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Re: Bruises We're going to be talking about beating an rear end, as other places are more dangerous/less forgiving while learning. You can cause bruising with your hands, spanking being the hard way, punching making it significantly easier to achieve bruises. This is where you see thuddy win out over stingy. My favorite toy for causing bruises is a rubber tube filled with ball bearings all wrapped up in pretty leather. Since you're probably not shopping in a local dungeon, try just going to the hardware store. On the cheap a copper pipe about a foot long and a pvc pipe about two feet long are great implements. I strongly recommend wrapping the ends in electrical tape, so as not to hurt them with the jaggedish ends of the pipe. You can hit with a swing of the pipe, or hold it at each end and hit them with the center of it. If you're shopping somewhere kinky, a cane is great, though it takes very painful, hard hits to cause good bruises. In my opinion a paddle with holes in it runs a greater risk of breaking the skin, but canes can do it to. Hit yourself with everything your going to use, and don't be stingy, you should know what it feels like to be hit with your toys. Warm her up slowly and you'll probably be able to get some colorful bruising. I'll ramble more later when I'm not at work.
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Affi posted:I will lift more heavy stuff and put it down again.
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Hey guys, I started having sex a few months ago, being in a relationship with a girl I love very much. We're both 20 years old, she's had sex before. She's super attractive and she makes me very horny very easily. The sex is frequent, enjoyable and fun, but while she is able to reliably get off several times during every session of intercourse, I have actually never experienced an orgasm inside her and only two from really long and exhausting hand jobs up to now and it's starting to concern us a bit. I immediately stopped masturbating after I didn't come the first times, as it is recommended in the OP, but that doesn't seem to have any impact. Foreplay is super hot and it makes me really horny, but it seems as if sensation and pleasure get unlinked as soon as we start having sex, making it impossible for me to get sufficiently aroused. We tried it without a condom once (She's taking the pill, too), but that didn't change anything. Any idea how to deal with that problem?
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I have thought of a vasectomy, but I don't really seem to be able to gather my thoughts on it. I've been with my wife for five years and she has an IUD, and there are no faults in it, but I somehow feel like contraception should be my responsibility, too. I feel a weird moral baggage about it. In addition we live in an open marrige, and condoms feel like rear end. And not in the good way. I have very little sensation, and it's a hassle, and I often get weird rash and redness. I've pretty much resigned to only having sex with friends that I know, whom I can trust so I know they have contraception and that they are clean. Using condoms at this point is just such a hurdle, that I'd rather just not do it at all. I believe vasectomy should help with at least those people I trust to be clean, however. I don't have much desire to bring diseases home to her, either. What kinda options do I have in terms of it, in reduced cost? Should I just call around clinics and the PP and such? Vahakyla fucked around with this message at 03:14 on Jul 22, 2016 |
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There's a vasectomy megathread, but yeah, checking with your insurance and calling around is a good idea.Vahakyla posted:I've pretty much resigned to only having sex with friends that I know, whom I can trust so I know they have contraception and that they are clean. Using condoms at this point is just such a hurdle, that I'd rather just not do it at all. It can sometimes be an emotional step to get over, evaluating a person against the negative sides of condoms. Have you tried a variety pack of less common condoms? Non-latex or super thin kinds? Condoms will never be as much fun as bareback, and a vasectomy is still a good idea, but you can probably find a solution better than doing exactly what they told you not to do in health class.
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We've got a vasectomy thread around here somewhere. I'm a huge advocate of vasectomies. If you don't have insurance look around at low-income family planning services. I was pretty dead broke when I got mine and I was able to enroll in a state-sponsored program and ended up paying absolutely nothing for my vasectomy. I dont know your situation but IMO a vasectomy isn't going to solve your condom trouble, as I would not feel safe just 'trusting' every other person involved in an open marriage not to get my dick sick. A committed monogamous partner is one thing but if you're screwing friends, and your wife is screwing friends, and those friends are probably screwing other people in their own lives, that's a whole lot of trust to raw dog it.
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Thanks for the thread link, though! Vahakyla fucked around with this message at 03:14 on Jul 22, 2016 |
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The friends who are going to let you bareback are probably going to let other people bareback too. Feeling confident isn't really useful, because "yeah, Chris is a good guy, he seems responsible, I let him borrow my car once and it was fine" is not a good predictor of STI status, even though it feels like it should be. You need actual tests and safe behavior, facts, not feelings. Anne Whateley fucked around with this message at 00:10 on May 11, 2016 |
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Krillchin posted:Hey guys, I started having sex a few months ago, being in a relationship with a girl I love very much. We're both 20 years old, she's had sex before. She's super attractive and she makes me very horny very easily. The sex is frequent, enjoyable and fun, but while she is able to reliably get off several times during every session of intercourse, I have actually never experienced an orgasm inside her and only two from really long and exhausting hand jobs up to now and it's starting to concern us a bit. I immediately stopped masturbating after I didn't come the first times, as it is recommended in the OP, but that doesn't seem to have any impact. Foreplay is super hot and it makes me really horny, but it seems as if sensation and pleasure get unlinked as soon as we start having sex, making it impossible for me to get sufficiently aroused. We tried it without a condom once (She's taking the pill, too), but that didn't change anything. Any idea how to deal with that problem? My guess is you're so focused on making her feel good and her experience, you're not able to just focus on your own. I know I had this problem when I started having sex, it's a kind of performance anxiety. I got over it by specifically having sessions where she wasn't going to get stimulated by me at all, and she just did oral and manual stuff until I came. It might sound selfish, but it's OK to be selfish sometimes, and got me in touch with how to orgasm without jerking off. Vahakyla posted:I have thought of a vasectomy, but I don't really seem to be able to gather my thoughts on it. I got a vasectomy five years ago, and it's been great. As long as you never want to have kids, or are OK adopting if you ever change your mind, it's a great option for birth control and gives a lot of peace of mind. I had private insurance, so I just had to pay my normal $20 copay since it's just an outpatient procedure. PP's website says it costs between $0-$1000, presumably based on state and local support, so call around and see what the scoop in your area is.
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AN ANON GOON posted:Hey, hope it's okay to PM you about this because I'd like to avoid posting in the thread. My Suggestions: Turtlicious posted:No matter who you are, if it's someone you trust I'd recommend drinking a little to help loosen up. People tend to get inside their own heads a lot when it comes to sex, and finding a way to forget about that and just have fun is important. Showering together before sex can help as well, it gets over the "I just saw you naked for the first time," jitters as well, not to mention now you're both clean, which with random one night stands, is kind of important. Hookers do it a lot for that reason to give their a partner a once over. I got the go ahead for anon posting, so now thread, help this poor goon.
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Vahakyla posted:It's a couple of friends who some are single and have protrcted sex with some, and a couple who live in a relationship. I feel fairly confident in the people who partake in the pool of unprotected partners. It's elementary chaos theory - the farther you get along any fractal variation, the amount of control and predictability you have decreases rapidly and exponentially. Once you get beyond a single partner who sleeps with you and nobody else, it immediately spirals out of control. "But we have soothed ourselves into imagining sudden change as something that happens outside the normal order of things. An accident, like a car crash. Or beyond our control, like a fatal illness. We do not conceive of sudden, radical, irrational change as built into the very fabric of existence. Yet it is. And chaos theory teaches us…that straight linearity, which we have come to take for granted in everything from physics to fiction, simply does not exist. Linearity is an artificial way of viewing the world. Real life isn't a series of interconnected events occurring one after another like beads strung on a necklace. Life is actually a series of encounters in which one event may change those that follow in a wholly unpredictable, even devastating way." -- Dr. Malcom Except instead of dinosaurs breeding, you get the clap
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Dudes not being able to come the first few times, or the first few times with a new person, happens all the time. If you've eliminated the question of Masturbation Death Grip as the cause, the only way to get through it is not to sweat it and just keep powering through until it works.
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I have a helluva time cumming unless I'm REALLY going at it hard and fast. She could ride me for a year and I wouldn't finish. Some people are just like that.
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Also don't worry too much about it. If you are having fun with the sex and the only issue is that you're not coming, then just enjoy everything else and table to the orgasm for now.
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Atlas Hugged posted:Also don't worry too much about it. If you are having fun with the sex and the only issue is that you're not coming, then just enjoy everything else and table to the orgasm for now. This is very true, sex doesn't have to involve your dick sneezing as long as the two of you are enjoying it. Don't get me wrong, I understand where you're at and it's natural, but it's important to not miss the forest for the trees. Sex isn't about achieving a goal or conducting a process, it's about being infatuated with someone, and them being infatuated with you, and just having fun putting your parts together.
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Shine posted:Please work out. You are my hero shine.
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Jimson posted:You are my hero shine. He's not the hero we need but the hero we deserve.
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Question: how much porn is too much? how often must one person watch porn before its a bit weird?
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screamname posted:Question: When people watch so much porn it's basically a hobby to them, that's when it starts to get weird for me. You also need to have perspective on it and understand porn is entertainment; it doesn't represent reality, and a lot of the positions and moves are done because they look good, not because they feel good. Though ultimately, I think it's less about the amount you watch, and more about how watching it fits into your life. Of course, if you're using it to avoid real responsibilities or ignore problems in your life, or is otherwise causing negative consequences, then it's a serious issue and you should definitely walk it back.
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When you know the names of more than 10 porn actresses you're watching too much porn. Including how they look. Might be too low a bar otherwise. I have a question though. Menstrual cups. They completely block the flow of menstrual blood right? So.. Going down on someone using that is mostly safe. And with safe I mean I won't go into vampire territory. Right? Affi fucked around with this message at 14:14 on May 14, 2016 |
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Affi posted:I have a question though. Menstrual cups. They completely block the flow of menstrual blood right? So.. Going down on someone using that is mostly safe. And with safe I mean I won't go into vampire territory. Right? yes
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There will be a tiny amount of blood from whenever she's last changed it. Its in 'pink smudge on a panty liner' territory, instead of vampire territory. Or at least that's my experience.
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Yep, unless the cup is leaking (bad seal, overflowing) there should be very little blood or none at all. You could have her wash up or gently wash the area yourself as part of foreplay if you'd rather avoid any leftover coppery taste/smell.
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screamname posted:how much porn is too much? quote:Addiction is characterized by "ABCDE" http://www.asam.org/quality-practice/definition-of-addiction: The gray areas are where things are murky though because societal norms make it tougher to define. For example, some people have trouble abstaining from having sex for months at a time, are they addicted to sex? In the 18th century that may have been true. If you can't go without specifically porn for so much time (say, a month or two) it could be an issue. I think it's weird when you start having to adjust other parts of your life around the habit. It's part of why I never got particularly far in World of Warcraft - I refused to schedule dedicated time to it, and that kept me from making much progress over time. Also, perhaps you could watch the wonderful movie Shame for an idea of when someone has gone too far?
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According to that, I definitely have an internet addiction. Welp, nothing to be done about it. At least it's not porn.
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Ach. So promiscuity has its downsides. Got contacted by a fuckbuddy who told me a girl she's sleeping with has chlamydia and that she might have it too. She's getting checked up on monday and since this is free in Sweden I'll make an appointment too. How easily transmittable is it? We used condoms ofcourse. Should I be worried?
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Affi posted:Ach. So promiscuity has its downsides. Got contacted by a fuckbuddy who told me a girl she's sleeping with has chlamydia and that she might have it too. The odds you have chlamydia are very low if you used a condom. Still good to check, of course, and even on the 1% chance you do have it, it's easily curable.
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Affi posted:Ach. So promiscuity has its downsides. Got contacted by a fuckbuddy who told me a girl she's sleeping with has chlamydia and that she might have it too. Hey dude from earlier this page I sure hope you're reading this!
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necrobobsledder posted:
just to clarify, it's not me who watches porn that much. but recently found out my partner can sometimes 3 times a day, LET alone that, there are other problems we encounter from time to time and I'm wondering if it's because of his porn abuse. (without bigging myself up, I workout, have good genes and drat big pretty green eyes so it ain't me!haha) I'm thinking of showing him Efukt.com and show him some of the outtakes of porn stars really not enjoying themselves I'm not against porn, I use porn. I found it odd how my ex often used photos rather than videos. then again he did cheat on me via photo messaging (coincidently who bought me the membership fee for SA) just wondering how much is too much in you forum moles opinions (no offence intended)
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To me, porn in and of itself is a problem when it interferes with your regular sex life by creating terrible expectations or other things that make you uncomfortable, becomes a substitute for actual sex with you, or they do things like lie about the amount of time they watch it or money they spend on it. What are these other problems you're having and why do you think they're related to porn viewing?
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LivesInGrey posted:To me, porn in and of itself is a problem when it interferes with your regular sex life by creating terrible expectations or other things that make you uncomfortable, becomes a substitute for actual sex with you, or they do things like lie about the amount of time they watch it or money they spend on it. What are these other problems you're having and why do you think they're related to porn viewing? I agree, there's nothing wrong with watching porn 3 times a day by itself, but if it's causing problems, then there's something that needs to change. It's also possible the porn is a symptom of a deeper problem, not the cause of it.
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goodness posted:If you have to spend money on porn, it's a problem. Every few years I buy a porn mag out of nostalgia.
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I could never masturbate three times a day and still have sex with a partner. But if he can and you're satisfied then why not?
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Masonity posted:Every few years I buy a porn mag out of nostalgia. I've never paid for any, but feel kind of guilty that I'm not paying for it, since these people need to make money. But it just occurred to me that there might be gigantic profit margins I'm missing.
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Hazzard posted:I've never paid for any, but feel kind of guilty that I'm not paying for it, since these people need to make money. But it just occurred to me that there might be gigantic profit margins I'm missing. I just don't see why anyone with Internet access would buy porn unless they are addicted. Even if you watch it for an hour every day, there is an endless supply of professional and amateur stuff being uploaded 24/7 for free. And you don't even have to pirate it.
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goodness posted:I just don't see why anyone with Internet access would buy porn unless they are addicted. Even if you watch it for an hour every day, there is an endless supply of professional and amateur stuff being uploaded 24/7 for free. And you don't even have to pirate it. I got a subscription to one as a birthday gift. I have to say it was really convenient, the videos are longer, and I'd say the average quality was quite a bit higher. I didn't re-up it, but I could see having one if I was a richer man.
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How do people fit long dildos or full dicks in their rear end? The rectum is only 4 inches long before it curves away into the sigmoid colon, and 4 inches is usually how deep things go in porn, but every once in a while I see someone take a dick up to the hilt or one of those snake dildos. How do they do it
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good politics guy posted:How do people fit long dildos or full dicks in their rear end? The rectum is only 4 inches long before it curves away into the sigmoid colon, and 4 inches is usually how deep things go in porn, but every once in a while I see someone take a dick up to the hilt or one of those snake dildos. How do they do it Good editing?
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