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edit: wrong thread terrible snipe
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:01 |
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# ? May 22, 2024 04:06 |
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I am allowed to eat in bed provided I don't spill anything on the sheets. I am not allowed to eat graham crackers in bed (crumbs) but I'm also not allowed to eat graham crackers in general since I once bit my own finger while eating one (I really really like graham crackers)
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:02 |
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Hughlander posted:Maybe check that the extravagant birthday party that she spent all this money on buying a new outfit for new shoes for her milestone 18th birthday is the famed Ethnic restaurant... Olive Garden. Lunch at Olive Garden. Not even paying dinner menu prices.
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:03 |
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coronatae posted:I am allowed to eat in bed provided I don't spill anything on the sheets. I am not allowed to eat graham crackers in bed (crumbs) but I'm also not allowed to eat graham crackers in general since I once bit my own finger while eating one (I really really like graham crackers)
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:04 |
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have you noticed a distinct lack of desire to masterbate? the estate of sylvester graham would like you to complete a survey
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:07 |
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Shanghaied posted:lmao if you're two people in your late 20s and an extra $80 completely breaks your "baby fund," maybe consider not having children, jfc. Like you don't have fewer unexpected expenses once the baby comes along. effervescible posted:Lunch at Olive Garden. Not even paying dinner menu prices.
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:12 |
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Everyone is talking about the $79 dress but ignoring the fact she also destroyed a belt and shoes too. That could add another $40 to the cost! Plus with tax that might be another $10! Bunch of bourgeois assholes in this thread.
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:17 |
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limp_cheese posted:Everyone is talking about the $79 dress but ignoring the fact she also destroyed a belt and shoes too. That could add another $40 to the cost! No, we're talking about "The whole outfit costed $79 total."
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:18 |
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FMguru posted:Two able-bodied working-age people with zero housing costs (well, until now), and they're still crying poor over $79 worth of damage that they deliberately caused. Infuriating. Tbf, they didn't even have gas money: quote:until my mom handed them gas money I cannot emphasise enough how terrible an idea it is to have children in this situation. I guess the plan was just to leech onto mummy and daddy even harder once the baby comes along - "how can you make your grandchild homeless??!!!" In which case, maybe don't act like unhinged assholes?
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:20 |
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OP could have thrifted that poo poo for $3.50 and the SIL would still be an absolute psycho
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:21 |
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boofhead posted:OP could have thrifted that poo poo for $3.50 and the SIL would still be an absolute psycho Nobody's arguing that. It's just such a loving low number for the lovely brother and SIL to decide is unpayable that it makes them EVEN CRAZIER
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:22 |
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coronatae posted:I am allowed to eat in bed provided I don't spill anything on the sheets. I am not allowed to eat graham crackers in bed (crumbs) but I'm also not allowed to eat graham crackers in general since I once bit my own finger while eating one (I really really like graham crackers) Are you a parakeet?
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:23 |
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Shanghaied posted:I cannot emphasise enough how terrible an idea it is to have children in this situation. I guess the plan was just to leech onto mummy and daddy even harder once the baby comes along - "how can you make your grandchild homeless??!!!" In which case, maybe don't act like unhinged assholes? I wouldn't be surprised if the pregnancy came about as a way to keep the freeloading gravy train rolling (for the "how can you make your grandchild homeless??!!!" reason you mention above).
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:26 |
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I honestly feel bad for the pregnant babymama - her brain is absolutely hosed up from neglect and she clearly needs years of therapy. it's hard to describe the level of jealousy one has seeing a kind, good family treat each other well when your own family has been a nightmare and you don't have a good support system. You are happy to see it in your friend's lives but also immensely hurt your life couldn't be that way. There is a small nasty part of you that wants to ruin everyone's fun just like you felt yours was ruined, but obviously you should not - doing that just makes you one step closer to the very people who made you that way. Plus that poo poo ruins relationships, as has been evidenced. The line about how the pregnant gf made it a point to say she didn't get a party at 18 is what catches me. She was clearly comparing this one to hers and finder hers wanting. She knows that OP's family isn't 'wrong' to care - but if giving someone that much attention for their 18th is normal, it means admitting how very hosed up her own life has been and that the root of her jealousy is her sadness at her own familial dysfunction. So instead, it has to be abnormal, wrong, too much attention for an 18 yo, etc. Then she's not jealous and sad, that turns it into how they're the weirdos for making it such a big deal. StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 20:42 on Apr 30, 2024 |
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StrangersInTheNight posted:I honestly feel bad for the pregnant babymama - her brain is absolutely hosed up from neglect and she clearly needs years of therapy. it's hard to describe the level of jealousy one has seeing a kind, good family treat each other well when your own family has been a nightmare and you don't have a good support system. You are happy to see it in your friend's lives but also immensely hurt your life couldn't be that way. There is a small nasty part of you that wants to ruin everyone's fun just like you felt yours was ruined, but obviously you should not - doing that just makes you one step closer to the very people who made you that way. i do get that and i sympathize to an extent and my wife and i just had an interesting talk about this post. TLDR, major trauma family background on my side very somewhat "normal" family on her side. occasionally i have to abstain or take a break because eh.. im not used to it. the idea though that because you missed out on a normal healthy family relationship shouldnt make you want to pass that pain on. you definately shouldnt be raising a child ffs.
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:31 |
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Danger posted:Are you a parakeet? Just until the real keet gets there.
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:31 |
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TehRedWheelbarrow posted:i do get that and i sympathize to an extent and my wife and i just had an interesting talk about this post. TLDR, major trauma family background on my side very somewhat "normal" family on her side. occasionally i have to abstain or take a break because eh.. im not used to it. absolutely, it's really worrisome she's having a kid when she hasn't even touched this stuff bc that poor kids absolutely going to get the brunt of her weird familial traumas, re-enacted and yes seeing normal families sometimes gives me stepford vibes but then I (gently) remind myself that I'm the odd man out there, not them. Nice families all feel like this, which isn't bad, it's just that as an outsider it feels absolutely foreign for everyone to be this even keel, kind, and supportive https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xSNdmSEg_qQ EDIT: Oh man forgot how much I love the VR episode https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1w8rgEZQMvY StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 20:39 on Apr 30, 2024 |
# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:32 |
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Rare sighting of a spite house in an AITA story AITA for not picking a new color for my house even though my son finds the one we have embarrassing? quote:I bought my house 15 years ago. It was a fixer upper and needed a lot of work. The only thing I kept the house is it’s painted bright pink. The guy I bought it from said it was his deceased father’s house. He had painted it this way to piss off his neighbors. I decided I liked the color and kept it the way it was. When I married my wife a year later, she agreed. We now have 3 kids: a 13 year old boy, a 10 year old girl and a 8 year old girl.
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:33 |
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Mordiceius posted:So the wife had a child when she was 15 and then she was 20 when she met op who was 32? Luckily, it seems like they have a good relationship? That age difference still weirds me out though. It's significantly better than what I expected from the first two sentences... quote:My wife (30) and I (42) have two children (15M,2F). I met my wife when she was a student in a trades program I used to teach at. Yeah, there's still a big age difference, but at least they met as adults, got together as adults who weren't in a student/teacher situation and, oh yeah, OP didn't knock up his 15 year old student when he was 27.
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:34 |
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adults who meet as adults but happen to have a large age gap are fine. not all sex has to be on the charmed circle, drat.
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:44 |
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There's garden-variety dead bedrooms, and then there's this: AITAH for getting it elsewhere since my wife didn't want to have sex any more? quote:A few months ago I posted for relationship advice on another sub. Basically my wife has decided unilaterally that we are done having sex. She found out that she cannot have kids due to a choice she made before we met. And kids, apparently, are the only reason she was willing to have sex. There is literally not one thing in this relationship worth saving for OP. Just hand her the divorce papers and go live the rest of your life.
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:48 |
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StrangersInTheNight posted:adults who meet as adults but happen to have a large age gap are fine. not all sex has to be on the charmed circle, drat. While someone who is 20 and someone who is 32 are both adults, in many cases the 20 year old and 32 year old are at very different development stages. According to neuroscience, generally speaking, the brain is still "developing" until around 25. If someone is 25 and another person is 40, I won't think much of it, but when people are under 25 (especially in the 18-21 range) are in large age gap relationships, I get a little skittish. A 20 year old is just a bigger child.
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:50 |
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It's like the reverse version of the stories where people with healthy normal families can't possibly imagine ever just completely cutting a family member out of your life, so they go and try to do a hallmark special by springing them on you one day.
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:53 |
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FMguru posted:There's garden-variety dead bedrooms, and then there's this: What can you do to yourself that is a) a conscious decision b) sterilizes you c) you don't realize B until much later? Horrifying levels of substance abuse?
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:54 |
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Certain STDs, especially if they fly under the radar and are untreated for a while, can cause infertility. ETA: That was my first thought reading it. So I was thinking ESH with the OP leaning into slut shaming. "She chose to have sex, now she can't have babies, and won't even gently caress me. Whore."
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:55 |
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haveblue posted:What can you do to yourself that is a) a conscious decision b) sterilizes you c) you don't realize B until much later? Horrifying levels of substance abuse? Judging by how cagey op is being and refusing to answer that specific question on the thread, I'm guessing She got an abortion and it hosed something up, if it's not completely made up. e:^^^ or that
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 20:57 |
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FMguru posted:Rare sighting of a spite house in an AITA story Look at that guy and his old pink house! Loser! *can't find a one bedroom condo for <$0.5million*
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 21:04 |
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Mordiceius posted:While someone who is 20 and someone who is 32 are both adults, in many cases the 20 year old and 32 year old are at very different development stages. According to neuroscience, generally speaking, the brain is still "developing" until around 25. fun fact: the brain is still developing for your entire life, and the "immature until 25" thing has its roots in a popsci article that was trying to explain why people who were 25 in the year 2009 were still living with their parents "different life stages and levels of experience" is far more valid than popsci neurology when it comes to justifying disapproving of the relationship between two adult strangers
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 21:05 |
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Mordiceius posted:While someone who is 20 and someone who is 32 are both adults, in many cases the 20 year old and 32 year old are at very different development stages. According to neuroscience, generally speaking, the brain is still "developing" until around 25. Nothing happened between them while she was 20, she graduated a few years later and fell out of contact and then reconnected when she was ~26-27. Yeah, she was still young and impressionable when they originally met and I'm sure that influenced her later decisions but I think we all probably have more important places to direct outrage to.
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 21:06 |
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FMguru posted:There's garden-variety dead bedrooms, and then there's this:
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 21:11 |
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the holy poopacy posted:Nothing happened between them while she was 20, she graduated a few years later and fell out of contact and then reconnected when she was ~26-27. Yeah, she was still young and impressionable when they originally met and I'm sure that influenced her later decisions but I think we all probably have more important places to direct outrage to. Oh yeah. My comment you quoted wasn’t about that story but more just about age gaps in general. With that story, I had the initial ick from seeing the ages, but upon reading it, saw it wasn’t an icky situation.
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 21:13 |
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mystes posted:NTA for not being happy with a relationship without sex if OP wants a relationship with sex but YTA for having an affair. Do couples therapy or sex therapy or just divorce but don't stay in the relationship and have an affair and rub it in your wife's face. I mean I personally can’t imagine cheating but she literally told him to in this story.
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 21:14 |
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Mordiceius posted:While someone who is 20 and someone who is 32 are both adults, in many cases the 20 year old and 32 year old are at very different development stages. According to neuroscience, generally speaking, the brain is still "developing" until around 25. While all of that might be true, we also allow 20-year-olds to vote, drive, smoke, drink, sign contracts, and consent to medical procedures. And I'm not sure I would want to see the legal age on all of those things raised. I'm around 20-year-olds all day every day (I'm a teacher), I know first hand that you're not a full adult at 20 ("you had three weeks for the assignment, plan better jfc"). But I don't think it's feasible or desirable to protect them paternalistically until they're 25 or whatever. We should call out problematic age gap relationships when we see them, but like I don't know, sometimes if they say they're happy, you just gotta take their words for it.
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 21:17 |
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mystes posted:NTA for not being happy with a relationship without sex if OP wants a relationship with sex but YTA for having an affair. Do couples therapy or sex therapy or just divorce but don't stay in the relationship and have an affair and rub it in your wife's face.
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 21:17 |
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Halloween Jack posted:He did what he told her to do and refused to sneak around acting ashamed of it. They're both assholes for not divorcing. pretty much.
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 21:18 |
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mystes posted:NTA for not being happy with a relationship without sex if OP wants a relationship with sex but YTA for having an affair. Do couples therapy or sex therapy or just divorce but don't stay in the relationship and have an affair and rub it in your wife's face. Do you ever read any of the posts you reply to? The wife wrote "Go get it elsewhere because you are not getting it from me", and he did so. Sounds like explicit consent to me.
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 21:19 |
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yah but op is a man
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 21:20 |
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Lone Goat posted:Do you ever read any of the posts you reply to? Realistically their relationship was hosed at that point anyway though
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 21:21 |
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if your wife red pens you on a heartfelt letter about relationship crisises im kinda with dude here.
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# ? Apr 30, 2024 21:23 |
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# ? May 22, 2024 04:06 |
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mystes posted:(when we don't even really know what the letter said) Neither did the wife lol, since she scrawled on it without reading it. People should really read things lol.
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