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i live with my father in law who is a recovering alcoholic of 20 years and spent the latter part of his career as a drug and alcohol counsellor. before that he was in the merchant navy and spent most of the 60s and 70s wasted on a boat on whatever he could get his hands on He’s an unusual guy and the addictive behaviour is very evident even without the booze/drugs. for example atm he’s obsessed with buying crystals and drives all over the country to get them. his room is filling up with them, but he’ll get over it in a month or so, sell them all online, then go into something else. he’s the same with furniture, blu rays, coke zero, pictures of old ships, etc he goes to AA meetings 3 times a week and my wife and I can easily tell now when he has skipped a couple cos he gets increasingly crazy and obsessive or dogmatic about things his daughter, my wife’s sister, realised she was an addict, got sober, and started regular AA meetings all before she was 20, which i think is pretty admirable. their family has a culture of AA where they are often looking at things through that lens and in general it’s very healthy. like, whenever there is some drama they just have it all out basically immediately and get it resolved within a couple of days rather than having grudges and bullshit hanging around like lots of fams (like mine) can do for years and years i’ve realised now that my dad was an alcoholic and weedaholic for most of his life and it’s useful for me when i reflect on poo poo that happened when i was growing up i’m not sure i necessarily subscribe to the addiction-as-disease approach but framing it that way definitely seems to have had practical positive outcomes for lots of people, not least my in-laws
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also congrats silvy on your 3 year anniversary plus kicking the weed
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i took a bunch of drugs and booze in the party years 18-23 but my major depressive disorder and comorbid anxiety always made it kind of a mostly unpleasant roller coaster. the booze was ok but jeez stuff like mdma and weed was not good just realising that anxiety was a thing, giving it a name, and realising i wasn’t a shameful fool for feeling a bit of fear rolling into a party or music festival helped a lot in getting that poo poo under control. it put drugs into context and now i have no real desire to take them, despite having had some good times with them - i just know it’s not good for my mental health and isn’t worth it. so, from my perspective, i would say if you feel like whatever substance you are taking is becoming a negative force in your life, examine to some extent whether you are self medicating and whether facing your mental/emotional health issues head on might be a healthier way of getting through personally now i am on 75mcg of venlafaxine and have been for 5 years or so and life is pretty good. there was some level of shame or wounded pride in it for a while but i’ve got past that and realise it’s just the way my poo poo works, and i’ve found something that helps manage it. between that and some mental techniques and a good relationship I’m in a good place now. hopefully i can stay there git apologist fucked around with this message at 00:52 on Mar 14, 2021 |
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Silver Alicorn posted:I think weed is cool but one should partake responsibly, and that means abstaining if it has deleterious effects. yeah same
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