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For those of you ladies who are looking for custom gowns, I used the Very Merry Seamstress and absolutely love my dress. I think I paid about $600 for it. She's on Twitter, Facebook, etc.
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Is there a good way to judge online jewelers? I'm in love with lots of rings on this guy's Etsy shop but I have no jewelry knowledge whatsoever, and neither does my SO, so I really don't know if this guy knows what he's doing/is charging way too much. Just lots of pretty pictures! I want a sapphire if that makes a difference.
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What is normally expected for groomsmen to pay for their clothes? I've only been in one wedding, and it was $200, which I hear is on the high end.
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Apr 8, 2014 16:19
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Just thought I'd take the time to recommend Amazing Mail for sending custom save the date postcards given my positive experience this past week. My fiancee is a graphic designer so she made the front and half back design using some Adobe SW and exported them in JPG. You can upload/resize/reposition the images, upload your mailing list in an Excel spreadsheet, and choose glossy or matte postcards. It ended up costing us ~$100 after 15% discount code with postage included to send out 120 save the date postcards.
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Apr 8, 2014 21:31
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FogHelmut posted:What is normally expected for groomsmen to pay for their clothes? I've only been in one wedding, and it was $200, which I hear is on the high end. $200 is about the average based on the weddings my friends and I have been in. I'm looking at about ~$140 for the suit rentals for my wedding this year. Keeping the price down was a key priority for me because it bothered me at how much money I had to spend to stand up in my friends wedding last year.
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Apr 9, 2014 20:20
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This is why I ended up just having my groomsmen wear whatever suit they had, as long as it was a dark or mid gray. We didn't end up all matchy matchy but the whole cost of clothing for them was like $35. I'm pretty sure the whole "matching wedding party" is another of those traditions conjured up in the mid 20th century. Not everyone looks good in the same suit or the same dress.
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Apr 9, 2014 20:28
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If anyone can link me vests that look like this it would be greatly appreciated. I am gonna let the guys wear whatever nice dark jeans and button up shirt that they have with a vest like this. (If I can find them.)
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Apr 10, 2014 00:02
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Most of the groomsmen in my wedding already owned tuxes, and the ones who didn't we just instructed to go get a standard black tux with a white shirt from wherever. They all didn't match exactly but you couldn't tell unless you were right up next to them. For the vests I'd just take that picture to a mens wear store or tux rental place and ask if they've got anything similar. Probably less work than trying to find the right combination of search terms in Google then trying to find a legitimate place to get them.
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Apr 10, 2014 03:52
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Long time no see thread! You guys were super helpful when I got married a couple years ago and pointed me towards a great photographer. I had another photography question; a friend of mine is getting married in the DC area and is having a hell of a time finding an affordable photographer. I've looked and I'm not having much success either. Do any of you know any decent (cheap) photographers in the DC area?
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Solus M.D. posted:Long time no see thread! You guys were super helpful when I got married a couple years ago and pointed me towards a great photographer. I had another photography question; a friend of mine is getting married in the DC area and is having a hell of a time finding an affordable photographer. I've looked and I'm not having much success either. Do any of you know any decent (cheap) photographers in the DC area? What do you qualify as "cheap"? I got married in the DC area and our photographer was awesome. We paid $3600 for her. There's a bigass bridal show at the Dulles expo center this weekend I think, that's where I found a lot of my vendors. Your friend should go to that.
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Aquatic Giraffe posted:What do you qualify as "cheap"? This. The DC area is going to be expensive. Having a great photographer was one of my biggest priorities. We paid $2500 2 years ago and I believe her starting price has since gone up to $3500. She's actually based in Delaware but travels regularly. Unless you get really lucky with a newbie or know someone that can hook you up with an inside deal, I would be surprised if you can find someone good for under $3000.
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Apr 10, 2014 23:44
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I can PM an exact breakdown of what we paid for each service. I'm hesitant to post it openly because it would start another who paid the least pissing contest.
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Apr 11, 2014 02:47
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Aw, but that's half the fun of this thread 
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Aquatic Giraffe posted:What do you qualify as "cheap"? I got married in the DC area and our photographer was awesome. We paid $3600 for her. I think the idea was just as cheaply as possible. If it could be under 3k, or even 2k, that would be awesome. She doesn't want a whole engagement pictures package or anything, just three or four hours day-of. But yeah, we were worried it would be really expensive and there would be no avoiding it. Thank you for the expo information! I've passed it along, it looks really fabulous
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Aquatic Giraffe posted:I can PM an exact breakdown of what we paid for each service. I'm hesitant to post it openly because it would start another who paid the least pissing contest. I paid $900 for my photographer. I doubt this would be possible outside of the flyovers though.
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Solus M.D. posted:I paid $900 for my photographer. Or if you get a good "just starting out, portfolio but not too many, need more really good sets" photographer, but we got loving lucky, so.
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I posted an ad on craigslist offering $500 for a photographer, and I live in the SF bay area. I got over 40 responses. Some were obviously crap, of course, (one kid offered to use his mom's iphone to document our wedding) but I was very happy with the one I ended up choosing. He had a good portfolio and a style I really liked. If you're looking to save money on photography, try this option first. If you don't like any of the responses, no harm done. I also used this method for other services, like musicians.
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Apr 11, 2014 16:25
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Solus M.D. posted:IThank you for the expo information! I've passed it along, it looks really fabulous My photographer (Studio K/Kathy Hertel) will be there! That expo last year is actually where I found her. If you see pictures of a winter military wedding at her booth that's me
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Emasculatrix posted:I also used this method for other services, like musicians. I could use some opinions, please: I'll be getting married and having the cocktail hour poolside. I was trying to think of something a bit more interesting that flowers to float in the pool to decorate it, but I'm not having any bright ideas. It's during the day, so I wouldn't do candles. Suggestions? If we do go with flowers, how would we do them so everything doesn't end up bunched up in the corner by the breeeze? Attach little strings with weights to the flowers?
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I have a decision to make that I'm not quite sure about. My mom apparently found her dream mother of the bride pant suit and is really excited about it. She says that makes her look like a million dollars and it's perfect. However, she also says my aunt told her it's almost identical in color to my wedding dress. She told me she wants me to see it and if I don't approve of the closeness of color to my dress she can take it back, but I have no idea what to think about this. First of all, I'm not that fussy and I don't really care if her outfit is close in color to my dress. My cousin says it's perfectly acceptable for the mother of the bride to wear cream or ivory. I'm also not the kind of person who throws fits over small stuff. Second, I don't really want to be pushed into making that call. I really appreciate that she's worried about my feelings, but I also don't want to be the douche who says no if it looks like we match exactly. My only real concern would be whether we look like we'll blend together in photos and whether that will look weird. I can't say for sure until I see the suit, anyway. I poked around on Google and got the impression that it might be tacky to wear the same color as the bride. I'm not really sure what I think because I've never heard of any of this before. I certainly don't want people to get the wrong impression of my mom. She's really happy about her outfit, though, so I at least want to check it out. I'm not sure I see a problem with it besides the photo thing I mentioned. Anyway, would anyone be able to give me opinions on this? I'll see my mom for Easter weekend and she's going to show me the outfit then.
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It sounds a little bit like you are experiencing one of two potential feelings-scenarios: 1. You do not care but you feel like you should care because weddings have this insane etiquette thing that goes on around and inside of them and you're afraid of what other people think. OR 2. You DO care but you don't want your mom to feel bad. If situation 1, tell her she can wear it and everybody who doesn't like it can get hosed, because it's your wedding and your feelings about it that matter. You two will look great in pictures because you two look great, period. If situation 2, sure, evaluate it and maybe take a test photo or two to assuage your fears. Even if it looks similar under lighting, though, different fabrics look wildly different in photographs, so I really doubt you two will look exactly the same, and a test photo even with a point-and-shoot or a cameraphone will bear that out.
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Is it possible to have her suit dyed to a different colour if it matches too closely?
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So I am putting together a wedding in three months, and everything has been going well so far, but we are having some small issues. How have people walked in for a gay wedding? We were thinking of walking in together hand in hand, and having two friends walk in our mothers. How have others done this, because I think this is potentially one of the trickiest parts. I'm also trying to think of things that give it the masculine touch, but I'm coming up dry. Ideas? Edit: ooh I just remembered one more question. How important do you think it is our tuxedos match in style? Would it look disjointed if we had different styles? I want to be wearing white top and black pants, while he has black top and pants, but we haven't found a tuxedo rental place that offers same style in different colors. Edit2: thanks Suzie, very helpful. GRINK HELCH fucked around with this message at 04:10 on Apr 15, 2014 |
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GRINK HELCH posted:So I am putting together a wedding in three months, and everything has been going well so far, but we are having some small issues. I have never been to a gay wedding, so I looked up a few on youtube it seems that each groom walks their parents down. Remember though, it is your wedding so do whatever you want. If you want to walk down with your husband to be, go for it! I watched one and I really liked that the attendants walked down hand in hand regardless of gender. as far as being masculine, I like the idea of all the groomsmen (grooms maids?) dressing in black and the grooms in white. It is subtle yet effective!
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GRINK HELCH posted:So I am putting together a wedding in three months, and everything has been going well so far, but we are having some small issues. If you both have siblings they can walk the parents down. I think it's super sweet that you are going to 'present' and walk down together. If both of you grooms are renting tuxes or suits, you can definitely find a place that offers same style/different colors. Keep looking. A masculine touch could happen with the florist. They could do (very pretty) plants for your wedding instead of 'traditional' flowers. Even if one or both of you wants a bouquet, it could be made with colorful plants instead of blooms.
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GRINK HELCH posted:Edit: ooh I just remembered one more question. How important do you think it is our tuxedos match in style? Would it look disjointed if we had different styles? I want to be wearing white top and black pants, while he has black top and pants, but we haven't found a tuxedo rental place that offers same style in different colors. It would only look disjointed if one of you was in a tux and the other was in something less formal. It's not very important for the tuxes to match exactly, and I think it's actually better if they don't.
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It's a bit different because my partner and I are women, but we're both planning to have our mothers and fathers escort us down the aisle. What we haven't decided is if we're going to go simultaneously or one after another - if we did simultaneously, we'd likely arrange our seating so that there would be two aisles (three sections in all.) Our party would precede us in pairs (one in each aisle) and then we'd walk down at the same time. I think we'll probably end up sticking with one aisle, but it does mean that we'll have to figure out which of us goes first and which second.
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You could process in on the sides at the same time, then go up the center aisle together when you process out. Depends on how your venue is set up I guess.
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Nicol Bolas posted:It sounds a little bit like you are experiencing one of two potential feelings-scenarios: It's probably more like 1, I think. I felt like I was supposed to care and that I should feel bad because I wasn't feeling the way I should or something. Thankfully, the issue has resolved itself. Mom decided she wanted a suit she could wear more than once, so she took it back on her own and picked something else out. She says she's much happier with the new outfit, which is a taupe with gold undertones. I'm glad I don't have to make that decision anymore! I really appreciate your help, because you put what I felt into words. Thank you. KasioDiscoRock posted:Is it possible to have her suit dyed to a different colour if it matches too closely? My fiance's grandmother is a master weaver and dyes her own yarn, so I'm sure she would have helped out with this if the suit matched too closely. That was a great idea, thank you. Now my only concern regarding the wedding at the moment is finding a nice matching set of wedding bands. I'm a little frustrated because I'd like a simple, white gold band to match my husband's, and it seems like all the wedding bands for women are covered in diamonds. I don't want any stones in my wedding band at all, so I guess I'm going against the current style! Seriously, the People's website, for example, has only 23 wedding bands with no stones. The "official" ring that matches my engagement band has 15 small diamonds in it and I just don't want that. I've never been a diamonds sort of girl, ever. There are some lovely websites out there, but I'm in Canada and most of the sites are US based. Therefore, the shipping and duty fees are ridiculous and not really feasible. I'm sure we'll figure something out, though! We'll start looking more seriously around the end of April.
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Anyone in Chicago have recommendations for jewelers for engagement rings? I may well end up ordering online just to avoid the 10% sales tax but I probably should see options in person. Hoping to keep the ring sub 2k, as I'll likely be paying for the whole wedding myself and it's going to have to be held up in Kenilworth, so trying to save money on the ring  .
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I recommend Bryn Mawr Jewelry Co. They're just off the Bryn Mawr red line stop. My wife and I worked with them to have custom wedding rings designed for ourselves. They were very friendly, and helped us figure everything out as neither of us knew much about jewelery. Although for her engagement ring, we ended up finding something on ebay that was a unique design.
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Scored this 1940's ring from my Mother's side. Main diamond is ~VS1, slightly bruised at the bottom. It needs a little bit of work on the outside fittings. Overall the ring is 1.25 carats.  Giving it to my lady in May. 
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You and your lady are very lucky- it's lovely.
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Thanks! I'm curious about insurance for it. Is it a good idea? Should i go ahead and get it now, or should we do it together?
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bathhouse posted:Thanks! Get an official appraisal done, the insurance company will need it. My opinion is to insure it ASAP.
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Any recommendations for a jeweler in Dallas/Fort Worth?
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bathhouse posted:Thanks! Insurance is so cheap there's almost no reason not to.
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couldcareless posted:Insurance is so cheap there's almost no reason not to. Entire divisions of seasoned appraisers, with decades of experience each, have determined that on average, the insurance company wins. A ring is non-essential, or at the very least, can be replaced with a super low cost replacement until a "properly expensive" ring can be bought. Insurance is only ever a losing proposition; the only question is that, should you be "lucky" enough to need the insurance, will not having it cause serious issues? Only buy insurance for things that will cause major quality of life disruption if lost, or if you know something the insurance company doesn't as to how risky you are.
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baquerd posted:Entire divisions of seasoned appraisers, with decades of experience each, have determined that on average, the insurance company wins. A ring is non-essential, or at the very least, can be replaced with a super low cost replacement until a "properly expensive" ring can be bought. Insurance is only ever a losing proposition; the only question is that, should you be "lucky" enough to need the insurance, will not having it cause serious issues? I'm not sure if this post is sarcasm or not, but another problem might be in filing your taxes this year, if the ring as a gift or a family heirloom or part of an estate it may be tricky in how you claim it and you may end up owing money on it. If there isn't any insurance paper trail there is less of a... priority claiming it on your taxes. Your best bet would be to talk to an accountant, especially one familiar with the finances of the family member you got the ring from, to figure out what makes the most sense financially. It seems pretty irreplaceable, will a modern 1.25 c ring have the same value to you without the family history? Is it worth insuring the ring to replace it with a brand new diamond with no history? Especially if what was a "free" ring from a family member costs you money in taxes.
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baquerd posted:Only buy insurance for things that will cause major quality of life disruption if lost, or if you know something the insurance company doesn't as to how risky you are. That's a great actuary answer, but most people are happy to pay the insurance company $50/year to insure their engagement ring against loss. It's just smart financial planning to insure against asset loss.
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