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AITA For being mad at my wife for causing a scene at the restaurant?quote:My wife has long lasting issues with her mother. She hasn't spoken to her in 6 years. To be frank I've never understood why my wife doesn't want her mother around. All I know is their relationship went south after my FIL divorced my MIL. It was a decision they both made so I don't get why she keeps punishing her mother like that. I Was open to have meetings with my MIL. I have been in contact with her for a year and my wife knew. She said It's up to me to want to have a relationship with her mom but I shouldn't try to make her re-establish a relationship with her. Things remained the same for months. My MIL would see my wife few times a week but they don't talk. and I just thought that my wife and MIL were stuck in this conflict and needed one meeting to at least open up to tackle this issue. Especially before our son is born.
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# ? Mar 29, 2024 12:16 |
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# ? May 14, 2024 10:59 |
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Jesus CHRIST you loving moron. Just don't do things specifically counter to what your partner has told you, you howling poo poo
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# ? Mar 29, 2024 12:37 |
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But he doesn't have a mom and by marrying he's supposed to get 2!
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# ? Mar 29, 2024 12:44 |
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Elissimpark posted:Lol, Crown. I feel I've asked this before, but when were you there? A lifetime ago. I did 2 or 3 years there around '04. Coz I am old.
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# ? Mar 29, 2024 12:48 |
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MajorBonnet posted:But he doesn't have a mom and by marrying he's supposed to get 2! No, it's stupider: He likes the mom so his girlfriend should like the mom too, because his opinion is the only correct opinion and as soon as he can get her to think rationally, his girlfriend will understand and come to the same opinion.
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# ? Mar 29, 2024 14:18 |
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Sekenr posted:What I don't get about stories like that is how the apologizing party seems to go to great lenghts to get the other to return but can't help but call them a bitch about making a fuss and being hurt like a a baby. How is that supposed to advance the end goal of getting one to come "home". They don't have a good understanding of other people's thoughts and feelings so they treat them like black boxes that respond to stimuli in a vacuum. So they're just cycling through different approaches in the hope that one of them will get the response they're looking for.
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# ? Mar 29, 2024 15:33 |
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mystes posted:maybe they could have maintained cordial relations in that case Thank you for the hearty guffaw I let out upon reading this, it's been a rough week.
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# ? Mar 29, 2024 15:47 |
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Mx. posted:AITA For being mad at my wife for causing a scene at the restaurant? loving Incredible. Its a good thing she is having a baby with this man.
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# ? Mar 29, 2024 16:10 |
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Bobstar posted:"Please stop following me, I'm running out of parents' houses" You've made me imagine a half-serious movie or show about family connections using this as a framing story. The girlfriend has the drunken 'share his intimate letters' party with her friends, our protagonist (OP) grabs his stuff and heads to his mother's house. We get a view of his mother and their relationship, but then the girlfriend shows up to talk. When she doesn't leave, he goes to his father's house, and we see some of him and his relationship with is father. But she shows up, and again refuses to leave, so he goes to another relative's house, we see some of his relationship with that relative, and again she shows up and the pattern repeats through distant relatives, friends, and neighbors. I don't think something based on a mix of examining family relationships and absurdism would have wide appeal, but I like the idea.
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# ? Mar 29, 2024 16:22 |
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I (43m) accidentally insulted my partner (43f) and she has remained cold ever since. And she wears sweats all the time now.quote:We have been a couple for 7 years. I only now realize we both view her very differently. It's funny enough that this guy doesn't think his partner has any fashion sense because she doesn't wear bright colors. But how can you be with someone for seven years and just not notice the products and time that go into a no-makeup makeup routine? I love the "I really just want her to drop this" part. Sure, guy. Of course you do. Maybe you should have thought about that before you shot your mouth off about how she should forget her own taste and comfort to dress more like your flashier friend.
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# ? Mar 29, 2024 16:58 |
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Mostly meh, but OP gets off a great line AITAH for making my ex’s fiancee cry? quote:I feel like poo poo so I am probably the AH. My (f44) ex (then husband) (m49) cheated on me with his current fiancée (f30). This was 2 years ago. I found out when she contacted me to tell me to leave his house. She was pregnant. I was broken because I thought he loved me. He begged me to work things out. I don’t know why I agreed at first, maybe because I wasn’t catching up with the changes. A couple of months later with lots of couples counseling I realized I wasn’t in love with him anymore. He went back to his gf and they got engaged. I started dating my bf(m40) not long after. Commenters point out the dead bedroom is probably a sign that he's already moved on to his next bit of young stuff.
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# ? Mar 29, 2024 17:03 |
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If he actually said the words he wrote in that post she should leave his rear end, goddamn. "Boring"? "Old"? loving "dumpy"? Those are words to describe someone you hate.
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Sekenr posted:What I don't get about stories like that is how the apologizing party seems to go to great lenghts to get the other to return but can't help but call them a bitch about making a fuss and being hurt like a a baby. How is that supposed to advance the end goal of getting one to come "home". Corzaa posted:They’re trying to admonish them into submission. Got to be clear that the apology in no way meams things will change or it won't happen again
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deety posted:I (43m) accidentally insulted my partner (43f) and she has remained cold ever since. And she wears sweats all the time now. I have to imagine this idiot's apology was along the lines of "I'm sorry, honey, I see now that I should have respected your personal decision to look like a dumpy grandma because that's what's important to you"
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deety posted:I (43m) accidentally insulted my partner (43f) and she has remained cold ever since. And she wears sweats all the time now.
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# ? Mar 29, 2024 17:16 |
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What moron doesn't like a woman in a pair of tight black jeans.
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# ? Mar 29, 2024 17:20 |
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Captain Hygiene posted:I have to imagine this idiot's apology was along the lines of "I'm sorry, honey, I see now that I should have respected your personal decision to look like a dumpy grandma because that's what's important to you" It probably included that bit from the start of the post where he lists all her shortfalls and claims not to care about them despite how weirdly detailed his examples are.
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Captain Hygiene posted:I have to imagine this idiot's apology was along the lines of "I'm sorry, honey, I see now that I should have respected your personal decision to look like a dumpy grandma because that's what's important to you" Luckily, someone did ask how he apologised and he responded: "I told her I was sorry for saying that and I love her and I don't care at all how she dresses. Our conversation wasn't about her at all...it was really just a casual conversation about fashion and color"
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FMguru posted:Mostly meh, but OP gets off a great line mystes fucked around with this message at 17:31 on Mar 29, 2024 |
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Serene Dragon posted:Luckily, someone did ask how he apologised and he responded: OH MY GOD STOP SAYING YOU "DON'T CARE" HOW YOUR WIFE DRESSES drat, this guy. Why the gently caress can't he say something positive about her!?
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Mx. posted:AITA For being mad at my wife for causing a scene at the restaurant? What the gently caress is this guy's problem? It's not his loving place to intervene in their relationship, especially behind her back like this. As someone who's had chronic relationship issues with toxic parents myself, this poo poo makes me angry on her behalf. If I were her I'd dump his loving dumb rear end immediately.
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deety posted:It's funny enough that this guy doesn't think his partner has any fashion sense because she doesn't wear bright colors. But how can you be with someone for seven years and just not notice the products and time that go into a no-makeup makeup routine? It amazes me that someone who knows as little about fashion as this guy would insult* the fashion she chose and claim it's not even fashion when 'simple elegant black' is a a very traditional piece of fashion. I'm mostly oblivious to fashion, and used to be even more oblivious, but I was a teenager (or maybe younger) when I first heard the idea of the 'little black dress' for cocktail parties. *The wording he used when talking about it is insulting, and I expect OP's to shade things to their favor, so what he actually said was probably worse.
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Crocobile posted:Lmao that “taking the next step” is proposing, not like… kissing or cuddling at least. Maybe he's secretly Mormon?
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DangerDongs posted:What moron doesn't like a woman in a pair of tight black jeans. Let he who has not seen The Matrix cast the first incorrect opinion about women's fashion
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deety posted:I (43m) accidentally insulted my partner (43f) and she has remained cold ever since. And she wears sweats all the time now. This fuggin guy. OP posted:To be fair, I wasn't at all aware that she puts effort into looking nice. I'm not trying to be horrible...I'm being honest. I didn't know she CARED because she never appears to try. OP posted:She said she's not going to get over this and she doesn't feel comfortable with someone who views her like "that" (I guess referencing the dumpy comment). I sent her some links showing her what I meant (fashion blogs showing easy ways to elevate style) but she just argued with me. OP posted:I told her I was sorry for saying that and I love her and I don't care at all how she dresses. Our conversation wasn't about her at all...it was really just a casual conversation about fashion and color. OP posted:Because she asked repeatedly what I mean by saying if she cared so much then she should try to look good. She said she DID look good, and it snowballed from there. Someone on Reddit posted:You have the tact of a brick, and the taste of a guy who thinks Hooters is a date destination.
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# ? Mar 29, 2024 18:28 |
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Dudes wife sounds hot.
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# ? Mar 29, 2024 18:30 |
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Mordiceius posted:She said she DID look good This right here should have been the point at which it hit him, full force, but it just bounced off
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Brawnfire posted:This right here should have been the point at which it hit him, full force, but it just bounced off Women should constantly be adapting their looks exclusively to my specific tastes in fashion and beauty. Why is my wife acting cold toward me?
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# ? Mar 29, 2024 18:40 |
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mystes posted:I mean yeah it's not that he doesn't have a sex drive, he's obviously just doing the same thing he did to OP to the new fiancee so it's actually kind of worse than what she said
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deety posted:I (43m) accidentally insulted my partner (43f) and she has remained cold ever since. And she wears sweats all the time now. I only called her an ugly hose beast! Why is she so angry!?
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keep punching joe posted:Dudes wife sounds hot. Bruh
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# ? Mar 29, 2024 19:07 |
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deety posted:I (43m) accidentally insulted my partner (43f) and she has remained cold ever since. And she wears sweats all the time now. Total accident to insult her! Accidents repeatedly happen, what can I say
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killerwhat posted:Total accident to insult her! Accidents repeatedly happen, what can I say Well it was unintentional, how was he supposed to know she cared about her appearance, and valued the attraction of her husband? He's no mind-reader.
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Sekenr posted:What I don't get about stories like that is how the apologizing party seems to go to great lenghts to get the other to return but can't help but call them a bitch about making a fuss and being hurt like a a baby. How is that supposed to advance the end goal of getting one to come "home". "I'm sorry" is literally magic words. Once you say them, the other party HAS to forgive you and everything HAS to go back to normal. What? It didn't work? Ohhh that makes me so MAD! Why are you ruining everything!
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Mordiceius posted:This fuggin guy. Total velvet Elvis man.
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# ? Mar 29, 2024 19:18 |
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Sekenr posted:What I don't get about stories like that is how the apologizing party seems to go to great lenghts to get the other to return but can't help but call them a bitch about making a fuss and being hurt like a a baby. How is that supposed to advance the end goal of getting one to come "home". Idk I mean the handsy stuff is not great but him throwing a giant pouty fit to the point of breaking up over her reading his love letters to her good friends (and them being like “drat, what a catch” lol) is a big ol bitch baby move
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FMguru posted:True. It just always tickles me when a mistress manages to land her man, and then gets blindsided when he starts catting around. If they'll cheat with you, they'll cheat on you. It's funny to read sites, groups, or threads devoted to being "A beloved secret" (to steal the title I remember from one) when people talk about their success stories. The Beloved Secret is always completely blindsided when the partner who was dating or married to someone when they met ends up finding another On a similar note, I don't have quotes and it may not even be around, but I remember a funny forum thread (not here) where someone complained about how shallow and materialistic women were, since they were always posting pictures of expensive outfits and trips on the websites he was on. Later in the thread he casually linked to a couple of profiles to show what he meant, as people clearly weren't understanding him. It turned out that all of the websites he was referencing were 'connect sugar babies with sugar daddies' sites and he somehow didn't want to acknowledge that of course women looking for sugar daddies are going to be materialistic. CannonFodder posted:"I have a good looking partner, but she's a goth and not a barbie girl or flower child, how can I change her ways? Also we are both in our 40s." I'm not sure her look is even goth, to me that usually implies a significant amount of lace and/or leather with the black and obvious makeup (black or dark facial highlights, black nails, and maybe white facepaint at parties and clubs). To me it sounds like she goes for straight black in simple designs that would fit in almost anywhere.
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# ? Mar 29, 2024 19:33 |
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Mx. posted:"You know what's the worst thing about betrayal, it never comes from an enemy."
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# ? Mar 29, 2024 19:33 |
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idiotsavant posted:Idk I mean the handsy stuff is not great but him throwing a giant pouty fit to the point of breaking up over her reading his love letters to her good friends (and them being like “drat, what a catch” lol) is a big ol bitch baby move quote:Her sister made a remark about how she wanted me to do her the way I do her sister because she had never felt that way. This is fuckin creepy and I'd want to get out of there too if someone was doing this and getting their hands all over me.
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idiotsavant posted:Idk I mean the handsy stuff is not great but him throwing a giant pouty fit to the point of breaking up over her reading his love letters to her good friends (and them being like “drat, what a catch” lol) is a big ol bitch baby move Some silly weirdos might consider those deeply personal
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