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Emojis and emoticons before them have always been super useful to me but I tend to stick to the simple ones. I get irrationally irritated with the ambiguous ones especially when people use them a lot. 🤗 bugs me. Is it meant to be offering a hug? Is it holding its hands up in humorous supplication? It feels slightly smug. I hate it. credburn posted:I want to clarify what I said, actually: what I should have said is, I would not change anything, because I am who I am and this isn't as disabling as say, loss of sight would be. I am living a great life. I guess what I mean is... it was luck that got me to this part in my life, and had nothing to do with autism. If there hadn't been some very fortuitous coincidences in my life, I'd probably just be a homeless autistic drug addict who wouldn't ever know why he's different, and while kind of this subjunctive hypothetical hyperbole, there can be a thread that leads from autism to there. This is where I am, really. I am who I am, there are things I like about myself that I think are strongly correlated with my autism, but I'm also very aware that the reason I'm doing ok is a bit of luck and a lot of a good safety net, and a lot of people in my life didn't have that and are doing much worse. If I didn't have that, I would definitely have ended up choosing between staying in an abusive relationship or being homeless at a certain point. I'm extremely ambivalent about the concept of a 'cure' and whether that's even a feasible thing, but I really really wish I'd been diagnosed as a child and had some sort of support and intervention, because trying to figure stuff out on my own was difficult and dangerous. Just feeling able to ask questions about the things I didn't get that everyone else seemed to would have been an enormous help.
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I've not had therapy since being diagnosed (waiting lists  ) but therapists are a grab bag in general. The best I've had in terms of getting on with their style were for CBT but then it's short course and hahaha I'm not learning executive functioning in seven sessions, I'm literally not capable of that. Psychodynamic psychotherapy lasts longer but that seems to be more of the "you lead the session" type thing and like, I can't match my socks most days, I'm absolutely gonna need some help here. I'm hoping for better luck with specialist therapy but that's gonna be a while yet before I get a placement. Mental healthcare in general leaves a lot to be desired tbh, it's definitely not a unique experience.
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underage at the vape shop posted:How do you all handle things like sarcasm or irony? Particularly on forums like Something Awful where text obfuscates a lot of context I have difficulty sometimes with sarcasm in face to face contexts but usually get it over text. Not always, especially if it's aimed at me in an otherwise neutral conversation, because I overcorrect to sincerity if I'm talking sincerely about something myself. Irony is generally much easier. Personally I've got some serious sensory processing issues around speech, but I'm hyperlexic (slow to talk but taught myself to read, which freaked everyone out a bit. had an adult reading age by about 6 or 7, largely because books are so much easier than people. Hyperlexia is more common than you might think with autistic kids.) so I actually find interpreting written language a lot easier than speech anyway. I'm also prone to being sarcastic myself though, so it's not like, an unfamiliar concept for me. And a lot of getting irony and sarcasm is about knowing enough about the wider context to realise the statement is obviously insincere, if that makes sense? Text gives me more room to process, whereas with face to face interactions I'm working so hard to understand them and work out what they're feeling, plus keeping tabs on if I'm loving up, am I making eye contact enough or too much, am I being too loud or too quiet etc. etc. For me, at least, it's exponentially harder to process communication in person because there's so much other data coming in. The absolute worst is phones - I miss even obvious jokes constantly over the phone, because it's all the problems of linguistic processing and realtime interaction with none of the visual feedback I use to navigate. I imagine this differs massively person to person, because processing language through reading and through listening are two different functions handled by different areas of the brain, I think? small ghost fucked around with this message at 20:48 on Nov 19, 2019 |
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