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Just to let those who are concerned know, things have calmed down. Obviously there are mental health issues that will take time and therapy to handle, but for the moment things are better than they were when the OP was posted. codenameFANGIO posted:would reconsider this btw But have you seen his book reviews?
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Dec 4, 2018 13:40
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GlassLotus posted:Just to let those who are concerned know, things have calmed down. Obviously there are mental health issues that will take time and therapy to handle, but for the moment things are better than they were when the OP was posted. Good to hear, please remember to pet cat.
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Dec 4, 2018 13:45
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Sincerely hope everything works out for you Turt. I don't know you all that well and I know SA is home to a lot of ironic shitposting these days but please get the help you need instead of doing something drastic. Seriously, I have private messages on, if you want someone to play games with or shoot the poo poo with feel free to contact me. Good luck to you and GlassLotus
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Dec 4, 2018 13:52
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if you're not going on the trip can I get the plane tickets to Holland
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Dec 4, 2018 13:57
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Hey OP, keep yourself alive.
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Dec 4, 2018 14:01
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Hey Turtlicious, what's up? I contacted your fiancee to clear things up because sadly you don't have plat. I remember your e/n thread where you were asking about mental help and that you lived in a foreign country which made it difficult to contact somebody speaking your language. Do I remember right? I tried to give you some useful tips back then, did you manage to find help? What country are you currently in? Is this trip organized as something legit that would give you the help you need and is it supervised by somebody? Please elaborate on what your plans exactly are. You don't have to name-drop, just outline what steps you're taking and how getting rid of expensive gaming possessions and a cat is supposed to help you. I will be honest and say that your OP is very pessimistic and makes me worried about you. Getting help may sound difficult when all seems hopeless but bpd is known for having its depressive states. They're temporary, the'll go away and you can find help in the meantime. People already posted the suicide hotline and if you're feeling like that then please give them a call - it dosn't bind you to anything, you can just losten to them and they can get you immediate help. Do it even if what you're going through doesn't sound like a big deal - they'll be able to direct you to the right places. Are you officially diagnosed and are you on proper medication? Many people manage their borderline personality disorder with the right meds and DBT as well as MBT types of psychotherapy have been proven to be effective methods. Please give yourself a chance at dealing with this. Also don't be ashamed of reaching out to people like your fiancee - they can be a great support and they do care about you, not all the love that you find in life is an illusion. If you don't want to talk about any of this here then say so and we can find a way of gettting in touch in private.
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Dec 4, 2018 14:09
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Ah GlassLotus posted when I was writing this up. Good to hear that the situation is better. I really hope you'll get the right help Turtlicious. I sincerely wish you all the best and have only empathy for your situation.
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Dec 4, 2018 14:17
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Glass lotus tell your fiance to play video games with me.
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Dec 4, 2018 14:18
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Please stay safe, Turtlicious and GlassLotus.
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Dec 4, 2018 14:56
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Keep your precious memories, OP. We will play mmo with you.
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Dec 4, 2018 14:58
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please keep your fun items to continue to enjoy when your brain is feeling more normal
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Dec 4, 2018 15:06
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OP please go see someone
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Hey man, I know what it's like with the messed up brain bits and how it can make life... just a neverending kick in the dick. I empathize with a lot about what you're saying about how the forums helped you out in your formative years, I've met a lot of great people on here myself. People who believed in me even when I couldn't believe in myself. Hasn't always been sunshine and roses, but I've found myself lucky enough to call a lot of goons my friends, even if we don't interact on the forums proper much. When I'm feeling low, hanging on by a thread, they are there for me. Through the dark times and the good ones. I can't pretend to know what's going on with you, but I just want you to know that I'm rooting for you, even if we've never really met.
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Dec 4, 2018 16:24
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Palpek posted:Ah GlassLotus posted when I was writing this up. Good to hear that the situation is better. I really hope you'll get the right help Turtlicious. I sincerely wish you all the best and have only empathy for your situation. Antivehicular posted:Please stay safe, Turtlicious and GlassLotus. Nyaa posted:Keep your precious memories, OP. We will play mmo with you. Frog Act posted:please keep your fun items to continue to enjoy when your brain is feeling more normal Over There posted:OP please go see someone Buncha good posts here  OP keep your (fiancée's?) catte and your stuff too, and I hope you feel better and more centered soon. 
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Dec 4, 2018 16:35
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Keep all cattes. Seriously, even if you are gone for quite a while, having something to come back to that is also always happy to see you is a pretty big comfort. Most universities recommend grad students get a pet for emotional support. Plus look at that guy, he's just so fluffy.
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Dec 4, 2018 17:42
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GlassLotus posted:So uh, I'm with him presently and talking with him (I'm his fiancee). Thank you all for your concern. i'll take the cat also that 3ds is a piece of history and belongs in a museum
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Dec 4, 2018 18:21
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You should absolutely auction that DS off in SA-Mart, if you do ever decide to get rid of it.
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Dec 4, 2018 18:28
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I hope everything turns out ok, you two. Also, I want to say that this thread title might want to be changed, but at the same time, it's probably getting a lot of traffic, which after reading the whole thing, is good.
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Dec 4, 2018 18:57
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Keep everything, Turt, and come play with us when Smash comes out.
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Dec 4, 2018 19:06
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Turtlicious posted:no-one wants to play with a weirdo whose over-sharing 1/2 the time and screaming the other 1/2. I actually like this idea, can there be a gaming group for goons who overshare? I'd join in a heartbeat.
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Dec 4, 2018 19:29
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So would I. Normie gaming groups can be so restricting.
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Dec 4, 2018 19:44
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It would be cool if people organized a Steam group for 'oversharing gamers' here. Somebody create one and post a link here so that people who have this kind of need may take part.
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Dec 4, 2018 21:00
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isnt that partially what the genchat thread is in here also anyways
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Palpek posted:It would be cool if people organized a Steam group for 'oversharing gamers' here. Somebody create one and post a link here so that people who have this kind of need may take part. I thought this was a good idea and making a group is free so... https://steamcommunity.com/groups/Oversharinggoons Sup y'all. Any feedback?
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Darkoni posted:I thought this was a good idea and making a group is free so...
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Dec 4, 2018 22:05
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im better now, I'm calling my therapist's office to set up an appointment. I'm sorry, I just wanted to do something nice before I go. I didn't mean to turn this into a whole thing, I've just been so lonely and trying so hard to connect with people but it's so hard being around me when I'm in a mood, and I didn't realize that until like 2 months ago. I went back to a bunch of different gaming groups and some new ones trying to find a place to fit in and I couldn't, so I thought if I did something big and showy. I would feel better, and I always had this idea but I've never had the funds to do it, because it's so hard to keep a job when you're constantly paranoid everyone around you is trying to get you fired. Everyone on this site is really nice, Winter is hard for me but especially December. I just want a Mom, a Dad, and to not feel lonely anymore. I didn't mean to cause so much trouble.
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Dec 4, 2018 22:42
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Hey, we've all been there. Just need to keep fighting the good fight. One day we'll all get to where we want to be, I'm confident in that. Go easy on yourself, it's a marathon not a sprint.
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Dec 4, 2018 22:49
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Asking to be social with people is not being troublesome. Most people need that sort of thing, and hopefully this new gathering of like minded goons will work out better for you.
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Dec 4, 2018 22:50
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Socializing and physical contact and stuff are all things that humans need to survive. on par with food and oxygen. Don't ever be ashamed of reaching out <3
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Dec 4, 2018 22:56
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Hey man, no problem, you didn't cause any trouble, you just made us worry. A grand gesture like that may be interpreted in various ways even if you only wanted to do something to make yourself feel better. Get back to therapy even if it sometimes hurts and disarms your coping mechanisms when healthy ones take time to build, meet a specialist about meds if you have an actual bpd diagnosis. Join the Steam group linked above to game with people that want to talk about their problems and listen to yours.
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Dec 4, 2018 23:10
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I got banned in two forum (by lovely gms) before i found SA. It seem strict and pressuring at first, but it’s quite easy to find a subforum/group that i can stay and do our thing. There’s this natural bond that i feel i can trust other goons here just because they at least know how to use a credit card (except cesspit or whatever subforum). It’s so easy to join in a goon squad in mmo and become part of them especially if they have discord to start talking about the game with them. Goon at other help thread also do things for free out of
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I'm really glad that this thread has had a good ending. I was genuinely worried last night, and I've sent out a request to join Oversharing Goons after realising that I need a bit of support at the moment too, and would like to be there for others.  e: My profile is set to always appear logged off but I still get Steam chat stuff anyway!
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Dec 4, 2018 23:12
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if you really want to make it up to us I will take the Switch please
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Enola Gay-For-Pay posted:You should absolutely auction that DS off in SA-Mart, if you do ever decide to get rid of it. It's like a part of SA Games lore now. It was a fantastic thread side trip, and escapades like that are what I love about SA. In all seriousness though, glad to hear you are getting help Turt. Turtlicious posted:no-one wants to play with a weirdo whose over-sharing 1/2 the time and screaming the other 1/2. Uh, that's like all I want to hear in games. I share jokes and funny stories about my kids/life (keeping it anonymous, I'm no dummy) when playing Overwatch. It's a blast. I blew some minds last night when I made my team aware of sweet heat Skittles. So if you ever want to hear about random poo poo like that and my occasional warning of a flanking Reaper, hit me up.
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I applied to the group. Let us brain worms together and find some games we all can enjoy.
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Dec 4, 2018 23:44
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Turtlicious posted:im better now, I'm calling my therapist's office to set up an appointment. It's completely okay. None of us can bear the weight of the world alone, that's why we have to help each other, pick each other up when we fall. I'm just glad that we made it through that rough patch and you're getting the help you need. Nooo, I didn't just recently finish Nier: Automata ending E, and I certainly didn't cry when other players came to help me out and gladly delete my save file to help someone else, why would you think that? ... okay so I did, but using experiences like that to help put your feelings into words is one of the reasons fiction is so powerful. Keiya fucked around with this message at 00:05 on Dec 5, 2018 |
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Dec 5, 2018 00:02
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I'd also suggest that people in the Steam Group create a Discord channel so that you can chat live when you're not playing together and when not everybody has the same games and to coordinate for other platforms than Steam.
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Turtlicious posted:I'm sorry, I just wanted to do something nice before I go, you arent going anywhere bitch I have a history of sadbrains and even though its well managed with meds & therapy, the transition into winter hits me each time. Not as hard as it used to, because of said meds and cognitive behavioral therapy, but the "battle" is much less difficult and just something I work through pretty easily now. Depression is really awful because yeah it takes a while to actually *realize* you're in a fog and not acting normally. also mega important: unfortunately therapists aren't always a one size fits all thing. It's common to "shop around" and find someone you can click with better. dont be upset if it doesn't work out. they totally understand and will likely have other therapist-friends who they can refer you to. and remember, a therapist is not supposed to be judgemental, guilt you about things, or pressure you into doing things you don't want to do. There are rare incidents of therapists that needed to have their license revoked eons ago, but they aren't common. Should you roll the dice and get a dud, absolutely do not give up. anyways good luck goon.
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Hey dude, I hope you feel better soon. You have a loving partner at the very least. Do your future inlaws ever help you out? They could be your mom and dad. As someone who suffers from depression, I'm proud of you for keeping your head up thus far. It's okay to want give up sometimes. Just don't hurt yourself. 
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