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Hey folks. I'm a 30 year old male living with my mother and my sister's two children. I have my BS in psychology and I haven't been employed since 2014 when I worked at one of the more popular wholesale retail locations. I stopped going to work initially to go to detox since I was drinking at work and pretty much the rest of the day too (partly due to depression). I didn't get back in touch with my employer and have just been sort of existing and doing nothing since then. In the past few weeks I've been motivated to make some changes. I'm sick of living at home, and providing constant care and attention to children that aren't mine is taking its toll on my brain. I've updated my resume and have been browsing indeed and craigslist pretty hardcore. Since I have a three year gap in my work history I listed that I've been providing childcare in the meantime. Is that a wise decision? I had an interview with a human services position right in my city that went fairly well. The only problem is that it was too similar to a group home job I had in 2013 when I was super depressed and tried to take my own life, so I decided against accepting the first thing that came my way. Was it a good idea to turn the job down since I'm so desperate to make some money and move out? My credit is abysmal (I declared bankruptcy in 2015) and I have defaulted on my student loans. Will I be able to move in somewhere as long as I have a roommate? I get the sense that trying even for a studio apartment will result in someone pulling up my credit report. If there's anything else I can be doing please feel free to chime in. I present myself professionally at interviews and am clean and properly dressed, so don't worry about me acting like a heap of garbage in front of potential employers because that's certainly not the case.
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Mar 31, 2017 21:10
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Yeah I definitely won't mention depression or mental health during an interview, I agree that people can be bastards. I have another prospect lined up that I was hoping to hear about by the end of the week. It's through a staffing agency, and the agency is family owned so it seems like they're a good bunch. It's entry level production work which hopefully I'll be able to handle better than human service stuff. Edit: also thanks for all the advice so far, it's way more than I was expecting to get! ServoMST3K fucked around with this message at 22:37 on Apr 1, 2017 |
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Apr 1, 2017 22:31
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I have an interview on Wednesday with a local family owned orthodontics company that ships out a bunch of stuff every day. I would be a shipping assistant and it's a full time gig with benefits on day 1 and starts at $15/hour. The woman on the phone already asked me a bunch of interview questions and she seemed to like my answers. I'm worried that if things go well and I actually get a job like this I might get demotivated and end up quitting like I did my previous jobs. It just hasn't really set in that I need to work to survive since my mom and dad have provided for me and would continue to do so if I wasn't looking for employment. Does anyone have any advice for staying upbeat and committed to working through these feelings of apathy and uncertainty?
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Apr 3, 2017 22:07
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Don't worry, I've been in therapy for the past 4 years and I'm on medication. I tried applying for disability before but got turned down a few times. I figure trying to work again is my best bet. Also, I really really want to move out so that is providing some motivation at least.
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Apr 4, 2017 18:43
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You can call me a scum bag, and you'd probably be correct, but there's a whole bunch of e/n stuff that explains why I'm depressed and have been unable or unwilling to care for myself over the past few years. Let's just say my drug addict sister ruined my self esteem when I was younger and then she had a few children that my mother and I have had to care for since they were born. It's not easy for me to have a rosy outlook and not be a manchild most of the time.
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Apr 4, 2017 21:23
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I'm fine with all sorts of input in this thread. It's helpful to get different perspectives. In other news the job I'm interviewing for/getting a tour of tomorrow says it has benefits on day 1, that seems like a good find. I'm trying to figure out how much money I'll make after taxes so I can figure out how much I can afford for an apartment. If I make 15/hour, that's 2400 a month pre tax. I'm in MA so I'm guessing conservatively that I'll have like 200 taken out for tax then maybe 30 more for social security per paycheck. Should I err on caution and go for a cheaper apartment like 600 a moth plus utilities so I can save up for emergency funds and stuff as well? I would hang around for a while and save even more while living at home but I want to move out sooner rather than later once I can even remotely afford it.
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Apr 4, 2017 22:35
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EAT FASTER!!!!!! posted:Did it start with the name, maybe? Thanks! Also thanks to everyone who has given input so far. I.....I don't know if I could have made it this far without this forum :') Edit: I just want to clarify that I haven't had any alcohol in over two and a half years so there's almost zero chance that drinking will get in my way again. ServoMST3K fucked around with this message at 00:59 on Apr 5, 2017 |
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Apr 4, 2017 22:55
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Well the interview went pretty smooth today, I got a tour of the entire facility. It's a pretty interesting operation, they do all sorts of imaging of dental patterns and then develop orthodontics and stuff all in house. I think it's a company I'd like to work for since it's family owned. They're interviewing a few more people this week then I should hear back early next week about whether I got chosen or not. If I do get chosen then there's a three day work interview which is paid, and they see if you're a good fit for the position. I'm glad I still have other prospects brewing just in case. You guys were right to suggest not banking too hard on something before I got an offer. Also, thanks again for all the advice folks!!
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Apr 5, 2017 20:22
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I'll keep that in mind. At least the job that I would have seems like it would be on the less seedier side of things if there were any terrible things going on.
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Apr 5, 2017 20:58
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Well, I filled out paperwork for another temp agency yesterday. I haven't heard anything definitive yet on the other jobs, but everything has been in the 11-15 dollar an hour range which is what I was expecting. In the meantime I'm looking into a part time position helping at a horse barn near me on weekends. I'm pretty excited about that, cause if it works out then I can say I belong to the ranks of people who have more than one job!
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Apr 7, 2017 20:31
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I'm looking forward to dying impoverished and alone anyway, so horses sound like a good fit.
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Apr 7, 2017 23:33
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Well I'm supposed to be starting at a local entry level production job either tomorrow or Wednesday through a staffing agency. I'm excited but a little bit nervous. I'll be disassembling computers to recycle the components and stuff like that. I can apply for full time permanent employment after 90 days supposedly which is nice. Does anyone here have experience working through a staffing agency? I'm curious as to how it's gonna go.
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Apr 10, 2017 23:37
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I started work on Wednesday. It's going ok so far. They have me doing pretty menial repetitive stuff so far but I can handle it for now. There's other stuff I can be trained to do eventually that'll probably be more interesting. I was actually late for my 2nd day of work, so there's that.
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Apr 14, 2017 19:42
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Yeah I learned my lesson. After two late punch ins I get a verbal warning. It technically wasn't my fault because there was a massive traffic jam due to an accident on the only highway I can take to get there, but I went much earlier anyway the next day.
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Apr 17, 2017 01:42
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Just to check in, things are going pretty well so far. I haven't been late again since my 2nd day, and I got my first paycheck on Thursday (even though it was only for three days)! It feels good to have a routine every day even though so far I've mainly been sleeping when not at work. Any tips for getting some extra energy so I can accomplish stuff during the day outside of work? Also I've been inquiring about a weekend position at a local horse barn, mainly because my week job isn't the highest paying gig in the world. Would you guys recommend I keep following up with the weekend position or just stick to getting used to working one job for now?
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Apr 24, 2017 01:59
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Thanks for the advice folks! Now I have ANOTHER question. So my friends are getting married this Thursday when I'm supposed to be at work. When they originally told me the date I'm sure I wasn't planning on actually having a job so this conflict of interests never crossed my mind. I'm definitely going to attend the wedding, but should I call in sick or try asking my staffing agency for the day off instead? There's been a few instances of people at work who go through the same staffing agency calling in sick and none of them have been warned/fired for doing so as far as I'm aware. Also is it just me or is Thursday a weird day to have a wedding?
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May 1, 2017 02:07
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Well I went to the wedding and everything worked out fine. It wasn't Star Wars themed surprisingly, it was 50s themed so I wore my red suspenders because I guess that might have been more common in the 50s. I looked at a room/apartment on Sunday and while I liked it and the reasonable price I'm taking the advice of this thread and I'm waiting until I have more money saved up. My job is going ok in the meantime and I've committed to waiting til I have another job lined up until I move on from this one, whenever that may end up being. I'm still having some trouble with doing stuff outside of work other than sleeping. Hopefully I'll get more adjusted soon, but I'm guessing part of the problem is that I work 2nd shift and it's too late when I get home to really do anything else.
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May 11, 2017 02:11
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