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A good and needed thread in a dead and dying website I will be reading and posting
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It's really nice to find trans folks who are insanely good at your field of industry, like Martine Rothblatt or Fran Blanche or Rebecca Heineman Being hardware means there's not eleven million job opportunities like software but it's still nice
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Dec 5, 2017 08:07
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yeah i'm another cis dude and when a 9 year old girl politely asked me not to call her dude I complied, if you're such a goon you want to die on that hill you should reconsider
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Dec 10, 2017 06:19
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Hi folks, I'm dealing with some poo poo, and I just left the american south where there were no resources. How do you know if you have dysphoria or not? I'm pretty sure i'm bi, but i'm not sure if porn has wrecked my brain, or if i just like Incase's smut way too much, or if I've just got a CD thing, or if I'm actually desiring brand new body parts and neurochemicals. This hasn't been an issue until recently because i just left a very traumatic household not a month ago. So giving myself sometime to let the dust settle is super important! But talking to folks who have processed this as well is kind of nice.
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Jan 16, 2018 00:48
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y'all are really nice! I'm going to therapy (did you know that if you feel sad it's not always your fault? Interpersonal events can affect you!) and I talked with some family friends and kind of remembered how to process things healthily and normally. I definitely have a bunch of different levels to process and I"m going to sort through them at my leisure. No nee to rush stuff!
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Jan 16, 2018 02:59
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i'm already seeing one because everytime I tried to have sex with someone I started having panic attacks! I attribute that to living in a house full of violent drug abusers and living in a new city and having a new job and Seasonal Depression. I'm absolutely not gonna rush anything, because I remembered how much of a can-do go getter I am, but heck, thought it couldn't hurt to check with people online! I like my therapist a lot and I trust her a bunch. She doesn't laugh at everything I say which is good because I'm here to get fixed, I'm not pagalicci.
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Jan 16, 2018 03:30
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as someone in another thread who is used to fishmech being wrong all the time, seeing them post here and not being an rear end is like realizing bowser and mario are in a play
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Jan 17, 2018 05:02
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Actually googling toxic masculinity led me to realize that while having tunnel vision about work is cool, i am suffering in all other respects. Sure I can pretend I'm john wick while doing cool things on the clock, but i haven't talked to a single human being irl or online since leaving the office. That is bad! I've realized the inherent danger of this in a lesser form the other week and bought myself a model car kit, just so i'd have something short term to focus on. I like to garden and exercise and this winter hasn't been conducive for that. this is my first time north of the Mason-Dixon line and the lack of sun is tough. Taking lots of vitamin D! I've got a real great therapist, i've been seeing her for a few months now. But I got to get out more. Something along the lines of taking sure footed steps to being a normal human. The boy scout in me knows that 3 square meals, plenty of sleep, human interaction, and physical activity will go leagues for my well being. I signed up for pro wrestling classes? I'll see if I like em. Stressing out about work (while fun!) has def been affecting my well being and my relationships and my sexual health! I have hustled from the dirt of the southland to a nice enough position in the north and while I'm glad to be here I miss the authentic friendships and connections of doing dumb poo poo down in the carolinas. I didn't realize that a constant unyielding focus at work was going to gently caress me up so bad. I need to be softer. That's important. Softer doesn't mean sleeping in on a weekday, it means structural improvements and allowances for myself so I don't feel welded in all the time. I realize this isn't really queer talk as much as it is 'holy poo poo i've been quietly murdering myself for the past three months' talk, but I think I'm getting better just writing this out!
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Jan 18, 2018 06:42
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I have hopes! I'm just on contract work for a startup, so my employment is a little like gromit laying railroad tracks while surfing a model train. We're getting funding and while it's for the military it's not for bombing brown kids and there's no ethical way to make a living anymore. I think I have hopes. I don't have any long term plans besides 'get more money buy a house follow my folk's good financial choices'. I don't really have any ambitions beyond that. I know I'm not dead inside. I really got to have things to do besides video games though. Writing this out in a public space really helped me realize that it's me who's doing this to myself. I'm making myself feel miserable. I sound like a shut in but I hope once spring rolls around I'll feel like a new human.
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Jan 18, 2018 14:50
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I've noticed my existential crises map pretty 1:1 with stressful days or lovely meals, so that's kind of nice. I can't discount everything, but I can be pretty sure it's just me being anxious. I've been mulling over what makes me most comfortable right now and I think I'm going to convert the relationships I'm in into platonics or ones where you can make out but it's NBD. I can smell the desperation on me. Desperate for what? I dunno. I need a while to crave sex again, because I'm just craving handholding and cuddling. I've survived some poo poo and while I'm not sure if I am turned off from sex, I just like the idea of affection way more. I mean, the whole sweaty part is great but if I'm freaking out every time I go to bat I got to reconcile. I'm looking at it as a personal growth thing and not a hopeless void though!
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Jan 23, 2018 06:48
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I found a way to regulate my effort at work and not feel like death! Diminishing returns are a bitch. Headphones are a lifesaver. I know this isn't strictly queer stuff but I'm definitely in a fogbank of long term brain problems and I'm trying to get on that. I still believe in myself and I've had to deal with losing my debit card, my phone, and getting my car towed within 24 hours and the fact that i'm not only still standing but feeling pretty good is loving astonishing. I go to therapy tomorrow, and I've got a date tomorrow! One thing I realized is that I don't really get angry or stand up for myself or have fierce boundaries. I'm really good at being aggressively flexible and accommodating, and that leads to letting myself getting stressed out about other people when I could just go 'yo what the gently caress' instead. I'm going to be mindful of that. Not like switch flip bring out the knife , but realize that people can be lame and don't let that affect me personally. I fell into japanese genderfuck crossdresser twitter and I'm wondering if there's a way to rock that without sort of surrendering your agency in sex? I'm know my knowledge of sexuality is just a hastily assembled patchwork of concepts but I've never trusted a partner to want to express my femininity or interpretation thereof. Especially because a lot of that for cis dudes is wrapped in fetishization of really stupid bullshit like sissies or traps. I just want to be soft without fear? My whole look is goldblumian 80'snerd chic and getting into this realm where I want to look hot is really scary and exciting (I'm thinking about getting my ears pierced and getting some kind of dangly bullshit! And dying my hair some light pastel color! And a computer nerd tattoo! And maybe getting waxed down there!). My other siblings have both deviated from the course of straight cis dude, so I feel like if I pull anything major it'll be a wachowski hat trick from my parents. Please stop me if my writing is trivial or bullshit or whiny. PS how Do I start looking hot regardless of how I identify
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Jan 25, 2018 05:50
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Ian mcshane somehow shines in that mst3k codename diamondhead episode
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Aug 1, 2018 15:26
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I made a blazer out of hawaiian shirts, patchwork style. It looks like hell and it's impossible to match with anything but my partner's Hermes shirts and slacks.
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Aug 13, 2018 03:53
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Y'all, I wanna call myself androgynous but I'm not androgynous all the time. I'm writing this post to state that it's fine bc I wear dangly earrings and i suck a mean dick. I also listen to dad rock and wear jorts. Warmest regards, krakox.
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Aug 13, 2018 20:26
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Haha that poo poo is pleated, hard pass. I wanna wear fishnets and talk about Batman beyond suffering in quality during season 2 while drinking cucumber lime Gatorade while giving someone a handy
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Aug 13, 2018 22:50
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i have learned from tinder that straight culture is the office
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