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My recommendation would be laser first and electrolysis if it doesn’t work (unless you’re required to do electrolysis for something like bottom surgery). From my experience, laser was significantly less painful and was over faster, while electrolysis pretty badly broke me based on the pain. I’m still doing it because of bottom surgery, but it’s truly a torturous process. If you’re not a good candidate for laser (e.g., lighter hair or darker skin), it’s a bit of a different analysis.
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# ¿ Sep 4, 2023 23:45 |
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# ¿ May 21, 2024 18:01 |
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Gender to me is presenting and doing things that seem right to me. I’m a quite binary trans woman, so dressing feminine, being seen and treated as a woman etc. feel correct in a way that never did a single time prior to transition. It’s very much an oh yeah this actually makes sense and is sublimely satisfying with how it clicks. It’s a sort of day-to-day satisfaction that was never there before. But I think gender is something that is truly experienced differently by everyone as a combined product of our identity, social spaces and interactions, etc.
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# ¿ Sep 9, 2023 18:19 |
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BonHair posted:Thanks for trying to take on my dumb question. I am hopefully learning. For #1, it's because I'm not a man. Tried (and failed) at it for years, but it fundamentally isn't who I am. It's not about flaunting gender roles, or patriarchy or anything like that- it was a creeping sense of unease and disgust that started when I was young (~4-5ish?), really amped up in puberty, and only got worse over time. It's not just necessarily an identity thing, but there are likely biological and genetic bases as well (e.g., if one identical twin is trans the other has a significantly higher chance to identify as trans too). I think it's not just this aspect of not identifying as one thing but also my experience of everything clicking into place and the euphoria that came from identifying as a woman and being on the right hormones. That I feel was a very enlightening aspect for me immediately telling me yeah, this is the right path. For #2, there are some important distinctions in terms of risk factors for various diseases and such, but I don't think sex ultimately matters outside of a doctor's office. Dysphoria can frequently take numerous different forms which may be unrelated to physical body/body parts, just as trans individuals can be trans without having gender dysphoria. It's a pretty complicated aspect when it comes to understanding how it works.
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# ¿ Sep 12, 2023 01:06 |
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Cephas posted:I'm researching different surgeons in my area and I have a question for anyone who might have knowledge on the subject of SRS. I would personally find it disqualifying since there's no way for me to actually tell the results that he's promising. Does he have any sort of physical documentation of the surgeries (e.g., a picture book?). This would be extremely old-fashioned but without being able to see the results, I wouldn't go. My surgeon has been extremely open having an online presence, so it was easy for me to see her work and feel I could trust her.
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# ¿ Sep 28, 2023 19:13 |
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Dans Macabre posted:I agree it seems totally weird. So how and when does it come up? Like on the date when you’re thinking you might hook up that evening? Given the risk of violence, I would disclose before meeting in person. I’m not on the dating scene, but reactions people have when they find out you’re trans can be unpredictable.
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# ¿ Feb 28, 2024 23:24 |