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OwlFancier posted:I haven't asked the doctor because "doctor I gently caress too hard and collapse" seems like something they might think is a bit silly. It literally only happens during long periods of aerobically intense sex, in the summer. So I figured it was just me not breathing or being dehydrated or something, and I just don't notice because, well, I'm a bit distracted at the time. Essentially I'm asking if this is a known issue for people doing physically demanding things. have you got a massive Wang or just too little blood in your veins?
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Asking a basic question here, but I read the front page. I am female and horrible in bed. I want to be someone who pleasures the men. I was wondering what sources have helped you be better in bed? Books? Online videos? Websites? Since I am starting to be sexually active again with this fine dude, I have someone to practice on. Still, I am feeling overwhelmed by all of this. Where do I start?
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DrNewton posted:Asking a basic question here, but I read the front page. Begin by talking to this fine dude! Communicate and ask what's worked for him and vice versa.
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Artificer posted:Begin by talking to this fine dude! Communicate and ask what's worked for him and vice versa. I get the whole talking thing, but, like I need to actually learn technqiues and when and when not do anything. I just learned that the glan has start getting juicy before you can start really wanking at it when giving a hand job. I also need to learn to be on rhythm.
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DrNewton posted:I get the whole talking thing, but, like I need to actually learn technqiues and when and when not do anything. I just learned that the glan has start getting juicy before you can start really wanking at it when giving a hand job. I think you might be going at this (heh) a little programmatically. There's no playbook. When to do or when not to do something is your call: give him that handy now or tease him until he's dying for it later? As noted, communication will clear up the details on which is the preferred course of action. And I don't mean "sit down and interview about it" - I mean in the moment indicators. Watch and learn how changes you make to things like rhythm or intensity or area affect your partner's reactions, and so on. Personally the question "should I do this" "do you want this" is one that can be made to be very sexy. strangemusic fucked around with this message at 02:31 on Jun 3, 2016 |
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DrNewton posted:Asking a basic question here, but I read the front page. I am a dude, so I'm reporting in from the other side of the equation. Passion is probably the number one thing you can bring. Sex is a social activity before anything, so don't worry too much about optimal dick stimulation, and focus more on showing him how turned on you are. I've had girls give head that felt great, but they were just kinda doing it mechanically. I'd much rather have mediocre-feeling head (it's hard to be bad) given by someone who's really into it. Communication is number two. Let your man know you're less experienced and want him to be clear about what is good. During sex especially, some guys are naturally quiet, and it can go a long way just to have him exaggerate some sex moans or the like when you're on to something. It's of course good to talk about sex outside of it too, and just in general try a lot and see what you both like. In terms of actual technique tips, and these are the least important, I got a few common mistakes I've seen and heard. The head is the more sensitive than the shaft. You can grip harder on a handjob than you probably think. Cowgirl is tight, sometimes too much so. Anal doesn't feel better than vag, just different, but can still be great for him and you if you are both excited by it. Same for deep throat. And finally, don't think porn is a good guide for what to do; it can give some ideas to try, but that's about it. If all else fails, just keep talking and trying new things. I think as long as you both are honest and want to have good sex, you will.
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hoobajoo posted:I am a dude, so I'm reporting in from the other side of the equation. The first tip is a real eye opener. This is my third guy. The first, we were both virgins and not really into each other. Secound one; we had a lot of chemistry and were very passionate for each other. However he liked doing all the work. I still gave blow jobs and loved giving them but looking back I don't think I was as skilled as I originally I thought. The new guy is just an all around great guy but when we finally hit the bedroom, it made me realize how unskilled I really am. My automatic response was to research. (like everything else in life. When I don't know something, I research it). It never dawn on me that passion can play a major role. I guess I should stop over thinking this. I shall just practice, maybe do a bit of research, and remember to bring in the passion. Now I am determined to give him the best sex ever. >:]
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DrNewton posted:The first tip is a real eye opener. Yeah, you do it!
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DrNewton posted:I get the whole talking thing, but, like I need to actually learn technqiues and when and when not do anything. I just learned that the glan has start getting juicy before you can start really wanking at it when giving a hand job. The terrible secret of handjobs. Spit in your hand and then go to town. Keep lubricating if it tries up.
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DrNewton posted:Now I am determined to give him the best sex ever. >:] Bring that attitude, and make sure he knows it. That's half the battle.
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Well, for me, enthusiasm is a far bigger turn-on than technique. And you've got that down.
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Affi posted:The terrible secret of handjobs. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RqG0rc7vZX4  I guess if you happen to look at the sex thread at work and do not want to hear a song about handjobs.
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hoobajoo posted:I am a dude, so I'm reporting in from the other side of the equation. I would second this, you're probably not going to be better at wanking a dude off than the dude already is himself, because he has way more practice than you and unless you gently caress constantly, you're not going to catch up. But the point of having sex with another person is that they're a person and the interpersonal aspect is what makes it hot. So communication is really the best way forward. Essentially getting really good at sex with someone is like becoming really good friends with them, and about as easy to write a playbook for. So my advice is make friends with his dick.
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Hyperlynx posted:Well, for me, enthusiasm is a far bigger turn-on than technique. Also, butt stuff.
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OwlFancier posted:I would second this, you're probably not going to be better at wanking a dude off than the dude already is himself, because he has way more practice than you and unless you gently caress constantly, you're not going to catch up. It is a very nice dick. I find my self wanting to hang out with it as much as possible and i think it has mutual feelings/wants. :p
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Hollow Talk posted:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RqG0rc7vZX4 "Put it in your mouth instead".
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DrNewton posted:It is a very nice dick. I find my self wanting to hang out with it as much as possible and i think it has mutual feelings/wants. :p As others have said, mentioning that will probably go a long way. People you think highly of rarely make sincere comments of appreciation about your dick. It's a good thing when it happens.
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OwlFancier posted:I would second this, you're probably not going to be better at wanking a dude off than the dude already is himself, because he has way more practice than you and unless you gently caress constantly, you're not going to catch up. I'd disagree about the term better, bit only pedanticly. I think I'm probably better at it myself, but when another does it well, it's more enjoyable. Kind of like eating a nice meal you cooked at home and doing all the work vs enjoying the experience of a fancy restaurant. That said if your server is crappy and your meal is poorly prepared, you're probably better off cooking for yourself. Take this analogy into the bedroom.
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OwlFancier posted:As others have said, mentioning that will probably go a long way. People you think highly of rarely make sincere comments of appreciation about your dick. It's a good thing when it happens. Yes, I mean basically every dude is obsessed with his own penis in some way, so mention that. Also if you like him and compliment his dick and body don't forget him. As in don't forget to tell him you like him for more then his dick. That is way nicer to hear. Though not as sexy I guess.
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Affi posted:Yes, I mean basically every dude is obsessed with his own penis in some way, so mention that. Also if you like him and compliment his dick and body don't forget him. As in don't forget to tell him you like him for more then his dick. That is way nicer to hear. Though not as sexy I guess. Oh baby gently caress me hnnnnnnnng oh god you feel so good and you're a great listener.
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Shine posted:Oh baby gently caress me hnnnnnnnng oh god you feel so good and you're a great listener. lol I can only speak for myself but when Im with someone and only get comments on my physical attributes or things I do I notice and withdraw emotionally. Now for a one night stand that's fine. Anything longer term (including fuckbuddies) needs some emotional connection for me or it won't work. Affi fucked around with this message at 17:28 on Jun 4, 2016 |
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Affi posted:I can only speak for myself but when Im with someone and only get comments on my physical attributes or things I do I notice and withdraw emotionally. I've realised that I almost always get self deprecating when people compliment me. And that's a really bad thing for myself and whoever is doing it. And I feel so stupid for only realising how bad it is when I complimented someone else and they put themselves down.
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Is there a good primer Book/Video for getting into BDSM? Everything I read on the internet seems too self important for me to take seriously. Maybe like a video of a good starter scene? My gf is into it, but I'm pretty new, and I'm not buying into the whole "WELCOME TO THE ELITEIST CLUB THAT THOSE VANILLAS CANT HANDLE" bullshit I keep finding. I've been in a relationship with a sub before, but she was seeing a Dom on the side, and any discussion usually just spiraled into "If you have to ask, you'll never get it".
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You just have to skip the  stuff but yeah there's a lot of it. You can google something like "gentle bdsm introduction"; there is a bunch of info out there, although of course most won't apply to whatever your situation is. The most important thing is talking with your partner and finding out what she wants, because the internet's idea of "what a scene should be" and hers could easily be completely different. Also, don't be afraid to be cautious and take small steps -- too small is much better than too big. And remember you can ask for what you want, too, and you should be comfortable. If you do something that weirds you out later, it's fine to ask her for hugs and reassurance that she liked it and she's happy, and it's also fine for you to take it off the table if you're really not okay with it.
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Beast Pussy posted:Is there a good primer Book/Video for getting into BDSM? Everything I read on the internet seems too self important for me to take seriously. Maybe like a video of a good starter scene? My gf is into it, but I'm pretty new, and I'm not buying into the whole "WELCOME TO THE ELITEIST CLUB THAT THOSE VANILLAS CANT HANDLE" bullshit I keep finding. I've been in a relationship with a sub before, but she was seeing a Dom on the side, and any discussion usually just spiraled into "If you have to ask, you'll never get it". Anne above me basically has it right, the most important thing is to explore and communicate together. There's no right or wrong way to do BDSM as long as you do it safely. And yes, it's OK as the dom to pause or stop a scene as well because you're not comfortable with something. One thing that I can recommend is to find a kink worksheet, basically a grid of various fetishes and preferences, and fill it out with her. It can be fun, and it'll help give you some starting ideas to find out more about. Plus, it's no use learning how to tie shibari if, oops, turns out she's more into cuffs.
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Thanks for all the tips. I definitely feel more informed and less intimidated about my role in it after reading up a bit more. And I'll definitely have an in depth conversation about what she's into with her.
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I want to get into some buttstuff with a girl I'm seeing. I'll be the receiver. It'll take a while and we'll be good about it. But I'm worried about my hairy rear end not being very hot to gently caress. Girls who do their boys or boys who take it from whoever (or well hairy butt girls too I guess). How do you keep your butt trimmed/waxed? Is it even a problem?
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Affi posted:I want to get into some buttstuff with a girl I'm seeing. I'll be the receiver. It'll take a while and we'll be good about it. But I'm worried about my hairy rear end not being very hot to gently caress. My girlfriend is grossed out by a bunch of stuff, so I use nair on my bum balls, perinium, pretty much everything. Make sure you don't rub it in, and do a spot test to make sure you're not one of the unlucky people who basically gets scalding burns from Nair.
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Affi posted:I want to get into some buttstuff with a girl I'm seeing. I'll be the receiver. It'll take a while and we'll be good about it. But I'm worried about my hairy rear end not being very hot to gently caress. I shave from shaft to crack. It's a little awkward to get back there, but as long as you go slow and steady it works just fine.
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Worried about cutting myself because it happens occasionally when I'm shaving my balls. And the risk of infection. I'll def look into nair though!
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GF and I have a problem when banging in God's position. She ends up sliding up the bed, so I reposition, and she slides further, this keeps going until we hit the wall or the headboard, or one of us falls off. If it's a wall then she repeatedly bangs her head against the wall (no bueno.) I've tried standing off the bed, but she keeps sliding upwards. Any good tips to fix that? It's a twin, so I'm thinking throw a couple of pillows under the mattress so she slides downwards with gravity?
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Affi posted:Worried about cutting myself because it happens occasionally when I'm shaving my balls. And the risk of infection. Make sure you get the right kind, they make a "Bikini" line that's really good, and you'll want to use a trimmer so you're not trying to melt a half pound of hair at once. https://www.amazon.com/Nair-Bikini-Cream-Sensitive-Formula/dp/B000WOU38S?ie=UTF8&*Version*=1&*entries*=0
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Lots of simple solutions. I often have one or both of my hands next to their head so they can't slide up. Or yknow pillows. Or lots of other things.
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Turtlicious posted:wallbanger I've had the same problem! I usually place a pillow between my head and the wall. As long as half of it is under my head (so the pillow doesn't flap down and cover my face) it usually works out okay! Either that or we just start as far away from the wall as possible, so we don't have to reposition so often.
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Hyperlynx posted:I shaved my bumhair once and once only, because as it started growing back it was like sandpaper. I'll take hair everywhere over a self chafing arseregion... I find as long as I keep up 2x a week it's not a problem, but YMMV. I won't defend it though, waxing is almost certainly better. As for missionary, pillows are good for stopping sliding, and for angling in general. hoobajoo fucked around with this message at 15:58 on Jun 10, 2016 |
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