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cheap/simple weddings are cool but every wedding discussion on the internet turns into a circlejerk of people competing to see whose wedding was the cheapest
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my wedding will be the most expensive, for it will be combined with my funeral.
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Nov 19, 2017 03:44
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I'll win that since mine never got out of the planning stages.
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Nov 19, 2017 03:45
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Decide to get married. Church the wife's family goes to is holding a retreat at a church camp resort dealie not far from my family, which makes it the perfect venue because half the people we'd invite are already going to be there and my family can all make it without even needing to spend the night in a hotel if they don't want to. We had to do it Sunday morning with a luncheon and no booze because they're adventists so no fun allowed on Saturdays and no booze period, which means a morning wedding and then a luncheon. We only had to pay a tiny cost per plate because they only wanted to make us cover the costs of making the luncheon fancier and we also rented place settings because the stuff at the resort wasn't as nice. My wife got her dress made as a gift from a friend who's' a professional seamstress. I got a suit but didn't spend a ton of money. Cake was made by my cousin who studied at a really nice culinary school. We got minimal flowers because my wife is a huge tomboy and didn't give a crap. So basically we spent like two grand to have our wedding at a lakeside resort in an area where normally a wedding like that would cost someone like 50K at least. I would have preferred a more traditional afternoon wedding and dinner + party after with booze but whatevs. We had a party for our normal friends a few weeks later.
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Nov 19, 2017 04:05
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I'm having my wedding catered by a soul food restaurant and if you want to throw a fit about it don't come because that's more oven-fried chicken, mac and cheese and sweet potato pie for everyone else 
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Nov 19, 2017 04:10
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My wedding will consist of me and my future husband getting married in the alley behind the courthouse, then me eating a delivery pizza in a bar (he can't eat gluten so he's on his own). It will cost $100 (the cost of a marriage license in my state) and let all my friends and family know that I don't care enough about them to want them there when I make a commitment to my life partner. But it is very cheap, so the internet will approve. Seriously though since my last post my mom has sent me 5-10 messages about how she wants my wedding to look that have ranged from "it has to be a sit down dinner with waiters and champagne" to "fine, do whatever you want, I don't care at all" when I didn't respond quickly enough. She sent these messages between 2 am and 6 am, when I was asleep.
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Nov 19, 2017 15:36
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After 15 years together, we decided to get married. Paid for the license, found an officiant who provided the two witnesses needed, and got married in her office. The "ceremony" took less time than the elevator ride to her office. Went out to get the rings afterwards, then out for dinner and drinks. I wouldn't change a thing. My sister, on the other hand, had the huge wedding spectacle which, when I asked how much it cost, my mother handwaved the question and mumbled around 100K.
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Nov 19, 2017 15:55
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Cheap weddings are fine, dry weddings are the fifth circle of hell.
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Nov 19, 2017 16:53
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i had some friends that one morning decided to go to the county courthouse and get married and that was pretty rad & the right way to do it. they even have a little courtyard trellis thing you can stand under and a prepared speech you can do if you want or modify it if you like. it fit their personalities extremely well and i always admired that.
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Nov 19, 2017 16:57
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Seriouse post I've gotten beyond poo poo faced at every wedding I've went to including waking up in the bride and grooms.hotel room and drinking champaign with them in the morning. so they saved some money there.
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Nov 19, 2017 16:59
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Went to the office to get registered, then had lunch with my mom, and her parents.
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Nov 19, 2017 17:04
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I'm getting married in February, and I don't think we're going over 15k. Might be closer to 10k. Weddings are annoying to plan for, I can't imagine spending more than we already have.
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Nov 19, 2017 18:11
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I got married yesterday (: Check out @noonerSA’s Tweet: https://twitter.com/noonerSA/status/932290019775070208?s=09
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Nov 19, 2017 18:20
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Ahhhhhhhh!!!! How awesome to give us a photo!!!!! Wow!!!! You guys look great and so happy! CONGRATULATIONS!!!
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Nov 19, 2017 18:25
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Congrats nooner
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Nov 19, 2017 18:32
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Congrats, flamingo man
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Nov 19, 2017 19:25
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Congrats and well done!
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Nov 19, 2017 19:55
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gj on the pants
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Nov 19, 2017 20:01
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Nooner posted:I got married yesterday (: That dress is for a 9 foot tall woman. 
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Nov 19, 2017 20:02
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What a lovely dress! It's an expense down the road she won't really regret since there are now such nice photos 
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Nov 19, 2017 20:17
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ClamdestineBoyster posted:That dress is for a 9 foot tall woman. It's a wedding dress
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Nov 19, 2017 21:07
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if you have a free bar you can be cheap on absolutely everything else and no one of worth will care
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Nov 19, 2017 21:46
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Nooner posted:I got married yesterday (: Congrats nooner
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Nov 19, 2017 21:53
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Barudak posted:My wedding had 450ish guests, 6 of them were my side. It was super affordable and we made a fortune off gifts. How did your wife invite 444 people lmao
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Nov 19, 2017 22:49
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We had just moved in together and started paying a mortgage and furnishing our first house so had very little disposable income. Registry office wedding, 400 dress for her, suit/shoes from Burtons for me. Her aunt made the cake. Wife to be spent the night before the big day prepping a buffet at the house. After the ceremony we went back to our tiny house with all our friends and family and partied, drinking beer Id got on clearance as it was all split packs. Everyone enjoyed it and people still say what a great day it was and weve been married for 22 years. Several friends including one couple who spent 25,000 and another who spent 30,000 separated very shortly after marrying. I just think its a colossal waste of money fussing about loving napkin rings and table decorations etc when most couples would probably be better off spending it on furniture or something. Anyway, congrats Nooner your photo is great and your new wife is very pretty.
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Nov 19, 2017 22:51
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Nooner posted:I got married yesterday (: This is a Pro Suit Grats nooner
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Nov 19, 2017 22:52
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We eloped. Our wedding costs were - gas - 7$ - marriage license - 120$ - boozeaholic dinner - $55 family decided they wanted to throw us a party a few weeks after that. groceries - $60 giant-rear end lobster pot - $30
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Nov 19, 2017 22:54
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my parents got married after having lived together for a few years and had the reception at their house. All the photos from the wedding are of both of them in the basement eating stuff with people. That was 42 years ago and they're still together. meanwhile i've been to two ridiculously expensive weddings in the past couple of years. My ex's brother got married at this event venue in Toronto and what I'm told the final tab was about 110k, when both husband and wife had six figures in student debt each. They were separated in 4 months and their divorce became finalized 2 years to the day. My buddy got married at the ritz carleton in New Orleans, again, like a 75k wedding I'm told, prices only kept down because not that many people came. I don't even think they broke 4 months before they separated, and they're divorced now too. cheap weddings are where it's at man.
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Nov 19, 2017 23:22
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Weddings used be informal affairs until the wedding industry hyped the while you must have a 30K plus wedding mindset.
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Nov 19, 2017 23:27
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etalian posted:Weddings used be informal affairs until the wedding industry hyped the while you must have a 30K plus wedding mindset. Bridezillas is a fun show to watch from time to time.
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Nov 19, 2017 23:36
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StupidSexyVaultGuy posted:Bridezillas is a fun show to watch from time to time. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qmGCD1uCh-g
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Nov 19, 2017 23:37
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My wife's folks are divorced and very estranged (from each other), and my folks and most family are in a religious cult. ...Mostly to avoid obligating these people to show up, we flew to Vegas and eloped. Called everyone after which was also fun. My mom didn't like it, but it's their own fault. I can't fault big weddings if you can afford them. My cousin has had four, and they were all great fun! 
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Nov 19, 2017 23:45
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Catastrophe posted:We have a donut shop here in Portland that offers a series of different wedding events: Is that the place that used to have the NyQuil filled Jelly donut?
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Nov 20, 2017 00:17
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My parents are giving us $25k to do with as we choose in exchange for my dad being allowed to invite his friends (which like, cool, they're all nice people and one of them is in the same champion brewing club as he's in so we're getting awesome custom wedding beer) and a mandatory open bar (again, not an issue). Anything not spent is ours for the honeymoon or whatever. Our guest list is approaching 200 people and even with alumni discount + December discount to get married at my Alma Mater I feel like we're going to come close  My fiance (also a goon  ) originally wanted to get married in Ireland but holy poo poo the logistics of that and the cost is a loving nightmare.Nooner posted:I got married yesterday (: You both look super happy, congrats! 
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Nov 20, 2017 00:50
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congrats Nooner! Every wedding I've ever been to, the couple is still married. What I'm saying is, invite me to your wedding to ensure the safety of your marriage.
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Nov 20, 2017 02:56
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Bob NewSCART posted:How did your wife invite 444 people lmao Her dad is extremely well connected in their hometown so maybe 50 were actual blood relatives and everyone else were people who owed various tiers of favors to her family. We made an absolute killing on wedding gifts.
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Nov 20, 2017 04:12
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Aww congrats Nooner! :, ) I have been to one fancy expensive wedding and one not fancy not expensive reception and the food was really good at the fancy one but both were fun, none of my friends are probably getting married and i am unloved too and have like none family so this is likely all my experience with weddings ever. The poster with the cat cake rain wedding riding home with trucker sounds awful but is hilarious and I am happy to have read it, thank you for sharing.
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Nov 20, 2017 04:22
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Barudak posted:Her dad is extremely well connected in their hometown so maybe 50 were actual blood relatives and everyone else were people who owed various tiers of favors to her family.  But with my fathers people.I remember being too drunk to gently caress so we decided to open up some of the cards. I was sitting at the table of our honeymoon suite and read a couple of the cards with the check amounts and I only got to 2 or 3 before my wife, lying on the bed started getting pissed at me because she thought that I was loving with her.
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Nov 20, 2017 04:50
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Grats to Nooner on being married. What a champ
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There's this assumption that there is a correlation between how much was spent in a wedding and how likely the couple is to get divorced. But I think it's just confirmation bias. When we see a huge tacky wedding and later find out the marriage didn't work, it is really easy to jump to the assumption that it was not surprising. Then people apply the opposite logic and figure that couple that is super frugal and pragmatic is going to have a solid marriage in contrast. But there's so many outliers. The people with the big tacky wedding probably would've gotten divorced anyway, which means the money spent on the wedding didn't really have much to do with it in the end. And similarly there are plenty of cheap (ie shotgun) weddings that don't work out, but people often don't attribute the cost toward the success of the wedding in that case.
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