The destruction of one's home planet is definitely not a joke, and you have no intention of making light of it. And it can be a tough and emotional thing for couples to go through, speaking from personal experience. And you know that it's often much harder on the woman than on the man. However, you also know that it doesn't necessarily turn you into a sad, depressed sack of tears for the rest of your life. People can move past it, and heal.