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Good-Natured Filth posted:My 5yo son has always been obstinate, but it's reached a new level. Our daughter just figured this out. She loves the babybel cheeses but to prevent a cheese baby and get her to eat other food, we've limited the number to two a day. She has figured out if she doesn't eat them right first thing in the morning, she can save one for when she gets home from pre-school. Only took her 6 months to figure it out.
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What in the heck I left my son on the couch watching cartoons so I could use the bathroom and I hear him calling for me by my first name. It’s weird!
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Aug 21, 2023 17:36
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Hell hath no fury like a toddler screaming "WANNA DO MYSELF!!!!!". My god. All I did was hold the mug while you tried to put the lid on to keep you from spilling it, and me having to throw away the ice cubes would have made you cry even more.
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Aug 21, 2023 17:44
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remigious posted:What in the heck I left my son on the couch watching cartoons so I could use the bathroom and I hear him calling for me by my first name. It’s weird! yeah my daughter does this every so often, she learned to mimic the tone that my wife uses when she wants my attention to so all of a sudden it's like I'm being bossed around in surround sound
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Aug 21, 2023 17:57
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SixFigureSandwich posted:I have never been more grateful to whoever invented paracetamol update: also antibiotics. The NHS is really good folks
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Aug 21, 2023 18:03
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My 5 year old hasn't figured out he can get out of bed if he needs to. No you don't need to yell for me if you need to pee!
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Aug 21, 2023 18:23
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Renegret posted:Wow daddy you're so squishy Mama and daddy BOTH have babies in their belly over here
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Aug 21, 2023 18:48
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Spoggerific posted:Hell hath no fury like a toddler screaming "WANNA DO MYSELF!!!!!". My god. All I did was hold the mug while you tried to put the lid on to keep you from spilling it, and me having to throw away the ice cubes would have made you cry even more. *struggles with something and gets increasingly frustrated* “Let me know if you need help…” “NOOOOOOOOO!”
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Aug 21, 2023 22:08
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As a teacher, it's that melancholy time of year where I'm about to go back to school and another summer with my kids is coming to an end. OTOH, I dunno how much more I can take of hearing "YOU'RE KRISTOFF AND I'M ELSA." These are very conflicting feelings inside of me.
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Aug 22, 2023 03:30
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Spoggerific posted:Hell hath no fury like a toddler screaming "WANNA DO MYSELF!!!!!". My god. All I did was hold the mug while you tried to put the lid on to keep you from spilling it, and me having to throw away the ice cubes would have made you cry even more. Mine still does this, but after about 6 months of "wanna do it myself!!" she also has started walking around on her own Sunday I had a couple hours to kill so we got food "down town", and then we slowly, agonizingly, excruciatingly slowly walked all the way around the block(!!!) and she didn't ask me to carry her once. It was a fair sized block, I guess google earth says 1850 feet, or 0.35 mile, pretty good hike for a 2.75 yo, even if it took us over half an hour I'm sure there's downsides to having a kid that wants to walk themselves everywhere, but at the moment celebrating finally, finally being able to have her walk with me in urban areas, at least part of the time
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Aug 22, 2023 05:43
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My daughter wants to be carried 80% of the time, but the 20% of the time she decides she wants to walk, she'll mostly behave and follow along... until we stop. One time a few weeks ago, after we had stopped for a moment, I saw her wandering away and asked her "where are you going?". Now every time we stop while I'm not holding her, she starts slowly walking backwards while looking at me, and when I look back at her or call her name she replies "Where are you going?" while continuing the walk backwards.
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Aug 22, 2023 07:02
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Daughters current favorite songs: Taylor Swift - Cruel Summer Beethoven - Moonlight Sonata Simon & Garfunkel - Cecilia Danny Go! - Rainbow Disco Unicorn Dance
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Aug 22, 2023 13:31
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It's really hard maintaining friendships when you have a kid(s), right? Or are my wife and I just really bad at it?
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Aug 22, 2023 17:50
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C-Euro posted:It's really hard maintaining friendships when you have a kid(s), right? Or are my wife and I just really bad at it? Let me answer this way: in March 2020 my social life actually improved because I got to see my friends again when everyone hung out online.
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Aug 22, 2023 18:25
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C-Euro posted:It's really hard maintaining friendships when you have a kid(s), right? Or are my wife and I just really bad at it? It's challenging - especially when they're younger. When the kids are older, it's easier to get together and let your kids do whatever while you hang out with your friends. It also depends on if your friends have kids or like / tolerate kids. We had some friends who were hardcore "no kids" and now we never see them anymore. We also have made new friends just from having our kids and their kids playing together at school / the park / wherever. Bottom line, friendships change post-kids and likely won't be as prominent.
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Aug 22, 2023 19:15
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We now have a one year old! This feels both very exciting and deeply hosed up.
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Aug 22, 2023 19:47
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SpaceViking posted:This feels both very exciting and deeply hosed up. Good thread title
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Aug 22, 2023 19:57
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C-Euro posted:It's really hard maintaining friendships when you have a kid(s), right? Or are my wife and I just really bad at it? We are definitely finding it a lot easier maintaining friendships with a group of friends who have similar-aged kids... Like, we've hosted a couple of parties at our place with a mix of kid-less friends and that group, and the conclusion has been that if we want to hang out with kid-less friends, we have to do that while someone else is watching our kid.
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Aug 22, 2023 20:09
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C-Euro posted:It's really hard maintaining friendships when you have a kid(s), right? Or are my wife and I just really bad at it? We definitely went into what I would describe as 'maintenance mode' with friendships after having kids, because we were first in all of our friend groups. As others had kids, we definitely prioritized them, but seeing them more than once or twice a month was rare. Once our oldest got into kindergarten there was a flurry of new friend making and we have established 2-3 other families as friends that have a kid in our kids grade. We see them much more than any of our other friends from the pre-kids time, but also kindergarten coincided w/ a cross country move for us as well. So our experience might be somewhat unique?
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Aug 22, 2023 20:09
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I have done the thing I swore I wasn't going to do, I signed up to coach our daughter's soccer team. It was the only way to get her in since they were desperate for coaches.
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Aug 22, 2023 21:10
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My 1st grader’s best friend is switching schools, so she finally said she wanted to play softball because her friend does and then she can still hang out with her. So hooray, organized sports!
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Aug 22, 2023 21:27
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OK so it's not just us then, thanks. We are also bad at maintaining friendships with other parents of similar-aged kids so we do have to take a bit of blame here, but my current personal ennui involves childless friends in the local athletic community (and staying in shape as a parent is its own hosed up nightmare!)SpaceViking posted:We now have a one year old! This feels both very exciting and deeply hosed up. Congrats! I won't say that it gets necessarily easier now, but you do get more confident so it feels easier.
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Aug 22, 2023 21:30
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Brawnfire posted:Daughters current favorite songs: Love it! My kid's are: Hooded Fang - Wasteland King Gizzard lizard wizard - Shanghai Diana Ross & Tame Impala - Turn up the sunshine All of the heaven or las Vegas album by cocteau twins 100 gecs - Hollywood Baby Twinkle Twinkle Little Star - "Dada Version" (Raffi version)
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Aug 22, 2023 21:48
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Renegret posted:f.... friends? For real. After a couple years I finally kind of put my foot down and said “we need to be around other adults sometimes” and signed us up for dodgeball. Having to burn a babysitter on that once a week means fewer normal date nights for part of the year but at least we are seeing other adults who aren’t baby-zombies. Now that the kids are in school we see their classmates parents fairly often and that’s good too (one of the classes anyway. Between the two groups of parents the top 10 are all in the same class) although still, you’ve got to be around people who have something going on other than kids sometimes. I do anyway.
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Aug 23, 2023 00:18
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Thank you Slaan! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M52KGF82vFg
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Aug 23, 2023 00:40
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We've been picking various songs to listen to as we get ready for an activity because it might help cue his ADHD brain ( I haven't tested it exhaustively with him but it helps me) His jams: Bookworm by Caspar Babypants - Summer Camp Some Houses by Billy Jonas - Also Summer camp. We sing 'From The Groooounnnd' together. Trips to Space by The New Fools - Play Therapy. He calls it the robot song. Mr. Vain by Culture Beat - His best friend's house.  He picked it. I think the phrase "I know what I want and I want it now" just resonates with a 5 year old. he's obsessed with 90s dance musicThe Venga Bus - Whenever. I pretty sure I've listened to this song on repeat for several days of my lifespan at this point Sliver ( Cover by Caspar Babypants) - When he's annoyed at grandparents/ wants to annoy them. Mom's from Seattle. Cissy Strut by the Meters - "Play the karate song" -> what he actually wanted
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C-Euro posted:Congrats! I won't say that it gets necessarily easier now, but you do get more confident so it feels easier. Be careful, this is when your lizard brain starts to try to trick you into adding another.
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Aug 23, 2023 00:56
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Since friend chat has come up I’ll put in a good word for Peanut. It’s “mommy tinder” and is how my wife has made many good and lasting friendships since we had kids. Unfortunately there’s no daddy tinder for parents so non-mother figures are kind of out of luck.
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I’ve found it to be really hard to maintain friendships with some of our close, childless out of town friends and it bums me out. But they 100% don’t understand how our priorities/needs have changed and they feel impossible to schedule things with in a way that feels even remotely fair to us. I love them dearly but lmao at the idea of a last minute 4 hour car ride with 2 under 5 to some random airbnb being remotely equitable to just an adult couple doing it.
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Aug 23, 2023 02:22
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We have a childless couple as friends and they kept asking to hang out every single weekend, and my wife is bad about texting them back (it’s her friend!) so then I’m texting them. I have them muted because they text so often. I don’t mind them coming over and they’re good with the kid and they’re fun to hang out with, but every single weekend is a lot. I don’t even want to see my best friends that much. I got invited by a new acquaintance from Meetup to go play board games and I was like sweet, can make new board game friends. I ask wife if that’s chill and she says it’s too last minute. Ah okay drat I guess I don’t get to make friends. Weekly couple texts (wife doesn’t even see it because she has them muted also, so I tell her) and she asks me “oh can they come over?” Hmmm that seems awfully last minute to me. So then we decided to fight and nobody got to see any friends. Now weekly couple is mad at my wife because she’s so bad at returning their texts and they don’t want to hang out with us anymore either. I would like to blame this on the fact that I have a child but I think we’re just reaching an age / lack of energy / lack of fucks to give where any of this poo poo is exhausting.
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I have always been extremely bad at socialising so it was kind of a free kick for me to finally give up, but the last laugh is during the early childhood years where they are too young to invite people over for playdates independently so now I have to court other parents. It's so much worse ...
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Aug 23, 2023 03:02
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My son still mainly likes The Aquabats, but my city has a free kids concert in the pavilion every Wednesday during Summer and a few weeks ago we saw Rocknoceros. They were a lot of fun so I bought a best of album off bandcamp and he really likes Colonel Purple Turtle. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QEl5nCMrAOY
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Aug 23, 2023 04:01
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This week my kid requested REM so we’ve been listening to Automatic for the People.
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Aug 23, 2023 04:13
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One of the few benefits of having a baby in August 2020 was that our social life didn't change at all and nobody was hurt we weren't seeing them. Although depending on the leanings of your family, that could easily go the other way.
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We're the first ones in our immediate friend group to have a baby. We have free childcare from my in-laws on about one weekend a month (and on weeknights), so we're better off than most for getting out without the baby. But sometimes it's hard to get some friends to understand that if we are offering up a baby free outing, it means that's all we have for the month and they can't expect us to make other plans. We also keep getting invited to events after hours or at not baby appropriate venues by one couple, and we have to turn them down a lot. Even when folks are down to hang out with baby, at 11 months it's still nerve-wracking to take him out in public in spaces where he can't crawl everywhere. He actually naps okay in public (before 6pm) and eats what we eat right now, but keeping him contained and content when awake is a little harder. I haven't really been good at making new friends since I made most of mine in 2016 or before, but making friends whose kids are in the same stage as our son is such a narrow group. I assume it gets easier when he's older and a few months don't make such a big difference in experience. It was probably callous to say, but I did suspect before I had our kid that the one positive to being pregnant/having a newborn in 2020 was not missing out on life outside your house. I was sick for so much of 2022, and post-Omicron wave all kinds of things opened back up and everyone I knew (who had been more cautious) was socializing and going to gatherings like there was no tomorrow. The nausea and vomiting kept me inside for the beautiful spring, then the summer was just so bad I just kept inside until the birth. Mistaken Frisbee fucked around with this message at 06:11 on Aug 23, 2023 |
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My wife has used “come see the baby!” as a way to lure some people out, and sharing connections on IG/Facebook has meant realizing some friends she has also have little kids, but she’s also much less active with her friends than I was in a pre-COVID/baby world in general. And now we’re both tired from having Little Ms 1.5. So. None of this feels like an easy problem to solve without just moving forward a year or two.
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Worse than childless couple friends are those who have so much loving help from nearby in-laws, grandparents, etc that they schedule as if they were a childless couple and wonder why everyone complains that it’s hard to raise children or make time once you have them.
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harperdc posted:None of this feels like an easy problem to solve without just moving forward a year or two. It doesn’t. Like most things it just becomes more expensive.
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davebo posted:My son still mainly likes The Aquabats Rad kid you got there tbh
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