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I've been in that situation before, but at least the women never got angry at me, I just felt bad for inadvertently hurting their feelings and felt dumb for not picking up on what were retroactively very obvious signals. If there is one definite difference between men and women's reaction to failing at dating it is that men are far more likely to develop seething resentment about it, rather than just feeling bad before taking their wares to a more interested buyer.
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A libertarian/MRA/GG hero I'll just put one overarching [sic] here Stefan Molyneux posted:What do woman say to little boys? " Stop fighting. Stop being so rough. Stop rough housing." They're boys you know, that's kinda what they're sapossed to do. So, men are sapossed to overcome all these biological drives and I'm just really interested in helping women overcome theirs caus' I think the spotlight of " Outgrow your bestial nature." has been pointed just a little bit too long at men and I think it's time to swivel that motherfucker around and point it at woman and say stop making yourself look like loving sex clowns to milk money out of men's dicks. Stop lying about who you are and what you're about. Stop being flirty, manipulative, and trying to be sexy. Just stop doing it.
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 17:22 |
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sapossed
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 17:23 |
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What's weird about this guy was that I guess he liked me pretty quick after we met, but he went out of his way to tell me he had never had interest in girls. That sort of tossed him out of the dating pool. Maybe he thought that if I thought he wasn't interested in girls, I'd be comfortable changing in front of him or something? My bro knew some guy who swore that if you pretended to be gay, Christian girls would take it as a challenge to "convert" you back with sex. I think I remember a movie in the 90's where Chandler from friends pretended to be gay to get girls. That may have had something to do with it. edit: PallasAthene fucked around with this message at 17:29 on Jul 25, 2016 |
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PallasAthene posted:What's weird about this guy was that I guess he liked me pretty quick after we met, but he went out of his way to tell me he had never had interest in girls. That sort of tossed him out of the dating pool. Maybe he thought that if I thought he wasn't interested in girls, I'd be comfortable changing in front of him or something? My bro knew some guy who swore that if you pretended to be gay, Christian girls would take it as a challenge to "convert" you back with sex. I think I remember a movie in the 90's where Chandler from friends pretended to be gay to get girls. That may have had something to do with it. Francis from "Malcolm in the Middle" did that too. These guys must watch too much TV.
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 17:27 |
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Moon Atari posted:It is directly stated by the angry sad dudes as what they feel. See jon pop's entire post history as an example. It also seems uncontroversial that more men than women have no sex life at all but would like to, especially when the only rebuttal to it is that some women are lonely because they would rather not lower their standards. As much as talk of sexual market forces is tainted by creepy people it is true that men and women face different pressures and annoyances in the dating game, with different failure states. A guy with no game will experience no expression of romantic or sexual interest directed towards him, and if he takes this poorly he starts freaking out about all women being whores who only want 'chads' and maybe does the 'man going his own way' thing. A woman with no game will not have romantic or sexual interest directed at her from the people she would like or in the manner she would like, and if she takes it poorly she starts complaining about all men being lovely partners who only want sex and maybe does the 'political lesbian' thing. Rutibex posted:i think the problem is a certain percentage of people just are not suited for finding mates in an industrialized society with infinite choices. we are designed for a tribal band no bigger than 50 or so, where everyone would get a shot just because of lack of variety and options. once we started building cities we came up with all sorts of elaborate marriage and sex regulation schemes, because the way our sexuality is wired is not suited for groups of millions of people all together. unfortunately all of these schemes were tied into religion, and when the west went atheist it threw the baby out with the bathwater. now we have anime figurines instead. I have arranged a marriage between you Rutibex, and you Moon Atari. You may now kiss each other.
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 17:29 |
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I'm have a huge crush on someone in this thread. Aww heck, I love them!
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 17:30 |
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I get friend-zoned by my heterosexual male friends all the time. They're such cunts.
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 17:37 |
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I knew expressing anything but unambiguous scorn for dudes bitter about being unable to get laid was risky, but I didn't think that saying more men than women can't pick up to save their life would be controversial.
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 17:40 |
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Pick posted:Half the time I don't know someone had a crush on me until years later, when someone else informs me. And it's always like, what?? No one told me this when it would have been helpful. This one works both ways. Facebook has enabled a couple of women to let me know that, 'btw I had a total crush on you decades ago'.
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 17:40 |
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I don't think you can defend "nice guys" without someone claiming you're a redpiller/mra. Way to let the patriarchy win.
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 17:56 |
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Gaunab posted:I don't think you can defend "nice guys" without someone claiming you're a redpiller/mra. Way to let the patriarchy win. There are no nice guys ever. Just rapists and future rapists
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 18:00 |
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a dog from hell posted:*makes a silly joke* Mumpy Puffinz is easily triggered.
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 18:06 |
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Moon Atari posted:I knew expressing anything but unambiguous scorn for dudes bitter about being unable to get laid was risky, but I didn't think that saying more men than women can't pick up to save their life would be controversial. you're dumb dumb as hell
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 18:06 |
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Moon Atari posted:I knew expressing anything but unambiguous scorn for dudes bitter about being unable to get laid was risky, but I didn't think that saying more men than women can't pick up to save their life would be controversial. The women who can't pick up guys are invisible to you and everyone else, hence why you think they don't exist in the same numbers hth
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 18:07 |
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There are no nice guys in a school of psychology. Just therapists and future therapists.
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 18:08 |
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Blue Train posted:The women who can't pick up guys are invisible to you and everyone else, hence why you think they don't exist in the same numbers hth yep
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 18:11 |
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BIG-DICK-BUTT-gently caress posted:what kind of english person says "fam" millenial hipsters chavs obviously e: this thread bradzilla fucked around with this message at 18:18 on Jul 25, 2016 |
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Moon Atari posted:I knew expressing anything but unambiguous scorn for dudes bitter about being unable to get laid was risky, but I didn't think that saying more men than women can't pick up to save their life would be controversial. I am telling you I know these women. My current workplace is actually absolutely full of them. They're alone and they always have been. No one has ever even tried to love them. They find solace in community work but they go home and the place is empty. I'm trying to set my phone down more often and instead of check it on break, try to have a convo with some of them but the work is depressing so it's hard. Easier to discretely re-feed my phone cats in neko atsume and pretend everything is fine Pick fucked around with this message at 18:16 on Jul 25, 2016 |
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Pick posted:I am telling you I know these women. My current workplace is actually absolutely full of them. They're alone and they always have been. No one has ever even tried to love them. They find solace in community work but they go home and the place is empty. I'm trying to set my phone down more often and instead of check it on break, try to have a convo with some of them but the work is depressing so it's hard (thanks internet and alt-tabbing) Yeah, but that's just portland for you. The only emotions they are capable of are expressions of smug and passive aggression
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 18:17 |
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Huh, today I learned there's a cat lady app. Jesus, that's even more depressing than collecting actual cats.
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 18:22 |
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Blue Train posted:The women who can't pick up guys are invisible to you and everyone else, hence why you think they don't exist in the same numbers hth Invisible even to the internet, the land of people sharing their own complaints and insecurities without people censoring them. I'm not saying they don't exist, I'm saying that there are more men than women in that position. I have pity for anyone's dating problems, but saying that different genders have different dating problems isn't an endorsement of any mra/pua talking point. Most people can acknowledge that the more common complaint for women is lovely men coming onto them, whereas the more common complaint for men is being rejected by everyone. Being unable to even lose their virginity and being unhappy about it is more likely to be a problem men have. Saying that doesn't imply that I think there is some societal problem that needs fixing like mra's do, it's just an explanation of why 'nice guys' get so crazy, which I initially offered in counter to the theory that it is because male friendships suck.
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 18:23 |
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Moon Atari posted:Invisible even to the internet, the land of people sharing their own complaints and insecurities without people censoring them. I'm not saying they don't exist, I'm saying that there are more men than women in that position. I have pity for anyone's dating problems, but saying that different genders have different dating problems isn't an endorsement of any mra/pua talking point. Most people can acknowledge that the more common complaint for women is lovely men coming onto them, whereas the more common complaint for men is being rejected by everyone. Being unable to even lose their virginity and being unhappy about it is more likely to be a problem men have. Saying that doesn't imply that I think there is some societal problem that needs fixing like mra's do, it's just an explanation of why 'nice guys' get so crazy, which I initially offered in counter to the theory that it is because male friendships suck. lmao you're just proving the point that they are invisible to you hint: you're not gonna find that many ladies complaining about being rejected here, maybe try places that aren't a huge sausagefest??
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 18:31 |
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Troposphere posted:lmao you're just proving the point that they are invisible to you I think I've found one actually.
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 18:34 |
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Troposphere posted:you're dumb
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 18:38 |
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the problem with incels who are all butthurt about sexual marketplace dynamics is not that they can't get laid, it's that they won't 'deign to lower their standards.' Most of them are literally: "I want a 9 or 10 and everything else is beneath me. Also, he or she must be funny, intelligent, interesting, have cool hobbies, cook, clean, and generally be more or less perfect." They may not say that outright, but deep down in their squirmy hearts it is true. Then they are sad because they have nothing even remotely close to that to offer in return (in fact most of the time their hobbies are 'plays videogames, smokes weed') and the .01% of the population that is their ideal wants nothing to do with them because why would they? don't tell me you can't find someone to gently caress, that's bullshit. you just want someone that you aren't willing to put the effort in to get and then you blame it on 'oh I just don't have tons of cash.' applies to both men and women. Moridin920 fucked around with this message at 18:43 on Jul 25, 2016 |
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I guess people who are legit disfigured or super ugly might have a pass on that (but even then bro it's not impossible) but generally the people I see whining are some average looking white people who absolutely could get laid if they loosened up a bit
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 18:40 |
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PallasAthene posted:One of my "best friends" in college was this guy who swore that he didn't want any kind of relationship with me. For years. He made it so clear when we first met, so I believed him. We would go to the gym every day and we'd go to minigolf or the movies or out to Applebee's or some such place at least every other week. He was also huge into going to places for poetry readings and coffee shops. He was so adamant about not wanting a girlfriend but not fitting in with guys, and after a couple years he told me how he'd never been attracted to girls and had never gotten an erection over a girl. By then we were really close and I assumed this was sort of a clumsy trial run for coming out (this was the early 2000's in the South), because he used to always love to help one of my friends with braiding and styling her really long hair, and he used to always suggest things like calling a bunch of girls over to watch romantic comedies, and whenever a girl from my social circle had a relationship end, he would always want to have everyone get together and drink wine and make fun of the offending ex. Opposite Land: A girl I hung out with in highschool and early university who I thought I was really good friends with turned out to have a thing for me but never made a move. I found out years later from a mutual friend and was like "drat... I would have gone for that! "
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 18:43 |
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One time I was into this girl (actually I think we fooled around before this once or twice too) and I told her "Hey I'm into you!", but she'd been seeing somebody else so she said "Well I'm seeing this other guy and I'd like us to be friends." Man I was upset for the evening, but then I remained her friend and also slept with a few of her other friends too. Man it would suck to be one of those bitter shut-ins who thought that one girl was his only option on earth. Tumble fucked around with this message at 19:21 on Jul 25, 2016 |
# ? Jul 25, 2016 19:19 |
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I'm collating all of these inspirational stories of goons interacting with members of the opposite sex and other pearls of wisdom into a little book of proverbs. I just need a catchy title.
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Funky See Funky Do posted:I'm collating all of these inspirational stories of goons interacting with members of the opposite sex and other pearls of wisdom into a little book of proverbs. I just need a catchy title. Chicken Soup for the Sadsack's Soul
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 19:28 |
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The Seven Habits of Highly Successful Sexers
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 19:29 |
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I was going to go with "Are You There God? I'm Horny" but those are way better.
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 19:36 |
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Tumble posted:Man I was upset for the evening, but then I remained her friend and also slept with a few of her other friends too. Kinda hosed up that you used your friend like that, buddy. That's what you were after all along, wasn't it? Admit it, you sex-crazed barbarian.
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 19:56 |
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Moon Atari posted:I think I've found one actually. holy poo poo I just got owned
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 20:48 |
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This thread has put me off sex
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 20:49 |
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I like women with giant hands. They make me feel safe.
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 20:54 |
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Sp1r0_Agn3W posted:please word filter 'rape' to 'hot cosby' tia
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 20:56 |
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Where's Keg? I want to see him weigh in on this issue.
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# ? Jul 25, 2016 20:57 |
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Moridin920 posted:I guess people who are legit disfigured or super ugly might have a pass on that (but even then bro it's not impossible) but generally the people I see whining are some average looking white people who absolutely could get laid if they loosened up a bit If women minded disfigurement that much, the inheritable ones wouldn't exist. My grandfather looked like someone stretch armstrong'd loving doug jones and his wife (my grandmother) still married him and they were together until he died in his 40s.
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