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If you want to wait then wait and find someone else who also wants to wait, just don't be a judgey weirdo about it. Same goes for not waiting, you judgey weirdos. And you'll never know how bad at sex you are because your spouse will also be bad.
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Feb 28, 2014 02:56
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Sometimes two people can talk and communicate about their wants and needs and both grow and get better at sex but this involves knowing what the gently caress sex is and not being scared of god coming down and killing you because you licked your wife's butthole.
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Feb 28, 2014 03:07
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car dance posted:Sometimes two people can talk and communicate about their wants and needs and both grow and get better at sex but this involves knowing what the gently caress sex is and not being scared of god coming down and killing you because you licked your wife's butthole. You also shouldn't be scared of society ostracising you because you're not having sex. So long as everyone is happy, even in mutual ignorance! And divorce is a thing if you end up with a bad sexer.
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Feb 28, 2014 03:11
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Most of the people who believe in waiting also don't believe in divorce. Then again a lot of them male and female don't believe in the female orgasm so they won't know what bad sex is. Oh well!
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Feb 28, 2014 03:16
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Synonamess Botch posted:Literally no good reason to wait until marriage. I dare you to give me one. I dated a girl who was a 25 year old virgin, who was waiting for marriage. Her rationale was "If I don't know any better, it will be the best sex I've ever had." We actually broke up because she wouldn't eat pork.
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Feb 28, 2014 03:32
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amarantinesky posted:I'm guessing it's mostly self-defeating, or I'd call it self-sabotaging. If you're deeply afraid of intimacy, it's safer to obsess over a totally unattainable person then to actually put yourself out there and look for a partner that might actually reciprocate your interest. Or to just never put yourself out there because then you can never be rejected.
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Feb 28, 2014 04:17
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Arch Stanton posted:I think it's pretty normal to not kiss on the first date. It probably depends on your social group.
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Feb 28, 2014 06:41
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Shannonmcn posted:If you want to wait then wait and find someone else who also wants to wait, just don't be a judgey weirdo about it. Same goes for not waiting, you judgey weirdos. Looking at this thread, I don't know how you'd come by the conclusion that those choosing to wait are the judgey weirdos.
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Feb 28, 2014 06:46
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Chairchucker posted:Looking at this thread, I don't know how you'd come by the conclusion that those choosing to wait are the judgey weirdos. Well, just going by what I remember reading there were three of us that voiced something on the matter: I said I'm doing it so that when I gently caress up I'll still have a safety net region between me and the more dangerous/risky unprotected crap You declined comment And there was a girl that said her decisions was based on religious grounds, and consequently hosed her up. This one would probably count as being a judgey weirdo as she put her well being on the side for her beliefs on the subject at the time. So yeah, it doesn't exactly support that all of us are judgey weirdos, but 1/3 of us fitting the bill is support for the stereotype.
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Feb 28, 2014 13:31
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blarzgh posted:I dated a girl who was a 25 year old virgin, who was waiting for marriage. Her rationale was "If I don't know any better, it will be the best sex I've ever had." I dated a girl who was 29 and waiting for marriage. We did everything else though. Strangely she broke up with me.
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Feb 28, 2014 13:35
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blarzgh posted:I dated a girl who was a 25 year old virgin, who was waiting for marriage. Her rationale was "If I don't know any better, it will be the best sex I've ever had." This argument weirdly makes sense to me, but I'm still not so sure it's a good idea.
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Feb 28, 2014 13:41
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Chairchucker posted:Looking at this thread, I don't know how you'd come by the conclusion that those choosing to wait are the judgey weirdos. No one did that in the thread necessarily, but you have to admit religious virgins can be pretty judgey, in my IRL experience anyway. But I wasn't pointing to posters here specifically.
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Feb 28, 2014 14:22
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I may be judgey, but if you're waiting until marriage you're definitely a weirdo. Real talk tho, I'm not saying this stuff to be mean, I'm trying to help people who lack the experience to know they're making a mistake.
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Feb 28, 2014 14:24
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Over the years I've been gifted two George Foreman grills, two sandwich presses, and a quesadilla maker.
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Feb 28, 2014 15:28
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Synonamess Botch posted:I may be judgey, but if you're waiting until marriage you're definitely a weirdo. Real talk tho, I'm not saying this stuff to be mean, I'm trying to help people who lack the experience to know they're making a mistake. Well put. It's not like "HA HA! Loser! Only lames wait for marriage!" but more like "No, seriously, if you wait for marriage, your marriage might end in a shouting match, in front of the neighbors."
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Feb 28, 2014 15:28
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Arian_Samurai posted:Over the years I've been gifted two George Foreman grills, two sandwich presses, and a quesadilla maker. I think the only advantage of the Foreman is that the fat drips out of the thing. Otherwise just get a cast iron pan like a real man.
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Feb 28, 2014 15:29
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Iron Crowned posted:I think the only advantage of the Foreman is that the fat drips out of the thing. Otherwise just get a cast iron pan like a real man. They also have automatic temperature regulation, unlike most stoves. Obviously cast iron is the pro way to go, but Foreman grills can be nice for non-cooks.
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Feb 28, 2014 15:33
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Foreman grills are for bedsits and students.
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Feb 28, 2014 15:51
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I read this book called "Jennifer Government" which was about a dystopian libertarian society, anyway this guy knocks out a potential murderer with a crumpet toaster, which is a toaster that is too small for bread and only for crumpets. when I look at the quesadilla maker I have I always think of this.
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Feb 28, 2014 15:59
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I love my foreman. Frees up a space on the stove and gets a nice crispy skin on chicken.
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Feb 28, 2014 16:09
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I'll gently caress all of you right now. Line up.
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Feb 28, 2014 16:10
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An artist's depiction of the struggle to lose his virginity: 
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FoolyCharged posted:Well, just going by what I remember reading there were three of us that voiced something on the matter: If two people are in a monogamous relationship, I can't really think of any reason to wait until marriage other than the thought that sex before marriage makes one "less pure" or "tainted" or whatever gross thing society told them adulterers are. It's not a reach to assume they think/thought the same of other people too. lidnsya posted:An artist's depiction of the struggle to lose his virginity: do not gently caress that
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Feb 28, 2014 16:18
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Spiffo posted:
Spoilsport.
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Feb 28, 2014 16:19
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lidnsya posted:An artist's depiction of the struggle to lose his virginity: I... Why would you buy that when a toaster oven exists? Like, at least with the sandwich press you can use it as a pair of hotplates, but that is literally just a hotdog toaster. I mean, who has room on their counters for that kind of crap?
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Feb 28, 2014 16:23
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Spiffo posted:If two people are in a monogamous relationship, I can't really think of any reason to wait until marriage They will say, "We've waited this long, we can't think of a reason not to."
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Feb 28, 2014 16:28
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Dark Weasel posted:Bunch of youngins' in here... Quoting this from the first page. Because lmao.
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Arian_Samurai posted:I read this book called "Jennifer Government" which was about a dystopian libertarian society, anyway this guy knocks out a potential murderer with a crumpet toaster, which is a toaster that is too small for bread and only for crumpets. when I look at the quesadilla maker I have I always think of this. Jennifer Government was a great book. It would probably make a great movie. Don't take people to movies on your first date though guys.
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Feb 28, 2014 18:44
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Sardonik posted:Jennifer Government was a great book. It would probably make a great movie. Why? I mean it's not like the activity promotes gently caress all interaction between the two of you... e: VVVVVVVVVV 
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Feb 28, 2014 18:52
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FoolyCharged posted:Why? I mean it's not like the activity promotes gently caress all interaction between the two of you... You answered your own question.
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Feb 28, 2014 18:54
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FoolyCharged posted:Why? I mean it's not like the activity promotes gently caress all interaction between the two of you... Eh, movies aren't that bad if it's the first stop before dinner. You can salvage a bad dinner by talking about the movie.
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Feb 28, 2014 18:54
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That 48 virgin guy is cool as hell and I like him..
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Feb 28, 2014 20:29
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This thread is very informative. Thanks to all the virgins and sandwich makers
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Feb 28, 2014 20:46
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So, let's give other perspectives.quote:Why do you think you are a virgin? And how old are you? I'm assuming a couple of reasons: -I'm still afflicted by short frenulum and phimosis, and I noticed the difference between my dick and other boys' when I was too stupid to do anything, but I fed the thought I wasn't in condition of having sex. ("still" because I've already been under the knife once and it didn't work out) -I went to an all boys high school. Well, not really an all boys, it was a tech institute, there were like 50 girls outta 1000 students. Didn't care anyway since I liked playing videogames and martial arts, they aren't girl-friendly activities now in 2014, they weren't back in the late 90s. -I think I had a genuine assholish behaviour during college and I was kinda a nerd when it wasn't cool, so I didn't really attract crowds of girls. The handful of girls I had around weren't interesting. quote:Are your hobbies/activities/etc typically "nerdy"? quote:Have you ever had a girlfriend or almost "done the deed" or "sealed the deal" before? Why didn't you successfully have sex? What constitutes sex to you, for that matter? What constitutes sex? Well, apart from "penis into vagina"? Dunno. I've always ran from situations where girls could've been interested in me because I didn't want to find myself in the possibiliy of having to stick my penis in a vagina. So, I've felt sexually attracted to some girls, but I never got close to them. I've never experienced a long lasting attraction to someone. quote:What are your overall attitudes towards women in your age range? Do you think it would be better if they were more traditionally feminine, etc? tl;dr - I should've been cut since I was newborn, I didn't understand what to do until recently. Never got bitter over it; I just got foreved scared of bleeding all over the place and feeling excruciating pain in the act that defines a male's manly virilty. Back to the grilled cheese discussion now? Char fucked around with this message at 22:08 on Feb 28, 2014 |
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I know a woman (30 years old) who is actually a consecrated virgin, which is like an oath you take to be a virgin forever within the Catholic Church. She has a ring she wears to represent her marriage to Christ. For a while she was split between religious life (becoming a nun/sister) or just the state of consecrated virginity, and she's not at all very nerdy. Her hobbies tend to be more spiritual or athletic in nature. I could ask her about women's femininity (?) if you want. Not the same woman but a local news source had an article about a woman consecrating her virginity: http://www.jsonline.com/news/waukesha/29486939.html cname posted:Well put. It's not like "HA HA! Loser! Only lames wait for marriage!" but more like "No, seriously, if you wait for marriage, your marriage might end in a shouting match, in front of the neighbors." It might end poorly either way, but I don't think the idea that "if you wait til marriage you will have a poor marriage" is an idea that has been well substantiated by actual studies, and in a few studies the opposite has been shown to be true: http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/news/20101227/theres-benefits-in-delaying-sex-until-marriage Of course correlation doesn't mean causation though so I wouldn't actually try to claim that a marriage is guaranteed to success just because you don't have sex beforehand either.
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Feb 28, 2014 22:11
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Arakan posted:how can they rate sexual quality if their sample size is 1 When they shut their eyes and think of England they're taken to a magical place, the score is an attempt to rate that experience.
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Arakan posted:how can they rate sexual quality if their sample size is 1 Its just a matter of rating their own satisfaction with their spouse, not necessarily needing to compare said spouse to a sufficient sample size of ex-bfs or ex-gfs along the way.
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it's ok whatever people want to do if they want to gently caress now or whenever but if you are a sexual person with a healthy sex drive whose mental health is improved by being sexually satisfied it is important to know that you are sexually compatible with a person before you engage in an ostensibly permanent sexual situation with them. so what you're doing by waiting until marriage to bone is you're saying that sexual compatibility is irrelevant to a sexual relationship, which is frankly dumb as hell.
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