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mind the walrus: Sep 22, 2006

Poonerman posted:

My fianc� [25M] and his sister [26F] are incredibly close. I [24F] think it's straining our relationship but he just says I don't understand.

Someone get the Farrelly Brothers on the phone I've got their next garbage dump of a film right here

# ? Jul 30, 2016 23:21

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# ? Jun 7, 2024 12:44

Jack Trades: Nov 30, 2010

UnfurledSails posted:

Man if that kid is actually 13 I was a ridiculously cynical 13 year old. That's like something a 10 year old lying about his age would write. Still really cute though.

You're probably confusing cynicism with autism.

# ? Jul 30, 2016 23:24

Sentient Data: Aug 31, 2011; My molecule scrambler ray will disintegrate your armor with one blow!

Nick Rivers posted:

banned from Call of Duty for a day

# ? Jul 30, 2016 23:27

Vargs: Mar 27, 2010

UnfurledSails posted:

Man if that kid is actually 13 I was a ridiculously cynical 13 year old. That's like something a 10 year old lying about his age would write. Still really cute though.

when i was 13, my friends and i were trying to steal credit card information so that we could access porn sites

# ? Jul 30, 2016 23:28

gentle pete: Feb 21, 2015; by Nyc_Tattoo

quote:

[CO] Posted Navy-Seal Copypasta on my CSU Orientation Survey, Police Sergeant left me a voicemail
I am currently in Texas, moving to CSU in 2 weeks. I had filled out an orientation survey full of bullshit "what could we do to improve school spirit blah blah blah" questions, that was mandatory to fill out each answer.

I pasted the Navy Seal Copypasta in each field, as well as other bullshit like putting my ethnicity as a miniature schnauzer, gender as an attack helicopter, etc. Blatant sarcasm and humour.

Today I just received a voicemail from the University's police department wanting to "talk with me about a survey that was filled out for orientation, and that it should only take a couple minutes"

Now before I go further I understand all law enforcement use manipulation tactics, and "playing it cool, to get you to confess to something" is a common one. Naturally, I did not call him back.

Legally, I have not broken any laws, correct? A threat has to have a target, or individual target, and since a survey does not have a person associated with it, my copypasta can not be a legal "true threat", correct?

Not sure if this helps either but since it was copy and pasted, I did not compose the threat myself. I will post the copypasta below for those who are not familiar with it.

Additionally, I read that the Supreme Court ruled that threats made in hyperbole are not valid. For example, if I threatened to exterminate the human race with my time machine and death star, that can not be taken as a valid threat.

In the copypasta, surely claiming to have worked with the secret government and know how to kill people in over 700 ways with my bare hands can not be taken as a valid threat, either.

Furthermore, there is not evidence in the first place of me posting the copypasta. For all they know, I could have left the computer and a friend could have entered the fields as a joke. Or my cat could have stepped on the keyboard.

I am looking for advice on where I should go from here. If I should call him back, what should I say from a legal standpoint? If not, what will most likely happen? I just want to know if a hold will be placed on my account if I do not respond. Will the university just forget it as mischief? Or will they continue investigating this as a terrorist threat as they always do for everything.

Also how does protected speech play into this?

** Note: No I'm not regretful of this situation. Do not comment on here saying that "I never should have posted it in the first place" etc., it was my decision and I stand by my humor. I will be more careful in the future, but I will not let someone's fear dictate to me what I can and can not state on the internet.

# ? Jul 30, 2016 23:47

thathonkey: Jul 17, 2012

zakharov posted:

lmfao at the quoted part

# ? Jul 30, 2016 23:54

Lutha Mahtin: Oct 10, 2010; Your brokebrain sin is absolved...go and shitpost no more!

no officer, you dont understand!!! i didnt yell "fire" into the theater, i played a recording of someone yelling that :rolleyes:

i can call the notorious rbg about this if ya really want, spoiler alert tho ur gonna get epicly pwned

# ? Jul 31, 2016 00:12

Tolkien minority: Feb 14, 2012

Lutha Mahtin posted:

no officer, you dont understand!!! i didnt yell "fire" into the theater, i played a recording of someone yelling that

i can call the notorious rbg about this if ya really want, spoiler alert tho ur gonna get epicly pwned

thats not really similar in any way to what happened in that story tho

# ? Jul 31, 2016 00:16

Danaru: Jun 5, 2012; 何 ??

lmao

"All I did was paste a block of text including the line "I will wipe you the gently caress out with precision the likes of which has never been seen before on this Earth, mark my loving words.", and now this corrupt-rear end PIG is implying I made a threat somehow, and breaching my FIRST AMENDMENT RIGHTS"

:allears:

Never change, Reddit

Or better yet, do change. Please change.

# ? Jul 31, 2016 00:22

flick my Mr. Bean: Nov 18, 2014

gentle pete posted:

"Or my cat could have stepped on the keyboard."

because this has worked out so well for pedophiles in the past

# ? Jul 31, 2016 00:27

Tumble: Jun 24, 2003; I'm not thinking of anything!

Poonerman posted:

My fianc� [25M] and his sister [26F] are incredibly close. I [24F] think it's straining our relationship but he just says I don't understand.

reddit, im engaged to a wonderful man who's in love with his sister

Eh, as much as I love a good sordid affair, they're probably just really good buds. I knew a brother-sister pair like that and they'd have given up entire limbs for each other without blinking.

# ? Jul 31, 2016 00:30

Shiki Dan: Oct 27, 2010; If ya can move ya toes ya back's fine

quote:

No I'm not regretful of this situation. Do not comment on here saying that "I never should have posted it in the first place" etc., it was my decision and I stand by my humor. I will be more careful in the future, but I will not let someone's fear dictate to me what I can and can not state on the internet.

Truly a young man who will go far

# ? Jul 31, 2016 00:30

zakharov: Nov 30, 2002; Tater Love

Tumble posted:

Eh, as much as I love a good sordid affair, they're probably just really good buds. I knew a brother-sister pair like that and they'd have given up entire limbs for each other without blinking.

I presume they wouldn't assume that the sibling would join them when cohabitating with a significant other. Or demand exclusive babysitting privileges. Or be present at 100% of family gatherings. Boundaries are important.

# ? Jul 31, 2016 00:31

Shiki Dan: Oct 27, 2010; If ya can move ya toes ya back's fine

quote:

Eh, as much as I love a good sordid affair, they're probably just really good buds. I knew a brother-sister pair like that and they'd have given up entire limbs for each other without blinking.

Just a couple of college-age buds sleeping in the same bed and cuddling every night.

# ? Jul 31, 2016 00:32

flick my Mr. Bean: Nov 18, 2014

I don't want to sound creepy but are they hot? Like, would they probably find each other attractive if they weren't siblings? I feel like that's a relevant detail. How much does his sister look like you?

e: how often does he moan during sex and how often does it sound suspiciously like he's halfway through saying her name.

flick my Mr. Bean fucked around with this message at 01:03 on Jul 31, 2016

# ? Jul 31, 2016 00:59

Syndic Thrass: Nov 10, 2011

vyst posted:

Scent sensitivity is about as real as gluten sensitivity

Ehh I have eczema and while I wouldn't ever describe it as "scent sensitivity", some scented laundry detergents will make my eczema break out, others will make me itch, etc. That being said I don't think it's scent sensitivity, it's just I'm allergic to some ingredients in poo poo.

Fake edit: now that I think about it, I guess I agree with your statement because I actually have a loving skin condition that's affected by whatever chemicals. It's not scent sensitivity, just like gluten sensitivity isn't real, I actually have a loving allergy to poo poo, as do celiacs with gluten

# ? Jul 31, 2016 01:11

Tolkien minority: Feb 14, 2012

This might be kind of a long story but I'll try to break it down.

I have a summer job (farming) in Washington State and I have a short-term, very minimal lease in a two-bedroom house. The landlord knows my boss and often rents to people who work for him which is how I found the place. I moved in around May and met my roommate, whom we'll call Bertha, and she said she would be staying until June but is still in the house. Not a huge deal by itself, but my coworker was supposed to be living with me in the house. Bertha is also unemployed right now but getting help from her parents for rent and food.

There's not a nice way to put this, but Bertha is very large and I'm fairly small. I am 5'7", 120 lbs and she is ~5'3", probably ~200 lbs. I'm a vegan (which Bertha knows, and Bertha is definitely not) and recovering from a pretty severe eating disorder (which Bertha doesn't know). I'm pretty neurotic about my own food, i.e., having it prepared in a certain way, keeping dishes extremely clean, eating a lot of fresh food, no dairy, meat, eggs, and I also don't eat some other foods like processed sugar and wheat. I know this probably makes me sound like a hellish roommate but all I do differently is clean my dishes very well right after using them and I like to have them put away ASAP, and I keep my food on my own shelf in the fridge. Pretty simple. I eat enough calories every day to sustain myself and I'm working on transitioning to more normal eating habits.

To cut a long story very short, Bertha has been extremely critical of my dietary choices from day one and essentially thinks I should be hospitalized immediately because I'm "grossly underweight". She eats a lot of junk food (which is fine with me) and if she does cook doesn't clean up after herself in the kitchen for 2-3 days (which is annoying, but not a huge deal).

Probably sometime in mid-June, I noticed some cashew milk I was drinking tasted a little different than usual but not bad, so I kept drinking it. This went on for a few weeks but I didn't think much of it. Anyway, I usually go to bed very early and leave early in the morning, but I came home pretty late one night and found Bertha pouring some of her milk into my carton of milk. I was understandably pretty pissed off and confronted her about it, and she said I was "deathly skinny" and that she was "keeping my alive". I said some choice words and told her not to do it again, and I think she stopped. A week or so later, I got done with work early and come home to find a little loose cane sugar in the cupboard where I keep my protein powder, and it looked like the bag had been opened and not closed. I confronted her about it again and she said she literally just mixed my powder with cane sugar to try and "fatten me up". I asked her what other foods she had done this too and she wouldn't tell me. I threw a lot of stuff out.

This sounds like something you read on r/fatpeoplestories or something but I honestly never thought there were people actually like this.
The second incident was her "accidentally" smashing my very nice blender. She said she was trying to make smoothies like the ones I eat (which she's never done before) and it fell on the ground. I have one for breakfast every morning and I'm assuming she thinks they're unhealthy. She says she'll pay me to replace it but it's been over a month and still no money.

Last week was when poo poo really hit the fan. As I said before my landlord and my boss are close. Bertha had asked my landlord for my boss's cell phone number, saying she was looking for a job (doing farm work, which would be shocking to see). Instead, I go into work on Monday and my boss sits me down and asks me if everything is "all right". I say yes of course, and he tells me that he got a text from Bertha telling him that I have an extreme mental illness, and that I need to be hospitalized or I'm in danger of losing my life. Bertha says that the "three of them" need to act in my best interest, and that by letting me go from my job is the first step in getting me to a treatment center that she implied she was "coordinating". She also asked my boss if I was "performing up to par" and that if not it was probably because I was ill.

MY question is, is there anything I can do to get this woman out of my life? It doesn't seem like a big deal to a lot of people but having my food altered like that is extremely stressful/harmful to my mental health and makes me wary of the foods that I do feel comfortable eating, in my own home, that I purchased with my hard-earned money. Can I seek compensation from her for ruining my things? For her threatening my job security? Thanks.

# ? Jul 31, 2016 01:18

Khazar-khum: Oct 22, 2008; Cat Army
2nd Battalion

Profondo Rosso posted:

This might be kind of a long story but I'll try to break it down.

I have a summer job (farming) in Washington State and I have a short-term, very minimal lease in a two-bedroom house. The landlord knows my boss and often rents to people who work for him which is how I found the place. I moved in around May and met my roommate, whom we'll call Bertha, and she said she would be staying until June but is still in the house. Not a huge deal by itself, but my coworker was supposed to be living with me in the house. Bertha is also unemployed right now but getting help from her parents for rent and food.

There's not a nice way to put this, but Bertha is very large and I'm fairly small. I am 5'7", 120 lbs and she is ~5'3", probably ~200 lbs. I'm a vegan (which Bertha knows, and Bertha is definitely not) and recovering from a pretty severe eating disorder (which Bertha doesn't know). I'm pretty neurotic about my own food, i.e., having it prepared in a certain way, keeping dishes extremely clean, eating a lot of fresh food, no dairy, meat, eggs, and I also don't eat some other foods like processed sugar and wheat. I know this probably makes me sound like a hellish roommate but all I do differently is clean my dishes very well right after using them and I like to have them put away ASAP, and I keep my food on my own shelf in the fridge. Pretty simple. I eat enough calories every day to sustain myself and I'm working on transitioning to more normal eating habits.

To cut a long story very short, Bertha has been extremely critical of my dietary choices from day one and essentially thinks I should be hospitalized immediately because I'm "grossly underweight". She eats a lot of junk food (which is fine with me) and if she does cook doesn't clean up after herself in the kitchen for 2-3 days (which is annoying, but not a huge deal).

Probably sometime in mid-June, I noticed some cashew milk I was drinking tasted a little different than usual but not bad, so I kept drinking it. This went on for a few weeks but I didn't think much of it. Anyway, I usually go to bed very early and leave early in the morning, but I came home pretty late one night and found Bertha pouring some of her milk into my carton of milk. I was understandably pretty pissed off and confronted her about it, and she said I was "deathly skinny" and that she was "keeping my alive". I said some choice words and told her not to do it again, and I think she stopped. A week or so later, I got done with work early and come home to find a little loose cane sugar in the cupboard where I keep my protein powder, and it looked like the bag had been opened and not closed. I confronted her about it again and she said she literally just mixed my powder with cane sugar to try and "fatten me up". I asked her what other foods she had done this too and she wouldn't tell me. I threw a lot of stuff out.

This sounds like something you read on r/fatpeoplestories or something but I honestly never thought there were people actually like this.
The second incident was her "accidentally" smashing my very nice blender. She said she was trying to make smoothies like the ones I eat (which she's never done before) and it fell on the ground. I have one for breakfast every morning and I'm assuming she thinks they're unhealthy. She says she'll pay me to replace it but it's been over a month and still no money.

Last week was when poo poo really hit the fan. As I said before my landlord and my boss are close. Bertha had asked my landlord for my boss's cell phone number, saying she was looking for a job (doing farm work, which would be shocking to see). Instead, I go into work on Monday and my boss sits me down and asks me if everything is "all right". I say yes of course, and he tells me that he got a text from Bertha telling him that I have an extreme mental illness, and that I need to be hospitalized or I'm in danger of losing my life. Bertha says that the "three of them" need to act in my best interest, and that by letting me go from my job is the first step in getting me to a treatment center that she implied she was "coordinating". She also asked my boss if I was "performing up to par" and that if not it was probably because I was ill.

MY question is, is there anything I can do to get this woman out of my life? It doesn't seem like a big deal to a lot of people but having my food altered like that is extremely stressful/harmful to my mental health and makes me wary of the foods that I do feel comfortable eating, in my own home, that I purchased with my hard-earned money. Can I seek compensation from her for ruining my things? For her threatening my job security? Thanks.

Possibility #1--She's legit scared for you and doesn't know any other way to help, since talking to you seems to go nowhere while you continue to fetishize food
Possibility #2--She's gaslighting you

# ? Jul 31, 2016 01:55

Jack Trades: Nov 30, 2010

You know the solution to your situation already.

EDIT: It's :sever:

# ? Jul 31, 2016 02:11

MasBrillante: Dec 3, 2005; by Jeffrey of YOSPOS

Two mentally disordered people with opposite food-specific neuroses sounds like a great idea for a short story where everyone ends up dead in the end.

# ? Jul 31, 2016 02:14

Danaru: Jun 5, 2012; 何 ??

Smashing a person's appliances, sneaking poo poo they don't want into their food, and calling their employer to get them fired is pretty far beyond what can be reasonably considered "just concerned for them".

# ? Jul 31, 2016 02:23

Cowman: Feb 14, 2006; Beware the Cow

gentle pete posted:

this guy's getting all up in arms when the sergeant is basically just going to say "That survey was weird, what's wrong with you?"

Khazar-khum posted:

Possibility #1--She's legit scared for you and doesn't know any other way to help, since talking to you seems to go nowhere while you continue to fetishize food
Possibility #2--She's gaslighting you

I did a quick rough BMI and she's just under 19 on there and is on the low side of "normal weight" so she probably looks really skinny and possibly unhealthy. She works on a farm though so she's gotta be pretty fit. Roommate's a real piece of poo poo though. If you're concerned about your roommate just talk to them don't do this weirdo passive aggressive poo poo. Mixing your milk in with almond milk is also a poo poo move because she could be lactose intolerant.

Cowman fucked around with this message at 02:33 on Jul 31, 2016

# ? Jul 31, 2016 02:26

Mr. Creakle: Apr 27, 2007; Protecting your virginity

zakharov posted:

This thread is better when people are posting funny content and not trying to turn it into Awkward/Ugly/Gross.

Here's one where someone has a legitimate beef but takes "revenge" way too far

I (35f) have been telling my bf(38m) of 2ish years I'm scent sensitive and cannot use perfume soaps or lotions on my body, especially neary vagina, I have spent 2 years suffering on and off with uti's because he has been using scented body lotion and never once thought it may be the cause

This is real. I suffered for years with constant :nms:

vagina issues and it turns out it was scented stuff. Cut it out and like magic, no more infections. Then it started dating another guy and the problems immediately came back - he was washing himself with scented stuff.

A lot of women with bad fish pussies are probably sensitive to scented products and using them anyway without realizing how bad it is because they aren't in any pain or are immune to their own funk.

# ? Jul 31, 2016 02:40

DoctorStrangelove: Jun 7, 2012; IT WOULD NOT BE DIFFICULT MEIN FUHRER!

Am I the only one who thinks it should be called the "Gorilla Warefare" copypasta instead of Navy SEAL copypasta?

# ? Jul 31, 2016 03:42

Owlbear Camus: Jan 3, 2013; Maybe this guy that flies is just sort of passing through, you know?

Mods rename to "not mind safe vagina issues" TIA

# ? Jul 31, 2016 03:51

Tricky D: Apr 1, 2005; I love um!

At first I was all about giving the dude the benefit of the doubt. Like, OK, he and his sister are more close than normal, but whatever, it's probably not gonna be a big deal if you don't make it one.

Then I got to the first bullet point about the snuggling in bed watching movies together and that was that.

# ? Jul 31, 2016 04:45

blarzgh: Apr 14, 2009; SNITCHIN' RANDY; Grimey Drawer

Quite frankly, if the girl with the former eating disorder was actually extremely underweight and was lying about it in her post, everything her fat gently caress roommate was doing (except for breaking the blender?) would seem far more justified. I mean, the girl's boss took it seriously enough to have a sit down with her.

# ? Jul 31, 2016 05:24

mind the walrus: Sep 22, 2006

At her height 120 is on the lower end of what BMI says is healthy but one can't discount that these people may not be used to seeing a woman of that height and weight in modern America period and it's loving with their heads.

# ? Jul 31, 2016 06:52

Mr. Creakle: Apr 27, 2007; Protecting your virginity

It's kind of hard to say in that last one because the skinny roommate could be exaggerating due to her eating disorder, but the fat bitch could be doing all of that too. Sometimes obese people who are also mentally ill/insecure think that anyone under landwhale size is "dangerously skinny".

Fat girl's weird food thing kind of reminds me of a (much milder) version of Caterham. For those who haven't read it read the Caterham tales for some of the funniest mentally ill fat people stuff ever: https://m.reddit.com/r/fatpeoplestories/comments/248rr8/the_caterham_tales_part_i_the_first_shift/

# ? Jul 31, 2016 07:10

Ichabod Tane: Oct 30, 2005; A most notable
coward, an infinite and endless liar, an hourly promise breaker, the owner of no one good quality.

https://youtu.be/_Ojd0BdtMBY?t=4

Cuckoo posted:

This is real. I suffered for years with constant vagina issues and it turns out it was scented stuff. Cut it out and like magic, no more infections. Then it started dating another guy and the problems immediately came back - he was washing himself with scented stuff.

A lot of women with bad fish pussies are probably sensitive to scented products and using them anyway without realizing how bad it is because they aren't in any pain or are immune to their own funk.

Thanks for confirming this. We were really clamoring for someone to personally confirm that scented lotions can cause stinky pussy rot.

# ? Jul 31, 2016 07:37

corn on the cop: Oct 12, 2012; Break what must be broken, once for all, that's all, and take the suffering on oneself.

â Corey Dostoyevsky

Blacktoll posted:

Thanks for confirming this. We were really clamoring for someone to personally confirm that scented lotions can cause stinky pussy rot.

it's better than the pages of tiny penis discussion

# ? Jul 31, 2016 07:43

Panfilo: Aug 27, 2011; Can't post for 4 days!

I bet the best way to tell if somebody had one of those scent issues (and not just some skin allergy to perfumes which are legit I agree) is to fill a perfume atomizer with water and see if they start getting whiny when you spritz yourself with it.

# ? Jul 31, 2016 08:04

Luna Was Here: Mar 21, 2013; Lipstick Apathy

Profondo Rosso posted:

everytime i see one of these stories i can never decide whether its real or not because on one hand I've known people who are legitimately this crazy and delusional but on the other hand I refuse to believe that most people don't look at them and tell them to gently caress off because they know what a healthy size for a human being is

# ? Jul 31, 2016 08:20

Sentient Data: Aug 31, 2011; My molecule scrambler ray will disintegrate your armor with one blow!

vvv: Um, yeah, the post was meant for the rio2016(TM) thread. Oh well, I'll let it stand and claim it's a metaphor for a relationship with a good core being turned to poo poo by poor quality coverings or something like that

Sentient Data fucked around with this message at 09:00 on Jul 31, 2016

# ? Jul 31, 2016 08:44

Zzulu: May 15, 2009; (â°ËvËâ°)

uhh

# ? Jul 31, 2016 08:50

Iron Prince: Aug 28, 2005; Buglord

whew never thought this thread would leave me sport in' wood but here we are

# ? Jul 31, 2016 08:51

Jack Trades: Nov 30, 2010

That dood has a nice bod.

Cuckoo posted:

It's kind of hard to say in that last one because the skinny roommate could be exaggerating due to her eating disorder, but the fat bitch could be doing all of that too. Sometimes obese people who are also mentally ill/insecure think that anyone under landwhale size is "dangerously skinny".

Fat girl's weird food thing kind of reminds me of a (much milder) version of Caterham. For those who haven't read it read the Caterham tales for some of the funniest mentally ill fat people stuff ever: https://m.reddit.com/r/fatpeoplestories/comments/248rr8/the_caterham_tales_part_i_the_first_shift/

Jesus christ, why did you link that?
I can't stop reading that horror story and I can't stop gagging at what I'm reading.

Jack Trades fucked around with this message at 13:50 on Jul 31, 2016

# ? Jul 31, 2016 13:08

blarzgh: Apr 14, 2009; SNITCHIN' RANDY; Grimey Drawer

Jack Trades posted:

That dood has a nice bod.

Jesus christ, why did you link that?
I can't stop reading that horror story and I can't stop gagging at what I'm reading.

im not sticking around to find out what happens to the pocket-quiche

# ? Jul 31, 2016 20:29

CheesyDog: Jul 4, 2007; by FactsAreUseless

I am not romantically/physically into guys but I want to be hosed by them because I am lazy/weak/passive and it would require less energy. I sometimes feel ashamed and wrong because of this posted:

Disclaimer: I am ashamed of my fitness and not feeling anything for guys, not for being Bi !!
[Kinda Post coital sadness question]
This doubts pop into my head when I am not horny or after I reach an orgasm. So because of my specific traits I develovped those desires. It took me years to develovp it and then years to admit it (but that's also kinda a turn-on, secret desires that need to be pushed like a button properly, wild-when-horny)...
traits being:
-I am not into romance at all ATM, just sex, and finding guys online seems the easiest and quickest way to get few strong orgasms, easier than one night stand with girls. I think I won't fall in love because I don't feel anything when I see half naked male body or face and I am shy just around girls. I am not sure tho
-I am sometimes complimented by guys on how thin I am, my androgynous face and on my butt (even to the point of half bullying with spanking by two former schoolmates, which I grew to love over the years). So i shouldn't have a problem finding a online one night stands
-can't last long with girls
-into exploring my prostate - average penis(mediocre girth),average height - skinny and frail, weakest guy I know - am sexually submissive, not many females are for that kind of one night stands -socially awkward and non assertive
-terrified of penises even bigger than mine, but also kinda a masochist so most body type that could dominate me is fine for me
-I would like to be treated like submissive females are in straight and lesbian porn
-i don't have much energy but enough for a bottom, don't mind to ride that dick furiously tho
Questions: (kinda)
A)But I am not sure this is good for my mental, social and sexual health. I still believe in a true love later in life but I never felt anything for a guy, their bodies and faces don't do anything for me at all. I love their strength.
B) I feel this is not respectful to gay guys (gay community) and that this kind of horny promsciousness won't be healthy for lazy me.
C) Will I maybe fall in love with them? Am I secretly afraid of that? How will I feel after sex on the first meetup is done?
D) Was anyone in similar situation like me to share experiences?
E) Is this just a (sexual)fantasy? I like to be frail around guys but I am not sure it's long-term a good thing to not exercise and to eat less like I do, but then I wouldn't be the weakest guy around.
F) Should I be terrified of my libido/promiscuity and safety, especially if I know I am into some pretty rough stuff (bdsm, nonconsensual consent (roleplaying rape), (high) prostituiton, porn (that won't be distributed haha) , (live) dungeons, gangbangs... Or just fantasies..
P.S. I have no religious/homophobic/macho background in this story (hmmm maybe just the last one, masculinity) I am very comfortable with my looks, not with all this. [Kinda Post coital sadness question]

# ? Jul 31, 2016 20:50

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# ? Jun 7, 2024 12:44

gentle pete: Feb 21, 2015; by Nyc_Tattoo

quote:

Me [26 F] and fiance [29 M] struggle with my IBD and anal sex

Hi relationships!

We're together for about 3 years now. Things are great except for 1 thing.

We both love anal sex. Unfortunately about 1.5 years ago I got diagnosed with IBD - a lot of blood and pain coming from the rectum. That means no more anal. I am in remission now and then.

About half a year while ago I decided to try anal again, we did so very gently and shortly- maybe 2 thrusts not that it matters. It caused me to bleed again and I ended up on biologics medicine because it got really bad.

He feels very guilty about what happened then and doesn't feel comfortable doing anal with me again. And me neither actually. We both miss it though.

He brought up maybe allowing him to have anal sex with another person. I could be there doing things to that person as well etc... I am just not comfortable with that. I don't want him to have sexual relationships with others. I don't know if I'll ever see him as the same person again.

He says it's a real fetish/big deal to him. And it's also to me. I hate having this disease.

I notice that it's kind of coming between us- sometimes he is in an anal mood and we are unable to do that. I also feel paranoid about him having anal sex with another person in the future, sometimes. I don't know how to deal with this. I get frustrated because I can't really have it myself anymore.

I want to have anal again but I am afraid it will cause me to bleed again. I'm also worried that it will never be rough enough for him like we used to have..

It's not an ultimatum at this point but I am certain that day will come sooner than later and would like to know how to deal with this.

--edit: We still have other ways to have sex that we love. We have a lot of things to cherish. We were just wondering how to deal with this instead of throwing everything away. Most important for him is me being healthy.

tl;dr: both love anal sex, can't have it anymore (due to IBD), he asks me to allow him to gently caress 3rd person anal, I'm not comfortable with that

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