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Bored As gently caress posted:Thanks man. I told my therapist how bad I was. My problem is that most of my depression is situational specific - until my job changes, ain't much gonna change. The best I can do is try to lose weight, exercise, and MAYBE I can get to where I can pass a lineman PT test. Or go back for my Masters degree and hope for a job with that bur that's so unlikely it's probably not worth it. I sent you a PM buddy, hope you're doing okay.
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Talktopus posted:
Have him read through the following thread, made by our very own Bulletsponge13. From what you've told us, I'm fairly certain he will be able to connect with a lot of the stories in that thread. https://forums.somethingawful.com/showthread.php?threadid=4002076&pagenumber=1
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I've gone through 10 years of suicidal depression earlier in my life, having been to the point of heading to the train tracks to end the problems one time. I'm in Sweden so if you are up in the middle of the night (assuming you are in the US), hit me up on Discord, serth varnee, and I got time whenever you need to talk and can't get around the mental block of having to wake someone up in the middle of the night.
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Sent you a friend request. I'm just gonna go walk the dog, but if you need to talk after that, I'm fine with staying awake a few hours still.
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Jun 10, 2023 22:04
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Since you're a veteran, could you ask a representative of your former service branch to print a sign for saying something along the lines of "US [former service branch] community service stand. Operated and maintained by retired volunteer service members. For inquiries, contact [former service branch admin office]". If people are going to pat you on the head with that "thank you for your service" bullshit, why not smack them across the face with the service brand? Edit: Since you mentioned that the news haven't picked up on the situation, you could reach out to a local news station and hand them a hell of a headline "military veteran threatened with eviction for saving lives". Or if the region is fairly religious, you could get in touch with local church groups and ask them to help you organize health booths so the people currently dying in the streets won't be left to die if your psychotic neighbors and landlord decide to force the matter. SerthVarnee fucked around with this message at 19:56 on Aug 7, 2023 |
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Aug 7, 2023 19:42
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And keep in mind that the goal is saving lives, not winning your personal right to save the lives. You might be able to rope in local community orgs to do the thing you've been doing without burning your own bridges.
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Aug 10, 2023 19:02
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Just let us know if you find yourself needing to talk about anything anytime. I'm not military but I can start ranting so you got some white noise going on in the background, I can shut up and listen if you just need to vent. I can keep you occupied by playing games with you or watching Calcio Storico with you if you just need to watch some players beat the snot out of each other while a ball sometimes also gets to participate in the game and I'm always online during Swedish daytimes. just throw me a message on Discord (username serthvarnee) if you need it.
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Aug 15, 2023 22:58
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Please remember that, while feeling better about yourself because others have it worse isn't useful or productive to anyone, neither is feeling bad about yourself because others have it worse. Throwing economic survivor's guilt into the mix of day to day issues you have going on is going to help exactly zero people.
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First off, this is absolutely last thread to ever tell you to shut up about being depressed about anything. Second: Stop putting barriers and rationalizations in front of your own efforts to improve your situation. 
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Arione posted:I dont think there is any "improving the situation" But I'll lay it out there... Lets condense that down a bit shall we? Got royally hosed over during your time in. Regularly snubbed by coworkers for living with conditions outside of your control. Decent/good house but at a sickeningly expensive cost (I assume, not American here). Live in a place with zero successful networking and a diminishing number of actual connections you enjoy spending time with. Conflicted views of your marriage trending quickly towards the negatives outweighing the positives. Expectation is that you'll die alone. Medicine is loving with your health. Local area is actively prohibitive towards your main hobby. Job is frustrating, pays underwhelmingly due to cost of living and local taxes. Job repeatedly has you commit OHSA violations, has no clear leadership chain, doesn't actually involve the job you were hired to do. I think I can see why you have some issues focusing on the positives. Don't measure your happiness against the wealth and perceived hardships of others. If you aren't happy, you aren't happy. A ton of these issues seem to be centered around living in Hawaii. I'd suggest that as a the first possibility towards making a positive life change. Second, I'd consider looking into finding a better job. Third, finding a secondary hobby that you could focus on while living in Hawaii might be good for you until you can move to somewhere where you can actually enjoy your primary hobby. Seconding what Asapi said about the medicine. SerthVarnee fucked around with this message at 20:53 on Sep 28, 2023 |
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Marriages are supposed to be an exercise in compromise in order to get a life you are both happy with or at least willing to accept. What you have described seems a lot more like "you get to shut the gently caress up about what you want and I get whatever I want. Don't like it? Wait until I die and you can sort your life out for yourself." So yeah, I can see why you aren't happy with the way things are going and having your psychologist imply (or directly state) that you are being a child and a spoiled kid is not helpful in any way even though it might have been an attempt to make you think about your own part of the whole "both people making compromises". Maybe you are, maybe you aren't. Right now I'm not seeing that as being the biggest impedance to your enjoyment of life. You are stuck and you feel caged/unable to get unstuck due to relationships and constraints outside of your control.
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