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foxatee posted:Glob drat you make me angry sometimes. But that's only because I made the same mistakes as you and it took having a kid to realize I gotta get my poo poo together. I can bury myself with stupid financial decisions, but not her. I'll teach her what my parents didn't teach me. You should be thinking the same, and break these bad habits you have right loving now. Seriously this. Get your poo poo together, kg. n8r posted:Pretty sure KGfamily is equally as terrible with their money to the point where they cannot afford to take KG/KGwife out but still expect them to go out. Not sure about the whole not taking a baby out to public places. I think the attitudes toward not exposing your kids to the world/allergens early has been changing. YMMV. Below 2 mos you have to be careful because anti vaxxers have ruined it for everyone and our herd immunity is falling apart and your baby could get whooping cough and you wouldn't even know it until they just stop breathing. Also measles and tuberculosis and who knows what else. The Chinese keep the babby home with mom for three months and we're going to have to go back to that if we start getting mumps and poo poo all over the place. (I only know this because a sweet Chinese couple were Very Concerned for my 1 month old--"Too young!"--that was out and about at the mall and they were probably right but I was breastfeeding and needed new glasses, so I couldn't leave him at home.)
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n8r posted:Pretty sure KGfamily is equally as terrible with their money to the point where they cannot afford to take KG/KGwife out but still expect them to go out. Not sure about the whole not taking a baby out to public places. I think the attitudes toward not exposing your kids to the world/allergens early has been changing. YMMV. Exposing your kid to the world/allergens is totally fine and encouraged, the problem is other people. Public places are also fine as long as lots of people won't be trying to meet and touch the baby. Yes the baby is going to have to get sick from new germs at some point, but below ~2 months something as simple as a fever often ends up with a scary (and costly) hospital visit.
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Mar 21, 2015 23:40
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n8r posted:Pretty sure KGfamily is equally as terrible with their money to the point where they cannot afford to take KG/KGwife out but still expect them to go out. Not sure about the whole not taking a baby out to public places. I think the attitudes toward not exposing your kids to the world/allergens early has been changing. YMMV. I also find it very strange that they are being asked out to dinner when they have a newborn. In my circle/family its visit the new parents house and bring dinner, or order pizza etc in.
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Mar 22, 2015 01:51
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n8r posted:I think the attitudes toward not exposing your kids to the world/allergens early has been changing. YMMV. Your baby can literally get measles in modern America at a point before they're physically able to receive the vaccine. You probably won't get it at an Applebees. Maybe.
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Mar 22, 2015 03:17
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They're only a few hour drive from disney. I wouldn't chance it. The family can come see the baby at the house.
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Mar 22, 2015 03:24
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What the loving gently caress. gently caress.
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Mar 22, 2015 04:12
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There's a difference between allergens and disease. Almost every pediatrician will say to avoid crowded public places as much as you can for the first few months. Baby's lungs, breathing passages, etc are so small and immature that even a simple run of the mill cold virus can cause a lot of scary issues. Knyteguy, what are you going to do?
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Mar 22, 2015 05:00
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"We'd love to come out, but with the new baby it's just been so hectic over here, you know? Hey, why don't you all come over for a potluck instead?! I've got some killer home-brewed beer-- I'll set up a tasting and you guys can each bring a dish of whatever you want. Sure, 6:30 sounds good. See you then!"
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Mar 22, 2015 06:53
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Knyteguy posted:I don't want to say no to family I see maybe once a year? Don't forget to stuff a twenty into their pockets, you know, for gas and show them how grateful you are that they made the effort to come out.
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Mar 22, 2015 19:37
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At this point I'm assuming he's ignoring everyone and doing whatever he wants anyway.
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Mar 23, 2015 14:40
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That's usually what prolonged silence from KG means.
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Mar 23, 2015 15:16
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Robo Boogie Bot posted:That's usually what prolonged silence from KG means. Or maybe he just had a child and is probably extremely busy and sleep deprived?
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Mar 23, 2015 15:23
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Nocheez posted:Or maybe he just had a child and is probably extremely busy and sleep deprived? You're forgetting, a new child is no big deal, he totally handled a move not too long ago, which is WAY more stressful according to a chart.
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Mar 23, 2015 16:21
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Nocheez posted:Or maybe he just had a child and is probably extremely busy and sleep deprived? This basically. Plus I usually don't post much on the weekends since I spend enough time on the comp as it is during the week. And I don't really know what to say about the family thing. I already said I was going to go, and we cancelled for the Greek birthday party. The family get together was practically a family reunion. There were about 10 family members that I haven't seen in about 10 years. If it was just 2 or 3 people it would have been different. A pot luck would've been great, but it's not like we were either the planners or the guests of honor or something like that. My family is going to try to do this more, so next time.
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Mar 23, 2015 16:26
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Knyteguy posted:This basically. Plus I usually don't post much on the weekends since I spend enough time on the comp as it is during the week. So how much did you spend, and will your discretionary cover it?
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Mar 23, 2015 16:40
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ufsteph posted:So how much did you spend, and will your discretionary cover it? ~$50 and yes.
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April posted:You're forgetting, a new child is no big deal, he totally handled a move not too long ago, which is WAY more stressful according to a chart.  Been hanging on to that for a while, huh?
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Mar 23, 2015 16:53
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Knyteguy posted:~$50 and yes.
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Mar 23, 2015 18:51
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How's March looking budget wise?
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Mar 23, 2015 19:29
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SiGmA_X posted:Good. As long as it's covered by the budget, who gives a gently caress. Agreed, poo poo goons you guys are (something) awful.
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Mar 23, 2015 21:18
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SiGmA_X posted:Good. As long as it's covered by the budget, who gives a gently caress. I think the issue is that Knyteguy has very aggressive goals (like saving $20,000 for a house) and that's why people get frustrated with him. I agree that if it's in budget it's really not that big of deal, but if he really wants to pay off that atrocious car loan, save money for a house, and give his wife freedom to quit his job he's going to have to make some sacrifices at some point.
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Mar 23, 2015 22:23
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I don't care much about his budget as long as he stays with in it - i'm more worried about his baby getting measles or whooping cough from some dickbags who think they know more than doctors.
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Mar 23, 2015 22:28
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Bugamol posted:I think the issue is that Knyteguy has very aggressive goals (like saving $20,000 for a house) and that's why people get frustrated with him. I agree that if it's in budget it's really not that big of deal, but if he really wants to pay off that atrocious car loan, save money for a house, and give his wife freedom to quit his job he's going to have to make some sacrifices at some point.
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Mar 24, 2015 01:36
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SiGmA_X posted:Good points all around. You have to make decisions about what you want. Money is finite! Agreed. I think perhaps the best way to go about it is what people have been telling me, and that's have a set savings goal (and then a debt payoff) every month no matter what and just stick to that. 25-27% may be realistic with our debt levels right now. Also quick note the alcohol category will now be gone moving forward. I've decided to abstain for the foreseeable future. We aren't getting our son vaccinated so no problem anyway i dont want him to get autism fake edit just playing he already has his first set
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Mar 24, 2015 01:44
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Knyteguy posted:Agreed. I think perhaps the best way to go about it is what people have been telling me, and that's have a set savings goal (and then a debt payoff) every month no matter what and just stick to that. 25-27% may be realistic with our debt levels right now. You should have left off the fake edit. Even Cornholio made some great April Fools posts now and then that really fooled some people.
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Mar 24, 2015 01:51
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Oh yeah, he "bought" a new car or something, after he looked like he'd gotten things under control, and left the thread for a day or two to let everyone flip out. It was pretty great.
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Ah c'mon I've got you guys a couple times. edit but if you want more... 
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Mar 24, 2015 02:35
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Knyteguy posted:Agreed. I think perhaps the best way to go about it is what people have been telling me, and that's have a set savings goal (and then a debt payoff) every month no matter what and just stick to that. 25-27% may be realistic with our debt levels right now. I was never a big drinker, but after my first son was born I basically stopped buying beer except for special occasions for the simple reason that if any sort of emergency happened, I wouldn't want to think twice about driving or wonder if I'm capable. Or just generally have impaired decision making. We had a couple of hospital scares and not being sober would be a nightmare.
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AbsenceVsThinAir posted:I was never a big drinker, but after my first son was born I basically stopped buying beer except for special occasions for the simple reason that if any sort of emergency happened, I wouldn't want to think twice about driving or wonder if I'm capable. Or just generally have impaired decision making. We had a couple of hospital scares and not being sober would be a nightmare. Yea exactly this. I don't want to be inebriated if I'm needed now that we have such a dependent being. Plus health and finances of course.
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So has KnyteWife gone back to work yet? How is the babysitting situation looking?
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ufsteph posted:So has KnyteWife gone back to work yet? How is the babysitting situation looking? Nope not yet. April 6 is her return date (sort of to the detriment of our income right now. $135 net every 2 weeks right now.) Not sure on the babysitting yet.
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Uh. That's less than two weeks from now. You should, uh. Get on that, maybe?
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Mar 24, 2015 23:01
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Quantum Finger posted:Uh. Ehhhhh man, that's TWO WHOLE WEEKS AWAY!
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Mar 24, 2015 23:04
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Quantum Finger posted:Uh. It's my sister she won't give me a price. I've been badgering her about it; maybe it'll go better if my wife talks to her. The last thing she told me was we pretty much trade sittings. So we'll watch her kid when she has to go back to work (swing) and she watches ours vice versa. That'd be great obviously.
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Knyteguy posted:It's my sister she won't give me a price. I've been badgering her about it; maybe it'll go better if my wife talks to her. The last thing she told me was we pretty much trade sittings. So we'll watch her kid when she has to go back to work (swing) and she watches ours vice versa. That'd be great obviously. This sounds horrible. So now instead of one baby you'll have two? And when you need to be catching up on sleep? Goodbye free time for the conceivable future I guess.
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Mar 24, 2015 23:22
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Bugamol posted:This sounds horrible. So now instead of one baby you'll have two? And when you need to be catching up on sleep? Goodbye free time for the conceivable future I guess. His free time is already gone for the conceivable future even with just his own kiddo.
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Bugamol posted:This sounds horrible. So now instead of one baby you'll have two? And when you need to be catching up on sleep? Goodbye free time for the conceivable future I guess.
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My Rhythmic Crotch posted:Doubt very much it would be better to pay for it I get nervous about any sort of handshake agreement with family. If it works out for him that's great, but if his sister is in anyway flakey it's going to be 100 times more stressful than using a regular daycare and paying for it.
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Bugamol posted:I get nervous about any sort of handshake agreement with family. If it works out for him that's great, but if his sister is in anyway flakey it's going to be 100 times more stressful than using a regular daycare and paying for it. I had the same feeling, but you articulated it better than I could have. Just for an off-the-cuff example, what if the sister's situation changes and she no longer needs her baby looked after. Will KG then start paying her? How much? You don't want to negotiate cost when you are now primarily dependent on her to watch your kid. On one level I get the notion of "hey it's family we'll work it out," but at the same time if you can't work it out, you get hosed over. Such is what family feuds and grudges are made of.
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Bugamol posted:I get nervous about any sort of handshake agreement with family. If it works out for him that's great, but if his sister is in anyway flakey it's going to be 100 times more stressful than using a regular daycare and paying for it. Though, it would be good to have a plan B and plan C for the inevitable times when the sister gets sick or something comes up or whatever.
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