- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
AITA for telling anyone who asks why I don’t bake for our hall anymore?
quote:Edit: I really appreciate the reassurance yall:) I’m currently working and a lot of comments to get through! I don’t hold anything against the kid. I’ll talk to the landlord to give a heads up as many of you have recommended
Hi. I really like baking as a hobby. I don’t believe in food waste but I don’t often want to eat all the stuff I make, the best way I can describe it is that I love to bake but when it comes to eating I’m just like meh. I’m not sure how to describe it.
Anyways I normally give my baked goods to friends and family. The tradition we have started when my brother said he couldn’t come over to pick up a coconut cupcake pan because he’s busy. I didn’t plan for space in my fridge to keep the cupcake and awkwardly left them in the apartment’s common room (with permission from the security guard of course). I left a note saying the cupcakes were free to whoever with my apartment number on it (the security guard said I had to)
That started this semi tradition of me putting whatever extra goods I have on a free table in the lobby area. Others started to do it a little too. It has worked well so far. I like the environment it has created.
Problem came one of the neighbors knocked on my door. She introduced herself, said she’s from another apartment floor and that she, in a visibly upset way, was very unhappy with me leaving unattended food out. One of her kids, allergic to peanuts, had some of my peanut butter brownies. I got very nervous hearing this and apologized. She said it was fine but wanted me to pay part of the cost of getting her child help. I asked if we could talk it out and she agreed. I agreed to pay for the cab she took back and forth to the hospital which I know if getting off easy for what happened. I apologized again and she said all was fine but to please be extra careful.
Since then I don’t leave any food out at all because that situation made me nervous. I know it wasn’t the worst that could’ve happened but still.
My hall neighbor, let’s call her Lily, asked if I was okay, noticing that it’s been a while since I put anything out. I just told her that after what happened with the peanut butter allergy issue I don’t feel comfortable doing that anymore in case something like that happened again.
Now, I didn’t know lily knew who I was talking about just based on saying the allergy issue. Specifically, they knew which kid I was talking about because they saw him take some. I guess lily spread the word around because I got a knock from the lady again and she asked why I told everyone to blame her.
I explained that I did not blame or tell anyone to blame her in anyway. One of our neighbors asked why the tradition died off and I only said because of the allergy incident but I never mentioned specifics like who it was/how they looked etc.
She’s mad and says I did that purposefully and will be speaking to the landlord to make a report. I apologized again and said I swear I did not mean for this to happen but she stormed off. I’m not exactly sure what to do know. I don’t hold anything against her or the kid and I’m pretty mad at lily for this poo poo rn. AITA?
|
#
¿
Apr 3, 2024 02:06
|
|
- Adbot
-
ADBOT LOVES YOU
|
|
|
#
¿
May 21, 2024 10:36
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
I will say I want to believe it's real and also regardless of whether it's real or not I really like the misinterpretation of the double date. (Conversely, if it's fake that is actually quite an ingenious idea to come up with.)
Also makes me wonder how the logistics of that worked. Did she show up and leave with the OP and not the BF? Was there no hand-holding or other show of affection at all? What the hell kind of conversation did they have where no personal situations came up at all, like, "Oh, BF and I saw that movie ..." or whatever?
|
|
#
¿
Apr 3, 2024 02:51
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
Oh, I'm sure there's a perfectly reasonable explanation for this.
My (36M) wife (37F) had her location at another man’s house for 45min after a work gathering at a bar. This happened twice and she omitted going there when discussing the night. Do I confront her that I know?
quote:My wife went out for drinks with work friends who I do not know and when she wasn’t home at 2am I searched her location and found she was at a random house and stayed for at least 45min. She came home at 3am which is highly unusual as she wakes up at 430am daily. I did not confront her as she didn’t know I can see her location. The next month there’s another work gathering at a bar so I stay awake all night and see she ends up at the same house again, for about 45min then comes home close to 330am. She said she had trouble getting an Uber back to her car (though she was actually at this house). Turns out the house belongs to a coworker who was leaving the company and the first night out was his goodbye party. She was despondent when he was leaving and coworkers thought they were having an affair (her words, not mine). It has been tearing me up thinking she could be cheating but she hasn’t gone back to his house since. For background we have been together since High School and have a teenager. Is she likely cheating? Do I confront her and let her know I’ve been following her location?
|
|
#
¿
Apr 3, 2024 06:01
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
Dude's trying hard to channel his inner Pete.
My (M24) girlfriend (F23) are going alone on a two week vacation with single male friend. Is breaking up justified?
quote:My girlfriend is going on a two-week vacation with a single male friend, and I was not, and still am not, invited.
This situation is far beyond my boundaries and expectations from a partner in a relationship. Should I consider breaking up?
The issue began a couple of weeks after we became a couple. She asked if I was okay with her going on vacation with her male friend. At that time, she mentioned it was going to be a week-long trip. Since we had only been together for a month and I didn’t want to come off as controlling, I said, “Okay, I won’t appreciate it, but I can survive a week.”
Then, about two weeks pass, and she informs me they booked the trip for two weeks.
The day after, we talked, and I expressed that I was not comfortable with it at all. Her response was to explain why it was okay and why I shouldn’t worry.
My problem with her response is that she didn’t attempt to find a compromise where we could both be comfortable. She never asked if I wanted to join them, nor did she try to find a different solution.
Additionally, I noticed the hotel they chose only has bathrooms with crystal clear glass doors, as well as see-through shower walls. If you’re in the room while someone is using the toilet or showering, you can see everything.
When I questioned her about their choice to book a hotel with such rooms, she said she hadn’t noticed, nor had her friend.
A few days later, I reiterated my discomfort with her going on a trip with another single male friend for two weeks and sharing a room with a transparent bathroom. I felt she completely disregarded my feelings and boundaries. I also pointed out that she didn’t offer to find a new room, invite me on the trip, or cancel the trip.
(For clarity, I would never actually want her to cancel a trip, but her willingness to consider it would show that she cares about my feelings)
Outside of this, our relationship is great. We feel appreciated and cared for by each other, regularly exchange flowers and gifts, and can have discussions without fighting.
So, I’m torn 50/50 about breaking up or staying.
Should I break up over this trip and her disregard for my feelings, or should I stay and work through it since the relationship is otherwise positive?
I’m having a hard time navigating the stress and anxiety this is situation is causing.
TL;DR: My girlfriend is going on a two-week vacation with a single male friend without inviting me, disregarding my feelings and boundaries, especially concerning the transparency of the hotel’s bathroom. Despite our otherwise great relationship, I’m conflicted about whether her lack of consideration in this instance warrants a breakup.
[Edit]
She have know the guy for about 1.5 years. They are really just friends, and there is no doubt about that. However, they have shared a bed together multiple times before but never done anything intimate. (This is something I really believe since I have asked about it thoroughly)
The hotel is for couples/newly married couples. The rooms is made for two people. Either one double bed, or two single beds. (They have single beds)
Will post the exact hotel in a couple of days when they leave.
They booked the vacation about 1 month into the relationship.
I really appreciate all the feedback you guys are giving me. It’s all very helpful, especially when pointing out my flaws in this, seriously. Sometimes the truth is harsh, but at least it’s the truth and something to learn from❤️
|
|
#
¿
Apr 3, 2024 06:08
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
Clearly the solution is to Shrekify Big John.
Or Big Johnify Shrek.
|
|
#
¿
Apr 4, 2024 04:12
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
Gonna keep my eye on this one. It has the potential for updates involving TREE LAW.
AITA for putting a tree net to stop any fruits from going onto my neighbor’s yard?
quote:Hi. I inherited a house from my dad from his passing a few years ago. His house came with the guava tree on the yard. The tree has been there for a good portion of my teen years and is special to me.
Me and my wife were one day thinking of ways for extra income and realized we could literally sell off the fruit. Got the permit and started to prepare guava in different ways. For reference, I sell the fruit whole, splice and put into cups, candied, etc.
We realized that while the branches weren’t exactly hanging over our neighbor’s lawn, sometimes guava would either fall over or buck against the fence at the right angle and end up over there. So me and my wife purchased a tree fruit net for the side of the tree that was closer to the neighbors yard. Since then I don’t think any fruit fell to their yard which is good.
What led me here today is that last week while my wife was out on the lawn, the neighbors kid approached her and asked what happened to the fruits. My wife explained that we keep the fruits in a net so that we can have more. Apparently the kid ran off and came back with their dad who asked my wife the same thing. She explained again and, from what she said, the father looked like he took it personally. Asked if we thought he was stealing and my wife explained no, we didn’t think that, we just want to maximize the fruit that falls from our tree since we do use it for some profit.
Today the same neighbor knocked on the door and I answered. He asked if we could talk about the fruit tree situation. He said that he thinks it’s selfish how my father would freely let the fruits fall wherever but now that I’m here I’m hoarding the fruit. I explained that the tree is my property so whatever comes from the tree is also my property. I said he could buy guava off us if he wanted but he looked more upset that I would even recommend that. I’m glad his kid liked the fruit but now that I’m making money off this I can’t just let that happen freely. He called me selfish again and that I could at least **spare a few. I said again he could buy some off me if he wanted. I offered a box for $5.
Now everytime we see him around he doesn’t smile at us which I guess is expected but now they let the dog poop on our lawn and keeps telling his kid loudly that the “neighbors killed the fruit fairy”. Some of the neighbors are still cool with us but it’s like we made an enemy from him and I’m feeling slightly guilty for the kid.
Edit: Advised to add this in too. We started the net when we had a medical bill come up and needed to work on paying it off.
I’m being advised to edit this in. The box of fruit was for fruit that was prepped in some way and what I was asked about. My wife was asked for the fruit as a whole. It was when he came to me that he asked about the fruits that were prepared. I thought it was implied because of how the topic differences between me and my wife. I’m putting an ** next to the part I’m talking on . I’m sorry for not making that clear.
Edited original post to add some missing punctuation and to move OP's edits to the end, because they're an extremely lovely and confusing writer.
|
|
#
¿
Apr 4, 2024 08:37
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
That sounds like the worst of both worlds, since having to pay won't really stop the alcoholics, but will inconvenience everyone else.
I bet the OP could make up the $1800 they spent on security on just those 5's bar tab though.
|
|
#
¿
Apr 4, 2024 23:58
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
Is Jeffrey of YOSPOS going to walk through fire and fly through smoke? Will I, as a result, see my enemies on the end of a rope?
Je suis le grand zomb' baby
Troublemaker fucked around with this message at 01:01 on Apr 5, 2024
|
|
#
¿
Apr 5, 2024 00:49
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
AITA for not inviting the neighbors to our daughter’s bday party and then awkwardly kicking them out?
quote:Hi. Yesterday was my daughter’s 8th birthday and we did a princess themed party. The only people invited were family or family friends.
My relationship with my neighbors is meh. We wave if we see them but otherwise we don’t talk to each other or anything really.
During my daughter’s birthday party, held in our yard that is semi-fenced, I started to bring out the cupcakes for the kids. When handing them out I noticed that 2 kids were definitely not invited because they weren’t my nieces/nephews or of a family friend. I then realized they were my neighbors kids. I paused handing out cupcakes to ask why they were here and one of the kids just shrugged and said “my mommy said I could go”. I told them it was inappropriate to just come here. My husband escorted them back to their parents house. All the neighbors houses are decently spaced so it’s not necessarily dangerous but we felt better if someone walked with the kids.
Later on, I think after we did the whole cake cutting, our neighbors approached again. This time it was both parents and the kids. I asked what they were doing and they looked confused, saying they were joining the party. I was a little agitated now and sternly said they were not invited, that this was a birthday party for my daughter and family/family friends were invited. It was awkward as they left and the kids kept whining as they did.
Next day, today, I got a handwritten letter in my mailbox about how I treated the neighbors rudely and it’s expected to share community events. Was I too rude/harsh?
|
|
#
¿
Apr 5, 2024 02:58
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
At that point your free trip is no longer free. Car rental/airfare to Orlando? Probably a hotel in the area, since you're not going to want to put in a full exhausting day at Disney and then drive/fly back to Fort Meyers? The literal hundreds to thousands of dollars for four people to visit the park? Lady is planning an entirely different vacation than what the guy won.
Love that she immediately blabbed to the daughter, too, to make it harder for him to say no. That relationship is going places! (Just probably not to Disney.)
|
|
#
¿
Apr 5, 2024 04:45
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
Good lord, two margaritas and I'm stumbling out of there, by the time I hit four I'd be flat on my rear end.
Many pages back, but wasn't Cujo originally a wrestler or boxer or someone and that's who King's characters named the dog after? Not that anyone on earth would make that connection before thinking of the rabid murder dog.
A friend of mine just started a new job and they want her to send out an introductory email with a photo and her hobbies and poo poo. The thought of that is horrifying, since we know drat well people probably mock the hell out of all the new hires with that stupidity, so we've been having a good time coming up with her profile, like, "My hobbies are hoarding cats and poo poo-talking my coworkers." But maybe the OP with the bi wife could slip that into his meet-n-greet (if it's not too late after 4 weeks already), like, "I'm happily married to my bisexual wife Jezebel," or whatever. But in any other situation where it didn't just come up organically, I can't imagine that being absolutely TMI unwanted oversharing.
|
|
#
¿
Apr 5, 2024 23:14
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
To me it also doesn't make sense that she'd go after the other woman instead of the BF. I'm not a psycho who attacks other people, but I'd think the blame would go to the guy she thinks is cheating on her, not whatever woman he's sitting with.
Does the OP in the comments say why in the hell he's okay with the GF's behavior? I can think of fewer things that'd make me drop my significant other like a hot potato than them screaming and running across a restaurant and physically attacking someone I'm dining with.
|
|
#
¿
Apr 6, 2024 01:15
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
At least OP's dad and brother are siding with the mom on this one. Even stepmom is staying the gently caress out of it. OP should probably get used to losing other relationships in his life if he sticks with Cujo here.
|
|
#
¿
Apr 6, 2024 01:48
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
Anyone have a spare spine? Found someone in need of a donation.
I (36M) think my wife (38F) is cheating on me and using me as a cover
quote:Hello, I'm gonna be straightforward. My wife and I have been married for 9 years now, no kids; great marriage (good compatibility, sex life, lots of shared interests, etc), so I never had any reasons to suspect my wife of infidelity (until recently).
In the summer of 2022, my wife started a new job. Here she mets Mark (32M). My wife and I are very communicative, so I know about Mark from the begin. All I know about him until the summer of 2023 is that he's a friendly coworker of hers, who has helped her navigate her way around in the beginning and are very good friends in the context of work. I know that Mark's married. I'm not aware of them hanging out outside of work during this period of time.
In summer 2023, I get introduced to Mark all of a sudden. My wife and I were getting ready to go to the beach in the morning and she asks me if I mind Mark joining us. As I said, I've always trusted her, so I never thought anything weird about it and said ok. I liked hanging out with Mark that day, he was cool, even treated us to food and drinks. The next time we went out together, he brought his wife with him. Before I knew it, this form of spending time became the norm: Mark + me + my wife / Mark + me + both wives. For a bit I enjoyed having a "squad" like this, probably 'cause I never had that experience when I was younger, and Mark and I actually became quite good friends, we'd even hang out 1 on 1.
Well, this lasted until January of this year. For Christmas / New Year's we went on a skiing trip together (all 4 of us). This is when I started to feel suffocated. Basically each time I'd try to do something alone with my wife, Mark would join. Each time I'd try to tell my wife that this was bothering me, she'd say to chill 'cause the more the merrier. I ended up spending more time with Mark's wife that vacation, 'cause both of us felt like the third wheel. When we returned home, this is how things started to be. I'd tell my wife, hey, let's go have dinner somewhere nice, then she'd tell me Mark's coming too. She'd basically refuse to spend any private time with my outside the house. The situation also made me start finding Mark irritating.
A few weeks ago, I happened to run into someone from their workplace. Couldn't help myself but ask about how they were behaving at work. She told me that they're the "unofficial office couple", that my wife likes to "jokingly" go by Mrs + Mark's last name. She told me she never saw anything physical, but emotionally they are basically acting like a married couple. I told my wife and Mark about this, and they said it's just work gossip. Now about the cover part: my wife won't go out with Mark alone, so she drags me along each time with the pretext of a group meeting. I feel like she does this only so that people don't see her alone in public with him and start suspecting an affair. Mark's wife also has the same suspicions and experience, but Mark just like my wife says it's an overreaction & gossip. We're both just misunderstanding them. To top things off, this week my younger brother "jokingly" asked me if Mark is his new brother-in-law 'cause we seem like a trouple.
My question is: how do I go about to put an end to this? I honestly don't know if I should just put an end to my marriage. Will my wife even ever be honest about this? I love her but this is becoming unbearable.
|
|
#
¿
Apr 6, 2024 05:21
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
You know what goes great with milk? Donuts!
Just not that one.
AITA for refusing to give a donut to a kid at a party?
quote:I can’t believe I am posting this but here we are. I have a mix group of friends and some are saying I was wrong so I decided to let Reddit decide. My husband and I were invited to a birthday party. We asked if we could bring anything and the host said not needed but we could if we wanted to. Since I don’t like showing up empty handed anywhere I thought it would be nice to purchase some boutique donuts from an artisanal donut shop near us. We got a bunch of donuts and one GF donut for my husband who can’t have gluten. Side note: no one at the party has any gluten issues we know these people fairly well.
We got to the party and set the donuts down. Immediately this kid and his mom decided to come on over because in her words “these are the best donuts in town! Wow! Thank you for bringing them!” I open up the boxes and immediately the kid throws his hands on the GF one. I kindly said “Oh sorry I am saving that one for my husband he can’t have gluten”. I picked the donut out and set it aside and proceed to tell him all the other wonderful flavours that I got! Cookies and cream, Nutella, it was donuts galore. The kid? Immediately starts crying because he wanted the one I took away and his mom proceeded to begin tearing at me and yelling at me for not just giving him the donut. “He is just a kid!” I was stunned and I immediately just left the situation, went outside with my husbands donut gave it to him. I was mortified. I thought she would calm down but NOO!
This lady proceeds to go outside and a make a scene about it. A big argument ensued about how I refused her kid a donut. It was comical at this point. I calmly stated my point again, that this donut was for my husband who is GF and I know no one there has an issue with gluten so her child could have one of the others.
This lady wouldn’t let it go so here is where I might be the AH. At this point I am sick of her entitlement so I told her just that. She is an entitled little brat and now I know where her kid gets it from. She starts crying, making a scene and leaves the party. The host and everyone there is just mortified and then tell me I should have just handed the kid the donut. My husband sticks up for me, and we decided to leave early.
|
|
#
¿
Apr 8, 2024 05:49
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
Yeah, that one confused me because she kept insisting that no other girlfriends were allowed to go, so why did OP get to go, and I was wondering which of the guys he was dating since he said they were all straight. Because if he's not one of their boyfriends, then her argument makes no sense. But apparently it's not the "no significant others" she has a problem with, it's that she thinks of him as a woman, and therefore other women should get to go.
Sad that Antonio picked her over his friends.
|
|
#
¿
Apr 9, 2024 02:20
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
AITA for not giving my little cousin my Crumbl Cookie?
quote:
This is going to sound dumb but I (16F) have been craving crumbl cookie all week and they had my favorite flavor on the menu (pink sugar cookie). I drove to crumbl and got a single cookie for myself. When I came home from crumbl. I ate half of the cookie and left the other half on the counter. The next day my aunt came over with my cousin (9M) . He saw my cookie on the table and asked me if he could have it. I told him no and explained to him that I have been wanting the cookie all week. He whined and said “But cookies are my favorite food”. I just said sorry and told him that the next time he comes over we could bake cookies together. He was not satisfied with my answer and ran to my aunt crying. My aunt said to just let him eat it and she will rebuy me the cookie some other time. The thing is. It was sunday and if you know about crumbl they change their menu every week (and pink sugar has not been on the menu in ages!). So this plan was not going to work. I told my aunt this and she said “he is only 9 and you're 16 you can sacrifice a cookie for a small child”. My cousin looked at my aunt again. I once again said no, my aunt just glared at me, turned, looked over at my little cousin and said “go ahead”. My cousin ran over to my cookie. I rush to get it before him but he picks it up first so since he was milliseconds aways from biting the cookie I push the cookie out of his hands and he starts crying. As he is bending down to pick it up off of the floor to still eat it I stomp on it causing it to mush everywhere. My cousin cries so aunt starts to yell at me calling me immature and that I should learn how to sacrifice things for family and children and how giving him the cookie would not have hurt me. She then said “how do you feel now that you are wasting your money from nobody eating it?”. I then told her I would have felt like my money was wasted either way since I bought the cookie for myself and didn't get to eat it.This threw her over the edge and then immediately complained to my dad. My dad is on my side but my mom thinks I should have just given him the cookie. I can admit stomping on the cookie was an overreaction but why would my cousin be entitled to the cookie I paid for just because we both want it? So, AITA?
|
|
#
¿
Apr 9, 2024 06:17
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
It's so irritating because everyone in life has to learn that you don't always get whatever you want, and you need to have the skills to cope with that. The kid is 9; he's more than old enough to learn that lesson. But for the kid to hear a hard NO from his cousin and have his mom tell him to just go take it anyway is setting a really, really bad precedent. Not really the kind of morality ("if you want it, just take it, even if you're told no) you want to instill in someone. I'd prefer if young boys (or anyone, really) aren't taught to override someone's "no."
|
|
#
¿
Apr 9, 2024 07:14
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
AITAH for walking away after I discovered my fiancé had intercourse with a douchebag?
quote:I will keep this as short as possible because I don't want to waste your time but for some context, me (27M) and my ex (27F) have been in a relationship for 7 years soon to be married although that will never happen.
I discovered her affair by simply seeing a message on her phone from douchebag talking about how good sex was, stupidly enough, she didn't even attempt to cover her tracks, she simply had what I assumed was AP name saved in contacts, I should have felt anger but I simply felt, I just accepted she wasn't the one I could spend the rest of my life with.
Recently my wardrobe broke down so I had to use luggage's as a makeshift wardrobe for the time being so my clothes was already packed up which saved me time.
I waited for my ex to go work and I just left a note on fridge saying have fun with douchebag and moved out, her name is on the lease so I could leave without any consequences, there was some furniture I bought but oh well, I also blocked her.
For the time being I'm couch surfing at my brother and sisters house and I feel calm and peaceful checking out however she sobbed a lot to my parents and they aren't happy that l checked out without hearing her perspective but I simply felt nothing (My fiancé did have a good relationship with my parents) my sibling on the other hand think I did nothing wrong.
Maybe I am an rear end in a top hat for not caring, maybe I'm justified for what I did so AITA?
Also I have a question for anyone who cares, what would you do in my situation? Let me know.
Love the implication that if the AP was a decent guy he'd have been okay with it.
Also
AITAH for not believing half the stories that end up on this sub?
quote:I (m25) have been noticing that many of the posts on this sub have been clear as day “NTA” to the point where I’m sure at least some of them are a load of bollocks. I’m sorry, but if your wife cheated on you with your dad and you have to ask Reddit whether or not you’re the arsehole for leaving her then I simply don’t believe you are real.
|
|
#
¿
Apr 11, 2024 04:21
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
Uh ...
I(29m) am unsure about what to do about my wifes(33F) eating cat kibble?
quote:I have discovered several times over that my wife would disappear to the garage and come back with a coffee mug covered with a peice of paper towel after several times my curiosity got the better of me and i checked under the paper towel to find the cats dry biscuits. I talked to her about it and she was embarrassed but otherwise unbothered that i knew. Afterwards i looked up and it seems there is some potential health risks for eating kibbles and now im worried they will affect her should i tell her to stop or just let it go as a random quirk? I am worried she will take it the wrong way or try to hide it if I tell her not too. Burner account as she knows my reddit
Edit: talked to her and she said its cause she likes the taste and crunch as well as she would do it more if it was more socially acceptable so it seems she can control herself not to. She sometimes likes to sneak it through.
|
|
#
¿
Apr 12, 2024 00:44
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
AITA for telling my MIL to get out of a photo of me and my husband were taking at my wedding?
It was nice of the MIL to let OP come to the wedding of her and her son
Man, another couple with a clown in their wedding photo??
|
|
#
¿
Apr 12, 2024 02:00
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
Lions, famous for their liberal use of salt.
|
|
#
¿
Apr 12, 2024 22:28
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
Sub Guy goes to college!
AITA for taking the last flank steak during lunch in university?
quote:During lunch at the university, where we pay for our meals by weight, we have free access to the available food. Yesterday, the flank steak was in high demand, quickly running out and necessitating frequent refills by the kitchen staff. Since the food is prepared fresh, there wasn't a ready stock of flank steak, leading to waits for more to be cooked and served.
After waiting in line for about 30 minutes for the flank steak, when it finally came my turn, there were only 4 pieces left on the tray. Upon taking them, a freshman behind me questioned if I really needed to take the last 4 pieces. I explained that taking fewer wouldn't satisfy my hunger and argued that regardless of how many pieces I took, someone behind us in line would face the same wait I did. I pointed out it was a matter of timing, and unfortunately that someone was him, he was just out of luck at that moment. He simply replied, "If you think so, that's fine," and I proceeded to pay for my meal.
AITA?
EDIT: I wanted you to keep in mind that everyone behind me still got steaks, including the freshman, just not in the moment he wanted to.
|
|
#
¿
Apr 13, 2024 05:26
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
AITA for telling my father “I do know about that”?
quote:I (F28) am a wildlife biologist. I have a master’s degree in Wildlife Conservation and am hoping to go for my doctorate soon. I have worked in this field since I was 16, and am very passionate about it.
When visiting my family recently for Easter, my mom asked me to tell the family a little bit about work. I was very excited to talk about my current research! Here’s where the issue comes in, though.
My father (M60) would respond to almost everything I said with “hmm, I don’t know about that…” At first, I tried to ignore it, but it just. Didn’t. Stop. Eventually, I responded “Well, I do, given the two degrees and all!” I responded in a light, playful tone, but he did not take it well at all. He immediately accused me of being disrespectful. I responded “I’m sorry, but it’s disrespectful of you to insinuate that you know more than I do about my field.”
Dinner got pretty quiet after that. I finished the meal, helped with the dishes, and said goodbye before leaving, but on the ride home I got a phone call from my mother asking me why I felt the need to aggravate my father and why I had to “talk back.” I am a 28 year old professional, this feels insane to me. AITA?
EDIT: My goodness, wow, that’s a lot of comments. I don’t have it in me to respond to all of them with life being so busy right now, but thank you!
quote:OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the rear end in a top hat:
I may be the rear end in a top hat because I was unable to ignore my father’s behavior, potentially ruining the night instead of choosing not to take it personally
OP says this bullshit is a pattern with the dad. I like all the comments saying to reply to everything he says from now on with , "Hm, I don't know about that ...."
|
|
#
¿
Apr 14, 2024 01:31
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
AIW- My husband embarrassed me in front of our friends
quote:My husband and I are both 28 years old and we were hanging out with our friends over the weekend. Theres this girl Sara(F21) that was at the hang out and she’s a fitness girlie. Sara was talking about her workout routine and my husband started talking with her since he lifts and they were talking about how much they lift. She also mentions she’s getting certified to be a personal trainer and then my husband said “my wife will be your first success story” he also said “yeah she needs to lose weight but she’s been unmotivated and maybe if she has you training her then she will want to have a killer body too”
I swear he said this in front of everyone. He had some drinks too and some of our friends around us were laughing, including myself to avoid this awkward and embarrassing moment
Sara starts going on about how she use to be fat and she turned her life around after losing weight and how she majored in nutrition. My husband starts talking about my unhealthy eating habits and how I eat all the snacks in the house and I finished all the cake from my birthday in 2 days when my husband only had one slice of the cake. She was like “ooo I use to be like that. I get it I use to be 160 pounds” and my husband said “that’s about how much my wife weighs, baby how much you weigh like 165-170 now?”
I was fuming at this point. My friend got me out of there and told me that our other friend needed help with her something inside the house. I started crying in my friends room
My husband didn’t even know he did anything wrong. He thought he was just having conversation and trying to help because I’ve been talking about starting my weight loss journey. I DON’T NEED HER HELP AND I DON’T WANT HER HELP. He goes “wow someone’s jealous aww,” he tried saying it in a cutesy way as if this is funny like read the f*cking room. He thinks I’m overreacting
Throwaway account. I posted this on other subs I really need to talk to someone.
ETA: people kept messaging me asking what my height is. I’ll just add it on here. Sara and me are about the same height she’s probably one inch taller than me but I’m 5’2.
|
|
#
¿
Apr 16, 2024 06:02
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
Too bad Shawlguy isn't gay, he and Shawlbro are both kinda hot and would make a nice couple.
I think the guy who's GF denied she was pregnant even though he could feel the baby moving around in there turned out to be fake. There was someone in the comments who had a horrific story of a friend in a similar situation who did something extremely awful (resulting in getting committed and needing an emergency C-section to deliver the baby), and the guy's next update kind of repeated some of that stuff (like getting committed and needing an emergency C-section, even though he'd been estimating she was only like 6 months pregnant). A lot of the story started being looked at more closely and commenters apparently decided he was full of poo poo. Which is really the best outcome with that.
Here, have an opposite-world weird houseguest:
AITA for telling my husband his buddy is too comfortable in our home and that he needs to set boundaries?
quote:My (24F) husband (28M) has a friend who comes over frequently and will often spend the night because he can’t afford frequent Ubers and my husband does not feel comfortable driving after drinking and I’m currently too pregnant to drive as I have short legs and the wheel sticks into my belly uncomfortably. This friend honestly never came over much before but my husband got a job working 2 weeks on, two weeks off at a mining camp so I don’t get much time with him - hence prioritizing time with me, his pregnant wife, over nights out with friends.
I didn’t mind at first when he would come over but it started to get uncomfortable quickly. After his first 3-4 visits if I did not have a meal started/ready by time he arrived he would walk into my kitchen and start preparing a meal with OUR food. Of course he would make enough for all of us but I’ve genuinely never experienced that with a friend before and it weirded me out. My husband doesn’t have a problem with it though so I said nothing to that. This morphed into him bringing stuff to make us which I did appreciate but was still uncomfortable because if I offered to help or cook he would tell me to go relax, as if I were the guest in my own home.
What really irked me is last night he stayed over again, and my husband and I had slept in (although I had gone to the washroom a couple of times bc pregnancy). His friend I guess got bored and walked into our room without even knocking asking if we wanted eggs. We both turned him down so again he just goes into the kitchen and helps himself to our food. I find it extremely weird and really don’t like that he didn’t knock. I’ve NEVER acted like that at any of my friends homes, and have never been treated like that before. Of course I would be fine having someone help themselves to any drinks or snacks but going and making a full meal (and just for yourself since neither my husband nor I were hungry at the time) really weirded me out.
I spoke to my husband about all of this and how I don’t appreciate being treated as a guest in my own home - almost as if I’m a bad host, and especially not having my privacy intruded on. My husband agrees for the most part but also says his friend is just doing this stuff to be nice and he doesn’t want to create conflict. I told him he needs to set some boundaries because I will not be made to feel uncomfortable in my own home. This upset my husband a bit and he is accusing me of not liking his friend and saying his buddy will think I hate him. AITA for asking for some boundaries?
A million stories about spouse's family/friends/roommates demanding to be waited on hand and foot, and now we've got this guy.
|
|
#
¿
Apr 17, 2024 02:08
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
I swear I posted it at least once if not twice but I can't find it on the forums or google search...
AITA for asking wife to abort 1 twin?
Then they go deeper and deeper
(12 weeks is indeed 3 months not barely 2)
To the surprise of no one this 45 year old man lives in Alabama.
I understand so very little of this man's reasoning, but what really confuses me is
quote:ok so i am a 45 yrs old male, she is 37 females.
I mean, if his wife is 37 different people he should still be able to be intimate with at least 35 during the pregnancy, since only two will be carrying the babies! (I assume they'll switch off, just plugging the kids into their belly buttons when another wife needs a break.)
|
|
#
¿
Apr 17, 2024 07:46
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
That rear end in a top hat that packs children's gifts in broken glass and rusty nails is infuriating. Maybe put it in a puzzle box or something they have to figure out to get to the gift, fine, not too egregious. But to make kids dig into an actual physical hazard where there's a good chance they could (and have!!) seriously injure themselves -- who the gently caress would enjoy that except an absolute sadist. And then later in life, to pick out the one person with a physical disability and force it on them. Good on OP for saying gently caress it, not playing this game anymore, no gift is worth it and just chucking it. gently caress that guy.
|
|
#
¿
Apr 18, 2024 01:26
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
If the boob one is true, the guy is also a dickhead for focusing so much on how it didn't turn out the way she wanted it to, did it? Is her life better than before? Was it all worth it?
Like, gently caress you, dude. She thought it would be a positive change for her, and maybe it would've been if her husband had been supportive instead of being a stupid petulant dick about it and making her feel ugly and hideous and shameful.
|
|
#
¿
Apr 18, 2024 06:46
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
AITA For Refusing To Babysit For My Aunt Until She Pays For My Phone That Her Kids broke?
quote:My (F15) aunt and cousins (both M6) are visiting from Boston. They are on school break right now, and I'm in school, and the teacher's chill.
They are both kind of, uh, rough, and since my mom and her sister seem to have a LOT of catching up to do, they are out basically everyday. That leaves me and my brother (M14) and my other sister (F12) to babysit, and they are basically no help.
On Saturday, I wanted to actually make them baked mac and cheese, and after putting the butter on the pan, I went to go get the flour, and I guess they thought it would be funny if they decided to put my phone on the stove, because they moved the pan, and put my phone on the stove. I'd say it was there for at least 45 seconds before I noticed it was actually on the stove (We had so much flour, I couldn't find the already-opened bag) and I took it off, but there was a burning smell, as well as the screen not really working. My dad sometimes will help me with them, but he was at the gym when this all happened. I ended up making them something else.
When my mom and aunt got back home at around, I immediately showed them my phone, and my mom was mad, but kind of became less mad when she found out it was my cousins. My Aunt basically said "Oh well," and tended to her kids. So I told her not to expect crap from me until my phone is fixed. At the time we didn't get a deductible ($175) and my Aunt immediately jumped to the "I can't afford it." Even though she didn't even know the cost. My mom is mad at me for being rude, my sister is mad at me for being "Rude," and making her miss out on quality time with her sister. She just mumbles and grumbles every time I walk by her.
AITA?
|
|
#
¿
Apr 21, 2024 05:09
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
At least she said "on a horse" and not "with a horse."
Edit: Oh goddamn you loving page snipe. Have some content:
My (35M) fiancé (32F) doesn’t want a mother-son dance at our wedding causing drama. How to diffuse?
quote:My finance and my mother used to get along great. When we got engaged my mom was overly excited and tried to help plan the wedding more than she should. My finance is anti confrontational and instead of telling her to stop, just blocked her and got mad and complained to me about it.
I agree, my mom tried to get too involved. But she has apologized and my finance absolutely hates her now and won’t let it go. Any time the subject of my mom comes up, there is a fight between us.
Fast forward to the dance. She is doing a father daughter dance, I assumed we’d be doing a mother son dance but my fiancé refuses to add it to the schedule and gets mad at me every time it comes up. She uses the excuse “well my dad is paying for the wedding so I get what I want”
Cool but my parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner. Granted it’s not the same cost but to use that as an excuse to not spend 3 minutes of the day for a dance?
Bottom line is I feel it’s straight up insulting to me and my family and she is unwilling to compromise.
How can I diffuse this situation and make both parties happy? Troublemaker fucked around with this message at 02:00 on Apr 23, 2024
|
|
#
¿
Apr 23, 2024 01:54
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
EDIT: I have not idea what's happening here. Sorry for the double post!
Troublemaker fucked around with this message at 02:00 on Apr 23, 2024
|
|
#
¿
Apr 23, 2024 01:55
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
Okay so either we're missing a lot of info here about how mom is treating the DIL, or DIL is just crazy.
Sounds like DIL is just crazy, and OP is putting up with it because he wants kids and thinks he's running out of time. And supposedly he thinks this controlling, grudge-holding, unwilling to compromise, treats-his-family-like-dirt finance will be a great mother to them.
OOP Posted: quote:I’m old. I feel like if this ends that’s it for me and having kids ever. Maybe that’s what’s keeping me in
Edit before the responses flood in on this one: I’m completely aware that is a bad reason to stay in a relationship. Just kinda thinking out loud and processing my feelings.
|
|
#
¿
Apr 23, 2024 03:35
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
I like driving vacations. We once toured New England for about 10 days, doing dumb poo poo like Ben & Jerry's tour in Vermont and Santa's Village in New Hampshire, but then good stuff like a couple days in Cape Cod, a stop at Martha's Vineyard, and a couple days in New York City. Last year we drove to Quebec and then made our way home through Montreal, Toronto, and Niagara Falls with a couple days spent in each city. We've done the same going south to Disney World, driving through the Smoky Mountains, stopping for a few days and doing a lot of hiking in Kentucky and Tennessee before hitting up the Georgia aquarium and ending up in Orlando. We're east coasters, so we flew to Las Vegas once, rented a car, and then drove to California and made our way from Los Angeles down through San Diego to Mexico. I'd like to do that trip again but go north this time through Oregon and Washington state. This year we plan to drive to Washington DC and on the way will stop at Gettysburg, PA and after a week in DC will drive to Ocean City, MD for a couple days at the beach. It's a great way to see different things, keeps the kids from getting bored in one place for a week or two, and can be done fairly cheaply if gas isn't too outrageous. When each stop along the route is only 2 hours or so away from each other it's an easy way to knock out a bunch of destinations in one trip (we're trying to visit all 50 states before all my kids graduate high school.)
Anyway, here's one of my favorite AITA genres, rear end in a top hat uninvited guests who expect to be waited on:
AITA for leaving my husband at our lake house with his family.
quote:My husband and I own a lake house that we spend most of our free time at when it's warm.
We go there over the winter to check on it and do any basic maintenance that is required. It is not set up for winter living.
We often invite friends and family over. We have almost two acres of land and there is lots of room to park an RV or set up a tent.
The house has a septic tank for the toilet. All the other water goes to a grey water tank we use for the garden and lawn. We only use biosafe products. We have a very well built and ventilated outhouse for when we have people over.
So last weekend was the one where we went out to get the house ready for the spring and summer.
We ordered the water truck to fill our tank. The propane guys to fill up that tank. We ran water through the pipes to flush them out and get them ready to use.
And his mom and dad showed up with his brother and his family. Which would be fine except it was a cold and lovely weekend. So they didn't want to set up tents and stay outside.
I asked him why they were here. He said that he told them we were going out and they sort of invited themselves out.
They didn't bring out much besides some sandwiches and a bunch of beer. They didn't understand why we didn't have any of the water toys ready. THERE WAS STILL ICE ON THE LAKE. I asked my husband to tell them that we were not ready for guests and that they needed to leave or help. He wouldn't do it.
So I left. I said I needed to run to the store. I took my car and went to the grocery store five blocks from my house. It is an asian market with great sushi.
I think my husband expected me to just be going to the gas station a mile from the lake.
I left him out there to prep the house and deal with his guests. He is upset now that I left without telling him that I wasn't coming back. That he had to do all the work by himself. That he had to clean the house by himself. He said his family thought I was rude not to stick around and host.
I did not invite them. I told him that the house was not ready for guests. I told him that we did not have enough toilet paper for eight people. He knew that we only had food for the two of us for the weekend. I think it's his fault and his problem.
Should I have sucked it up and taken one for the team or am I the rear end in a top hat?
(USER WAS PUT ON PROBATION FOR THIS POST)
|
|
#
¿
Apr 24, 2024 03:34
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
My (33M) wife (34F) thinks my orgasms are gross. How do I handle this?
quote:My wife and I have been married only 2 months. We dated 2 years and got married this year.
We don’t have any children and would like to have children one day. But my wife has suddenly and unexpectedly told me that she thinks when I orgasm I shouldn’t do it around her. She said specifically she thinks semen is “gross” and that it’s not important that I have an orgasm during sex.
We had sex once or twice a month leading up to getting married. I’d have liked more but I understand life gets in the way. But she would never want me to ejaculate. She would have her orgasm and usually says I can go finish myself in the bathroom or something. I’ve asked her to help me and she told me it’s not her responsibility for me to get me to orgasm. That she thinks semen is gross and unimportant.
When she mentioned the semen point I asked her how she thought we’d have kids and how she’d get pregnant if I didn’t have sex the normal way. She told me that it was rude to call it not normal and made her feel inadequate. But the part that shocked me was she said she’d prefer to go IVF and she’d like to choose a donor based on certain features she’d like “her kid” to have. She kept saying her kid, not ours or even acknowledge I’m part of this. She said that while she loves me she wants the best for her kid and wants the best donor she can find.
This is a complete 180 from what we discussed before getting married. She said I’m selfish for wanting my DNA for our kid. I’m honestly completely confused, she has never talked this way before we got married and never mentioned it.
I’m totally lost here. How do I explain that she changed almost overnight and she’s being unrealistic? I’m afraid she’s leading us down the route of a sexless marriage but then I feel so guilty for thinking she owes me something.
|
|
#
¿
Apr 24, 2024 06:18
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
Dammit I searched this thread for "lake house" and it found nothing! Bah!
|
|
#
¿
Apr 24, 2024 09:17
|
|
- Adbot
-
ADBOT LOVES YOU
|
|
|
#
¿
May 21, 2024 10:36
|
|
- Troublemaker
- Mar 12, 2007
-
|
I threw away my husband's collection and now he won't speak to me
Original Post - April 15, 2024
quote:My husband considers himself an art connoisseur, when he's not.
He filled his home office and the hallway with his collection which he inherited from his grandfather. The point is that his grandfather got scammed and most of the paintings, statuettes and artifacts (fake guns, books, ship models) are fakes or reproductions. Very few real pieces.
My husband knows, but he liked it as a kid and so he kept it, adding stuff over the years. He always bought fakes or repros too, saying he likes how they look and he wouldn't bankrupt us like that. To be honest, I couldn't stand that assortment of random knick knacks, especially because they aren't worth a thing. His hallway and office looked like a kid's idea of a museum.
He was away on a trip two weeks ago and I seized the occasion to put all the stuff in storage and give a restyling to his office. I figured he'd get upset but eventually accept it. When he came back, he got silent. I reassured him I didn't throw any of his knick knacks, just put them in storage and that I liked his room much better now, and his grandmother should have done the same for his grandfather.
He said that the rest of the house is already in my style and he accepted it, but the office and hallway were "his" space. I reassured him he will like it better with time, but a week has passed and he looks depressed. He stopped spending time in his room, barely talks to me and even refuses intimacy. He acts indifferent and told me I can get rid of the few things I kept.
I am starting to think I overstepped. Did I make a mistake? I am considering apologizing and get his stuff back in his office.
Update
quote:Guys, I hear you. I hosed up big time and I know it. I'll ask him if he can forgive me and I will get back all his stuff. I'll also offer to display some of his stuff in the living room as a peace offering.
Top Comments
quote:UnevenGlow: Yeah you disrespected him big time
OOP: I see that now. I will apologize and bring back his stuff. I am also going to ask him to display some stuff in the living room.
SleepyDreamer16: You did overstep. This is major disrespect. These things were important to him and it doesn't matter if you like them or not. Even if it was the ugliest object you have ever seen, you should still accept his feelings about it. This is about something more than just objects, this is showing him that his opinion doesn't matter to you and that he can't trust you. You should apologize immediately and let him know that you really do realize it was a wrong thing to do.
TrashCranberry: Yes, you made a mistake. You have been crapping on his hobby for a long time and now you finally took the final step and converted his space into what YOU want. How selfish of you.
Not only should you apologize, you should help him restore his space and buy him a few bad art pieces that he would like.
Update - April 16, 2024
quote:Hey guys I know I hosed up big time and your comments just reinforced that feeling. I went to my husband, gave him a massive apology and told him I would really like to get back his collection and get his office and hallway like they were before. I also apologized for going behind his back and violating his safe space the way I did.
I also offered to let him display some pieces in our bedroom and living room and next time he spots something he would like to add to his collection, I am paying for it. He accepted my apology and forgave me. We spent the afternoon getting his stuff back in place.
It's not worth it to create a rift between us for this. I might not like his taste in art, but I love this man and if he's happy I am happy too.
Thank you all for the comments and the though love, I really needed it.
|
|
#
¿
Apr 24, 2024 22:55
|
|
#
¿
Apr 3, 2024 02:06
