come up again, which is normal considering we never really talked politics before. However, her support of a man that wants to ban people from my religion from entering this country makes me feel... uncomfortable. Growing up in Texas post 9/11, I've had my fair share of racism and xenophobia spewed my way, and while I know she isn't a racist or xenophobe, it just unsettles me you know? I've been wanting to propose to her for a few weeks now, but this has given me cause to pause, and I want to make sure to settle this before we take the next step. I understand her right to believe what she wants, and I'm completely fine with it! I just want her to understand and empathize with me, and I don't know how to do that.

tl;dr: Gf is a Trump supporter, I'm a Muslim. How do I make her understand why I'm uncomfortable with her support?

CodfishCartographer
Feb 23, 2010

Gadus Maprocephalus

Pillbug

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

I asked her what she thought of the Muslim ban, and she said she didn't necessarily agree with it, but did support banning citizens from risky countries like Iraq and Syria. I told her I thought this was very wrong of him to say, and this will only increase vitriol against Muslims in this country and is completely counter-productive. She said she doesn't believe what he was saying was anti-Muslim, and he's just trying to keep this country safe.

This is some fuckin impressive mental gymnastics going on on her part.

Lockback
Sep 3, 2006

All days are nights to see till I see thee; and nights bright days when dreams do show me thee.

loquacius posted:


did the comments mention anything that this friend may possibly have done to warrant being treated like a criminal

Like, I get that that might not make any difference to a 14-year-old but there's "they want to treat him like a criminal for no reason" and then there's "they want to treat him like a criminal because he confessed to burning down the groundskeeper shed"

The troubled kid almost certainly admitted to having sexual thoughts about kids or acted on it, which lead to the self harm, he just isn't telling his friend.

Gaunab
Feb 13, 2012
LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL
I'm pretty sure this was an episode of 7th Heaven

quote:

My [45M] son [17M] hid weed underneath his brother [14M] bed. My wife and I found it and we grounded [14M] for almost all summer. We just discovered it's [17M] weed and we have no idea how to make things right.

Hi Reddit, I truly don't know if this is the right place or not. I understand my wife and I may have jumped the gun in the punishing of our son Tony. I just need a neutral side of this so I need to structure it properly.

Backstory

My wife and I have been married for 25 years and we have five children together. (Hannah 11F), (Skye 13F), (Tony 14M), (Luke 17M) and (Zoey 19). My daughter Zoey is in Ohio for college. My wife and I live with our other children and for most part we do a good job. We did make a lapse of judgement.

The Issue

Over them summer my son Tony was at the mall with his friends I believe, if I remember correctly. My wife decided to clean out Tony room and take all of his dirty clothes off the floor. While my wife was doing this she discovered a box of weed underneath his bed. My wife showed me the box of weed and we were having a discussion on what to do.

My wife and I showed Tony the box of weed when he got home. We asked him what it is was and he said he did not know. My wife told him to stop lying because she found it under his bed. He told us both he swears he has no idea what it is or where it came from. Zoey and Luke both piled on him saying how disappointed they are in him.

There was only 7 weeks left of the summer and my wife decided that he was grounded for those 7 weeks. She took away his phone, she took away his TV, she took away everything that would provide him entertainment and left him with a book. She left him with his summer homework and books. He was not allowed to go out or anything like that. He kept telling us it was not his and after a while he just stopped.

My Wife and I continued to keep strict conditions on Tony such as coming home immediately after school

The Issue Now

Last night my wife and I were taking our daughters out to their friends birthday dinner at Red Robbins. Luke and Tony stayed home because it was a dinner party for the girls. We ordered them Pizza and that was that.

It ended sooner than we expected and we were to arrive home. When we arrived home my wife checked on Tony and he was sleeping. I went upstairs to check on Luke and I caught him smoking weed with his girlfriend. I called my wife and we kicked his girlfriend out. He has the giggles and found the situation funny.

In his state he admitted that the weed is his and called us douches for throwing it out.

How do we fix this

So here we are with the issue of how to fix this, we grounded our sun who was innocent and pretty much ruined his summer. Tony left for school before we could talk to him and we don't really know what to say to him or do.

tl;dr: How do we fix grounding the wrong son?

ziasquinn
Jan 1, 2006

Fallen Rib
Holy poo poo. Maybe if the parents weren't such loving squares

Meme Poker Party
Sep 1, 2006

by Azathoth
Yeah I was gonna say the worst part about that story isn't that they punished the wrong kid, it's that they are such pricks they think grounding him with nothing for an entire summer is an appropriate punishment for catching a kid with some weed. Also the fact that they think so little of their kid's integrity that they called him a liar when he protested and continued to do so until he just gave up and accepted his false conviction.

His brother might be the real piece of poo poo though.

bird with big dick
Oct 21, 2015

CodfishCartographer posted:

This is some fuckin impressive mental gymnastics going on on her part.

He's not anti Muslim, he just doesn't want them coming to the us. What's so hard to understand.

ruddiger
Jun 3, 2004

At that point you just keep driving the wrong way. Beat the poo poo out of the wrongly accused kid in front of the other one while yelling at him "SEE WHAT YOU MADE ME DO?!"

/gbsparenting101

hip check please
Jan 11, 2012

You gotta give the bag of weed to the first kid

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

Chomp8645 posted:

His brother might be the real piece of poo poo though.

100% this. I say sell a bunch of the older kid's poo poo to buy some weed for the younger kid

FormerPoster
Aug 5, 2004

Hair Elf

TOM HANKS posted:

You gotta give the bag of weed to the first kid

No, they should make the older brother smoke all the weed as punishment. That'll show that little fucker.

zakharov
Nov 30, 2002

:kimchi: Tater Love :kimchi:
*does the awkward turtle*

quote:

My niece on my husbands side is a very smart and well behaved child. She has seven uncles and five aunts and it gives me great pride that it is well known that I am her favorite among them. I have been in her life since she was two and she doesn't remember her life without me.

Last night I was at my SIL's house having dinner with the family. My niece always wants to sit next to me and last night was no exception. She kept asking me a lot of questions which I happily tried to answer but many of them I had no way of knowing. Some examples of the questions I gave correct answers to: What is the capitol of Florida? What is 20 x 20? Who was the sixtenth President of the US? Some of the more elusive questions: What is my SIL's favorite color? What is the name of the boy she sits next to in class? And something Harry Potter related which was too obscure for me to remember.

At first I fielded her questions but after a while I figured something was up because she kept bombarding me with them. I asked her where all the questions were coming from. She replied that her mom and dad had said I was not very smart and she wanted to see if that was true. Needless to say, I was very shocked. Surprisingly everyone at the table heard her. I looked at my SIL and BIL and they had deer-in-the-headlights looks on their faces. I told my niece that I might not be the brightest person I know but it's actually not up to anyone, including herself, to test me on it. It was awkward after that.

My SIL and BIL are falling all over themselves trying to either make it up to me or make excuses for what my niece misinterpreted or being overall generally apologetic. I'm not sure what it was that was said to make my niece believe I'm dumb but I'm pretty sure it wasn't something they directly told her, merely something that was overheard. Not that that really makes it okay but I can't imagine they would purposefully taint my image to her. I have always had a great relationship with my SIL and BIL and they have never been less than welcoming when I joined their family.

My question is what do I do about this now? Did I handle this okay at the time or could I have improved a few things? I am feeling pretty low because I had no idea SIL and BIL felt this way. My husband had some words with them when we left and I can tell that they feel really bad about everything. They've individually tried to call me but I didn't pick up the phone because I was hurt enough that I didn't want to talk to them. I didn't get to talk much to my niece after dinner and I hope she doesn't feel at fault for any of this. She definitely knew she said something she wasn't supposed to. I'm hoping this will all blow over in time.

Just in case anyone is wondering. I have never had my IQ tested or any kind of formal intelligence test but if I had to guess I would place my self squarely in the average range.

tl;dr: Niece tested me on my general knowledge because her parents think I'm an idiot.

Thots and Prayers
Jul 13, 2006

A is the for the atrocious abominated acts that YOu committed. A is also for ass-i-nine, eight, seven, and six.

B, b, b - b is for your belligerent, bitchy, bottomless state of affairs, but why?

C is for the cantankerous condition of our character, you have no cut-out.
Grimey Drawer
Is it our nerdy 14 yr old smoking the doobs or could it be his older brother who's almost graduated and has a girlfriend?

It's definitely the 14 yr old, let's gently caress up his summer.

bird with big dick
Oct 21, 2015

Chomp8645 posted:

Yeah I was gonna say the worst part about that story isn't that they punished the wrong kid, it's that they are such pricks they think grounding him with nothing for an entire summer is an appropriate punishment for catching a kid with some weed. Also the fact that they think so little of their kid's integrity that they called him a liar when he protested and continued to do so until he just gave up and accepted his false conviction.

His brother might be the real piece of poo poo though.

I can't imagine losing almost an entire summer as a 14 yo. I'd hate my parents for years for something like that. 14 is probably one of the best summers, you're old enough to have a fair amount of freedom but not so old that your parents are telling you to get a job all the time.

Lockback
Sep 3, 2006

All days are nights to see till I see thee; and nights bright days when dreams do show me thee.
Everyone thinks they are above average intelligence-wise. If someone Thibs they are average they are probably dumb as rocks.

bird with big dick
Oct 21, 2015

Lockback posted:

Everyone thinks they are above average intelligence-wise. If someone Thibs they are average they are probably dumb as rocks.

Truth. Illusory superiority, or the above average effect. It's pretty funny and awesome tbh.

This woman probably is dumb as poo poo. Still feel bad for her though, and her BIL and SIL are almost certainly giant dicks.

Skrill.exe
Oct 3, 2007

"Bitcoin is a new financial concept entirely without precedent."

scrubs season six posted:

Truth. Illusory superiority, or the above average effect. It's pretty funny and awesome tbh.

This woman probably is dumb as poo poo. Still feel bad for her though, and her BIL and SIL are almost certainly giant dicks.

I think we need to know the answers she was handing out to that kid.

Metis of the Chat Thread
Aug 1, 2014


This woman has landed on a goldmine

quote:

The parents [30sF&M] of the children I [19F] nanny for are cheating on each other and asking me to stay quiet about it and not tell the other spouse about it. They are offering me lots of money.

About 3 weeks ago, Rachel was in New York for the week (Tuesday-Sunday). James happened to be gone Monday-Wednesday, but was home for the rest of the week. I worked my typical hours, and he asked me if I could work Friday night. I agreed. Well that night, around 2 (2 hours later than I typically work) James comes home drunk and has another woman in his arms. The other woman, sober, helps James get to the bedroom and tells him she'll be there in a moment. She then came out to talk to me. I didn't really know what to say to her, as I was in shock. I've never been faced with something like this before. The woman pulls out her wallet to get the money to pay me, and while doing so she says something along the lines of, "I would really appreciate it if you didn't say anything to the wife." I noticed she slipped an extra 50 dollars into it. Confused, I just accepted the money and left. It was not a situation I wanted to be in, and I figured maybe this was a one time thing on James' part.

Well Saturday morning, James asks me to come over and watch the kids for him during the day so he can run errands. No problem. I head over and before he leaves the house he stops me and tells me if I don't tell Rachel about the other woman (or any other woman he brings) he will pay me an extra 10 dollars an hour. I told him I would get back to him on his offer, he left and when he returned he didn't bring it up again. That was three weeks ago, and I have yet to see James as he is currently in Japan until the end of the month.

Last night I was supposed to watch the kids until 11, but Rachel didn't come home until 12. I was a little upset, since I have classes early on Thursday mornings and I'm the kind of person who NEEDS their full nights sleep, otherwise my day will be crappy. So anyways, she comes home (sober) with another man (sober). She pulls out her checkbook and as she's about to pay me she mentions if James ever asks what time she ever comes home, tell him 11. She also asks I don't tell him about Mark. This dude, Mark, is just in the corner of the room, clearly uncomfortable, saying nothing even when I'm staring him down. Rachel adds an extra 60 dollars to my check, and tells me there's "more for if I keep quiet".

She goes on a bit more about the "guilt" of deceiving the children, but w/e girl, take the money, keep blackmailing both sides

EDIT: I love the mundane ones like this

quote:

My wife [31f] won't give me [32m] head massages.

We've been together for about three years now, married ~year. She refuses to give me head massages. Simple like massaging the scalp. I give her a foot massage at least 2 times a week and a back rub/back massage every other night.
I'm not going to divorce her or anything radical like that, but drat I'm getting annoyed and feel like it's not fair. When I stop the massages she gets huffy, annoyed etc.
tl;dr I enjoy giving my wife massages but am getting frustrated that she doesn't return the favor and threatening to stop makes her angry

Metis of the Chat Thread fucked around with this message at 05:06 on Sep 30, 2016

ziasquinn
Jan 1, 2006

Fallen Rib
:rip: that marriage

im cute
Sep 21, 2009

Gluten Freeman posted:

My wife [31f] won't give me [32m] head massages.

Divorce and never look back.

quote:

The parents [30sF&M] of the children I [19F] nanny for are cheating on each other and asking me to stay quiet about it and not tell the other spouse about it. They are offering me lots of money.

Take the money and run before you're asked to give a deposition.

I wish all relationship problems were this easily solved!

Khorne
May 1, 2002

Lockback posted:

Everyone thinks they are above average intelligence-wise. If someone Thibs they are average they are probably dumb as rocks.
The opposite is also true. Smarter people tend to think they aren't that smart because there are people smarter than them and they recognize how often they are wrong or do dumb things.

Intelligence is also many faceted. Being smart in one way does not mean you won't be stupid in others.

Lockback
Sep 3, 2006

All days are nights to see till I see thee; and nights bright days when dreams do show me thee.
Nahhh, she probably dumb.

quote:

Funny enough Pokemon Go has led to some weird issues between me and my wife.

My wife basically plays Pokemon Go at 90% of moments she isn't working or texting a friend.(Level 32?) This isn't hyperbole. The phone is just out most of the time.

I would say our relationship is really healthy in that I can bring up the amount of time on the phone, and we handle it appropriately. But lately Pokemon Go has made this a little more difficult.

The main issue is that she has started meeting men our age 1-2 days a week to go catch Pokemon. All day. From 12pm - 7pm sort of hours.

1. I've asked her if she is planning to continue to do it if it makes me uncomfortable ("yes, would like to")

2. I've asked her if she would be comfortable if I did this with other women ("not sure/no answer")

3. I've asked if she could reserve catching with the guys so I could go with them, I don't play though.("Yes, I don't know, it'd be weird")

4. I've asked her if the guys and her and I could meet for drinks with their fiances/girlfriends(didn't love that suggestion, but seemed okay with it)

I will admit I am being insecure. Just not sure what to do. It's clear as of now they are meeting up for Pokemon GO. I'm not giving any ultimatums. Just communicating to her that I'm uncomfortable with the set-up and looking for ways to work it out. I'm also just still processing it. It's the first time it's come up in our relationship. Also, I've gone out of the way to not put myself in situations like this with other women, when I could have a billion times. So just a little miffed it's not being reciprocated.

Any advice?

────────

tl;dr: Wife plays Pokemon Go basically all the time. Now is meeting up with guys her age on her days off to catch all day. I'm insecure about it.

ScrubLeague
Feb 11, 2007

Nap Ghost
Most people are as smart and dumb as everyone else. Just saying or thinking you're smarter or dumber than most people doesn't make it true. Most people think they're smarter than most other people.

cyberia
Jun 24, 2011

Do not call me that!
Snuffles was my slave name.
You shall now call me Snowball; because my fur is pretty and white.

Lockback posted:

tl;dr: Wife plays Pokemon Go basically all the time. Now is meeting up with guys her age on her days off to catch all day. I'm insecure about it.

Picuckchu

LethalGeek
Nov 4, 2009

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

Jeffnote: my hero

shout OFFICER DOWN OFFICER DOWN.
This is right up with "this isn't an ultimatum i am breaking up with you" in things i wish i was awesome enough to achieve in life. Holy poo poo I can't stop laughing.

cmndstab
May 20, 2006

Huge Internet Celebrity!

LethalGeek posted:

This is right up with "this isn't an ultimatum i am breaking up with you" in things i wish i was awesome enough to achieve in life. Holy poo poo I can't stop laughing.

I've heard this referenced a lot but I'm not sure what the story is, would you mind sharing?

DOMDOM
Apr 28, 2007

Fun Shoe
Does this count as a fetish?

Boyfriend [24m] won't stop watching scary movies and podcasts even though he can't handle them. I [23f] am tired of it and he doesn't take me seriously. Dating almost 2 years

quote:

So recently my boyfriend and I moved in together. He told me he'd always been too big of a chicken to watch scary movies when he lived alone so I said we could watch a couple together. He was seriously underestimating it when he called himself a chicken. It was cute that he wanted me to protect him at first but I tried to put the kibosh on it when it became apparent it was a problem but now he just watches them on his phone or listens to scary podcasts without me.

He needs me to walk him around our apartment at night now, turning on lights and checking behind stuff.

I have to distract him by talking until he falls asleep sometimes and he has nightmares I have to wake him up from carefully. He wakes me up to walk him to the bathroom or kitchen at night. If I refuse he'll just pee in his water cup. I've thrown away three cups now. Yes I know pee is sterile but forgive me if I don't feel like drinking out of pee cups. He'll hide under the blanket and silently weep if he wakes up and I'm not in arms reach.

He won't drive or walk at night anymore so either we're stuck inside now or we have to pay for a cab or I'm always the DD.
He was freaking out over every little noise he heard at night and wanted to buy a gun
. I told him no loving way. He'd shoot me or the dog thinking I was a monster or something. I told him I'd keep my baseball bat near the bed as a compromise. I caught him trying to hammer nails into it.

He got rid of my expensive shower curtain for a cheap, tacky translucent one. He also replaced our bed frame while I wasn't home for one I hate just so there wouldn't be a gap between it and the floor. He also rearranged our living room so the couch is against the wall because he's scared of things sneaking up behind him while he's sitting there. It's a very awkward lay out now. He barricades the closet door at night. I'm a lot smaller than him and it's hard to move the dresser back if he forgets to.
I think he's had a couple panic attacks. It's like hyperventilating mixed with crying and it takes forever to calm him down. This can't be good for him.

He's jumpy to the point it's killing my nerves. I walked into my kitchen yesterday and he shrieked and dropped a glass pitcher because he'd been listening to the black tapes podcast and didn't hear me coming. Stuff like this happens regularly. He's thrown things at me when accidentally surprised. Having him scared so much puts me on edge even though I know there's nothing to be afraid of and it's draining.

He thinks it's hilarious that it bothers me. It's old. No matter how angry or serious I get when I catch him watching another one he laughs me off. It's like he's addicted to the fear now. I'm honestly past annoyance.

tl;dr: My boyfriend is a giant chicken who won't stop scaring himself intentionally and it's making me not want to live with him anymore. He blows me off when I tell him this, how do I get him to take me seriously?

Lockback
Sep 3, 2006

All days are nights to see till I see thee; and nights bright days when dreams do show me thee.
This is like that one where the woman finds out she was dating a 16 year old, but this woman's boyfriend is 3.

Gaunab
Feb 13, 2012
LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL
24 is way too old to be doing poo poo like that

TehRedWheelbarrow
Mar 16, 2011



Fan of Britches
at least she is getting valuable experience in case she ever has or adopts kids.

Bonzo
Mar 11, 2004

Just like Mama used to make it!
My [15 M] Mom [36 F] is spending all of our money on her husband [36? M] who treats her like poo poo. We barely have any food, and we are moving out of our house for him

quote:

I made a post about this a month ago that didn't get too much attention. The situation has since worsened, though, so I feel like I should post here again.

My mothers husband got out of prison about a month and a half ago. We'll call him rear end in a top hat. rear end in a top hat is a horrible, awful man who constantly cheats on my mother and lies to her. The reason he was in prison in the first place was because he was found in MY MOMS CAR doing crack. This rear end in a top hat was hiding drugs in my mothers loving car. He could have gotten HER arrested. But, of course, my mother fed into his bullshit and they stayed together.

Allow me to give you some examples of rear end in a top hat being an rear end in a top hat.
1) One day, when rear end in a top hat was supposed to pick up my mother from work, he showed up three hours late, making her sit in the heat the entire fuckng time. She later found porn on his phone, meaning he jerked it in the car, and probably did a bunch of other poo poo my mom just didn't find out about.
2)They are always fighting, they are NEVER happy. Their relationship is entirely one-sided and my mother is far too delusional to see that he doesn't even love her.
3) Just recently, my mother caught him cheating on her over the phone. She told him she was going to pack his poo poo up and get a divorce and blah blah blah but it never happened and he was back over the next day.

Now allow me to make a list of how rear end in a top hat is affecting our lives.
1) rear end in a top hat cannot live near parks due to a sexaul assault charge against a 17 year old. Apparently he was high and got caught jerking off to her through a window. Because we live next to a park, we now have to move out of our amazing house and live with my grandma, a small two bedroom house. GREAT!
2) rear end in a top hat currently lives in a "house" for people who don't have a home after they get out of prison. He lives about an hour and a hlaf away and my mother spends so much money driving back and forth with him and buying him poo poo that we have no loving food. The only time I eat is at school and whatever bullshit she makes for dinner since she stopped caring about us. Oh, and ramen loving noodles, because that's all we can afford.
Me and both of my sisters [17f, 14f] spoke up the other day and tried our best to convince her that this man is an awful person and that he's ruining our lives. Of course she didn't care what we had to say and what do you know, he's back over the next day!
My mother also seems to have stopped caring about us and she almost seems depressed. We used to talk a lot and be a family but now the only time we talk is when we say "bye" and the rest is silence. Honestly, I'm finding it hard to care about talking to her anyways recently, since she seems to care so much about rear end in a top hat over us anyway.

Honestly, reddit, I don't know what to do. I feel like I've done everything I could here. I basically have two options at this point:
1) Move to my fathers house. My father has 3 children [3M, 1M, 1F] and one step son [17M] all living in a three bedroom condo. If I did that, I would have to share a bedroom with my step brother who doesn't really like my company. Also, my sisters refuse to go with me so I would leave them with rear end in a top hat, which i really don't want to do. Plus I would have to transfer highschools for a 4rth time... which has already affected my grades and well-being enough.
2) Stay here and try my best to convince my mother to divorce rear end in a top hat. Which seems impossible at this point.

DOMDOM
Apr 28, 2007

Fun Shoe
Hate to break it to you kid, but your mom is smoking crack. :smith:

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TehRedWheelbarrow
Mar 16, 2011



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My girlfriend has decided shes wants to give up sex for 12 months because it's something she said she has always wanted to do. She is not religious nor is taking up any religion. When i ask why, the response is with unsure answers and ends by saying it'll 'make her a better person' and she'll find out why when she does it. Naturally I cant make sense of her choice from the response she gives me.

I understand there is much more to a relationship than just sex, and breaking up with her is the last thing i would want to do. It's something I don't think I will do regardless of her decisions. However, I value sex as really important to me and our relationship. Therefore the thought of no sex for a whole year upsets me. The thought of a loved one taking away something I can only enjoy with her definitely hurts me more. I'd like to call it a selfish act but it's not something being done out of spite, but just for a reason I don't quite understand.

Any input or reasoning behind this choice would be greatly appreciated

tl;dr: GF wants to give up sex for a year because she thinks it'll make her a better person and cant explain how. I don't know what to think of it all

My [24/M] girlfriend [21\F] has decided she wants to become celibate 9 months into our sexual relationship, without any religious motivation to do so.

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