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Volmarias posted:Coming at this from the cis hetero white male shitlord point of view. Mainly, it feels Fine? I've spent a little time thinking about this ("huh, this trans thing. I guess I should think about it. Is this my experience in any way? Nope! Being a guy remains pretty much what I expected. Guess I'm good to go!"), and since both Gender and Sex are aligned in me it's a little difficult to disentangle the two. I would say that it Feels Fine? I have my gender specific concerns, and generally follow my societal cues as far as appropriate behavior. Personal concerns about appearance are mainly focused on factors well within my control (fortunately), and gender specific ones are pretty typical to my own. e.g. Should I have this kind of beard? This kind of hair? This style of dressing? Really, why shouldn't I wear cargo pants, the best of all pants?! It's also specific to your actions. Am I comfortable sitting here? Am I in a specifically gendered space, and if so, am I welcome? Should my behavior change to confirm to this space, or to specifically nonconformance? This is a suspiciously well nuanced take from a cis man Anyway, my experience of dysphoria was very strongly focused on my body, and the social aspects of gender kind of... revealed themselves to me later. I'm certainly happier now that the world by and large expects 'woman' things from me in my presentation and behaviour, but the base discomfort which really propelled me towards transition was all about how my body felt wrong. I guess I fit the old-fashioned narrative of 'woman trapped in a man's body.' It's a good thing that this narrative has become less centred, but I often feel like it's become quite disregarded as a thing that is still real and valid
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# ¿ Sep 10, 2023 02:45 |
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# ¿ May 22, 2024 01:41 |
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Absolutely yes, that sounds fascinating
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# ¿ Sep 29, 2023 13:00 |
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HenryJLittlefinger posted:Cishet man trying to learn how to be an ally here. Bless you. This is very sweet. I don't know how or even if you can unequivocally signal something like this to a gender diverse teen to the extent that it would prompt them to come out to you. Coming out is - for most people - the most terrifying thing we ever do, and while we often end up looking back and thinking 'drat, why did I leave it so long, I had {people} I should have known I can count on.' For many, those early sources of support are tremendously valuable, and if it's one family member out of a whole bunch it can be even more so. But even so, during that early phase, it's often very difficult to see outside of our internal questions and fears. I would say that being conspicuously vocal about your allyship is probably the main thing you can do. As well as maybe emphasising that they are welcome any time - just in a generic sense, not being too heavy handed with the 'if you're queer I've got your back' stuff. They'll make the connections.
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# ¿ Oct 20, 2023 10:45 |