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What wealthy 53 year old even knows that Reddit exists, let alone knows to go there to post for relationship advice, and further thinks posting there for relationship advice is a good idea?
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 04:32 |
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mind the walrus posted:I have had my share of bad relationships but I have yet to understand what it's like to just fall-in with someone that clearly mis-matched. I'm terrible at relationships but my explanation is that people have been taught "Love Conquers All" so when every day with someone is literal torture it only proves you found true love if you put up with being incredibly unhappy in a terrible situation. Basically people can be in love with the idea of being in love.
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 05:07 |
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I think I've been pretty successful with women and relationships. That being said, I spent two and a half years with a girl that, in hindsight, doesn't even seem compatible as a friend. Incompatible interests, sex drives, personalities, diets, views, etc. I was in love with the idea of being in love with her and so was she.
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 05:20 |
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Your Dead Gay Son posted:I bet the neighbor has an older Samsung tv. It'll just dump thumbnails with no context necessarily This is why all my porn is on a thumbnail sized flashdrive so I can chew and swallow it at a second's notice. Just kidding! Who the gently caress saves porn in this day and age.
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 06:54 |
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Im guessing for a lot of the ones where it's some sad dude getting walked over it's his first ltr and thinks putting up with anything is better than nothing. I knew a lot of late bloomers that ended up in lovely relationships but put up with it cause they felt like it was the best they could do. Similar logic applies to the high school sweethearts who married their first bf/gf
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 07:21 |
ArbitraryC posted:Im guessing for a lot of the ones where it's some sad dude getting walked over it's his first ltr and thinks putting up with anything is better than nothing. I knew a lot of late bloomers that ended up in lovely relationships but put up with it cause they felt like it was the best they could do. I have a friend like that who could support an entire thread of this poo poo on his own. It's not reddit, but let me post one of my favorite stories about him and his wife: My friend married this women after years of being her go-to provider despite her living with and having children with another man. When they married, in addition to bringing children to the relationship, she brought a bunch of dachshunds. One of the dogs has a hosed up spine which requires a doggie wheel chair, which of course cost my friend an arm and a leg. The broken dog just wheels around the house with poo poo falling out of his rear end, because he can't control his body from mid-point down. Anyway, his wife is obsessed with dachshunds, and they keep acquiring more of them. A number of years back, those "fuzzy couture" purses were all the rage. There were a bunch that were shaped like dachshunds. My friend had bought every kind except green (I think) for his new bride, who does not work. He asked for my help one day locating the green purse. It took hours, but we found one, and ordered it. I don't remember the cost, but it was not cheap. I see him a couple of weeks later, and find out that he had bought the wrong color dog purse, so his wife freaked out and screamed at him, accused him of not loving her, and banished him to the couch. The dude was sleeping on the couch in the house he pays for because he bought the wrong color novelty dog purse for a woman he had already bought every other color novelty dog purse for. His life is basically a never-ending series of this type of anecdote.
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 10:02 |
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Fat Shat Sings posted:I'm terrible at relationships but my explanation is that people have been taught "Love Conquers All" so when every day with someone is literal torture it only proves you found true love if you put up with being incredibly unhappy in a terrible situation. Thank you for putting into words what I've been trying to figure out how to say. I have one entire side of my family that constantly gets into relationships with spongy psycho losers, and when i try to say "hey maybe think about your past experiences and try to learn from them before you you start dating again," I am met with "What are you talking about? You're so negative and judgemental which is why you'll never find love! Being with (rear end in a top hat) WAS THE BEST TIME OF MY LIFE even if it didn't work out" I am also a generation younger than these people.
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 12:21 |
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We got married a couple months ago in May, been dating for about two years prior to that, for background. I'll call him Mike. Today a friend messaged me with a link attached saying "is this Mike???" It was a video that someone had recorded on their phone in a McDonald's of, indeed, Mike losing his temper and yelling at a cashier. I'm not exactly clear why but according to the video description it's because they were out of an item he wanted to order. The video goes on for several minutes and at various points during it, he verbally attacks at the female employee behind the counter calling her a bitch, insults other customers who try to get him to calm down, and says things about "women wanting extra rights over men" (I don't know what this had to do with the situation at all). I am loving mortified. I've not yet decided how to respond to the friend who messaged me but I'm terrified she'll send it to other friends or family or maybe already has. If it's on the internet anyone could see it and think I've married an absolute idiot. This was posted a couple weeks ago and I don't remember what happened on the exact day it was posted but around that general time he had been stressed about a situation at work. So I'm not pretending that the video doesn't show an awful side of him, but this is not who he really is and everyone has off days. However people who see this would judge him based just on the 5 minutes recorded, and possibly me by association. How can I best do damage control here? Should I warn Mike that this is online? Should I make a public post as a warning about "if you've come across a video of Mike in McDonalds…" and explain the situation preemptively? Or maybe it'd be better for him to do that? I welcome any suggestions about how to tactfully address this with both Mike and our friends/family who might see this on social media. TL;DR someone posted a video online of my husband yelling at a McDonalds employee and I'm very embarrassed about his behavior. I know he's a better person than this and don't want friends and family getting the wrong idea if they come across it.
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 12:54 |
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sinking belle posted:We got married a couple months ago in May, been dating for about two years prior to that, for background. I'll call him Mike. If you haven't seen it I'm pretty certain this is the video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6bZnqyE14RY I'm pretty certain that is also a fake story/wife
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 13:06 |
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ArbitraryC posted:Im guessing for a lot of the ones where it's some sad dude getting walked over it's his first ltr and thinks putting up with anything is better than nothing. I knew a lot of late bloomers that ended up in lovely relationships but put up with it cause they felt like it was the best they could do. There's a kid who works under me who is this and it kinda sucks watching him put everything into the relationship when she doesn't really care that much. Like I'm pretty sure she thinks she cares but honestly all they had in common was getting high as gently caress and then loving which is okay when you're 18 but now she's pregnant because they didn't use condoms because "she had a rare condition that makes it almost impossible" and welp.
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 13:26 |
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Shugojin posted:There's a kid who works under me who is this and it kinda sucks watching him put everything into the relationship when she doesn't really care that much. Geez. That poor idiot.
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 13:29 |
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:I don't think a lot of you are going to think that great of me once I am done here. I am not exactly a model human being. I am trying to salvage a relationship with my daughter, and I am running my options with people online until the scheduled date for my first session with someone professional. This guy should run for president.
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 13:44 |
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Just now read that megapost of poly stories, man that was depressing If people manage to get their hands on a narrative that casts them as the victim somehow (in this case defining polyamory as a sexual orientation that simply cannot be denied and your partner is abusive for keeping you in the closet by insisting you not cheat on them) they really can justify anything they want huh My favorite was probably the one where the girl was on the lookout for more dudes, openly talked about comparing her husband to them, and forbade him from finding more girls because she was jealous, just for the blatant wide-open hypocrisy of the entire situation. She went full Ayn Rand.
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 16:05 |
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loquacius posted:My favorite was probably the one where the girl was on the lookout for more dudes, openly talked about comparing her husband to them, and forbade him from finding more girls because she was jealous, just for the blatant wide-open hypocrisy of the entire situation. She went full Ayn Rand. What was her sexual marketplace value?
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 16:10 |
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For context, Ayn Rand lived like a hundred years before any of these weirdos but still pulled the whole unilaterally-deciding-her-marriage-was-open thing so that she could gently caress her bright-eyed young objectivist acolytes but flipped out on her husband when he tried to get a girlfriend and also subjected him to various indignities, such as making him wear a bell around his neck, like a cat, so he couldn't sneak up on her I wonder what these people would say if you told them Ayn Rand pioneered their personal relationship model
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 16:14 |
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loquacius posted:I wonder what these people would say if you told them Ayn Rand pioneered their personal relationship model Pick any polyamorous Reddit user at random and I bet you 10 bucks they've read at least one of her works.
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 16:16 |
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Was gonna say they'll probably love Ayn Rand even more after you tell them that. "See? Exceptional people do it!"
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 16:18 |
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Gamer With Dignity posted:This guy should run for president. "My sister who I conned into loving has mental health issues."
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 16:20 |
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loquacius posted:For context, Ayn Rand lived like a hundred years before any of these weirdos but still pulled the whole unilaterally-deciding-her-marriage-was-open thing so that she could gently caress her bright-eyed young objectivist acolytes The kicker being that she's trying to replace him, assuming one of the other guys is better, and is putting a stop to the MFF's in case he finds someone better than her. The whole "Just a few more dicks "so I can see what I'm missing"! ... but no more for you! " thing is some of the most vile manipulation posted in this thread.
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 16:30 |
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Gamer With Dignity posted:Pick any polyamorous Reddit user at random and I bet you 10 bucks they've read at least one of her works. I mean, the average Reddit user would love Rand, yeah, but my mental image of the average poly enthusiast is the worse type of Bernie supporter (or I guess the worse type of under-40 Hillary primary voter), considering their rhetoric e: I guess they could be "alt-right" Trump or Rand Paul enthusiasts too come to think of it, ok nvm Professor Shark posted:The kicker being that she's trying to replace him, assuming one of the other guys is better, and is putting a stop to the MFF's in case he finds someone better than her. This makes way too much sense and that story didn't have a comments link but I really hope someone pointed it out to him because it's the best possible explanation for that behavior
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 16:37 |
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Fat Shat Sings posted:I'm terrible at relationships but my explanation is that people have been taught "Love Conquers All" so when every day with someone is literal torture it only proves you found true love if you put up with being incredibly unhappy in a terrible situation. My first "real" relationship lasted like six months longer than it should have for this very reason
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 16:43 |
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Professor Shark posted:The kicker being that she's trying to replace him, assuming one of the other guys is better, and is putting a stop to the MFF's in case he finds someone better than her. And the coda is that stories like this feed into the insecurities that breed MRAs and TRP types... for such a selfish woman she can really have quite the impact on the world.
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 16:46 |
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I ran away and never looked back from a board game forum (of all things) because every third thread was about polyamory and other hosed up things. There was a thread by this one guy who was essentially asking for advice on how to cope with his poly wife who has a different relationship every month. She was at that time loving a co-worker daily. The dude was so brainwashed that he was posting poo poo like ' 'Well, she explained it to me and I totally understand: She just has too much love to give and can't give it to one guy and she's an exceptional woman so it would be unfair to keep her from being loved by multiple men at the same time, but gosh darn it when she comes home every night after getting hosed by randos, it kinda hurts. She's really nice though because she always showers first when she comes home. Also we have a five year old girl and I don't know how I'm going to explain to her later why mommy comes home late every other night.'' Dude probably has stomach cancer by now.
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 16:51 |
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loquacius posted:My first "real" relationship lasted like six months longer than it should have for this very reason There is also the opposite problem where everything is a dealbraker so one side just ejects out of the cockpit before the plane is even in the air.
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 16:53 |
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ravenkult posted:I ran away and never looked back from a board game forum (of all things) because every third thread was about polyamory and other hosed up things. Settles of Catan Megathread Optimal Monopoly Strategies How to handle the glacial realization that I am not actually loved by my partner (kids involved) New German Imports Thread Post your favorite custom player tokens! Silly Board Game Memes My husband said to stop being so suffocating and let him gently caress a high schooler but I'm not so sure Does anyone actually like Parcheesi?
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 16:55 |
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ravenkult posted:I ran away and never looked back from a board game forum (of all things) because every third thread was about polyamory and other hosed up things. Sounds like RPG.NET, it is, isn't it? I remember some thread where guys were talking about the most erotic way to render MLP vaginas was a-ok but some dude got sanctioned for using a euphamism for masturbation in a slice of life thread about sperm donation. And yeah there were a few dudes on there eating their own livers in one-sided "open relationships." Weird forum culture there. Owlbear Camus fucked around with this message at 17:08 on Jul 24, 2016 |
# ? Jul 24, 2016 17:00 |
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loquacius posted:My first "real" relationship lasted like six months longer than it should have for this very reason What happened?
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 17:01 |
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I thought that love conquers all was in terms of outside factors not internal poo poo like, "my girlfriend of two months makes me wear a bell while I get pegged."
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 17:11 |
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Love conquers goons.
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 17:23 |
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loquacius posted:For context, Ayn Rand lived like a hundred years before any of these weirdos but still pulled the whole unilaterally-deciding-her-marriage-was-open thing so that she could gently caress her bright-eyed young objectivist acolytes Correction, she flipped out when the 20~ year old apprentice she was loving at 60 decided to get with a cute new recruit. This is after she browbeat him, his girlfriend, and her husband into the whole open thing.
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 17:53 |
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"We can either work on our communication, or we can just gently caress eeeeverything up by hurting each other, advice please?"
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 18:05 |
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The front page has been great today for absolutely terrible people"My [42 F posted:with my husband [55 M] married 5 years, together 9, he places no value on what I do because I don't contribute money"] "My [16F posted:stepbrother [19M] has been drawing me."]
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 18:15 |
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I was going to say that the girl with her brother could be borderline if the dude is just trying to practice and was too loving stupid to know that you should get consent before drawing nudes of someone as anatomy study, but this...quote:The sketches of my body were scarily accurate - down to two freckles I have on my chest and a scar I have on the top of the back of my thigh. I don’t really wear skimpy clothes and I don’t think he has every seen me not fully dressed. I don’t know how he would know about those details and I am scared he has been watching me get dressed or something. ...tells me that the girl shouldn't gently caress around. I'd be freaked out too.
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 18:20 |
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Blacktoll posted:I thought that love conquers all was in terms of outside factors not internal poo poo like, "my girlfriend of two months makes me wear a bell while I get pegged." Yeah, I see how being forced to wear a bell would be a dealbreaker.
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 18:50 |
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I [26 F] had an abortion 10 years ago on this date. I've never gotten over it. I desperately want to contact the father [29M] of the baby. Is this unreasonable?quote:On July 24, 2006 I was forced into an abortion. It was the single worst mistake of my life. Even though I was only 16 I really wanted the baby. I begged and pleaded with my parents and my bf to help me. They adamantly refused. My boyfriend would scream and cry and beg me to get rid of the baby. He said I was ruining his life. quote:This is not the case at all. I don't want to be with him. I do want our baby though. I still have my ultrasound picture. I still have the book I wrote in for my baby. I'll go through phases of acceptance, knowing my baby is gone, but then other times I'll convince myself I just haven't had the baby yet. A year or so ago I started buying baby clothes... but I stopped and haven't let myself do that again. I know it's not right. I know I shouldn't pretend like I'm still pregnant. It's hard though. quote:IT WAS NOT THE RIGHT THING!!!!! You can't just say it was the right thing and make it so!!!! Maybe it was right for them, but not for me and absolutely NOT for my baby. I'm pretty sure it would much rather be alive than dead in the trash. edit: link https://ut.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/4ue052/i_26_f_had_an_abortion_10_years_ago_on_this_date/ Tolkien minority fucked around with this message at 20:03 on Jul 24, 2016 |
# ? Jul 24, 2016 19:58 |
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straight up bonkers
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 19:59 |
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link pls I must see the comments especially since she's responding
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 20:02 |
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e: i'm dumb
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 20:05 |
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Wow, she's batshit. • Still-A-Nobody • 15m I honestly thought people would be on my side. I thought they'd give me pointers on how to contact my ex and how best to express my emotions. I never expected everybody to be on his side.
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# ? Jul 24, 2016 20:08 |
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Funky See Funky Do posted:Wow, she's batshit.
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