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Black Baby Goku posted:So it silences women by bringing up a topic in the feminism thread that doesn't involve women? feminism is pretty much about women's issues in a society which discriminates against women. there is some space there for "men's issues" in the way that men can also be damaged by the patriarchy - for example, young men stereotypically not knowing how (or being willing to) cook or clean or keep house is a problem when they move out on their own, which is part of why homes where young adult men live are often disgusting. like the stereotypical frat house. this is a problem! but it's only kind of sort of related to the bigger issue, that women are expected to take on a larger burden of unpaid domestic work and from a young age children are socially gendered, such that little boys and girls are given different expectations, where little girls generally aren't allowed to do many of the things boys can do and are instead expected to clean up and keep quiet and by talking about "how does this big issue regarding women relate to me, a man" you can, even in sincerity and good faith, refocus the discussion about women's issues to be about men after all. this is because men tend to dominate conversations and that's almost a given on a dying old comedy discussion forum which is probably upwards of 2/3 men if not more. as a feminist man, one of the most useful skills you can learn is when to stop talking and let other people, particularly women, talk without adding your own thoughts or comments boner confessor fucked around with this message at 02:08 on Dec 28, 2016 |
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ate poo poo on live tv posted:Because something I've noticed on the occasions I attempt to educate myself via online feminism, the narrative is immediately seized by virtue signaling people who see feminism not as the notion of equality of all people, but as a club they get to exclude people from. maybe you're extremely incompetent at self-education, powercrazy ate poo poo on live tv posted:So what factual concerns are there that men face? overconfidence despite evident inadequacy and mediocrity, for one
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# ¿ Dec 28, 2016 03:57 |
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ate poo poo on live tv posted:How does feminism solve this issue? men are often taught that, despite glaring inadequacies, they should speak up and assert themselves when they have nothing interesting to say or nothing valuable to contribute. this lack of introspection and self-knowledge is typically paired with the idea that masculinity is tied to the ability to lead and manage other people. really it's just part of the patriarchy to empower otherwise incompetent men to otherwise ignore their flaws, which inhibits personal growth - you can't solve a problem if you're not aware you have one think really hard about this post
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# ¿ Dec 28, 2016 04:06 |
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ewe2 posted:It is surprising that men would not deal with the issues Kubrick mentioned effectively. Is it just that we are too tunnel-visioned? well like i said earlier, lack of self knowledge, particularly emotional knowledge, often leads to problems that an individual is unequipped to deal with. the idea of 'toxic masculinity' is one where people focus too much on 'being a man', whatever that manhood means, which can easily perpetuate harmful activities like fighting, domestic violence, child abuse, suicide, substance abuse, etc. simply from sheer lack of emotional regulation. some boys in america are raised to be tough, flinty, like a cowboy, never cry, never admit weakness or defeat, and so on which is really an unrealistic and self-damaging mindset take jobs for an example - i grew up in a small southern town, a large portion of my white male peers were blue collar working class kids. college was simply something that you didn't do, it was a waste of time - liberal indoctrination or just loving around when you could be working for a living. pretty much none of these guys went to get education beyond high school, and now it turns out in our mid thirties that those who had the opportunity but didn't take it (our state has an excellent higher ed system including community college) was a bad choice and employment is much less secure and well paying if you went to work straight out of high school. job training has two components - lack of opportunity, because of poverty or inaccessibility or disability or whatever - and lack of desire, because there's still this attitude among men that you prove you're a man by working with your hands and starting a business, both increasingly unprofitable choices, instead of going to fruity college and reading books for however many years so you can get a stupid office job and this isn't to blame people for how they were raised, but really to point at how "being a man" can cripple you later in life, sometimes literally, as you hustle two warehouse jobs to feed your family and ruin your back before age 40 because OSHA and weight belts are for sissies etc. punched my v-card at camp posted:The one real critique of feminist practices in this regard is that I think that feminist men need to do more work to reach young men, and offer a constructive alternative to the reddit cesspools. Right now a lot of impressionable young men are starting with questions like "why can't I get a date?" and ending up with the answer "because feminists and cucks are destroying male america" because the spaces they go with the question are radicalizing them. i agree with the rest of your post but it's always easier to capture anger with anger rather than reason. people want a conspiracy against them to be true, that way they don't have to work so hard to avoid it
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# ¿ Dec 28, 2016 05:13 |
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Phyzzle posted:"Inadequacies" as in "Inadequate knowledge", or Ignorance. Not . . . inadequate looks or muscles or penises or whatever else you might be thinking. https://www.guernicamag.com/rebecca-solnit-men-explain-things-to-me/ quote:I still don’t know why Sallie and I bothered to go to that party in the forest slope above Aspen. The people were all older than us and dull in a distinguished way, old enough that we, at forty-ish, passed as the occasion’s young ladies. The house was great–if you like Ralph Lauren-style chalets–a rugged luxury cabin at 9,000 feet complete with elk antlers, lots of kilims, and a wood-burning stove. We were preparing to leave, when our host said, “No, stay a little longer so I can talk to you.” He was an imposing man who’d made a lot of money.
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# ¿ Dec 28, 2016 06:16 |
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ewe2 posted:Men do this to each other just as much as they do to women, it just looks more stupid when they do. Just today on another thread someone felt the need to explain technology to me that I already knew about, apparently there was a danger I might not have understood what I was discussing with someone else. The need to be right is just as powerful as the need to patronize, and it infects all men to some degree, myself included. yeah, which is doubly bad when someone isn't just misinformed due to ignorance, but misinformed due to being a woman. it's very easy for unaware men to assume that women couldn't possibly know what they're talking about, which is why this isn't just a "male problem" but a problem arising due to the patriarchy. the quoted anecdote couldn't have happened if it were a male author, the rich idiot wouldn't have kept a man behind to chat him up and impress him with knowledge of recent books why do you say it looks "more stupid" when men assume ignorance among men? wouldn't it be equally stupid? could there be an expectation that women wouldn't know things?
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# ¿ Dec 28, 2016 06:31 |
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yeah, the key to getting laid is -exercise -therapy -eat right -dont talk about nerd things too much -adjust your expectations but it's easier to blame society than work on improving yourself. and as you say, because society objectifies women and makes the obtaining of sex/a woman's affection into a measure of the man's worth, you basically have to admit you're not worth much in a real and sincere, depressing way rather than a joking ironic "haha i'm an unfuckable but at least i'm not a tryhard like chad thundercock who probably hates himself anyway"
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