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I. M. Gei
Jun 26, 2005

CHIEFS

BITCH



A chiropractor is someone you go to if you really really need the pain to stop right now, but can't get in or afford to see an actual doctor for whatever reason (or if the problem isn't severe enough for a doctor to treat). They won't fix your problem and you shouldn't go to one long-term if you can help it, but if all you need is a quick fix to make some pain go away until you can see a real doctor, then a chiropractor isn't totally useless for that.

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Troublemaker
Mar 12, 2007

Elissimpark posted:

Is Jeffrey of YOSPOS going to walk through fire and fly through smoke? Will I, as a result, see my enemies on the end of a rope?

Je suis le grand zomb' baby

Troublemaker fucked around with this message at 01:01 on Apr 5, 2024

mystes
May 31, 2006

I. M. Gei posted:

A chiropractor is someone you go to if you really really need the pain to stop right now, but can't get in or afford to see an actual doctor for whatever reason (or if the problem isn't severe enough for a doctor to treat). They won't fix your problem and you shouldn't go to one long-term if you can help it, but if all you need is a quick fix to make some pain go away until you can see a real doctor, then a chiropractor isn't totally useless for that.
If you want pseudoscience as a placebo to temporarily make you feel better, homeopathy is a lot less dangerous

Ulthar
Aug 14, 2007

My parents are deeaaaaaaad!!!

mystes posted:

If you want pseudoscience as a placebo to temporarily make you feel better, homeopathy is a lot less dangerous

I went to a chiro for help with some chronic back pain and the first session felt great, then I went back and this 6’2” dude slammed his entire body weight onto me while saying “shhhhh this is very safe” and I feel like I’m extremely lucky to have not been seriously injured

selec
Sep 6, 2003

This problem has been solved for a long time, as summarized in a tweet of yore

https://twitter.com/wyatt_privilege/status/1181238647749787648?lang=en

Hughlander
May 11, 2005

AITAH for going out with friends for the weekend after my wife locked me out of the bedroom and gave me the silent treatment.

quote:

Every once in a while I do something to piss off my wife. Rather than communicate with me about what her issue is she will ignore me for a few days. If she is really pissed she will lock me out of our bedroom. Then when everything is back to normal she will say that what I did wasn't actually my fault or that it wasn't as bad as she thought.

For example one of her coffee mugs got broken. Instead of asking me what happened I got the treatment. Turned out that she had a friend over and the friend's kid broke the mug.

Anyway I'm kind of over it and while I love my wife and I have no intention of leaving her I also see no reason to humor her.

Last Thursday I got home and she had locked me out of the bedroom. She wouldn't answer when I knocked, texted, or called. Like I said I'm over it. I called up a couple of friends and made plans to spend the weekend golfing at a resort. Lots of fresh air, beer, golf, and a comfortable bed.

I ignored her texts and calls all weekend. I did leave her a voicemail letting her know what was up so she wouldn't worry.

I had a great weekend with my boys. When I got home she was out of the bedroom and ready for a fight. So was I. She asked me what the hell I was thinking just leaving town without clearing it with her first. I asked her if she had been planning on ignoring me all weekend and making me sleep on the guest room. She said that it was my "punishment" for forgetting to take the trash out in time and that now the garage would stink for a week because I was thoughtless.

I laughed in her face. I took her over to the calendar and asked her to point to the date that I missed taking out the trash. She looked at the calendar but would not point it out. BECAUSE IT WAS HER TURN.

She said that was no excuse for me to blow a bunch of money on a weekend away. I asked her why I should sleep in the guestroom and not with my wife when the thing that upset her is her own gently caress up. She said that she made a mistake and that I should have pointed that out I stead of leaving.

I was over this conversation. I asked her how the gently caress I was supposed to know why she was upset since she would not communicate with me.

I walked away but I told her that if I ever messed up badly enough that she wanted to sleep alone again she had better be very loving clear about what I did and why it upset her. If she chose not to tell me and just locked me out again then I would just consider the next few days to be free time to spend with my friends.

She called me controlling and said that I was punishing her over a misunderstanding. I agreed. She misunderstood that it was her turn to do that chore. She also misunderstood my commitment to sleeping in a comfortable bed. And she was very much mistaken if she thought I would put up with it ever again.

She is pissed but not enough to lock me out.

I really love how every example isn't even the guys fault. He needs to find his inner Pete.

Jabor
Jul 16, 2010

#1 Loser at SpaceChem

mystes posted:

If you want pseudoscience as a placebo to temporarily make you feel better, homeopathy is a lot less dangerous

Just go get a massage and you'll get all the helpful parts of chiro without any neck-breaking

John Wick of Dogs
Mar 4, 2017

A real hellraiser


The bed in his guest room should be comfortable.

Not the issue really, but why is your guest bed uncomfortable

Wii Spawn Camper
Nov 25, 2005



John Wick of Dogs posted:

The bed in his guest room should be comfortable.

Not the issue really, but why is your guest bed uncomfortable

So they won’t stay too long.

420 Gank Mid
Dec 26, 2008

WARNING: This poster is a huge bitch!

John Wick of Dogs posted:

The bed in his guest room should be comfortable.

Not the issue really, but why is your guest bed uncomfortable

What do you want your guests to stay?

MagusofStars
Mar 31, 2012



Hughlander posted:

AITAH for going out with friends for the weekend after my wife locked me out of the bedroom and gave me the silent treatment.

She is pissed but not enough to lock me out.
She regularly ignores him, they're constantly fighting over trivial bullshit, she locks him out of rooms in the house, he disappears for an entire weekend without regrets, they trade off the silent treatment, and he's already reserved-in-advance his future right to disappear for days at a time.

But she's not quite pissed off enough to physically lock him out of the house, so y'know, going great! :toot:

mystes
May 31, 2006

That relationship just sounds completely awful for both of them. Like exactly what are either of them getting out of it except misery?

Captain Hygiene
Sep 17, 2007

You mess with the crabbo...



MagusofStars posted:

She regularly ignores him, they're constantly fighting over trivial bullshit, she locks him out of rooms in the house, he disappears for an entire weekend without regrets, they trade off the silent treatment, and he's already reserved-in-advance his future right to disappear for days at a time.

But she's not quite pissed off enough to physically lock him out of the house, so y'know, going great! :toot:

Sounds like having a kid would really bring them together!

AmiYumi
Oct 10, 2005

I FORGOT TO HAIL KING TORG

Vertigo Ambrosia posted:

Oh come on, we all know that a significant amount of people consider a dry wedding to be an abomination (including many people in the last thread), I'm sure there would have been a shitload of drama whining about that.
I know the thread has moved on, but there is room between "dry wedding" and "open bar" - especially when you're already allotting an extra $2k for five people. Cash bar, drink tickets, wine pairings/tasting flights served with food, etc.

When you're already paying extra (a catered open bar is also not cheap), there are so many alternatives that The Simpsons GIF of "We tried nothing, and now we're out of ideas" applies

the holy poopacy
May 16, 2009

hey! check this out
Fun Shoe

I. M. Gei posted:

A chiropractor is someone you go to if you really really need the pain to stop right now, but can't get in or afford to see an actual doctor for whatever reason (or if the problem isn't severe enough for a doctor to treat). They won't fix your problem and you shouldn't go to one long-term if you can help it, but if all you need is a quick fix to make some pain go away until you can see a real doctor, then a chiropractor isn't totally useless for that.

A massage is going to be even better for that and won't maim you

Biplane
Jul 18, 2005

Open bar but all there is is mdma and weed. Only cool people at THIS harry potter wedding

The Lone Badger
Sep 24, 2007

Biplane posted:

Open bar but all there is is mdma and weed. Only cool people at THIS harry potter wedding

Completely honest and serious: this is a better idea than an alcohol bar and will lead to way less drama.

ReelBigLizard
Feb 27, 2003

Fallen Rib
gently caress yeah I'd attend the poo poo out of that wedding

DiomedesGodshill
Feb 21, 2009

I. M. Gei posted:

A chiropractor is someone you go to if you really really need the pain to stop right now, but can't get in or afford to see an actual doctor for whatever reason (or if the problem isn't severe enough for a doctor to treat). They won't fix your problem and you shouldn't go to one long-term if you can help it, but if all you need is a quack fix to make some pain go away until you can see a real doctor, then a chiropractor isn't totally useless for that.

I only changed a letter. Also always go see an actual/real doctor. FFS. Don't go to non-actual/non-real doctors.

Sega 32X
Jan 3, 2004


ChickenOfTomorrow posted:

WIBTA for wanting my funeral to happen BEFORE I die

This thread moves pretty fast, holy cow, but Get Low starring Robert Duvall is a pretty good movie.

Elissimpark
May 20, 2010

Bring me the head of Auguste Escoffier.
Fine, witchdoctors are out. What about swamp hags?

Troublemaker
Mar 12, 2007

AITA for not inviting the neighbors to our daughter’s bday party and then awkwardly kicking them out?

quote:

Hi. Yesterday was my daughter’s 8th birthday and we did a princess themed party. The only people invited were family or family friends.

My relationship with my neighbors is meh. We wave if we see them but otherwise we don’t talk to each other or anything really.

During my daughter’s birthday party, held in our yard that is semi-fenced, I started to bring out the cupcakes for the kids. When handing them out I noticed that 2 kids were definitely not invited because they weren’t my nieces/nephews or of a family friend. I then realized they were my neighbors kids. I paused handing out cupcakes to ask why they were here and one of the kids just shrugged and said “my mommy said I could go”. I told them it was inappropriate to just come here. My husband escorted them back to their parents house. All the neighbors houses are decently spaced so it’s not necessarily dangerous but we felt better if someone walked with the kids.

Later on, I think after we did the whole cake cutting, our neighbors approached again. This time it was both parents and the kids. I asked what they were doing and they looked confused, saying they were joining the party. I was a little agitated now and sternly said they were not invited, that this was a birthday party for my daughter and family/family friends were invited. It was awkward as they left and the kids kept whining as they did.

Next day, today, I got a handwritten letter in my mailbox about how I treated the neighbors rudely and it’s expected to share community events. Was I too rude/harsh?

I. M. Gei
Jun 26, 2005

CHIEFS

BITCH



mystes posted:

That relationship just sounds completely awful for both of them. Like exactly what are either of them getting out of it except misery?

Ridic sex game?

trickybiscuits
Jan 13, 2008

yospos
I was grinding my teeth reading this, so now you all have to read it too

quote:

Dear Prudence,

My daughter has threatened to leave her marriage three times in the past four years. Her husband is a slob and acts like a second child (they have a 4-year-old). The last time this happened, I paid for her to talk to a divorce lawyer and we talked about her and her son moving in with me. Then my daughter turned around and said they were going to make it work. And that they were trying for another baby! I told my daughter she was making a huge mistake. Babies don’t fix people. She is already stressed out caring for her son basically by herself. I also warned her I would be moving sooner rather than later. I was tired of snow and my sisters needed help caring for our parents.

My daughter didn’t talk to me for two weeks. I apologized and apologized and apologized. I thought everything was better between us until now. My sister had a stroke and can no longer care for our parents. I am selling my house to move in with them. When I told my daughter, she exploded in anger, saying I was abandoning her and her children. She is pregnant again and it turns out her husband got someone else pregnant, too. I am completely floored by this and I don’t know what to do. I am in the process of putting my house on the market. I can’t afford two houses or to constantly be traveling between here and there. I don’t know what to do. Help!

—In a Bind

quote:

Dear In a Bind,

I wish I could ask you a series of questions about how “I told my daughter she was making a huge mistake here. Babies don’t fix people” and “I also warned her I would be moving sooner rather than later” were connected in your mind. Were you trying to communicate to her that she had a chance to move in with you, but if she didn’t take you up on the offer, you would move away instead? Were you using a potential move as a way to pressure her to leave her husband? Related: Was your daughter mad at you for announcing (threatening?) a move, or for your unsolicited advice on her marriage? Did you ultimately decide to move in with your parents because they urgently need you, or because you were frustrated that your daughter hadn’t accepted your apology? So many questions! Without knowing the answers to them, I encourage you to make the following choices:

1. When it comes to the sale of the house and the move, do what you have to do. As I said, it’s not clear to me whether this is an urgent, immediate need, but if it is, pack up and go help your parents.
2. Release the hope of fixing your daughter’s life through your advice, insights, apologies, or anything else. You can’t incentivize her to leave her husband. You can’t threaten her into leaving her husband. She’s going to do what she’s going to do.
3. Ask her what you can do—given whatever financial or geographic limitations you’re dealing with—to support her through this time.
4. Compare her response to what you would feel good about doing, given that you think she’s making bad decisions and has a tendency to lash out at you.
5. Tell her what you can offer. Again, I don’t know the details so maybe it’s money for a divorce lawyer when, and if, she needs it. Maybe it’s a plan to fix up your parents’ basement so she and her kids can come live with you if they need to. Maybe it’s $20 a week. Maybe it’s a phone call every evening to check-in. The idea is to identify something that feels good to you and helpful to her.
6. Accept that she is going through a tough time—and will probably continue to be going through a tough time for a while. If she stays married to this guy, she may not be the kindest or most emotionally stable person for the foreseeable future. Commit to being the kind of mom you want to be (and are able to be, in practical terms) rather than waiting for her choices or responses to affirm you.

And some actual good advice

quote:

Dear Care and Feeding,

Do you have advice on handling it when you’re “collateral damage” in someone else’s estrangement? My niece, “Gwen,” recently cut off all contact with her parents, my brother, and his wife, “Lily”. I need to say here that there has always been something really strange about Lily. She has a nasty sense of humor and hair-trigger temper, and sometimes comes out with disturbingly violent comments out of nowhere (e.g. a baby was crying near us at a restaurant recently, and Lily commented in a calm tone, smiling, “I’d like to pour my coffee on that thing’s shrieking face if it gets brought any nearer”). She’s never actually done anything violent that I know of, but almost the whole family finds her unnerving. Gwen clearly agrees. Once, my brother and I were with her and her cousins, when someone started labeling people in the family as “most likely to… whatever”, e.g. “most likely to start a band”, “most likely future billionaire” etc. One nephew commented, “Aunt Lily is most likely a future murderer!” A few people laughed, and Gwen said, “I want you all to remember that if I ever go missing.” Her dad just laughed. I found it disturbing, but again, nothing has ever actually happened—there hasn’t been any violence.

Now, Gwen has turned 18 and moved out, changing her number and sharing her address with no one. It seemed to happen overnight last September and her parents haven’t seen her since. She unfriended all her cousins on social media and has responded to no one’s efforts to reach out. The thing is, I happened to run into her in another city, completely by coincidence. She seemed horrified and only responded to my questions with, “I’m not in touch with family anymore,” before practically running away.

I am deeply hurt! We seemed close right up until she vanished from the family, and I love her dearly. I’m child-free by choice but often did stereotypical “mother-daughter” things with Gwen—she even got me Mother’s Day cards and gifts because her mom hates that stuff. I honestly don’t understand why she feels the need to cut off me and everyone else just because she’s no longer speaking to her parents (who claim not to know why she’s gone no-contact, but we’re all suspicious of that). Based on where I met her, I think I know where she’s in college now and could possibly track her down to make contact again. But should I? I badly want some answers and would love to know if we can be in contact again, but my husband thinks she won’t want contact with anyone who still regularly sees her mother. Any advice on this bizarre and upsetting situation would be appreciated.

—No One Even Knows What Happened

quote:

Dear No One Even Knows,

I know you’re hurt and you have questions. You’re bursting with curiosity. Those feelings are real, but they are unimportant compared to Gwen’s safety. Whatever happened with her family, it must have been deeply upsetting for her to go completely no-contact while still in college, a time when many people are still financially and emotionally dependent on their parents—it can’t be easy for her, even now, to be essentially on her own in the world at 18. I don’t think she would have made that choice unless she felt she had to. All her actions, including her cutting off extended family because they might be in contact with her parents, point to how upset and unsafe she must have felt at the time—and now she is probably terrified that you’ll contact her parents. (Don’t.)

You mentioned that no violence had ever occurred. But honestly, you have no way of knowing that. People are very good at hiding abuse of all kinds. Obviously I don’t know what happened, either, but it seems safe to assume that it was serious. If Gwen was mistreated or abused in some way, if she is scared of one or both of her parents finding her, it absolutely makes sense for her not to trust or risk being in contact with anyone who regularly sees and talks with her abuser(s). And while of course you’re allowed to be hurt and miss your niece, I think you need to try to process those feelings without expecting her to apologize or explain herself to you. Your feelings can’t become her burden, especially if she is just trying to protect herself.

I realize this is all very disturbing, but you need to err on the side of your niece’s wellbeing. She’s clearly been hurt; you don’t need to know the particulars to understand that. Again, I just don’t think she would take the drastic step of separating herself from her entire family—right out of high school!—unless she felt her safety depended on it in some way. Mourn your former closeness if you need to, but try to respect the boundaries your niece has obviously gone to great pains to establish. She knows where you are. If she wants to reach out to you and feels safe doing so, she will, and at that point you can do everything in your power to support her.

mystes
May 31, 2006

trickybiscuits posted:

I was grinding my teeth reading this, so now you all have to read it too

quote:

I wish I could ask you a series of questions about how “I told my daughter she was making a huge mistake here. Babies don’t fix people” and “I also warned her I would be moving sooner rather than later” were connected in your mind. Were you trying to communicate to her that she had a chance to move in with you, but if she didn’t take you up on the offer, you would move away instead? Were you using a potential move as a way to pressure her to leave her husband
I think what the person who wrote in said to her daughter wasn't great, and also the letter was unclearly worded, but in the context of the whole thing it seems pretty clear that she meant that she was likely going to be moving and therefore wouldn't be nearby to help take care of the kids so I think the answer is misunderstanding what she meant

MagusofStars
Mar 31, 2012



AITA For not letting my wife hijack a free vacation

quote:

One of my (39M) hobbies is entering raffles, sweepstakes, radio contests, etc. I've won tickets to concerts, sporting events, some household items, gift cards, but never a grand prize like a car or vacation. Until last month when I won a free trip for 4 people to Florida for 5 nights. Obviously, I was super excited and told my wife (38F) about it right away.

After our initial excitement wore off and we started talking about details, it became apparent we had conflicting ideas about this trip. Before I could even make suggestions about what I want this trip to be, my wife brought up how excited her 11-year-old daughter would be and how we could go to Disney, Sea World, etc. She then said that we can bring her mom with to help watch her daughter so that we could have some time for ourselves.

She was so excited about it and was getting wrapped up in planning things without even hearing what I wanted. I told her that all of that sounds like fun, but I was thinking that we could invite another couple and have it be an adult-only trip instead of bringing my stepdaughter and MIL with.

She did not like my idea one bit and told me that she wouldn't feel right taking a free trip like that and leaving her daughter behind. She also said that her mom has never been to Florida and this would be a perfect opportunity for her to go there. We argued back and forth a little bit before deciding to take a break and come back to it before telling anyone about it.

Well, that lasted about 24-hours before my wife let it slip to her daughter that I had won a trip. So, of course stepdaughter immediately got excited about it and started looking into all the things she wants to do.

I asked my wife why she told her daughter and she said it was an accident, which, come on. It started a fight between us and emotions got a little high. I told her she was wrong to bring her daughter into this after we agreed to wait and that I never agreed to take stepdaughter or MIL on this trip. I told her that I was the one who won the trip and she was acting like this was something specifically for her.

She told me I was being selfish and that we should include those closest to us in something like this, especially when neither stepdaughter or MIL have ever been to Florida. She said that bringing another couple and leaving her daughter home would be cruel, especially now that she's so excited about it.

I told her that her daughter is only excited about it because she decided to blab to her about it instead of waiting like we had agreed. I told her if she wants to bring her daughter and MIL then she can also pick someone else to go with because I would rather stay home by myself than go on a vacation that where I don't get to be involved in any decisions.

I said that if she wants to go that route, she certainly can, but I'm not paying for any of it (we have separate finances). Now she thinks I'm being a jerk and should be happy about having a free family trip.
Well that seems pretty weird, why would you have a Disney vacation and exclude the 11-year old?

OP posted:

Yes, she is my step-daughter and I did refer to her that way in the post. Not sure why so many people are hung up on phrasing and using it to try and infer any deeper meanings into our lives other than word choice. My stepdaughter and I get along fine and I love her. But that doesn't mean I want to spend this trip waiting in lines at Disney or Universal. The trip isn't even to Orlando, it's to Fort Myers. So, getting to Disney would require a lot more work than my wife thinks it will.

OP posted:

Yes, she knows the destination of the trip. But I don't think she grasps how big Florida is and how much of a hassle it would be to get to Orlando from Fort Myers, even just for one day. I think she just heard "Florida" and her mind immediately went to Disney.
Okay, yeah that makes sense. Lol at the wife imagining a Disney vacation when their trip is to a completely separate city which is a 6+ hour round-trip drive away.

MagusofStars fucked around with this message at 03:29 on Apr 5, 2024

mystes
May 31, 2006

MagusofStars posted:

AITA For not letting my wife hijack a free vacation

Well that seems pretty weird, why would you have a Disney vacation and exclude the 11-year old?



Okay, yeah that makes sense. Lol at the wife imagining a Disney vacation when their trip is to a completely separate city which is a 6+ hour round-trip drive away.
It sounds like they're both dumb

Hughlander
May 11, 2005

Ft. Meyers to Orlando is like an 8-9 hour round trip.

AmiYumi
Oct 10, 2005

I FORGOT TO HAIL KING TORG

Elissimpark posted:

Fine, witchdoctors are out. What about swamp hags?
If you wanna waste your money (and other intangible costs), sure - but why bother when you can pick up a bog goblin? It'll solve all your problems, mostly by making new ones!

Ghost Leviathan
Mar 2, 2017

Exploration is ill-advised.
I asked a witch doctor for relationship advice and all I got was this loving song stuck in my head.

Troublemaker
Mar 12, 2007

At that point your free trip is no longer free. Car rental/airfare to Orlando? Probably a hotel in the area, since you're not going to want to put in a full exhausting day at Disney and then drive/fly back to Fort Meyers? The literal hundreds to thousands of dollars for four people to visit the park? Lady is planning an entirely different vacation than what the guy won.

Love that she immediately blabbed to the daughter, too, to make it harder for him to say no. That relationship is going places! (Just probably not to Disney.)

mom and dad fight a lot
Sep 21, 2006
Probation
Can't post for 27 days!
Sell the trip and keep the money. gently caress it.

I. M. Gei
Jun 26, 2005

CHIEFS

BITCH



mom and dad fight a lot posted:

Sell the trip and keep the money. gently caress it.

Can you do that?

Mx.
Dec 16, 2006

I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!


Ghost Leviathan posted:

I asked a witch doctor for relationship advice and all I got was this loving song stuck in my head.

Elissimpark
May 20, 2010

Bring me the head of Auguste Escoffier.

Ghost Leviathan posted:

I asked a witch doctor for relationship advice and all I got was this loving song stuck in my head.

*shakes head*

Ooh-eee.

idiotsavant
Jun 4, 2000

Ghost Leviathan posted:

I asked a witch doctor for relationship advice and all I got was this loving song stuck in my head.

https://youtu.be/GSoQDaXh144?si=XxOECyyesfjsF9qX

wheatpuppy
Apr 25, 2008

YOU HAVE MY POST!

I. M. Gei posted:

Can you do that?

Depends on the sweepstakes, but some of them have an option where you can decline a prize in favor of a cash equivalent. Typically the "equivalent" is less than the retail price of the prize.

Biplane
Jul 18, 2005

Ghost Leviathan posted:

I asked a witch doctor for relationship advice and all I got was this loving song stuck in my head.

You motherfucker

Ravenfood
Nov 4, 2011

mystes posted:

If you want pseudoscience as a placebo to temporarily make you feel better, homeopathy is a lot less dangerous

Many chiros will also do, like, basic stuff a trained massage therapist can do but one of those is often covered by insurance and it's not the therapist for some loving reason.

Which is unfortunately why they still keep getting business, because they can still relieve pain for some people in non-placebo ways. Just a whole loving mess of a healthcare system.

Ravenfood fucked around with this message at 11:41 on Apr 5, 2024

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Funktastic
Jul 23, 2013

AITA for taking “advantage” of my gf?

quote:

I feel like I’m about to get flamed so throwaway

My gf and I have been together for 3 years. Since we started dating we have a tradition of paying for each other for dinner for our birthdays. We don’t have a limit on how much that meal would cost.

My gf doesn’t drink, she at most has a mocktail or a sparking water. I usually pay $100-150 for both of us for her birthday dinner. My birthday was 2 days ago and we went out. I drink which my gf doesn’t like and she thinks it’s a waste of money. But it’s my birthday and she agreed to pay for everything. I had 8 drinks and a steak and dessert at a steakhouse which cost about $200 and with her $70 meal it came to $310 with tips. She didn’t say anything at the time but last night blew up at me for drinking so much money and expecting me to cover it. I defended myself because it was technically unlimited and no I wasn’t drunk, I have a pretty high tolerance so it’s not fair I can’t enjoy myself. She is pretty frugal so she thinks it’s a crazy amount and I was an rear end in a top hat for leaving her with this high of a bill. We agreed we would pay for each other’s meals and drinks and its not my fault she doesn’t normally get more than one drink and it’s nonalcoholic so it’s cheaper. But she has been ignoring me and refusing to talk it out. If she’s that upset I’ll reimburse her for my portion but then that’s the end of our “tradition”.

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