Register a SA Forums Account here!
JOINING THE SA FORUMS WILL REMOVE THIS BIG AD, THE ANNOYING UNDERLINED ADS, AND STUPID INTERSTITIAL ADS!!!

You can: log in, read the tech support FAQ, or request your lost password. This dumb message (and those ads) will appear on every screen until you register! Get rid of this crap by registering your own SA Forums Account and joining roughly 150,000 Goons, for the one-time price of $9.95! We charge money because it costs us money per month for bills, and since we don't believe in showing ads to our users, we try to make the money back through forum registrations.
 
  • Post
  • Reply
BigBadSteve
Apr 29, 2009

Ballshroom guy, it will never get better if you scratch it, that's not just a saying. And unless you buy the expensive single treatment tinea creams, you need to apply it twice a day after washing the area for weeks or even months, and persist for a week after symptoms end. And you need to be very regular about washing your sheets and underwear.

Jock itch cream is specifically designed for the tinea that inhabits your 'nads, so don't cheap out and buy the foot stuff like I did before Iearnt better.

Ask your doctor for a cortisone cream to mix with the tinea cream amd speed the healing. Be fully honest with your GP about your addictive scratching history. You will have weakened the skin, likely meaning it'll take longer to treat.

Adbot
ADBOT LOVES YOU

Solice Kirsk
Jun 1, 2004

.
Dickshroom guy, scratch your balls until the are ref and slightly bleeding then pour bleach all over the area. That fixed my athletes foot.

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

quote:

Nothing personal against black people but I'd rather not live where you congregate.

^^^ "I'm not racist but"

quote:

I apologize in advance for the rambling, goons. When I was young, I was used by a cousin (he was 10 years older than I). I didn't know I was being raped, I just thought I was helping him feel better. This broke me, obviously, and I haven't talked about it with a professional despite seeing one or another for over half my life.

In addition, I was never the most outgoing or sociable girl, and a combination of both those things plus bullying made me just shut down starting in middle school. I went from a smart, if reserved girl who was learning basic algebra in the fourth grade to getting cs and fs, failing out of the advanced classes they put me and causing the school to spend a ton of money testing me trying to figure out what had happened. All they found was I had a 2-3rd std dev above the norm iq and that apparently I had never been abused nor took drugs (of course, I lied because by then I had learned what it was and I was ashamed and afraid). All throughout middle and high school I was barely alive, just barely passing classes, failing some, and never interacting with anyone other than the adults I had to, such as my parents, the various teachers, counselors, and doctors I had, and classmates I had group projects with. I had no friends, I never went out and got experience with socializing, never had a boy or girl friend (though I was in the closet deeply due to bullying). All I did was the bare minimum, slept, read, and played video games. I built a massive wall between me and the world, and ever since I've been completely alone. I'm scared of other people, I don't trust anyone, and I've only ever been hurt during the times I optimistically thought that maybe I could trust someone and have a friend.

Somehow, I managed to graduate from college, and I have a very good engineering job, though I have only figured out how to fake a camaraderie with others (I've gotten very good at that), and I am still friendless. The only way I can get through the day and work is with opiates, benzos, alcohol, and cutting myself when the feelings grow to be too much to handle. I never learned how to make friends and how to be a friend, how to socialize with others and get close to people, how to deal with emotions. I've only ever once had someone to get close enough to me to scale that aforementioned wall, and to this day he is the only person I have ever loved, which hurts even worse due to the fact that our relationship was an affair on his part and he cut me out partly due to my social retardation hurting him. That man made me realize just how good it felt to have other people out there, and I really miss that feeling. Casual sex just doesn't quite fill the void. I guess what this giant wall is saying is I honestly don't know where my life is headed (I'm too scared of death to commit suicide, just to get that out of the way), and while I'm not struggling to make ends meet, I'm not exactly flush enough with cash to buy enough pills on the darknet to make me forget the loneliness for a time when the tolerance ramps up high enough. One of my biggest fears is the current marketplace shutting down, since I can't get close enough to people to know who sells stuff on the street, though the Major East Coast City I live near undoubtedly has plenty :v:.

CodfishCartographer
Feb 23, 2010

Gadus Maprocephalus

Pillbug
Please go to therapy and tell your therapist what happened to you. Actually just recite that whole email to the therapist.

If you're not fully honest about everything, you won't be able to get help in the way you need it.

Solice Kirsk
Jun 1, 2004

.
Get a semicolon tattoo.

Watermelon Daiquiri
Jul 10, 2010
I TRIED TO BAIT THE TXPOL THREAD WITH THE WORLD'S WORST POSSIBLE TAKE AND ALL I GOT WAS THIS STUPID AVATAR.

Solice Kirsk posted:

Get a semicolon tattoo.

I thought semicolon tattoos were for suicide? The 'anon' specifically said she doesn't want to end her own life.

And I can sympathize with her. I didn't have as bad a childhood as her, but I still can't think about letting people in (psychs included) without having severe anxiety and shame. I wonder if thats her experience as well...

e: assuming, ofc, if it isn't someone just making it up to 'troll' in some wierd way...

Solice Kirsk
Jun 1, 2004

.
It was explained to me in this thread that it was for depressed people that choose not to commit suicide. I'd say she fits that bill. Plus, even a lovely tattoo makes you 100% cooler. Maybe it will give her confidence. Maybe it will act as an ice breaker to start conversations with people. Maybe it will signal to others that know what it symbolizes and she can start slowly building trust with those people.

It wasn't a 100% flippant remark.

Buttcoin purse
Apr 24, 2014


If I got home early from work to find my wife cheating on me, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be going out to dinner with her a few hours later. I guess you need to be really used to being cheated on for that?

stringball
Mar 17, 2009

At least he's not the guy that gave her and her fuckbuddy's unlimited access to his bank account and had children

Solice Kirsk
Jun 1, 2004

.

stringball posted:

At least he's not the guy that gave her and her fuckbuddy's unlimited access to his bank account and had children

Wait, I think I missed this one. Got a link?

skeemon
Aug 4, 2007

$ $ $T R A P L O R D $ $ $

a mysterious cloak posted:

I work with someone who has the tattoo. She's smoking hot, but she is crazy as poo poo.

My girlfriend got that exact tattoo with no prior knowledge that it was used as a symbol for suicidals. She just thought it was aesthetically pleasing or something. Every once in awhile when we're out doing things strangers will pull her aside and be like "girl I know the struggle" and try to hug her or something. She's all "LOLOLOL no get away weirdo"

Watermelon Daiquiri
Jul 10, 2010
I TRIED TO BAIT THE TXPOL THREAD WITH THE WORLD'S WORST POSSIBLE TAKE AND ALL I GOT WAS THIS STUPID AVATAR.

Solice Kirsk posted:

It was explained to me in this thread that it was for depressed people that choose not to commit suicide. I'd say she fits that bill. Plus, even a lovely tattoo makes you 100% cooler. Maybe it will give her confidence. Maybe it will act as an ice breaker to start conversations with people. Maybe it will signal to others that know what it symbolizes and she can start slowly building trust with those people.

It wasn't a 100% flippant remark.

Ahh, really? I didn't know that, thanks. Hell, I myself might look into getting one.

stringball
Mar 17, 2009

Solice Kirsk posted:

Wait, I think I missed this one. Got a link?

Took a bit to find again but: http://forums.somethingawful.com/showthread.php?threadid=3576120

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

quote:

I'm also really turned on by the idea of thin women getting fat. I guess because the people I see that gain a huge amount of weight were already pretty fat to begin with, so a sexy thin woman getting really fat is exciting to me. I'll trawl the internet, looking for the Holy Grail of weight gain, an anorexic woman under a hundred pounds that gains so much weight she eventually tops out at over 300 lbs, particularly if it was in a very short timeframe like under a year.

I know a lot of the weight gain photos are just weight loss photos in reverse, and this isn't as satisfying to me. I'm also particular in that I really want the woman to start out being very thin as opposed to simply going fat-fatter.

Same person who posted the one about having been molested before:

quote:

Yeah, the watermelon person is right. I'm ashamed of it. I feel like a horrible person for it, even though logically it wasn't my fault. I was diagnosed with borderline, too, and that therapy I don't like at all. I'm just generally a broken person, and I genuinely don't think I can be helped. Meds don't work, therapy doesn't work, and the fact that I have no support structure whatsoever doesn't help matters either.

Like I implied in my first post, making friends is an impossible for me, and the few times one of the few acquaintances or casual friends I do have got closer to me and became what might be considered a 'close friend' they realized their error eventually. Every single time, they either cut off contact abruptly and blocked me completely or just started ignoring me because they could finally sense I'm too broken to have friends. As a result, I no longer look for friendships because I don't know if I could take that horrible trauma again. Having someone you thought you could finally trust, open up to, and let in block you everywhere and say that they are done with you because "you are just a manipulative person, and don't want to get better" is a horrible horrible pain. Being accused of stuff like that hurts like a bitch, especially since I would never do that to people, and would never want to.

Of course, I guess they're right, I can't help but feel that I am a horrible attention seeking person and I don't deserve happiness and avoiding loneliness. It's probably what I deserve for letting that stuff happen to me when I was little. I'm also obsessed with the pain too, since not a day goes by where I don't think about my ex friends (and bf). I still miss them a ton and its been over a year at this point. I don't care about getting hurt as long as I can be around people I feel safe around as much as possible. Similarly, I also still deeply love my former boyfriend, and would gladly take abuse just to be around him again.

Again, sorry for the wall, and how disjointed it is; I'm tired, and I don't want to go to work in the morning...

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

Not posted this time: someone getting really creepy about sexual-abuse confessions; someone with poor English skills going into way too much detail about their poo poo-fetish porn

Farg
Nov 19, 2013
My wife cheated on me for the third time while I watched my mom die, let me tell you the keys to a happy relationship

tactlessbastard
Feb 4, 2001

Godspeed, post
Fun Shoe

Farg posted:

My wife cheated on me for the third time while I watched my mom die, let me tell you the keys to a happy relationship

Step 1: You have to dismiss the last shred of dignity and embrace bitchmade.

pants in my pants
Aug 18, 2009

by Smythe
Now go prep the bull.

CodfishCartographer
Feb 23, 2010

Gadus Maprocephalus

Pillbug

Sadgoon: I would really recommend therapy and being totally honest during it. You said that during previous attempts at therapy you never brought the abuse up, and that means you weren't being treated properly. I mean, think about it this way: the worst thing that happens is it doesn't help you and we're back to square one, but there's a very real possibility that it can do you a ton of good and change your life. Note that this will not happen quickly. It'll probably take years of therapy and hard work on your part, but if you're serious about recovering I believe you CAN do it!

Thunder God Biden
Sep 8, 2004


Israel is not a legitimate entity, and no amount of pressure can force us to recognize its right to exist.


H.H posted:

I really hate the movement behind the ; symbol. Not because I have anything against the depressed or mentally ill, but because I think it is cheesy and hokey and kind of loving annoying. It's pretty much my favorite punctuation, but it's been co-opted by attention-seeking brokebrains. I have not met a single person who associates with the symbol that I would not describe as insufferable.

If you're suicidal, get help. Call a hotline, get therapy, join a support group. If you've been suicidal and you've gotten help, I am absolutely thrilled for you. But don't rub your victory over yourself in everyone's face, jeez.

I know this is a bit ago but so loving :same:

Don't hide yourself goon.

Watermelon Daiquiri
Jul 10, 2010
I TRIED TO BAIT THE TXPOL THREAD WITH THE WORLD'S WORST POSSIBLE TAKE AND ALL I GOT WAS THIS STUPID AVATAR.
Yeah, how dare people want to do something to let other depressed people know that they are not alone and other people have gone through that as well. They should all be ashamed and just isolate themselves away from the normal people so the normal people don't have to be reminded that there are hurting depressed people out there. :jerkbag:

Bonzo
Mar 11, 2004

Just like Mama used to make it!

pants in my pants posted:

Now go prep the bull.

and tell him to get beefy. real beefy bitch.

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

The idea of getting a tattoo to make sure everybody knows you didn't kill yourself seems attention-seeky out of context, but I'm personally of a mind that dangerously-depressed people who have literally survived a brush with suicide have the right to be a little self-indulgent if it helps them feel better :shrug:

Like, you're criticizing people with severe, dangerous mental illness for doing something that seems a little immature to make themselves feel better. That's missing the point a little bit.

Thunder God Biden
Sep 8, 2004


Israel is not a legitimate entity, and no amount of pressure can force us to recognize its right to exist.


I've known plenty of folks with mental illness, and plenty of people that didn't kill themselves. I've been through some pretty dark poo poo too, and don't sport a bandwagon tattoo. I agree with the confessor in that anyone I've met with the semicolon tattoo has been an insufferable attention whore. If I'm missing the point then I'm ok with that.

yeah I eat ass
Mar 14, 2005

only people who enjoy my posting can replace this avatar
Considering what else people get tattoos of typically, a semi-colon is very far from the bottom of the list of lovely tattoos. I guess you could call it attention-seeking, but you could say that about pretty much every tattoo in a highly visible part of your body. You wouldn't have gotten it there if you didn't want to talk about/be asked about it. So they like talking about how they overcame their mental illness instead of how much they love mom, or how they totally identify with some random chinese letters - whats the big deal?

Thunder God Biden
Sep 8, 2004


Israel is not a legitimate entity, and no amount of pressure can force us to recognize its right to exist.


yeah I eat rear end posted:

whats the big deal?

It's...really not a big deal! :)

Watermelon Daiquiri
Jul 10, 2010
I TRIED TO BAIT THE TXPOL THREAD WITH THE WORLD'S WORST POSSIBLE TAKE AND ALL I GOT WAS THIS STUPID AVATAR.
From what I've heard of it it's not for attention seeking from people who haven't had to go through it, it's to let people are struggling know that they're not alone. Like, I don't get why people think everything has to be about them. Just because a person gets a semicolon tattoo, it doesn't mean they give a poo poo about your attention or want it. Like I said, it's not about you.

Thunder God Biden
Sep 8, 2004


Israel is not a legitimate entity, and no amount of pressure can force us to recognize its right to exist.


I can imagine that ideally that's the case. I'm afraid I just haven't seen it used that way in practice. It's not the tattoo I have a problem with. It's not even the message it could maybe send if worn by someone who isn't an attention whore. It's my (and the anonymous confessor's) experience of the type of person who gets the tattoo, and them being insufferable. That's where my problem is. Maybe I'm not seeing the semi-colon tattoo on the people that wear it and aren't attention whores because they aren't attention whores? I'm not suggesting causality, but I do find a strong correlation.

The Management
Jan 2, 2010

sup, bitch?
Molested goon,

quote:

"you are just a manipulative person, and don't want to get better"

This might be the most honest thing you've written. The reason people block you is because you are doing something that drives them away. You probably don't know what that is and are not doing it intentionally, but your judgement is not to be trusted here. Like others have said, therapy where you don't lie to your counselor is a start. When you decide to truly work on yourself, you will find that others are comfortable with you.

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

Bit of a dry spell lately, but we've got a live one here

quote:

I broke up with my ex around a year ago, after 2+ years of dating. It was a pretty amiable split as far as these things go. She moved out of the house (I owned it before we dated) back to her parents and took all her stuff with her. We knew we would still run into each other on occasion, and were okay with that. We also both moved on and started dating other people after a few months. All seemed well, until about 2 months ago:

I came home one day and things were slightly askew in my house. I'm a bit of a neat freak so I knew things weren't where I put them when I left. Upon closer inspection, there was a pair of socks stuffed under the couch. I was ready to call the police and then remembered - my ex probably still had a key to the house. I emailed her, requesting that she mail the key to me. She denied being in the house, but when I pushed the issue further she admitted she stopped by to "take a break after work" and was sorry. I didn't care and just wanted the key back.

A few days later a letter came from her. It was perfectly sealed and had obviously NOT been opened by the post office. There was nothing in it, no key. I emailed again, explaining she must have forgot the key. She sent an angry email within minutes, telling me that obviously the mailman took the key out. I said "Okay, well I'll change the locks to be safe then". She then admitted she had kept the key. I changed the locks.

My brother then ran into her a few days later at the gym. She told him that I was being an rear end in a top hat and that she thought I was doing drugs again (I had a drug issue back in high school but took care of the problem years ago, and have been stone cold sober since my early 20s). He called her out on the bullshit and told her to stay out of both our lives. When he left the gym and got out to his car, there was a note written in lipstick stuck under his windshield wiper that said "Sorry, I just worry. I thought we were like family and want to be in your lives."

My brother went to the police and filed a restraining order, since he was pretty freaked out about the whole thing. I followed suit and I also made sure to block her on all possible fronts - email, all social media, her cell #, etc.

I was watching the news last night and there was a report of a major car accident. The driver wasn't killed, but was seriously injured and was in critical condition. It was my ex. She somehow ended up driving the wrong way on a major highway at night and was plowed into by a van going the other way. Nobody in the van was killed, but 2 kids in the back seat had some broken ribs and were shaken up.

Am I wrong to think she did this as some bizarre way to try and get back in my life? I have no intention of going to the hospital to see her, since she's proven she's a danger to myself and my family. But do I need to worry about this escalation further, possibly to attacks on myself or my family?

Alternate theory: your ex is being targeted by the Origami Killer

old beast lunatic
Nov 3, 2004

by Hand Knit
It sounds like you're severing pretty good but I'd recommend moving to the other side of the globe or a Russian space station to be safe.

Dial-a-Dog
May 22, 2001
The Manson family used to like to break into people's houses and move things around to mess with them. Your ex is trying to bring about Helter Skelter

Bonzo
Mar 11, 2004

Just like Mama used to make it!
My ex-wife did something similar. We had been separated for a few months and I had gotten a new place. She insisted that she come over and look at my boxes because I may have had something of hers so I stupidly said yes.

She comes over and we talk a bit. The conversion ends with her saying that she knows its her fault for our break up (cheating) and is there anyway to get back together. I politely inform her that we have started proceedings and that I think its best we continue. She storms out and calls me 15 minutes later on her cell. I can tell by the noise she's driving and she crying asking me if I still love her, to which I reply "its not the same" and I encourage her to pull over before she kills someone. She just hung up and that was the last time I saw her other than our court date for the divorce. I later heard through mutual friends that she got in to therapy for a few years and got her heard straight.

So basically, don't feel bad. When people want attention they usually do negative things because that's easier than doing something positive. Hopefully this incident gets her the help she needs and allows her to continue on with her life.

H.H
Oct 24, 2006

August is the Cruelest Month

quote:

I am quite terrible at my job. But there is very limited oversigth so i have been able to skate by so far. Some of the things i have done to paper over my mistakes are actually illegal. On paper i am the best qualified member of my team. Second to the boss i am by a significant margin the best paid. But i am also the least productive because i have no loving clue what i am doing. A few months from now i will get transferred to a new location. I`ll get paid even more and my responsibilites will increase. I am terrified because i have already been promoted too far. I`ll get caugth now i am sure. I am the Peter principle in action. Appearing competent and motivated and leveraging that into professional sucess is my only real skill. Its almost as good as being actually competent and motivated.

On the plus side i just bougth a bedpan so now i only use my teapot to drink. More hygenic that way and the bedpan can take a greater volume of piss which is handy.

I. M. Gei
Jun 26, 2005

CHIEFS

BITCH




... umm... why is the bedpan part in there?

Dial-a-Dog
May 22, 2001

Dr. Gitmo Moneyson posted:

... umm... why is the bedpan part in there?

So he doesn't have to pee in his teapot any more

dookifex_maximus
Aug 10, 2016

by zen death robot
bedpans are really great for historical enthusiasts who want to turn back the clock and sleep next to a bucket of piss every night

Cnut the Great
Mar 30, 2014

dookifex_maximus posted:

bedpans are really great for historical enthusiasts who want to turn back the clock and sleep next to a bucket of piss every night

But enough about my wife.

the future is WOW
Sep 9, 2005

I QUIT!

quote:

I am quite terrible at my job. But there is very limited oversigth so i have been able to skate by so far. Some of the things i have done to paper over my mistakes are actually illegal. On paper i am the best qualified member of my team. Second to the boss i am by a significant margin the best paid. But i am also the least productive because i have no loving clue what i am doing. A few months from now i will get transferred to a new location. I`ll get paid even more and my responsibilites will increase. I am terrified because i have already been promoted too far. I`ll get caugth now i am sure. I am the Peter principle in action. Appearing competent and motivated and leveraging that into professional sucess is my only real skill. Its almost as good as being actually competent and motivated.

On the plus side i just bougth a bedpan so now i only use my teapot to drink. More hygenic that way and the bedpan can take a greater volume of piss which is handy.

After many years of blundering my way into more complicated jobs than I deserve to have, I have learned that being good at your job and appearing to be good at your job are functionally (nearly) identical; it's why "fake it till you make it" usually works. As long as you're not doing anything critical like doctoring (or anything where people's lives depend on you) then who gives a poo poo? Run with that fucker as long as you can, and as long as you're charming and personable you'll most likely never have to worry about it.


E: also, I think that may be my favorite 'p.s.' of the thread so far.

Adbot
ADBOT LOVES YOU

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

quote:

recently my gf of 18 or so months broke up with me because i'd been focusing too much on 'work' and bringing my 'work' home with me.

i pretty much lied entirely to her about what i actually do at work, to the point where she just knows i 'work with computers' and thats pretty much that. i haven't actually been employed for a year but my work has consisted of chatting with goons.

i changed the background of the chat client to black and the text to green and have been steadily 'programming' new stuff on the computer, or something. but in actuality i just talk to goons about like star trek, sourdough bread, and have debates over whether or not our new halloween themed chat names are 'spooky' enough

i dont know, she acted like she was superior in this but i pretty much got her to support me for the last year while i hung out shitposting and stuff.

i stopped having sex with her awhile back but pretty much the last time we banged i managed to knock her up, too lmao. she asked for money for the abortion but even if i had it to give her i wouldnt. her vagina is broken as gently caress and a childbirth probably would have killed her so i dont really see that this was going to be my problem no matter what.

she was a pretty good cook and would do literally anything i asked so i think i will miss that about her, but those qualities are actually easier to find than you'd think. at least the second one. i guess being a good cook isn't terribly common.

thanks for listening i actually feel better now

  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
  • Post
  • Reply