More of a question for op if he's still around or for other people here. How did you find out/learn/get diagnosed? Was there a doctor? Did you just kind of figure it out? I'm on the spectrum, but I didn't realize it until a couple years ago when I got a therapist. She asked me after our first session if I was autistic, and I was like wtf. So I talked to my wife and she said yeah of course. That was news to me. I always just thought that I was just different than everyone else, or I just didn't put as much worth on social aspects and stuff. Funny part is I had read about masking and knew what it was, I just thought to myself 'well yeah but when I'm trying to fit in by understanding what others are thinking all the time, that's just normal, everyone does that' Really helped me understand a lot of my interactions with other people. Anyways the reason I'm thinking about this more lately is that my mom was in the hospital(dying) in November so I drove down to see her for the first time in about a decade and we were talking about my diagnosis and she says, "oh yeah Dr So-And-So(our family doc) thought you might have been autistic since you didn't start talking until super late, but I knew you were just special and I thought that a label like that would hurt you, so I never got you tested!"
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# ¿ Feb 11, 2022 03:14 |
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# ¿ May 21, 2024 15:10 |
Organza Quiz posted:Wtf who doesn't tell their kid and important fact like that about them. An abusive parent lmao there's a reason I hadn't talked to her for a decade
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# ¿ Feb 11, 2022 05:55 |
SetsunaMeioh posted:
Pretty much this. Also I only got my current job specifically because they were hiring ND people so there's that
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# ¿ Jul 3, 2022 16:53 |
girl dick energy posted:Actually, I do have a question. Usually, when someone says I don't 'seem autistic', it feels like both a victory and a defeat. A victory because I'm getting a good grade in Acting Neurotypical, but a defeat because it's always with this undercurrent of 'you don't match my stereotype of autistic people, maybe you're not actually autistic'. It's very frustrating. i just ask if they want me to do 'an autism' for them
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# ¿ Jul 15, 2022 02:03 |
Violet_Sky posted:I barely have any food sensitivities either. Now clothing on the other hand... I have like thirty shirts but I only wear four because the others feel bad
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# ¿ Aug 1, 2022 04:14 |
Fwiw the autistic community as well as researchers are pretty understanding of self diagnosis https://depts.washington.edu/uwautism/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/Self-Diagnosed-Adult-Autism-Resources-handout-04.05.21.pdf
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# ¿ Aug 4, 2022 02:52 |
I mean yeah the word excuse is very negative. Sounds like they think autistic people just have an easier life, which is laughable
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# ¿ Aug 6, 2022 15:54 |
Culex posted:I think I might be autistic and it's messing with me. I didn't know symptomatically that adult women show it very differently from the old descriptions when I was growing up. It helped me to take this before I went but it sounds similar to what she's going to do. https://embrace-autism.com/raads-r/
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# ¿ Aug 11, 2022 13:50 |
Culex posted:Thank you! Yeah I scored a 203, my nt wife 63 and my dad 50
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# ¿ Aug 12, 2022 02:12 |
This post got me to thinking. https://www.reddit.com/r/autism/comments/wp09ls/why_is_there_an_increased_rate_of_autism I feel like the entire comments are just full of people saying it's all diagnosis, but I don't think that's really the whole story? My uncle has been teaching since 1985 (retired in 18) and we talked about autism earlier this year after I came to terms with my diagnosis. He says that there's a lot more problems in general now, not just people being diagnosed, which tracks with what I would assume. We all live near a bunch of pollutants, tons of stuff we assumed was safe for years causes cancer or hormonal issues, etc. What do you think of this?
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# ¿ Aug 15, 2022 17:53 |
Bobby Deluxe posted:. That wasn't him, nor was it anything him and I talked about. We didn't discuss causes, just the increased incidence he observed. The causes thing was something me, an autistic person, has been thinking about on my own. And no one said anything about cure.
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# ¿ Aug 17, 2022 08:28 |
Cloacamazing! posted:It'd be pretty cool if there was medication to support your ways of coping with things. If I could take a pill before a get-together that would help me filter all those noises, actually follow the conversation and not get tired after a short while from the effort, that would be a huge help and significantly improve my social life and overall stress levels. I mean, nowadays it is acceptable a lot of the time. The thing is, I don't WANT to get massively overwhelmed because I hear a kid scream once or twice. I would like to be able to function normally in public without being a wreck later.
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# ¿ Aug 18, 2022 07:16 |
I've always just said good and moved on
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# ¿ Aug 29, 2022 04:02 |
e.pilot posted:given my job I’m glad I’ve never had any mental health diagnoses beyond depression, and even having that in my medical history made getting a medical clearance a chore Self diagnosis is pretty accepted in the community. If you read books or essays written by autistic people and say 'wow this sounds like me' well.
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# ¿ Aug 30, 2022 03:01 |
Lol the psych I saw for my adhd diagnosis thinks I don't have autism because 'you understand why people do what they do in social situations' Yeah I spent 28 loving years studying other people trying to figure out why I didn't fit in, and by the time I got to college I found pretend to be normal! And then it took me 6 years to get my degree because like every third semester I would have a breakdown, drop all my classes and not leave my dorm for a month. Also I did really well and maintained focus on all the testing they did, which is because they're new and like a game and I play a ton of games Whatever, I think she is maybe just not that good at her job. Apparently I made a normal amount of eye contact, which is looking at her for one second precisely every ten seconds that we talk, which I learned early on was about how often I needed to look at an authority figure to make them think j was paying attention. Maybe I should tell her some of this but then again I'll never see her again so it'd be on the phone.
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# ¿ Sep 1, 2022 06:46 |
Shibawanko posted:i mostly really dislike it when i see another person think in logical extremes all the time because thats the symptom i try to fight the most in myself. i have a friend with autism who will just drag politics into every conversation and i kind of resent him for how unaware he seems of how he kills the mood with yet another rant about capitalism or whatever Autistic people are (usually) more morally consistent and labeling that a symptom is buying into allistic=good imo
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# ¿ Sep 2, 2022 03:14 |
Shibawanko posted:black and white thinking is a symptom though. and constant ranting about stuff that, even if not untrue, is either already obvious or not in anyone's power to change, isn't what i'd call good behavior Having consistent morals is a symptom in the same way you could say bending rules for your own benefit is a symptom of being allistic. If that makes sense. There's some specific studies that pertain to this that I'll try to remember and dig up before work tomorrow Regardless 'good behavior' is another thing that's dictated by NT people. Lol if making someone uncomfortable by pointing out a problem or hypocrisy is a symptom. The word, symptom, itself has negative connotations ime
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# ¿ Sep 2, 2022 03:31 |
Shibawanko posted:if you do it all the time compulsively, to people who already know everything you're about to say, it's definitely a symptom OK
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# ¿ Sep 2, 2022 03:43 |
For one, dismissing something a person is doing as a symptom takes away their agency... Because it's not like someone other disease where you have a list of physical symptoms. It's part of your individual brain. It's a symptom based on what, the allistic people who have defined what 'normal' is and anything deviating away from that is bad? Seems a lot easier to dismiss someone when you think of their actions and words as a symptom rather than something they consciously do. Autism commonly has specific effects but it's an individual disease and instead of symptoms, it's their personality. Idk if any of this makes sense, I already took some sleeping meds and am very semi conscious
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# ¿ Sep 2, 2022 04:01 |
RPATDO_LAMD posted:autistic symptoms and autistic traits are the same thing The words you use isn't just fluff. Personality trait vs personality symptom. Like just say those two phrases lmao.
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# ¿ Sep 2, 2022 05:52 |
Yeah my writing is sometimes so bad that I can't read it at all. generally my wife can make sense of it though lol. But I've tried and can't write any better. organburner posted:I was constantly in trouble in school for my bad penmanship and despite trying so loving hard to remedy it I just... I can't. My hand just starts cramping up after a little bit of writing. my hand cramps the gently caress up too
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# ¿ Sep 12, 2022 14:59 |
skooma512 posted:Came from the ADD thread. I'm engaged to literally an autism therapy person, so I'm likely not on the spectrum in any way that matters. You should read the intro chapters of the book Journal of Best Practices
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# ¿ Nov 29, 2022 22:53 |
Perestroika posted:Yeah, big same on that. I was on at a convention kinda thing for work a while back, and towards the evening there was an afterparty going on with music for socialising and networking. Everybody else clearly had no problem communicating, as they were all just standing around having regular conversations. But I just absolutely could not make out any words at all unless they were literally shouted into my ear. I had a bartender look me in the eyes, ask me a question, and I heard nothing but noise. This is definitely me
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# ¿ Dec 18, 2022 05:25 |
Stoca Zola posted:Don't panic! Having a name or label for how you've always been is kind of like someone pointing out that you're now breathing - being aware of it doesn't make it bad, but thinking about it can be annoying until you get used to it again. Keep on breathing! Yeah I mean figuring this stuff out helped me a lot. (along with my mom telling me I was recommended for testing as a kid but they didn't because she knew I was just 'special') It makes it easier to understand why I feel the way I do about stuff, how I react in situations that are loud and uncomfortable, etc
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# ¿ Jan 19, 2023 23:05 |
FirstnameLastname posted:im not panicking I'm just like kinda in shock still because i didn't let myself even consider it as a thing for like 20 years. i just decided i wasn't on the autism spectrum and then never reexamined why until recently, and the only reason was because i was a kid and already didn't like having ADHD so I didn't wanna have another thing, then forgot that was my initial justification for denying i had it be aware that your mitigation techniques such as 'making eye contact every 11 words during a conversation' and 'wearing gym shorts and a tshirt every single day but its weather appropriate because you're there in july and not january' may be reasons that they think you aren't autistic
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# ¿ Jan 20, 2023 06:01 |
oh yeah, i was reading like, way past age appropriate books at a very young age bc i just devoured any and everything book related. our middle school would let me go to the high school library once a week (the school was about half a mile away) to check out books starting in 5th? grade i don't read nearly as much now as i used to
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# ¿ Jan 24, 2023 06:17 |
e.pilot posted:same, it makes me sad sometimes I can reread a series but starting a new book or series is hard unless it's exceptional and grabs me right away.
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# ¿ Jan 24, 2023 08:11 |
It's crazy how many health issues I'm uncovering in my late 20s that could have been addressed as a kid but I hated attention so it was easier to just live with stuff and not draw any attention to myself.
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# ¿ Feb 16, 2023 16:30 |
angry emu posted:Long boring post ahead the diagnosis doesn't change who you are, and who you have been. it just gives you a starting point for looking to change, if you even want to
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# ¿ Feb 21, 2023 08:04 |
Just because you don't naturally fit into social structures doesn't mean you have no right to exist. That's a bit extreme.
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# ¿ Feb 26, 2023 04:28 |
I would love to get disability but I am forced to deal with people at work instead
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# ¿ Apr 7, 2023 23:53 |
skeletronics posted:Oh, cool. That's encouraging. Hopefully other companies do something similar. Another worry I have is now I've been out of the game so long my skills have atrophied. I've definitely forgotten most of the things I learned in college. I'm confident I can pick it back up again quickly, just gotta buckle down and do it before I try to interview anywhere. A project to work on would help a lot. I've dabbled in game development a few times, but never finished anything. The market is flooded with them, but I think I'll make a simple Vampire Survivors-like game, I'm not trying to sell it, but it seems like something a single person dev can reasonably finish, and my therapist thinks that finishing something would be good for me. I know Wells Fargo has a neurodiversity program where they hire mostly programmers who fit that category.
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# ¿ Apr 11, 2023 19:03 |
skeletronics posted:Oh yeah, I'm also very anti-capitalist and would very much like to not work for banks, insurance companies, oil companies, etc. I mean me too but I like having food and housing. If you're making it without it though that's good.
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# ¿ Apr 11, 2023 23:53 |
coolusername posted:Wait, is it an autism thing that I can’t stand cringe comedy or jokes based in bad interactions? I don’t just cringe, I find it almost physically painful - even really lighthearted fictional harmless stuff like the bad flirting in Spiderverse I close my eyes and block my ears until it’s over, as discreetly as possible, because it makes me feel sick. Yeah I hate stand up but idk if it's a tism thing or just me. But yeah I have the same visceral reaction of cringing so bad it hurts my soul.
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# ¿ Jun 7, 2023 05:24 |
Bar Ran Dun posted:
I'm 29 but this does make sense lol my lovely rural school probably didn't have anyone capable of making any changes regardless.
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# ¿ Sep 11, 2023 04:00 |
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# ¿ May 21, 2024 15:10 |
Injera posted:I'm sorry you've also gone through that, it is really frustrating to untangle! This has been my experience too. Knowing why my brain is misbehaving makes it way easier to manage myself.
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# ¿ Jan 27, 2024 19:40 |