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sidviscous posted:And on a less physical note, have you had a job offer and then seriously had to think "poo poo, I'd better tell my employer about my genital configuration, just in case they freak out and fire me after I've moved halfway around the world". Do you seriously think "poo poo, there's large sections of the world where my existence is literally criminalised and I can't visit". Do you get very nervous when you have to use public toilets - even if you live in a state that protects your rights to use them? i like how you are using "existence" the same way the zionist government of Israel does when they defend their right to exist very clever
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Commie NedFlanders, it sounds to me like you're arguing that your right to not get yelled at is as important, if not more important, than transpeople's right to live without fear. Am I off-base?Commie NedFlanders posted:i like how you are using "existence" the same way the zionist government of Israel does when they defend their right to exist Remember that time when a bunch of transpeople got together and bulldozed a cis neighborhood? Me neither
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It's very convenient that you're ignoring my post. Your points are bad. You're reacting to a counter reaction. You cannot pin the "blame" solely on one side when the other side has acted worse this entire thread. It's disingenuous at best. You're wagging your finger at us for "being mean" while other people have use derogatory and inflammatory language.
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Commie NedFlanders posted:i like how you are using "existence" the same way the zionist government of Israel does when they defend their right to exist You mean how being transgendered is literally illegal in a number of countries around the world? Please. Go ahead, tell me your preferred choice of wording for this.
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Commie NedFlanders posted:i may disagree with some aspects of gender politics but i do agree with the basic idea that people should treat each other with respect and dignity and unfortunately the kind of behaviors demonstrated in this thread have become the public image of the movement in the minds of people who are unfamiliar with it. The point Atasnaya Vaflja and I are making is that anyone who views the public face of tolerance as aggressive, belligerent, and hateful already held that opinion before entering a thread like this. The basis of the whole conversation is "Some people would like to referred to as X - it's no great sacrifice on my part to refer to them as X". When someone responds "No, you're not worthy of that", the mood of the conversation has already been decided. You can't enter a conversation and tell someone they're not worthy of respect and then ask where the civility in public discourse went. Civility is reserved for those that engage in good faith. A few pissed-off trans advocates in this thread aren't changing anyone's mind.
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Pththya-lyi posted:Commie NedFlanders, it sounds to me like you're arguing that your right to not get yelled at is as important, if not more important, than transpeople's right to live without fear. Am I off-base? I'm simply saying you gotta give respect to get respect. if you want a movement to overcome selfishness and champion the cause of treating other people decently, perhaps you should demonstrate it
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sidviscous posted:You mean how being transgendered is literally illegal in a number of countries around the world? Please. Go ahead, tell me your preferred choice of wording for this. "transitioning from one gender to another" is a far more honest and accurate description of what is deemed illegal in those countries than is the term "existing"
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Deified Data posted:The point Atasnaya Vaflja and I are making is that anyone who views the public face of tolerance as aggressive, belligerent, and hateful already held that opinion before entering a thread like this. pure speculative prejudice. you have no way of knowing what everyone thinks, and your assumption that you do is rather condescending. quote:The basis of the whole conversation is "Some people would like to referred to as X - it's no great sacrifice on my part to refer to them as X". When someone responds "No, you're not worthy of that", the mood of the conversation has already been decided. i did a search couldn't find anyone who said "no, you're not worthy of that". please help me find it or just stop being so disingenuous and try arguing in good faith. quote:You can't enter a conversation and tell someone they're not worthy of respect and then ask where the civility in public discourse went. Civility is reserved for those that engage in good faith. A few pissed-off trans advocates in this thread aren't changing anyone's mind. you have no place to assume the mind state of everyone in this thread, you could just ask people, but you insist on misquoting people which is very disrespectful
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This seems to be one of those weird English language things that seem just bizarre for persons like me who natively speak a language without any gendered pronouns. Their personal This includes everyone. Even vanilla* men/women can be they. *That's my personal identity, because I consider Cis a silly term, respect my vanillaness.
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Commie NedFlanders posted:you have no way of knowing what everyone thinks Then how do you know that all the "pro-trans" folks hate all the "anti-trans" folks? You didn't read their minds, you read the words they typed in the thread and used that evidence to reach a conclusion about how they must feel in their heart of hearts! Why can't we do the same to you? FWIW, I don't hate you, I just wish you would change your ways very slightly.
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Who What Now posted:Then why are you arguing so hard that making a slightly different sound with your mouth is some sort of impossible burden? DeusExMachinima posted:I've never known or met anyone who is trangender or genderfluid IRL who uses anything besides he/she/they or who doesn't also think it's retarded. I await the inevitable retort that I must not have spent time around more than a handful of trans or fluid folk. GreyjoyBastard posted:This may have been covered in various pages,, but here's my take: This Is A Good Post. I can see the dehumanizing perspective on "them" because we're so used to it being used as a collective plural pronoun, but like I said I like the singular "them" because it brings back a totally ignored and legit gender-neutral pronoun to English. Tons of other languages have common neutral singular pronouns after all. I agree with using "ya'll" though as I'm originally from the South. For fun, sometimes I'd troll New Yorkers when I lived there with it. I'd tell them not to say "you guys" because it was patriarchal, whereas "ya'll" was gender-inclusive. I can confirm that heads metaphorically exploded after hearing that.
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DeusExMachinima posted:I await the inevitable retort that I must not have spent time around more than a handful of trans or fluid folk. lol bless your heart
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So I think it goes without saying that all human beings deserve respect by default, they have dignity by default, and that human life is a precious, maybe the most precious thing in the universe. But whether or not using a pronoun that you have chosen for yourself constitutes disrespect is a little doubtful. Others could choose to do it because you don't want to offend them, but you don't have a right not to be offended, you have a right to be treated with respect. A good boundary line between the two, I feel, is respect is something everyone could sympathize with in the same position, with honesty. From my view, if you're asking someone to address you as a certain pronoun, and you don't match what that pronoun looks like, or you've invented an entirely new pronoun, you are absolutely being disrespectful yourself by making that demand, that goes beyond what you should be able to ask. Because you're not asking to be treated with respect, you're asking others to indulge you. It is then socially acceptable for them to refuse to do that. So if you don't (reasonably) present like a woman, yet you ask to be addressed as one, you are out of line, period. If you ask to be referred to as 'xir' or whatever, let's be frank, that's not a pronoun in circulation, so what you're asking is not something that could be seen as socially acceptable. And I think this comes back to the original topic of the thread - gender entitlement versus religious entitlement. Entitlements are not granted on the basis of offense, there is a kind of 'logic' behind them that has to be satisfied, first, before your offense can actually be taken seriously. So if you're offended at doing your job, because part of your job means serving people who you don't like because of religious reasons, well tough poo poo, stop being a massive cry-baby. If you're asking people to conform to your self-summoned pronouns, because that makes you feel special, well too bad, the world doesn't revolve around you. But if you're someone who feels gender dysphoric, puts a lot of effort into expressing that and genuinely looks a lot like the the gender you're aiming for, well I think you've done everything you reasonable could, so you are entitled to be addressed in the way you want.
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Commie NedFlanders posted:lol bless your heart haha ha
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rudatron posted:So I think it goes without saying that all human beings deserve respect by default, they have dignity by default, and that human life is a precious, maybe the most precious thing in the universe. But whether or not using a pronoun that you have chosen for yourself constitutes disrespect is a little doubtful. Others could choose to do it because you don't want to offend them, but you don't have a right not to be offended, you have a right to be treated with respect. A good boundary line between the two, I feel, is respect is something everyone could sympathize with in the same position, with honesty. From my view, if you're asking someone to address you as a certain pronoun, and you don't match what that pronoun looks like, or you've invented an entirely new pronoun, you are absolutely being disrespectful yourself by making that demand, that goes beyond what you should be able to ask. Because you're not asking to be treated with respect, you're asking others to indulge you. It is then socially acceptable for them to refuse to do that. So if you don't (reasonably) present like a woman, yet you ask to be addressed as one, you are out of line, period. If you ask to be referred to as 'xir' or whatever, let's be frank, that's not a pronoun in circulation, so what you're asking is not something that could be seen as socially acceptable.
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rudatron posted:So I think it goes without saying that all human beings deserve respect by default, they have dignity by default, and that human life is a precious, maybe the most precious thing in the universe. But whether or not using a pronoun that you have chosen for yourself constitutes disrespect is a little doubtful. Others could choose to do it because you don't want to offend them, but you don't have a right not to be offended, you have a right to be treated with respect. A good boundary line between the two, I feel, is respect is something everyone could sympathize with in the same position, with honesty. From my view, if you're asking someone to address you as a certain pronoun, and you don't match what that pronoun looks like, or you've invented an entirely new pronoun, you are absolutely being disrespectful yourself by making that demand, that goes beyond what you should be able to ask. Because you're not asking to be treated with respect, you're asking others to indulge you. It is then socially acceptable for them to refuse to do that. So if you don't (reasonably) present like a woman, yet you ask to be addressed as one, you are out of line, period. If you ask to be referred to as 'xir' or whatever, let's be frank, that's not a pronoun in circulation, so what you're asking is not something that could be seen as socially acceptable. This is, like every single post on the subject disagreeing with basic human decency, just babble attempting to deflect people from the core belief; that there are certain identities that are authentic and certain ones that are not, and authentic people deserve respect and inauthentic people deserve contempt. This is in turn wrapped up with deification, of linguistics terminology or the notion of "society." Well, I say that Isis, Amaterasu, and Usha came down from the heavens and told me that all these identities are authentic and no one who denies them will have any peace in the next life. And this is entirely as meaningful and authoritative as whining about closed classes or jabbering about how authenticity requires conformity. Finally, I declare you and all your puling cohort to be inauthentic, plastic people who deserve only the bare minimum of fair treatment.
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Effectronica posted:This is, like every single post on the subject disagreeing with basic human decency, just babble attempting to deflect people from the core belief; that there are certain identities that are authentic and certain ones that are not, and authentic people deserve respect and inauthentic people deserve contempt.
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Nobody itt even knows what "xe" is, but they do know that it is extremely serious and if you think it's dumb then you are a hate machine.
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Effectronica posted:This is, like every single post on the subject disagreeing with basic human decency,
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Are you ready for the twist? There's no such thing as an authentic identity, gender or otherwise. It's an assumption TERFS, traditionalist-transphobes, and you, seem to make, you just differ on its limits. For traditionalists, it's biotruths. For terfs, it's early experience, which means that transwomen are secretly men (and therefore predatory, like all men). For you it's everyone is valid because only they can say what they feel. What if that's not the case, what if there is no 'center', no seed, no essence? What if 'woman' is just a set of stereotypes and relations in your mind, ala Jungian archetypes, that you either match or don't? From that perspective, what you are is what you are seen as, not what you feel. That's my position. I'm not really deifying anything, I'm just being very practical, following from that assumption. People want both conformity, for safety, but also the chance to challenge, because that's how you self-express. So you need both, to make people happy, you can't ignore one at the expense of the other.
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e - wrong thread
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Commie NedFlanders posted:"transitioning from one gender to another" is a far more honest and accurate description of what is deemed illegal in those countries than is the term "existing" Thankyou for that irrelevant semantic point that makes no difference at all to the status of transgendered people. Yes, you can be trans as long as nobody ever finds out about it. That has nothing to do at all with legislating against the existence of transgendered people. I'll take your focus on this as agreement with my substantive point - that having someone in this position tell you you're an rear end in a top hat does not constitute oppression. DeathMuffin fucked around with this message at 16:07 on Mar 24, 2016 |
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sidviscous posted:I'll take your focus on this as agreement with my substantive point - that having someone in this position tell you you're an rear end in a top hat does not constitute oppression. Does referring to someone with the pronoun "they" instead of "xe" constitute oppression?
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rudatron posted:Are you ready for the twist? There's no such thing as an authentic identity, gender or otherwise. It's an assumption TERFS, traditionalist-transphobes, and you, seem to make, you just differ on its limits. For traditionalists, it's biotruths. For terfs, it's early experience, which means that transwomen are secretly men (and therefore predatory, like all men). For you it's everyone is valid because only they can say what they feel. What if that's not the case, what if there is no 'center', no seed, no essence? What if 'woman' is just a set of stereotypes and relations in your mind, ala Jungian archetypes, that you either match or don't? From that perspective, what you are is what you are seen as, not what you feel. That's my position. I'm not really deifying anything, I'm just being very practical, following from that assumption. People want both conformity, for safety, but also the chance to challenge, because that's how you self-express. So you need both, to make people happy, you can't ignore one at the expense of the other. You pack the fewest ideas into the most words of anyone in this thread. All you've got is "conformity good" and "ur a transphobe".
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Self identity is a myth because there is no such thing as the self.
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The Kingfish posted:Self identity is a myth because there is no such thing as the self. Care to put this to the test, O avatar of GBS and the GBS mentality? Transmit a thought to my mind, since there is no subjectivity, and thus you will be justified.
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Effectronica posted:You pack the fewest ideas into the most words of anyone in this thread. All you've got is "conformity good" and "ur a transphobe".
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the trump tutelage posted:Get this: conformity is good. I'm deeply appreciative of your desire to exterminate gays with our nonconforming sexuality, and of the necessity of converting you to the Gay Agenda. I could use a new toaster.
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Frosted Flake posted:I don't have any problem with trans people. Throughout I've been consistent with my answer to the OP's question. I wouldn't wear religious garb or eat halal to placate the sensibility of religious people. I similarity respect but don't share the view of gender non-binary people have. We are in D&D and this is like saying "I similarly respect but don't share the view of the economic non-rational actor model" Frosted Flake posted:Using a common English word versus a made up word is not bigotry. I respectfully disagree with a certain conception of gender, privately. Ultimately people can do whatever they want and I don't want to get in the way. What I think has no bearing on their lives, and as long as I'm polite and tolerant it won't. Here you are disagreeing with it publicly on a forum Commie NedFlanders posted:Cis identities are taught to individuals by society, not the other way around This is straight-up "because we hold relatively traditional views on marriage" back when there was still anti-miscegenation going on. It's 2016, wake up grandpa! Anyone can be whatever, no rules! Also, don't use quotation marks when you're not using anyone's words. You catch more flies with honey that isn't dripping with smugness Also, when does anyone refer to the person they're talking to, in the third person? Here's a wild idea: calling people by their name. Commie NedFlanders posted:In your mind, did you assume that I'm a wealthy white male? lol Same here. I'm merely well-to-do and have negative wealth but my student debt is easy to manage because I had few distractions from my day-to-day studies in a STEM field However, I do think it is disingenuous to equate someone's hypothetical yet confounding need to refer to someone within earshot using a disputed third-person pronoun, as them not wanting to respect or let the person be their gender role except as I type it out it does feel like that's the reason they don't want to consider them their gender actually. Why are xou worried axout xomeone axing for an unexpexted name, Xed? What would feel xeird axout it? Stinky_Pete fucked around with this message at 23:39 on Mar 24, 2016 |
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Effectronica posted:I'm deeply appreciative of your desire to exterminate gays with our nonconforming sexuality, and of the necessity of converting you to the Gay Agenda. I could use a new toaster.
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Commie NedFlanders posted:pure speculative prejudice. you have no way of knowing what everyone thinks, and your assumption that you do is rather condescending. Oh lol and right after I post about how you shouldn't use quotation marks unless you're using someone else's words, I continue catching up to see xou chiding xomeone for the xame xing!
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the trump tutelage posted:I don't want to exterminate gays with nonconforming sexualities, though. You are, as with so many other things, completely mistaken. But you just said that conformity was good. Were you making a totally irrelevant comment, or are you willing to admit that nonconformity is OK? Not that this will stop me from getting my free toaster, breeder.
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Effectronica posted:But you just said that conformity was good. Were you making a totally irrelevant comment, or are you willing to admit that nonconformity is OK? Not that this will stop me from getting my free toaster, breeder.
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the trump tutelage posted:Nonconformity is okay (permissible), and conformity is good (moral). So the immorality of my existence as a dicksucking homo is "permissible". Thanks pal. Mind elaborating?
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the trump tutelage posted:Nonconformity is okay (permissible), and conformity is good (moral).
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the trump tutelage posted:Nonconformity is okay (permissible), and conformity is good (moral). How come conformity is moral? I think it is immoral because it makes us vulnerable as a society whereas variety makes us robust. Stinky_Pete fucked around with this message at 18:44 on Mar 24, 2016 |
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Effectronica posted:So the immorality of my existence as a dicksucking homo is "permissible". Thanks pal. Mind elaborating?
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Effectronica posted:Care to put this to the test, O avatar of GBS and the GBS mentality? Transmit a thought to my mind, since there is no subjectivity, and thus you will be justified. You've addled your brain from smoking too much tronic.
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The Kingfish posted:Self identity is a myth because there is no such thing as the self. Earlier in this very thread you claimed that there's a difference in how people self identify though. It's sort of like saying there's a difference between the Washington Bigfoot and the Virginia Bigfoot, but then shrugging and saying neither of them exist so it doesn't matter. If you're not actually willing to discuss the topic, why do you continue posting at all? All you do is take petty potshots and bandy about transphobic rhetoric without even having the gall to defend it. e: The Kingfish posted:Does referring to someone with the pronoun "they" instead of "xe" constitute oppression? The Kingfish posted:I'm not here educate you. Why don't you make a fricken effort post if you wanna debate and discuss? les enfants Terrific! fucked around with this message at 18:23 on Mar 24, 2016 |
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Atasnaya Vaflja posted:Earlier in this very thread you claimed that there's a difference in how people self identify though. It's sort of like saying there's a difference between the Washington Bigfoot and the Virginia Bigfoot, but then shrugging and saying neither of them exist so it doesn't matter. I said there was a difference in the way that people perceive their identities and the way that they perform their identities.
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