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Don't get your sex-ed from stand-up routines... There's nothing wrong with fingers being used for clitoral stimulation during PiV. You can also use your fingers to directly stimulate her g-spot, which is not as easy to do with your dick. As far as I know, it can be tricky for women to reach their g-spot themselves, and the sensation is quite different, so it's not quite the same thing as a hand job for guys. Or, simply put: put a condom on, stick your dick in her, play with her clit.
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Nov 9, 2014 02:16
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EB Nulshit posted:This is what I was thinking. There's nothing wrong with using hands for stimulating your partner and most people aren't going to be put off by it. The comedy bit you're talking about was talking about a pity handjob in a failing marriage being sad (because it was done out of pity in a weird/depressing location) rather than saying "using your hands makes sex depressing." I mean if you want to do oral, that's fine. But if a person needs other stimulation to get off it's not like that's your only option.
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Nov 9, 2014 03:29
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I always thought using hands first allowed you to basically check out hygiene first before committing your face to it with some random dude or skeezy.
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Nov 9, 2014 03:40
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LingcodKilla posted:I always thought using hands first allowed you to basically check out hygiene first before committing your face to it with some random dude or skeezy. You can do that or you could just use your hands only for foreplay/whatever and still have plenty of fun. 
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Nov 9, 2014 03:43
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LingcodKilla posted:I always thought using hands first allowed you to basically check out hygiene first before committing your face to it with some random dude or skeezy. LingcodKilla posted:A real man would have just been happy with getting his dick wet and not having to do extra "work". No comment necessary.
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Nov 9, 2014 12:06
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Jedit posted:No comment necessary. Yeah I was totally loving around with some (a lot ) of those previous posts. Nobody says "A real man..." and is 100% serious. Of course there's more to just dipping your wick.
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Nov 9, 2014 15:51
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So I'm super rusty at sex and haven't had a lot in a few years and my new partner is very much "Let's do it all the time!" like that's great but my problem is I sometimes orgasm too quick or I just lose strength (although I think that's more to do with us going out a lot and drinking a fair bit). Are there any hints or tips to fix this? I want to be good in bed and please her correctly but I don't know what to do. Might just be stress with a new relationship, you think?
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Nov 9, 2014 17:33
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I've been in a relationship with another guy for over a year now. We're in our 30's, we're both healthy and attracted to each other, and never fight. I'm always in the mood for sex every other day and at first he was up for it maybe once a week. I was able to compromise and fill the gaps with porn, but now it is like every two weeks. When we first started dating I got him to go to the gym (he was skinny/sedentary) and now he's in great shape and has abs and stuff, and still goes. But, he's still always saying he's too tired for sex. He claims it takes him around 24 hours to fully recover from an orgasm so he schedules sex for Saturdays where it won't interfere with work. The weird thing is he actually might not be full of poo poo, he'll often stop me when he's close and sleep it off, I don't know how he's not getting blue balls from that but he doesn't seem to mind at all. I know a common goon refrain is "no, you do not have low testosterone" but I actually caught him ordering himself one of those free sample testosterone boost placebos without my ever bringing it up. I guess my question here is should I push him to see a doctor? I've never touched testosterone myself because more muscle isn't worth the health risks, but maybe for him he might benefit from a therapeutic amount? I'd never forgive myself if I affected his long-term health to meet my own needs. On the flip side he gave me permission to sleep with anyone on the side if I felt the need, but that's a horrific concept to me because I'm wired for monogamy.
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Nov 9, 2014 18:11
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Zero VGS posted:I've been in a relationship with another guy for over a year now. We're in our 30's, we're both healthy and attracted to each other, and never fight. I'm always in the mood for sex every other day and at first he was up for it maybe once a week. I was able to compromise and fill the gaps with porn, but now it is like every two weeks.
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Nov 10, 2014 02:56
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Nierbo posted:If he can build muscle reasonably easily (seems like he can from your comment about abs) and isn't fatigued abnormal amounts then its unlikely he has low test. But he can always go in and tell the doc he has a low sex drive and get the test done at minimal cost. Well, he's 5' 6" 120 pounds, he's not exactly putting on mass, more like burning off his skinnyfat. I had a talk with him earlier today along the lines of what I posted here and he admits he's got a way lower sex drive starting a few years before hit met me, and thinks it might be lots of job related stress, or a combination of factors. He's gonna get a blood test done soon since he hasn't had a physical in years anyway.
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Nov 10, 2014 03:25
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Okay good luck to both of you. Also many many medications can cause low sex drive. These days, commonly, anti depressants. Make sure he's eating well too if possible.
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Nov 10, 2014 03:27
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Zero VGS posted:5' 6" 120 pounds  I think your boyfriend might have a low sex drive because he's actually one of the dancing skeletons from Silly Symphonies Mechafunkzilla fucked around with this message at 03:44 on Nov 10, 2014 |
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Nov 10, 2014 03:41
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120 is still slim, but isn't skeleton skinny for 5'6"
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Nov 10, 2014 03:58
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Spudd posted:So I'm super rusty at sex and haven't had a lot in a few years and my new partner is very much "Let's do it all the time!" like that's great but my problem is I sometimes orgasm too quick or I just lose strength (although I think that's more to do with us going out a lot and drinking a fair bit). Are there any hints or tips to fix this? I want to be good in bed and please her correctly but I don't know what to do. Might just be stress with a new relationship, you think? Jerk off more. Every page of these threads has a guy complaining how he cant cum during sex and the reason why is always because he jerks off too much and desensitizes himself. You have the opposite problem. Solution is simple. Of course that wont help boner problems. That might make them worse actually since the sex wont be as important for you since you are jerking off too much. Sorry dude. I have no solution. HTH! Zero VGS posted:I've been in a relationship with another guy for over a year now. We're in our 30's, we're both healthy and attracted to each other, and never fight. I'm always in the mood for sex every other day and at first he was up for it maybe once a week. I was able to compromise and fill the gaps with porn, but now it is like every two weeks. Hate to say it dude but it sounds like one of the following: 1) He has a medical condition that is loving him up. 2) He is jerking off constantly without you knowing about it. 3) He is cheating on you.
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Nov 10, 2014 08:33
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Spudd posted:So I'm super rusty at sex and haven't had a lot in a few years and my new partner is very much "Let's do it all the time!" like that's great but my problem is I sometimes orgasm too quick or I just lose strength (although I think that's more to do with us going out a lot and drinking a fair bit). Are there any hints or tips to fix this? I want to be good in bed and please her correctly but I don't know what to do. Might just be stress with a new relationship, you think? One weird trick urologists don't want you to know: if you drink less you won't get whiskey dick. Your sexual speed runs are a different issue. On one hand it can happen to any of us on occasions. That said a good way to avoid/reduce it would be to practice jerking off with edging. Learn how to get as close as possible to orgasming then stop or slow down to recover, then go at it again. Rinse and repeat and learn your own bodies responses. Not only will you have more control naturally and last longer but it'll also teach you when to ease off and slow down. gently caress her until close to an edge then slow down. If that's not enough switch it up a bit to recover (oral or stay penetrated but no in/out, do something else instead) and then once you are back to a base level of having sexyfun but not literally about to nut you can go at it again.
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Nov 10, 2014 09:34
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GuyDudeBroMan posted:
Or that's just how he's wired. Zero, I'd get him to see a doc. There's always the chance that your libidos are just mismatched, though.
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Nov 10, 2014 10:44
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Hydrolith posted:Or that's just how he's wired. Yeah, I told him that subconsciously I kinda do hope it's something wrong like stress or low T because then it might be solvable, probably sounds selfish but it'd be healthier for him to have a sex life too instead of having no libido. If he's losing his drive from getting older, welp... he's otherwise perfect so it'd be a shame is all. If I politely goad him into sex he has a great time once he gets going, he just has a lot of inertia when I'm trying to initiate, and he never initiates. Like I said I can live with weekly, but less than that I gotta put my foot down. GuyDudeBroMan posted:Hate to say it dude but it sounds like one of the following: He has stress/anxiety from work, not on any meds though. He told me he jerks off only very rarely, and not to porn, certainly odd but seems legit in the year I've known him. Could be cheating on me, but like me he has been cheated on and holds a genuine hated of cheaters. Plus I told him I won't get angry if he cheats as long as he tells me immediately afterwards... None of that means he's not capable of it, but it just doesn't match his character and he doesn't have much free time he's not spending with me. He works 12 hours a day in a sterile lab so I certainly hope he's not fooling around in there!
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Nov 10, 2014 22:08
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Zero VGS posted:He has stress/anxiety from work. I'm no doctor but I'm pretty sure you just identified his problem.
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Nov 10, 2014 22:41
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Zero VGS posted:He works 12 hours a day in a sterile lab so I certainly hope he's not fooling around in there! Yeah I do 12-hour shifts too, that is murder on feeling like doing anything at all, let alone sexy anything.
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Nov 10, 2014 22:55
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neongrey posted:Yeah I do 12-hour shifts too, that is murder on feeling like doing anything at all, let alone sexy anything. We both work ~12 hour shifts and indeed I veg out when I'm done too but my junk doesn't get exhausted like the rest of me does. I can certainly see how not everyone is like that though.
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Nov 10, 2014 23:13
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Zero VGS posted:We both work ~12 hour shifts and indeed I veg out when I'm done too but my junk doesn't get exhausted like the rest of me does. I can certainly see how not everyone is like that though. I have a high sex drive and after 10+ hours on my feet, sex isn't even close to the front of my mind, especially if I have to do it again the next day. Not that I would turn sex down, but I would only initiate every 2nd or 3rd day. I could definitely see someone with a lower sex drive working a precision job for 12 hours a day barely having sex. Maybe a vacation would do you guys good
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Nov 10, 2014 23:36
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Recently, I was having casual sex with a girl I met for about a month. Thing is, I never used a condom as she was on birth control. Now, I'm with a new girl, and I can't have a condom on for more than 5 seconds without going soft. Over a span of two nights, I went through about 7 condoms trying to have sex, but eventually she just let me have completely unprotected sex with her (which was admittedly stupid, though I obviously pulled out), but I really don't want to continue doing that, and I'm not about to harass her to get on the pill. Is there any quick and easily way to get used to using condoms again? That month of condom-less sex really screwed me over
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Nov 11, 2014 05:18
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Nierbo posted:If he can build muscle reasonably easily (seems like he can from your comment about abs) and isn't fatigued abnormal amounts then its unlikely he has low test. But he can always go in and tell the doc he has a low sex drive and get the test done at minimal cost. Problem is testosterone blood tests have to be done a certain way (mostly at a particular time of day) and usually multiple times in order to give an accurate idea of what a person's levels are like, which a GP may or may not know to do. "Low T" has also become something of a fad recently and a lot of people are being misdiagnosed based on bad testing. Grump posted:Recently, I was having casual sex with a girl I met for about a month. Thing is, I never used a condom as she was on birth control. Now, I'm with a new girl, and I can't have a condom on for more than 5 seconds without going soft. Over a span of two nights, I went through about 7 condoms trying to have sex, but eventually she just let me have completely unprotected sex with her (which was admittedly stupid, though I obviously pulled out), but I really don't want to continue doing that, and I'm not about to harass her to get on the pill. I've heard putting a drop of lube inside the condom can help. It might also help to try masturbating with a condom on to get yourself used to the feeling again.
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Nov 11, 2014 06:08
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Let her put on the condom for you. Make it a part of having sex, not just this annoying thing you have to do. And yeah use some lube.
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Nov 11, 2014 06:15
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Jeoh posted:Let her put on the condom for you. Make it a part of having sex, not just this annoying thing you have to do. This, or have her rub you all sexy-like while you do it, or she can play with your balls, or touch herself while you watch. Putting on condoms is an interruption, but you can make it feel a little less weird by doing what Jeoh says, and make it part of the sex. Also get tested.
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Nov 11, 2014 16:04
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Grump posted:Recently, I was having casual sex with a girl I met for about a month. Thing is, I never used a condom as she was on birth control. Now, I'm with a new girl, and I can't have a condom on for more than 5 seconds without going soft. Over a span of two nights, I went through about 7 condoms trying to have sex, but eventually she just let me have completely unprotected sex with her (which was admittedly stupid, though I obviously pulled out), but I really don't want to continue doing that, and I'm not about to harass her to get on the pill. Please tell me she knew you had been having unprotected sex with someone before letting you do that with her.
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Nov 11, 2014 23:10
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Jeoh posted:Let her put on the condom for you. Make it a part of having sex, not just this annoying thing you have to do. I think I'll try this. I've heard about masturbating with a condom, but I'm too paranoid and think that it'll cause me to have problems getting hard when she's around this weekend. Araenna posted:Please tell me she knew you had been having unprotected sex with someone before letting you do that with her. Yes teen phone cutie fucked around with this message at 00:10 on Nov 12, 2014 |
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Nov 12, 2014 00:00
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I've noticed that if I'm aroused, there is significant... seminal leakage. Is this normal? I spoon a girl for a while, get turned on, then when I go to the bathroom there's a huge splotch on my underpants. I've always had this happen to an extent, but it seems really excessive lately. Is this a normal thing that happens?
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Nov 13, 2014 05:14
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pinkvishnu posted:I've noticed that if I'm aroused, there is significant... seminal leakage. Is this normal? I spoon a girl for a while, get turned on, then when I go to the bathroom there's a huge splotch on my underpants. I've always had this happen to an extent, but it seems really excessive lately. Is this a normal thing that happens? That sounds like precum. It's your bodies natural way of lubing up ready for some action. As far as I know you can't affect it in any real way, quantity or regularity.
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Nov 13, 2014 08:31
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Does anyone have any experience with Tickled Kitty products? I had their strawberry flavored lube recommended to me and I'd never heard of them before that
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Nov 13, 2014 15:27
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Masonity posted:That sounds like precum. It's your bodies natural way of lubing up ready for some action. Hydration will affect it, especially if you're very dehydrated. Other than that, nah, business as usual.
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Nov 14, 2014 21:48
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Not sure if this is the best place to ask, but does anybody have any favorite sites for buying lingerie?
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Nov 30, 2014 19:07
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For nice things, you can't go wrong with Victoria's Secret. Frederick's isn't bad, sometimes. For things that are a little bit racier, try https://www.spicylingerie.com.
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Dec 1, 2014 02:25
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I'm considering dating someone with Hepatitis C (they're getting treated for it and will be cured in a few months). Is it wise to hold off on sex until they're cured? I've heard that it's unlikely to be transmitted sexually. They don't know how they got it, although they think it might have been either a contaminated syringe that was administered during a cruise to treat an allergic reaction, or contaminated dental equipment. Should that be a red flag, or do everyday people get Hepatitis C?
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Dec 1, 2014 03:36
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EugeneJ posted:I'm considering dating someone with Hepatitis C (they're getting treated for it and will be cured in a few months). Hep C isn't widely believed to be transmitted by sex. Wikipedia leaves the door open, but Planned Parenthood says transmission is strictly blood to blood. But you know what you should do? Tell this person to get the green light from their doc. If they're being treated, they have access to real medical advice, which is much better advice than checking Wikipedia and Planned Parenthood's website.
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Dec 1, 2014 06:53
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Also be aware that the 'cure' isn't guaranteed. Definitely have them talk to their doc. Maybe go with them and talk to the doc yourself, depending on what the relationship is like.
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Dec 1, 2014 07:26
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She's already started Sovaldi in combination with another drug and admits that there's a 10-20% chance it might not work. We've agreed to wait for now. She went to donate blood and they told her the blood was contaminated - that's how she found out. I'll consider tagging along to the doctor - thanks guys.
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Dec 1, 2014 10:18
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AlistairCookie posted:For nice things, you can't go wrong with Victoria's Secret. Frederick's isn't bad, sometimes. For things that are a little bit racier, try https://www.spicylingerie.com. Uh... Victoria's Secret is poorly sized and poorly constructed garbage. Fredericks is worse/more so. I'm assuming you're a dude. Have your lady fitted at a real lingerie shop or maker, or Nordstrom/Bloomingdales. Once you know genuine measurements, figleaves.co.uk, agent provocateur, there are many fine lingerie places in a variety of sizes and prices. Victoria's Secret should just be thrown into the garbage.
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MAKE NO BABBYS posted:Uh... Victoria's Secret is poorly sized and poorly constructed garbage. Fredericks is worse/more so. I'm assuming you're a dude. Yeah, Victoria's Secret is terrible and Fredricks is for grandmas at this point, I'm pretty sure. A proper fitting is super important, and find out what kind of lingerie she likes. Some women love lingerie that looks like neon rubber-bands, others prefer contemporary-cut-but-other-wise-classic black silk and lace and such, others like retro cuts, high-waisted underwear and garter belts and corslettes and nylons. Beware of any shop that sells lingerie and costumes, they're not all bad, but it's a sign that you should look up reviews before you buy. If she wants an actual corset, go to timelesstrends.com. Stay the hell away from Yandy if she doesn't like cheap fabric.
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