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LethalGeek
Nov 4, 2009

cmndstab posted:

I've heard this referenced a lot but I'm not sure what the story is, would you mind sharing?

https://archive.is/uULD2 The op purged her post but this thankfully captured it.

quote:

Me [25 F] with my boyfriend [30 M] of 6 months - we broke up after I booked tickets to go on a trip with an ex from ancient history, who is more of a best-friend.Relationships

Did I screw up?

So, I (f/25) have been seeing my boyfriend, Pete (m/30) for 6 months and its been wonderful. I really thought I'd found "the one" with him, but after last night I feel my world has collapsed and am not sure I've made the right decisions or if I was right. My heart feels like its been pulled out of my chest and I can't sleep. I'd never felt like this about anyone before.

My good friend, who we'll call Dave, was my boyfriend from the age of 18 to 21, after which we broke up because we wanted different things in life. We stayed good friends though because we had a great friendship and had been through so much together. He lives in a different country at the moment but we still talk semi-regularly online and in Whatsapp. Pete knew that Dave was a friend of mine but didn't know he was an ex until about 2 weeks ago, when Dave asked me to visit him in Amsterdam while he's on a work trip (I live in the UK, he lives in Italy). I had already agreed and booked a ticket before I told Pete - they were on sale for a ridiculously low price on the dates that he would be there, so I jumped at the opportunity.

Pete seemed cool with it at first but after a few days asked me if there was any history between us. I was honest and told him there was. He didn't seem too bothered and eventually asked if I thought visiting an ex in another country was appropriate whilst in a relationship. I explained to him how Dave and my relationship wasn't like that and that we were strictly platonic. He didn't seem to really react, he just gave me a look that was...sarcastic, I suppose, would be the best way to describe it. I then told him that I wouldn't be controlled and hated men that thought they owned me and could tell me what to do. I told him I was free to see who I wanted and that I found his lack of trust in me upsetting, disrespectful and, perhaps, a sign of future abusiveness. I now realise that this may have been a bad thing to say. Again, he didn't really react so I thought that was the end of it.

Then, last night, he came around to my flat and broke up with me!

I asked him why and tried to get him to explain himself and he told me that my going away was to see "another man" a deal-breaker, that he'd been in this type of situation before and wasn't going to go through it again. I asked him if this was an ultimatum - I hate ultimatums, they are tools of abusers - and he said "No, its not an ultimatum. I've decided to break up with you. I have not presented you with any options. I just came to say goodbye."
Before I could say or do anything more, he kissed me on the forehead, said goodbye and walked away. He didn't seem angry, just...sad.
I tried to call him after, but he just texted me some bullshit about how this was for the best and that he wished me no ill will and hopes I'll be happy. He turned his phone off after whilst I bombarded him with texts and voicemails.

To make matters worse, I told Dave about what happened and he replied "Oh well, guess that means we can have even more fun then! ;o)" He didn't care about my relationship and my pain - he just wanted a hookup buddy and someone to get stoned with whilst he was in Amsterdam.
Now I've lost someone I love and my best friend - who I was only interested in as friends - has a different motive to me for meeting up. I feel like I've lost my partner and I've lost a best friend at the same time.

I tried calling Pete today, about an hour ago, and he actually answered! He told me that I should look to be with someone who wasn't so abusive. He said, "Please stop calling me - this is over. Have a nice trip to Amsterdam" Then he BLOCKED me! How could he do that to someone he loves? Is he over reacting or was I? What should I do now? Was I wrong?

tl;dr:
Booked tickets to visit best friend. Got dumped because he was an ex. Did I just dodge a huge bullet...or did he?
EDIT: OK I KNOW I hosed UP. What should I do?

Even reddit eviscerated her https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/4qfmgs/me_25_f_with_my_boyfriend_30_m_of_6_months_we/

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TehRedWheelbarrow
Mar 16, 2011



Fan of Britches
pete is still the goddamn man.

Milkfred E. Moore
Aug 27, 2006

'It's easier to imagine the end of the world than the end of capitalism.'
Pete owns.

I'll never understand the sissy fetish extreme humiliation prep the bull guy, though. That whole interest of his is bizarre.

FormerPoster
Aug 5, 2004

Hair Elf

Bud K ninja sword posted:

pete is still the goddamn man.

And that girl is still the worst human ever.

Libelous Slander
May 1, 2009

... you're just creepy ...

Every time I hear a story like this you end up finding out that she is sleeping with someone else.

Space Kablooey
May 6, 2009


LethalGeek posted:

I asked him why and tried to get him to explain himself and he told me that my going away was to see "another man" a deal-breaker, that he'd been in this type of situation before and wasn't going to go through it again. I asked him if this was an ultimatum - I hate ultimatums, they are tools of abusers - and he said "No, its not an ultimatum. I've decided to break up with you. I have not presented you with any options. I just came to say goodbye."

Stone cold. :drat:

Rutibex
Sep 9, 2001

by Fluffdaddy

Milky Moor posted:

Pete owns.

I'll never understand the sissy fetish extreme humiliation prep the bull guy, though. That whole interest of his is bizarre.

it could make a twisted kind of sense to me if they guy was really rich. if it was just obvious to everyone why she was with him (for his money) than the sissy fetish and making it public could be a backhanded way of manipulating and humiliating her

Gaunab
Feb 13, 2012
LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL

Libelous Slander posted:

Every time I hear a story like this you end up finding out that she is sleeping with someone else.

Yeah that's the first thing I thought of too.

CodfishCartographer
Feb 23, 2010

Gadus Maprocephalus

Pillbug
I think we can all agree it'll wind up as a healthy, long lasting marriage that I'm sure will raise many happy children.

Zulily Zoetrope
Jun 1, 2011

Muldoon
Goddamn Pete owns.

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008


A classic of the artform

I think I said this before, but I especially liked how she used the constant threat of calling him an abuser as a tool to manipulate him and get her way (aka "abuse")

I don't think she was doing it on purpose, but it's a nice :ironicat: touch

Bonzo
Mar 11, 2004

Just like Mama used to make it!
The weed parents could learn a lot from this guy

quote:

Me [52M] as a single dad found out my [16F] daughter goes to Narcotics Anonymous Meetings

I am a single dad to 3 girls, 19F, 16F, and 14F. This is something I am not sure how to approach.
Some backstory : My ex-wife and I divorced in 2015. I am happy as a single dad and I love my daughters. I make enough money to support my daughters and then some, and try my best being a solo parent. My oldest is doing great in college, my 16 year old is successful and has a great portfolio to get into fashion school, and my youngest is a music prodigy.

My situation today concerns my 16 year old.

16F (we’ll refer to as E) is quite rebellious and spends a lot of time out of the house. She works full time pretty much, drives herself around and loves to travel. She funds her own travels so I am pretty lenient about it. There have been times in the past where she has gone across the country without telling me, but I would give her trust back. She’s really improved this year.

I have suspected she takes drugs a few times in the past, and even a couple weeks ago. I never had real proof besides a 2014 incident with weed, (my ex-wife and I bought a lot of tension into the house as we first separated, so I did not punish E severely. She was on lockdown for about 3 days).

A couple days ago my band and I rehearsed as we do multiple times a week. My bassist told me his son who’s been in and out of rehab for years has seen E at NA (narcotics anonymous) meetings everyday this week, last week, and a couple weeks before that! I found out from his son that E is very involved, contributes all the time, has a sponsor and is an awesome support to the group. The group meets 9-11, which is when E is at ‘work’. E would not go to NA to get attention or to fake an addiction.

I’ve been doing a lot of research about addiction and Narcotics Anonymous, and realized I missed a lot of the signs that E had a problem. I feel terrible about this and wish I was there more.
I’m happy for my daughter, but I’m very confused about how to approach this. I found from the internet that people usually do not get sponsors without being sober. I want my daughter to know I know, but how do I do it tactfully? I am not angry or upset with her, just confused, and I’d like to know how I can support her more as a father with a topic I am unfamiliar with. I feel awful that I missed the signs and potential cries for help.

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

Good for her for getting sober, but it seems a little odd to me that telling her dad about it wouldn't be part of the program :confused:

Maybe she's a tourist like Edward Norton in Fight Club

ikanreed
Sep 25, 2009

I honestly I have no idea who cannibal[SIC] is and I do not know why I should know.

syq dude, just syq!
Poor loving Pete. He did the right thing.

Bonzo
Mar 11, 2004

Just like Mama used to make it!
[21F] Green card marriage to [24M] - what could go wrong

quote:

(Disclaimer: I am not super knowledgable on immigration procedures).

So my friend "Marco" [24M] and I met at our university. He graduated this past May and in August he moved across the country to find work. He was given a work visa but basically he has to find a job in his field in the next two months or else he will be here illegally. He is looking for work all over the country, but because his field involves a lot of government contracts, a good portion of jobs are only available to citizens or permanent residents.
He was telling me about this and said that he wished he could just get married and have an easy path to residence. He didn't ask me to marry him; I offered. Now we are making loose plans to get married in a month and a half unless he finds a job in his field by then.

Here is the problem: Marco has a crush on me and I don't feel the same way. I have made it clear that this will be a platonic marriage, no consummation, etc. but I'm worried he will still take our marriage as a sign that I am interested in developing the relationship. I really don't see myself falling in love with him... I suppose it's not out of the realm of possibility but I don't see it happening. Like I said, we are living apart, so I'd only see Marco a few times a year anyway.

Also I have another boy, John, that I went to university with that I am in love with. He graduated and moved away last year and we are not in a relationship, but we visit each other sometimes and have loose plans to move to the same city when I graduate next December. John and Marco don't know about each other... How could I ever tell John that I am married?
I know that what Marco and I are doing is defrauding the government but I really don't think we will be discovered. We have a lot of proof of friendship, I have visited his family in his home city (without him because he can't leave the US), and these kinds of marriages happen all the time so I just doubt that they will find anything relevant if they investigate us. I also know that we have to be married for a minimum of two years and I have to prove that I can financially support him. We're still hashing out the details.

Also I don't know if I should tell my parents? They would not be happy about this but it feels wrong to lie to them.

Thoughts? I know this is a sticky situation and carries some risks for me but I care about Marco and feel he will be an asset to the country and deserves to stay here. I feel like the legality of it comes secondary to the problems with my interpersonal relationships. Anyone have experience with this?

TehRedWheelbarrow
Mar 16, 2011



Fan of Britches

Bonzo posted:

[21F] Green card marriage to [24M] - what could go wrong

quote:

Any individual who knowingly enters into a marriage for the purpose of evading any provision of the immigration laws shall be imprisoned for not more than 5 years, or fined not more than $250,000, or both.

Take it from someone who married a foreigner and had a security clearance, they look into it.

DOMDOM
Apr 28, 2007

Fun Shoe
There was a recent thread in e/n about a goon with an even worse immigration "plan": http://forums.somethingawful.com/showthread.php?threadid=3790937

Bonzo
Mar 11, 2004

Just like Mama used to make it!
This is a difficult question to ask because I (35m) may be the bad guy. But I am utterly not attracted to my wife (34f) of 10 years (19 years together) because of her weight and the attitude that got her there. Is it time to split the family?

quote:

I will say this is a sensitive subject and I apologize in advance. I will also say that until about a year ago, I was a death til us part type of guy and I would have never considered leaving her for any reason.

As a couple, we have pretty much been inseparable since freshman year high school. The only time we were physically apart is when I attended the Naval Academy and she went to a state school, but we were always together as a couple. Things were more or less picture perfect until 2012 when we were hit with a double whammy of a year long deployment (I left active duty but stayed in the reserves) that was impossible to get out of, and my wife's dad died--though not unexpectedly, he was 93.

When I came back from the deployment it was plain to see that she had gained quite a bit of weight. But I was still very much attracted to her and we both chocked it up to stress from the deployment and her dad's death. She tried several iterations of dieting but her weight kept going up--but I have to say for almost 3 years I still found her very desirable. She was taking care of herself and as silly as it sounds her being "curvy" was very sexy.
But then somewhere about 18 months ago things started to not add up. She kept saying that even though had gotten heavy, she was "barely eating anything." I could tell from our credit card statements that this just wasn't true. It wasn't much (at the time--more on this in a minute) but a standard of $5ish at McDonalds and $6ish dollars at Starbucks every day. I could have the statements in front of me and she'd still say that she hadn't eating "anything" on that day and she couldn't explain her weight.

About this same time, she REALLY began to put on weight. Without knowing the actual numbers--she went from 220ish to well over 300lbs in a matter of months. She still claimed that she was eating nothing and made all manner of excuse. I then started to be worried about her health. And again, she blatantly lied to me as she kept saying her numbers were all perfect. Maybe three months ago, she left a vitals print out from her doctor on the counter and all of her numbers were off the charts. Blood pressure over 200 on the top number. Cholesterol numbers where in the stratosphere and there was a hand written note with a circle around a certain number that said "you ARE pre-diabetic- WE need to get this under control NOW."

I decided not to approach her figuring that the news of being pre-diabetic would almost certainly have her open up to me and I felt like I violated her privacy by looking at the sheet. She kept on insisting that she was barely eating and that she was in perfect health. After about a week, I couldn't stand it anymore and brought up what I had seen. She accused me of lying and of doctors hating fat people and not understanding weight gain.
This was about the exact time that I could not bear to physically intimate with her. This really hurt her feelings as she's always been a very sexual person (even in high school) but with the feelings of betrayal about the lying, her physical appearance and other physical attributes, I couldn't possibly be intimate with her. She then demanded that I get checked out and get a prescription for Levitra.
I tried to get her into therapy immediately after this but the second the therapist said that my wife's weight gain with no food would defy physics she was mentally done. When I was asked to provide proof of her eating I pulled up the credit card statements on my phone that showed almost every single day my wife stops at McDonalds and spends $5.93, $7.95 at Starbucks, $12.45 at Wendy's and then cycles through a local deli, Chinese food, pizza, etc... on about a five day a week cycle--she stormed out of the office and hasn't been back. This was about a month ago.

Since then we haven't virtually haven't spoken and she apparently only leaves the house to go on her food runs (same stuff, day in and day out). She missed the first day of school drop of for our kids and no longer walks to pick them up from the bus. She has more or less moved into the guest room and makes a big scene of moving from the couch to the guest room as soon as I walk in the door every evening. I can hear the TV on in there until late at night. About the only time I ever see her is when the wireless router will need a reset.

We have two kids and my daughter (8) is indifferent to her mother but my son (6) is scared to death that we are going to get divorced. Somewhere he got it in his head that divorce is absolutely the worst thing that can happen to him.
I don't want to get divorced either, I have been with her for 19 years and she really is all I know. The thought of the world without her is terrifying. But if we can't even communicate I don't know what other options I have.
Knowing as much of my story as you do, I would love thoughts and opinions. I want so bad to hear that things will get better but I don't think that's going to happen.

What are you getting at Wendy's that cost $12 when you only spend $6 at McDonald's ?

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

My father-in-law recently got remarried to a woman from Australia and my wife had to write an essay about their relationship for the dept of immigration to read

These people could probably find someone to fake those essays, of course, which just means that when it eventually blows up in their faces even more people will be caught in the fallout

Bonzo
Mar 11, 2004

Just like Mama used to make it!

loquacius posted:

My father-in-law recently got remarried to a woman from Australia and my wife had to write an essay about their relationship for the dept of immigration to read

These people could probably find someone to fake those essays, of course, which just means that when it eventually blows up in their faces even more people will be caught in the fallout

I married a Canadian (I'm American) in 2003 and we have to give them phone records, pictures, etc. to prove our relationship. A friend of mine did the opposite and had to have an interview with an agent before they got married.

I believe you're also responsible for them even if you divorce shortly after they get approved.

TehRedWheelbarrow
Mar 16, 2011



Fan of Britches
they will get all colonoscopy in both peoples lives. a decent degree of scrutiny. less so on a legit visa holder, but still financials and familial stuff will all come up. hopefully none of the posters prospective groom's family are related or similarly named to anyone on a watch list.

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

The detail of the fatwife story where a husband doesn't want to gently caress his wife because she's gained like 150 pounds and she responds by trying to make him take Viagra or something sounds familiar to me, did a post by that guy make its way into the last thread? If so I'm not really surprised that it's ended up like that and I think he already knows the answer to his own question but I'm glad he asked it anyway

Bonzo
Mar 11, 2004

Just like Mama used to make it!
We found a winner!!


Me [20 F] with my gently caress Buddy [30 M] of 1 and a half years, tells me I'm not hot

quote:

So I have a gently caress buddy, he is the first person I ever slept with. I've slept with other guys since too, but all of them seemed more 'into me' or nicer to me than my gently caress buddy. Unfortunately I only ever enjoyed the sex with my gently caress buddy.

My gently caress buddy makes comments implying that attractiveness really matters to him, including that he only ever fucks young women under the age of 35, but if they're over the age of 35 they have to be hot enough to make up for being old. He's told me that some girls are good looking, hot and I'm just not hot or good looking.

He tells me he wants to have a threesome or wants a girl to watch us and that he wishes a hot girl would watch or join us. I feel like that makes me feel unappreciated, why would he want a hot girl to join in when he tells me I'm not hot? I asked why can't she be not hot, like you tell me I am? And he says that it's because it would "just be better if she was hot". Am I supposed to be offended by that? Is he trying to tell me he thinks I'm not good enough for him?

I've slept with guys who like worship me and tell me I am beautiful, stunning, hot etc before. Almost no other guy who has slept with me has told me that I'm not hot. Honestly it kind of makes me feel like poo poo to be told that other girls are hotter than me and I know I don't have to put up with it - plenty of hot young guys out there to call me gorgeous and love me.

Is this offensive and rude, or would other ladies be fine with a guy talking to her like that? I don't really like it and I think it's a bit disrespectful and upsetting, but maybe I'm wrong and some girls/guys think it's fine to be treated like that.

And then the comments...


quote:


Why would you put up with him making you feel like poo poo? This is an easy answer.

OP: Because I thought maybe the fact that I feel like poo poo is just subjective, maybe some women would just put up with it and not mind... like maybe some people would just think "Oh he's just being honest" or something idk

DOMDOM
Apr 28, 2007

Fun Shoe

Bonzo posted:

This is a difficult question to ask because I (35m) may be the bad guy. But I am utterly not attracted to my wife (34f) of 10 years (19 years together) because of her weight and the attitude that got her there. Is it time to split the family?
Addiction is addiction, whether it's drugs, food, gambling, video games, etc. She's got all the classic behaviors.

Though how the gently caress this guy sees himself as the bad guy is a mystery. It's clearly his fault that his wife his scarfin 3000+ calories of fast food garbage every day.

Counterpoint: $12 worth of wendys sounds heavenly, but she needs to step up her taco bell game to be a real competitor

dookifex_maximus
Aug 10, 2016

by zen death robot

loquacius posted:

Good for her for getting sober, but it seems a little odd to me that telling her dad about it wouldn't be part of the program

maybe she's taking the anonymous part way more seriously than that big mouth "sponsor".

bird with big dick
Oct 21, 2015

Lockback posted:

Nahhh, she probably dumb.

Dudes wife is getting plowed by sweaty nerds and can only orgasm when she simultaneously catches a Lapras.

bird with big dick
Oct 21, 2015

Bud K ninja sword posted:

12 months no sex


I'd tell her I was totally fine with this and then make sure she "accidentally" walks in on me jerking it three times a day.

bird with big dick
Oct 21, 2015


Pete fukkin owns.

Gaunab
Feb 13, 2012
LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL

quote:

Me [25f] with my boyfriend [30m] 2.5 years, wears track pants loving everywhere

My bf is a very social person, and goes out with friends a lot. He is a part of a cricket team and a soccer team, and both have lots of social functions. He will, without fail, wear track pants to these events if he can get away with it.

We will organise to go to the local pub/down the street for dinner and he will ask "Can I wear trackies?" If I say no, he will get lovely.

Now I don't mind him wearing trackies to the supermarket, to run errands, whatever. But he considers putting on jeans to be 'getting dressed up'. I put effort into my appearance, and like to look nice for him. I am disappointed he doesnt want to do the same for me/his friends/whoever.

Tomorrow we have a barbecue at a friend's place to watch a big yearly sporting match. it will be a most-of-the-day event with drinks, watching the game, lunch etc. There's about 10 people going, and it should be a pretty big day. He has said already he will be wearing trackies because "he's just going to watch tv at a friend's place". I told him it was more of an event, not just watching tv, but he told me I was being dumb and I shouldn't care about little things so much.

I have brought this up on occasion in the past, and he knows it bothers me. He is dismissive, and tells me I am being petty and shallow. He says jeans and chinos are uncomfortable, and noone cares what he wears.

It frustrated me no end that he doesn't put any effort into his appearance, ever. When he wears trackies everywhere it makes him look like a slob or like he's lazy and doesn't know how to dress himself. Am I in the wrong?

He does HAVE jeans, and two pairs of nice chinos that he bought himself. He also has a few nice button downs etc that he asked me to take him shopping for. But he barely wears them.

tl;dr: Partner wears trackies/track pants instead of normal pants (jeans, chinos, whatever) if he can get away with it. I hate it. Do I just need to deal with it, or is he being ridiculous?

Kehveli
Apr 1, 2009

Push It Like You Push Your Girlfriend
re: NA girl/her dad

I get where that guy is coming from telling the dad, but it's still a pretty lovely thing to do. I don't doubt he had good intentions (hey, just thought you should know), but going into that program at a young age is a pretty hard thing in the first place. Am I an addict? Can I stay clean? What if someone finds out I have a problem? During the past five years I've seen celebrities, people I've known from before, people whos families I know etc in meetings, and honestly while most of their families more than likely already know, the last thing I'd ever do is "out" them like that. poo poo's rough enough to deal with at times anyway, maybe there's a good reason for not coming out with it? Though to be fair, dad seems like a cool dude and a supportive guy.

Ross Perowned
Jun 14, 2012

Shit in my hand and say yeah

Help me Maury, my BF is chav as gently caress

LethalGeek
Nov 4, 2009

loquacius posted:

The detail of the fatwife story where a husband doesn't want to gently caress his wife because she's gained like 150 pounds and she responds by trying to make him take Viagra or something sounds familiar to me, did a post by that guy make its way into the last thread? If so I'm not really surprised that it's ended up like that and I think he already knows the answer to his own question but I'm glad he asked it anyway

That was some dumbass tumblr called this is thin privilege I believe. This one is had a different lead up but it is the same kinda deal

Space Kablooey
May 6, 2009


Bonzo posted:

This is a difficult question to ask because I (35m) may be the bad guy. But I am utterly not attracted to my wife (34f) of 10 years (19 years together) because of her weight and the attitude that got her there. Is it time to split the family?


What are you getting at Wendy's that cost $12 when you only spend $6 at McDonald's ?

They need to have that router checked up.

Bonzo
Mar 11, 2004

Just like Mama used to make it!
Me [27 F] with my girlfriend [26 F] of 3 months, have recently become exclusive, I just realized she does not know I'm a girl

quote:

Ugh. I can't even believe this is happening. Ok. So I'm a very masculine tomboy and the girl I have been seeing for 3 months is from a very conservative upbringing and household. I always thought she was super chill about things when she would mention how her parents are all blah blah blah Trump hate hate hate etc but she's dating me.

We haven't been sexual yet. I got out of an abusive relationship and she has very conservative values and I'm fine with this. Most we have done is make out after drinking wine. Last week she told me she loved me and I asked her to be my girlfriend, and she said yes. Now we're exclusive.

But we had a weird encounter with one of her friends who basically said "Your parents are cool with you dating areyoukiddingmwtf?" and my gf was like "Yeah why wouldn't they be?" and then a MILLION little confusing comments and mishaps suddenly made sense.

I look like a vaguely feminine boy. I am flat-chested and I have a unisex-level voice. I think this girl doesn't loving know I'm a girl too.
I don't have the first clue as to how to approach this. I don't want her to feel tricked. At the same time, I feel tricked! I feel like I was allowed to fall in love with this girl and now she's going to blow it all up when she finds out. What do I do?!?!

TehRedWheelbarrow
Mar 16, 2011



Fan of Britches

Bonzo posted:

Me [27 F] with my girlfriend [26 F] of 3 months, have recently become exclusive, I just realized she does not know I'm a girl

id bookmark that poo poo because :eyepop: thats going to be something to see.

LethalGeek
Nov 4, 2009

https://m.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/55a183/me_27_f_with_my_girlfriend_26_f_of_3_months_have/

We gotta watch this play out cause holy poo poo

OP is gone now so we may never know 😥

LethalGeek
Nov 4, 2009

My [32F] husband [34M] is obsessed with Rube Goldberg machines

My husband and I have been married for 4 years, together for 6. He's an incredible husband, very attentive and a great father to our daughter (11 months).

He works freelance, and often has downtime between jobs. When he has this downtime, he likes to spend time on his hobby; building Rube Goldberg machines (those chain reaction contraptions, where one thing triggers another thing which triggers another thing etc...).

It started off with him just using the garage, and they were quite fun, I loved coming home and him showing me his latest project. But now they've got so ambitious that they take over all the house.

Some of the projects can take a whole week to build, and so when I come home I'm not allowed in the living room because I might set off part of the project. Sometimes I'll come home, open the door and half of the project will go off and he'll get annoyed at me.

I'm starting to get worried about inviting friends over in case he is mid project and our friends think we're insane.

The final straw for me was when he got something to turn on the TV and play a song that our daughter likes, so she crawls over and sets off the next part of the machine.

When I bring this up to him, he dismisses my concerns and says it's all a bit of fun, I've asked him to stop but he outright refuses. Any ideas of what to do?

tl;dr My husband is obsessed with rube goldberg machines

flick my Mr. Bean
Nov 18, 2014

loquacius posted:

Good for her for getting sober, but it seems a little odd to me that telling her dad about it wouldn't be part of the program :confused:

Maybe she's a tourist like Edward Norton in Fight Club

I'm willing to be they've had "you're going down a bad road!" fights in the past and she didn't want him to feel like he was right and get all "I told you so." It's why some of my family has no idea I'm a recovering/recovered alcoholic.

flick my Mr. Bean fucked around with this message at 23:25 on Sep 30, 2016

screech on the beach
Mar 9, 2004

LethalGeek posted:

My [32F] husband [34M] is obsessed with Rube Goldberg machines

My husband and I have been married for 4 years, together for 6. He's an incredible husband, very attentive and a great father to our daughter (11 months).

He works freelance, and often has downtime between jobs. When he has this downtime, he likes to spend time on his hobby; building Rube Goldberg machines (those chain reaction contraptions, where one thing triggers another thing which triggers another thing etc...).

It started off with him just using the garage, and they were quite fun, I loved coming home and him showing me his latest project. But now they've got so ambitious that they take over all the house.

Some of the projects can take a whole week to build, and so when I come home I'm not allowed in the living room because I might set off part of the project. Sometimes I'll come home, open the door and half of the project will go off and he'll get annoyed at me.

I'm starting to get worried about inviting friends over in case he is mid project and our friends think we're insane.

The final straw for me was when he got something to turn on the TV and play a song that our daughter likes, so she crawls over and sets off the next part of the machine.

When I bring this up to him, he dismisses my concerns and says it's all a bit of fun, I've asked him to stop but he outright refuses. Any ideas of what to do?

tl;dr My husband is obsessed with rube goldberg machines

She's married to Pee Wee Herman.

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The Pi dude
Oct 19, 2013
Buglord

LethalGeek posted:

My [32F] husband [34M] is obsessed with Rube Goldberg machines

My husband and I have been married for 4 years, together for 6. He's an incredible husband, very attentive and a great father to our daughter (11 months).

He works freelance, and often has downtime between jobs. When he has this downtime, he likes to spend time on his hobby; building Rube Goldberg machines (those chain reaction contraptions, where one thing triggers another thing which triggers another thing etc...).

It started off with him just using the garage, and they were quite fun, I loved coming home and him showing me his latest project. But now they've got so ambitious that they take over all the house.

Some of the projects can take a whole week to build, and so when I come home I'm not allowed in the living room because I might set off part of the project. Sometimes I'll come home, open the door and half of the project will go off and he'll get annoyed at me.

I'm starting to get worried about inviting friends over in case he is mid project and our friends think we're insane.

The final straw for me was when he got something to turn on the TV and play a song that our daughter likes, so she crawls over and sets off the next part of the machine.

When I bring this up to him, he dismisses my concerns and says it's all a bit of fun, I've asked him to stop but he outright refuses. Any ideas of what to do?

tl;dr My husband is obsessed with rube goldberg machines

Sounds like his ultimate plan is a Rube Goldberg breakup machine.

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