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Blacknose
Jul 28, 2006

Meet frustration face to face
A point of view creates more waves
So lose some sleep and say you tried

Shine posted:

Earl has cool sunglasses and cool shoes and shakes his fat rear end to the hula chick like it's just something to do. Earl owns.



Playing earl is the best, imo

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Aexo
May 16, 2007
Don't ask, I don't know how to pronounce my name either.

GoodBee posted:

It looks like those we-vibes separate. What gets connected for charging and use?

I'm not sure exactly what you're asking about but with the We Vibe II, it's a U shape - one side goes outside to rest on the clit, the other goes inside against what's supposed to be the G-spot. For charging, there's a wall outlet with a headphone jack looking end, and there's a small opening on one end you plug it in to to charge. It was normally dead when my ex and I wanted to spontaneously use it. I (male) didn't dislike it, but I definitely didn't enjoy it. All together it was a tight fit for us, but your mileage may vary. Can't comment on how it works with condoms, but I would imagine it would feel tacky without copious amounts of lube.

ninja edit: TJ&E is one of my all time favorite games.

GoodBee
Apr 8, 2004


Aexo posted:

I'm not sure exactly what you're asking about For charging, there's a wall outlet with a headphone jack looking end, and there's a small opening on one end you plug it in to to charge. It was normally dead when my ex and I wanted to spontaneously use it.

That's basically what I was asking. In the linked pictures, it looked like there were 3 parts, the dongy bit, what looked like some sort of handle that it plugged into and a USB port. I was wondering where the battery was. It sounds like the "handle" was the charger and battery is in the toy.

Sounds like you still need to keep the (clearly a sex) toy plugged in all the time if you want to be spontaneous. That could be a problem if yoy like to keep those things private, depending on you living situation.

It's why I went with something with batteries ages ago.

hoobajoo
Jun 2, 2004

GoodBee posted:

That's basically what I was asking. In the linked pictures, it looked like there were 3 parts, the dongy bit, what looked like some sort of handle that it plugged into and a USB port. I was wondering where the battery was. It sounds like the "handle" was the charger and battery is in the toy.

Sounds like you still need to keep the (clearly a sex) toy plugged in all the time if you want to be spontaneous. That could be a problem if yoy like to keep those things private, depending on you living situation.

It's why I went with something with batteries ages ago.

To be fair, if you're living with parents or something, it's hard to do anything sexual "spontaneously", so you'll know when things are going to go down enough to charge your toy up. And if you're just living with friends/roommates, I say let your flag fly and worst case they're mad jealous of all the high tech 21st Century action you're getting.

neongrey
Feb 28, 2007

Plaguing your posts with incidental music.

GoodBee posted:

That's basically what I was asking. In the linked pictures, it looked like there were 3 parts, the dongy bit, what looked like some sort of handle that it plugged into and a USB port. I was wondering where the battery was. It sounds like the "handle" was the charger and battery is in the toy.

Sounds like you still need to keep the (clearly a sex) toy plugged in all the time if you want to be spontaneous. That could be a problem if yoy like to keep those things private, depending on you living situation.

It's why I went with something with batteries ages ago.

Nah, once you charge it, it'll hold a charge for ages. It'll go through that charge within a half hour of actual usage or so-- at least the Touch/Tango will, which is their one major downside-- but most rechargable stuff now has a pretty robust internal battery.

The problem with battery motors in vibes is you'll never get the juice out of a set of AAs, let alone AAAs or loving watch batteries that you will out of one with a rechargable battery. And honestly it's really hard to describe just how much more satisfying a rumble you get off a good motor; reviewers will talk about 'buzzy' or 'rumbly' but it's really something that doesn't click until you see it for yourself.

And yeah the way it works is you have the cord, which sticks into an adapter, which magnetically connects to the toy.

Shine posted:

Earl has cool sunglasses and cool shoes and shakes his fat rear end to the hula chick like it's just something to do. Earl owns.



But he's soooo slooooooow.

GoodBee
Apr 8, 2004


That's cool that they'll hold a charge now.

neongrey posted:

And yeah the way it works is you have the cord, which sticks into an adapter, which magnetically connects to the toy.

Can it be used while plugged in/charging? The one I had could not.

I'm not currently shopping for anything but I'm apparently super curious about the advancement of battery operated sex toys. The last time I bought something I skipped right over everything rechargeable.

neongrey
Feb 28, 2007

Plaguing your posts with incidental music.

GoodBee posted:

Can it be used while plugged in/charging? The one I had could not.

We-Vibe's stuff can't, because the on button is on the charging base and the hold's not that strong. Others can; my Mona 2 could be run plugged in, though I don't see you'd need to, it holds a charge for weeks (if not more) at rest and hours in use. And that thing's got a motor like a hand blender.

Epiphora again has a lot on rechargeables and if you flip through her older reviews you can sort of see the advancement in the technology.

HoAssHo
Mar 10, 2005

:love::love::love:
Nobody asked but if anyone is looking for a g-spot dildo, the Njoy Pure Wand is the greatest thing to ever happen to women.

I can't get over this thing. It's a marvel of sexual engineering.

The American Dream
Mar 1, 2007
Don't Forget My Balls
So last night I was with a woman for the first time and it turns out shes a massive squirter. After 30-45 minutes of non vaginal foreplay I went down on her and within 10 seconds of touching her clit she came quite a bit and continued to come every 30 seconds and squirted each time for like 10 minutes. For anyone that can squirt or has been with one is this a common ability? I know women are multi orgasmic but I was basically putting in zero effort to make her come over and over and over. Is there a finite amount of ejaculate? The first few times there was more then a mouthful of it then a bit less towards the end. Does it usually taste like really watered down tea, or is it different for each person? I'm absolutely fascinated by it and like her a lot but I don't want to annoy her with too many questions too soon.

Blacknose
Jul 28, 2006

Meet frustration face to face
A point of view creates more waves
So lose some sleep and say you tried
It's pee.

neongrey
Feb 28, 2007

Plaguing your posts with incidental music.
It's categorically not pee, I think that's been proven a few times. But yeah, it's 100% possible for someone to be a super squirter. Just have a really friendly g-spot, I guess.

Shine
Feb 26, 2007

No Muscles For The Majority

The American Dream posted:

Is there a finite amount of ejaculate?

I just skimmed through the Wikipedia article on conservation of mass and did not see an exception about chicks squirting.

Blacknose
Jul 28, 2006

Meet frustration face to face
A point of view creates more waves
So lose some sleep and say you tried

neongrey posted:

It's categorically not pee, I think that's been proven a few times. But yeah, it's 100% possible for someone to be a super squirter. Just have a really friendly g-spot, I guess.

600/30=20 orgasms

Roughly a mouthful each time @ 20ml per mouthful

400ml of liquid.

Mate its pee.

The American Dream
Mar 1, 2007
Don't Forget My Balls

Blacknose posted:

600/30=20 orgasms

Roughly a mouthful each time @ 20ml per mouthful

400ml of liquid.

Mate its pee.

drat, mathlete itt. The first handful were a comfortable mouthful without my cheeks popping. After that it mostly went to a trickle. I highly doubt it's urine only because I feel like it would taste a bit like the bottle of Pinot Noir she drank over the course of the night. And it would take a legendary amount of control to make it come out in those kind of spurts.

Birb Katter
Sep 18, 2010

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Blacknose posted:

600/30=20 orgasms

Roughly a mouthful each time @ 20ml per mouthful

400ml of liquid.

Mate its pee.

:itwaspoo:

HoAssHo
Mar 10, 2005

:love::love::love:
Why do people always insist it's pee? Like, why would it be pee? Why would a woman want to pee all over him, herself and everything else (I mean, unless pee stuff is her kink and she likes to trick dudes into drinking it or something)?

Or is it that you guys think she's peeing and doesn't realize it or something? I don't get it.

Anne Whateley
Feb 11, 2007
:unsmith: i like nice words
That she doesn't realize it. A few tablespoons could be actual squirting, but cups and cups, no, there's nowhere else to put it all.

HoAssHo
Mar 10, 2005

:love::love::love:
Yeah, that's true. It's not like we have a big sack to store it all in. I'm just puzzled by how someone could not know they're peeing.

Chessna
Dec 24, 2008

Artificer posted:

To rehash my last question... Looking to finally get a toy for my girlfriend that's good for beginners. Since this will be the first toy that either of us have ever tried or even considered getting, I have a few questions.

1. These two are discontinued on the website. Are there any other good/reputable stores that are discreet in their handling of the sales and packaging? (A quick google search brings up We-Vibe. The purple one is for sale at 99$. Jesus H. Christ. :stare: Is that a good store?)

2. Are these two relatively quiet? I hope so because dorm rooms have thin walls.

3. You guys would recommend these two for beginners, right? Just to be sure? If these two have been discontinued then what are some good alternatives that fit my criteria above?

I'm guessing the price is worth it and it isn't worth trying to save money by buying a lovely 25 dollar one, huh?

For a first-time, nice and quiet toy I really love the Trojan bullet. You can actually get it at Walmart/Target and it's like $20. It's nice because it's not super strong which is great for newbies or for people who get over stimulated quickly and want something with lower vibes. It seems the more expensive, the more powerful so this one will let you know where you guys stand with toys and if you don't like it, it's just $20. But, it's the toy I keep on going back to.

You can also use it in the shower and it's easy for either partner to use.

mllaneza
Apr 28, 2007

Veteran, Bermuda Triangle Expeditionary Force, 1993-1952




neongrey posted:

But he's soooo slooooooow.

Slow can be good.

Sometimes as a steady thing, sometimes as a changeup with emphasis on "tender" or "gentle". But just plain "slow" can be mind blowing.

For either partner. Or especially both,

Blacknose
Jul 28, 2006

Meet frustration face to face
A point of view creates more waves
So lose some sleep and say you tried

HoAssHo posted:

Why do people always insist it's pee? Like, why would it be pee? Why would a woman want to pee all over him, herself and everything else (I mean, unless pee stuff is her kink and she likes to trick dudes into drinking it or something)?

Or is it that you guys think she's peeing and doesn't realize it or something? I don't get it.

I'm well aware that female ejaculation is a thing, but if there's half a litre of liquid which tastes like weak tea I don't reckon it could be anything but piss.

Arnold of Soissons
Mar 4, 2011

by XyloJW

Blacknose posted:

I'm well aware that female ejaculation is a thing, but if there's half a litre of liquid which tastes like weak tea I don't reckon it could be anything but piss.

According to wiki female ejaculation is a different fluid than the huge splashes of water hat come out of the urinary system

Its p much pee

Liquid Communism
Mar 9, 2004

Skutter posted:

If you use anything like scarves, ties, rope, etc., make sure to have a pair of these handy in case things go south. I like these cuffs; they are easy to put on and take off, they're durable, and they're not too expensive. You could also check to see if you have a fetish group in your area, sometimes they have bondage workshops where they'll teach you how to do rope-tying.

Bondage tape is good for this too. It only sticks to itself, so it doesn't pull hair and skin like duct tape would. Get the trauma shears, though. If someone panics, or has a medical emergency, the very first thing you want is an easy and safe way to get them loose immediately.

FROOOOOOOOG
Jan 28, 2009
IANAD, but I thought the whole thing with ejaculate is that there's a gland that produces it as needed, and can do so pretty drat quick, so it's not like there's a reservoir of cum, in either sex. Also I'd heard there was a reflex that makes it really hard to pee during sex, like how apparently it hurts to pee with a boner.

That said, 'weak tea' sounds a lot more like pee than cum.

neongrey
Feb 28, 2007

Plaguing your posts with incidental music.
If anything it's probably whatever pee is before it meets the various waste products that turn it into pee.

Turtlicious
Sep 17, 2012

by Jeffrey of YOSPOS
If I pissed on someone during sex, I'd probably try and make it sound like they're really great at sex, rather then admit I just pissed all over this man's face.

AlbieQuirky
Oct 9, 2012

Just me and my 🌊dragon🐉 hanging out

FROOOOOOOOG posted:

IANAD, but I thought the whole thing with ejaculate is that there's a gland that produces it as needed, and can do so pretty drat quick, so it's not like there's a reservoir of cum, in either sex. Also I'd heard there was a reflex that makes it really hard to pee during sex, like how apparently it hurts to pee with a boner.

That said, 'weak tea' sounds a lot more like pee than cum.

The Bartholin's glands are each the size of a pea, so anything more than two peas' worth of liquid is pee. Pee pea.

LazyMaybe
Aug 18, 2013

oouagh
That's not really how it works, if the fluid women got wet with was only made in that quantity there wouldn't really be anywhere near enough, ever. Just because they are small does not mean they can't make a large amount.

Anne Whateley
Feb 11, 2007
:unsmith: i like nice words
Lube doesn't have anything to do with it. Lube is blood plasma that seeps through the walls of the vagina (sexy). You've got lots of blood so that's not an issue (although it's still not a cup every 30 seconds).

Captain Log
Oct 2, 2006
Hey goon friends,

I recently started seeing this woman who is awesome, but we ran in to a bit of an odd situation. While I'm about five years older than her, she has a kid and I assumed her previous sexual experiences weren't absolute poo poo.

Wrong.

So now I'm coming to the internet for advice. :sigh: But I love the forums and think some good people are on here. I'm thinking about getting her a vibrator and maybe a book about enjoying sex? She obviously knows how things work (has a kid) but is just so inexperienced I don't want to gently caress anything up. I adore her and think the world of her and don't give a flaming poo poo about getting off in this situation. I just want to see about making this lady happy and maybe we could have some fun? It's bizarre territory so any advice is appreciated.

(It really sounds like the men in her past were from the "hump hump hump jizz sleep make me a sanwich" school of thought. It disgusts me that she could get this far in life without an orgasm or any pleasure.)

Shine
Feb 26, 2007

No Muscles For The Majority

Captain Log posted:

Hey goon friends,

I recently started seeing this woman who is awesome, but we ran in to a bit of an odd situation. While I'm about five years older than her, she has a kid and I assumed her previous sexual experiences weren't absolute poo poo.

Wrong.

So now I'm coming to the internet for advice. :sigh: But I love the forums and think some good people are on here. I'm thinking about getting her a vibrator and maybe a book about enjoying sex? She obviously knows how things work (has a kid) but is just so inexperienced I don't want to gently caress anything up. I adore her and think the world of her and don't give a flaming poo poo about getting off in this situation. I just want to see about making this lady happy and maybe we could have some fun? It's bizarre territory so any advice is appreciated.

(It really sounds like the men in her past were from the "hump hump hump jizz sleep make me a sanwich" school of thought. It disgusts me that she could get this far in life without an orgasm or any pleasure.)

When I've been with inexperienced women, instead of handing them a book explaining how their vagina works, I've just hosed them a bunch until they were no longer inexperienced. Good luck.

hoobajoo
Jun 2, 2004

Captain Log posted:

Hey goon friends,

I recently started seeing this woman who is awesome, but we ran in to a bit of an odd situation. While I'm about five years older than her, she has a kid and I assumed her previous sexual experiences weren't absolute poo poo.

Wrong.

So now I'm coming to the internet for advice. :sigh: But I love the forums and think some good people are on here. I'm thinking about getting her a vibrator and maybe a book about enjoying sex? She obviously knows how things work (has a kid) but is just so inexperienced I don't want to gently caress anything up. I adore her and think the world of her and don't give a flaming poo poo about getting off in this situation. I just want to see about making this lady happy and maybe we could have some fun? It's bizarre territory so any advice is appreciated.

(It really sounds like the men in her past were from the "hump hump hump jizz sleep make me a sanwich" school of thought. It disgusts me that she could get this far in life without an orgasm or any pleasure.)

Make sure she knows it's fine to have sex that doesn't end with an orgasm, and an orgasm won't have to end the sex either. A lot, and I mean a LOT, of women think a man won't do anything sexual to finish her off if he comes first, and these same men will bitch and moan if they don't get their blowjob-PIV-nut-cleanup flowchart sex like in the pornos. Also make it clear you'll never ego trip out if she didn't like something, she wanted to stop, or if she has any criticism.

Captain Log
Oct 2, 2006
I really appreciate the advice and hope it keeps coming. It's a weird situation to get in bed with someone and find out they have been treated like an object their whole life and they have no concept of an orgasm. If she wants to explore things with me, we can do that. I just want to tread lightly when dealing with such a unique situation.

I also want to go beat the hell out of her previous men. I need the world to exist in a Wild West movie moment where I can just walk up to a dude and slap him for being the piece of poo poo.

Bunk Rogers
Mar 14, 2002

Nina Hartley's book is pretty great and I imagine you'd want to start off with a pretty innocent looking toy like a Lelo Gigi.

You may also try having her check out the Sex Nerd Sandra podcast. It's a great non-squick sex podcast.

the JJ
Mar 31, 2011

Captain Log posted:

I really appreciate the advice and hope it keeps coming. It's a weird situation to get in bed with someone and find out they have been treated like an object their whole life and they have no concept of an orgasm. If she wants to explore things with me, we can do that. I just want to tread lightly when dealing with such a unique situation.

I also want to go beat the hell out of her previous men. I need the world to exist in a Wild West movie moment where I can just walk up to a dude and slap him for being the piece of poo poo.

Hey it could be worse. She could've been raped. :(:

I've been through that twice. First was more a case of someone who then (because they felt dirty and soiled and like they had no where else to go) had explored her sexuality but came to me for more actual relationship 101 which... 19 year old virginal me actually wasn't that good at. :/ That was kinda a poo poo show.

The second time was a bit easier, someone who'd been in a bad relationship with lots of pressure (that turned stalkery after) and had only had bad drunk college sex since. I think once she became convinced about trust things around the sex that, e.g. I wouldn't dump her the moment we did it, actual sex things got easier. I think the biggest challenge was convincing her that guys going down on girls was normal and fun, which didn't take more than one time to convince her of that so... I dunno. Go slow, don't be afraid to suggest things, don't be an rear end in a top hat in the relationship and I think the sex stuff might hopefully sort itself out.

And yeah, lots of people in this world are sorely in need of punching.

Shine
Feb 26, 2007

No Muscles For The Majority

Captain Log posted:

I really appreciate the advice and hope it keeps coming. It's a weird situation to get in bed with someone and find out they have been treated like an object their whole life and they have no concept of an orgasm. If she wants to explore things with me, we can do that. I just want to tread lightly when dealing with such a unique situation.

I also want to go beat the hell out of her previous men. I need the world to exist in a Wild West movie moment where I can just walk up to a dude and slap him for being the piece of poo poo.

How about instead of being a weird little creepy fucker who looks at a woman he just met and acts like she is a helpless flower that he must protect to the point of wanting to assault other people and read her books about the ways of proper sex because alas she knows not the true meaning of penetration, you first try having sex with her and being good at it?

strangemusic
Aug 7, 2008

I shield you because I need charge
Is not because I like you or anything!


Captain Log, as much as your situation must feel kind of lovely, don't punch anybody. Be patient and... yeah, what Shine said. Don't buy her a book. I get the feeling that might feel a little bit condescending.

Above all though I have to thank you for steering the thread away from what could easily have become a hundred pages of argument about female reproductive glandular secretions.

strangemusic fucked around with this message at 17:39 on Dec 13, 2014

hoobajoo
Jun 2, 2004

Captain Log posted:

I also want to go beat the hell out of her previous men. I need the world to exist in a Wild West movie moment where I can just walk up to a dude and slap him for being the piece of poo poo.

That's fine to feel, but I'd seriously recommend not telling her that. Don't attack or even talk about previous relationships or partners, it could easily lead to her feeling ashamed or that she's been doing things "wrong". It's not THE END OF THE WORLD here, think of it as there's a super fun thing to do that she hasn't heard of, and you get to share it with her.

LazyMaybe
Aug 18, 2013

oouagh
Just go down on her a lot. Like a lot a lot.

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Skutter
Apr 8, 2007

Well you can fuck that sky high!



I also think you're taking an oddly paternalistic stance on this. Instead of giving her reading assignments, why not actively research information with her? Find some sex blogs and read them together, go to sex toy shops and laugh at the terrible bachelor/ette gag gifts while looking for some fun toys, and promote sex in a healthy way (i.e. not doing the whole "Everyone you slept with beforehand ruined you and it is up to me to save you my lady!" poo poo).

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