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I'm not sure it's really lack of confidence because a lot of these guys have no problem waking around with really cringey stuff in public. Seems more fear of rejection. They don't ask a girl out they just do "nice" things. They don't try to initiate anything flirty because they see it as douchey. And they hate "douchebags" that ask girls out.
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A Man and his dog posted:Lol you have a small dick. And proud of it! Less to carry around. Because it's so loving small. darkhand posted:I'm not sure it's really lack of confidence because a lot of these guys have no problem waking around with really cringey stuff in public. Seems more fear of rejection. They don't ask a girl out they just do "nice" things. They don't try to initiate anything flirty because they see it as douchey. And they hate "douchebags" that ask girls out. Like the guy who holds the door for a girl he doesn't know and then broods because she didn't immediately swoon.
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Im just playing brother. Im not hung like a horse either. Got that medium size. Anyways the way I met my cougar was pretty creep mode but she ran with it and yeah we're happy. She's a regular at my place of business so one day I just searched for her on Facebook and hit her up on the messenger. Boom. We've hit it off since then.
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My username is actually my nickname for my dick because when a girl sees it, it ends the night.
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darkhand posted:I'm not sure it's really lack of confidence because a lot of these guys have no problem waking around with really cringey stuff in public. Seems more fear of rejection. They don't ask a girl out they just do "nice" things. They don't try to initiate anything flirty because they see it as douchey. And they hate "douchebags" that ask girls out. Everybody hates rejection, it's loving terrible, it's the worst feeling in the world, but there's nothing you can do but face up to the fact that you're going to be rejected from a lot of things in life, and often. Eventually you get rejected from life, that's a whole thing.
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Pick posted:Everybody hates rejection, it's loving terrible, it's the worst feeling in the world, but there's nothing you can do but face up to the fact that you're going to be rejected from a lot of things in life, and often. Eventually you get rejected from life, that's a whole thing. Eh, being vulnerable is a necessity and not an excruciating one. If I ask someone out and they say no it's not that big of a deal. Been told no lots, been told yes some, always worked out okay.
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CarForumPoster posted:Eh, being vulnerable is a necessity and not an excruciating one. If I ask someone out and they say no it's not that big of a deal. Been told no lots, been told yes some, always worked out okay. Pretty much this. You can't fear rejection. Just loving sack it up and ask her. It all depends on the social setting and poo poo but all you can do is put yourself out there.
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I've only asked out one woman in my entire life and she said no. By the process of induction I can safely assume every woman I meet will say no. I'm a huge introvert though so it's nbd. And I'm self-aware enough not to resent anyone if I did care.
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except for people like elliot rodgers (who had a developmental disorder) I think a lot of it is missing out on childhood social development, which kind of fucks up your ability to pick up other skills later. I'm not sure that's something that can ever be made up for...
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darkhand posted:I'm not sure it's really lack of confidence because a lot of these guys have no problem waking around with really cringey stuff in public. Seems more fear of rejection. They don't ask a girl out they just do "nice" things. They don't try to initiate anything flirty because they see it as douchey. And they hate "douchebags" that ask girls out. CarForumPoster posted:The dudes I know who fall in to that "nice guy role" (though not as severely as some of the examples in this thread) never accepted/embraced that. Every example is some dude who graduated college 3-4 years late or didnt graduate. Doesn't really challenge himself. Likes every girl he meets but pretends like he doesn't. Insists he can't dance but never took classes. Asks out 3-4 girls per year, tops. Has anyone else ever heard the line from a nice guy that they "respect a girl too much" to ask her out and make her decide, or they "value their friendship too much" to ruin it with the possibility of romance? It's kind of weird because whenever I've heard that, it's from some dude who is fixated on some girl in my social circle, and it's obvious to everyone but the object of their affections. And it's usually not a core friend, it's some random guy who met her and sort of wants to go everywhere with her, but doesn't ask her out. Most the guys I hang out with have a relatively short window when they meet a girl who they spend a lot of time with where they'd start a serious relationship with them. If it doesn't click after a few weeks, they get over it or move on, and the girl just becomes a friend. I can't really think of too many times where I've seen irl Ross and Rachel situations with people I know.
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Yeah a lot of it probably boils down to social skills at a young age. But being told "no" by one girl and then going into rage mode over it is stupid.
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SciFiDownBeat posted:I've only asked out one woman in my entire life and she said no. By the process of induction I can safely assume every woman I meet will say no. Is this a joke post or no
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I probably went through something of a nice guy phase in my teens, with a metric fuckton of social anxiety contributing to it. I grew out of it. Of course I also have a decently large dick, which probably helps. 
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A Man and his dog posted:Yeah a lot of it probably boils down to social skills at a young age. Because then you get Ted Bundy-like people. CaptainSarcastic posted:Of course I also have a decently large dick, which probably helps. 
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Sometimes being the nice guy and not getting the girl also works out. Cause 5-10 years later you see a Facebook post of her horribly depressed with kids and a poo poo husband and your just chilling by the pool like oh yeah.
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The Endbringer posted:Because then you get Ted Bundy-like people. Ted Bundy was pretty successful with women though He had some other kind of hosed childhood/brain
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A Man and his dog posted:Sometimes being the nice guy and not getting the girl also works out. Yeah there's nothing like watching those bitches be miserable wtf
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Maybe they shouldn't have rejected the "nice guy"........  
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A Man and his dog posted:Maybe they shouldn't have rejected the "nice guy"........ He still loses. Try volunteering with hospice. The men who are alone, and are dying alone, express a regret that you can't even imagine.
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Pick posted:I wonder why some guys feel that they lack courage? There doesn't seem to be a pattern between the guys I know who seem to be insecure, or what makes them insecure. I just can't take the rejection anymore, I'm too sensitive and emotional I wish I was kidding I'm in my mid 30s
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Pick posted:He still loses. Try volunteering with hospice. The men who are alone, and are dying alone, express a regret that you can't even imagine. Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. If I'm ever in hospice the last thing I'm thinking about is "oh gently caress I wasted all my years by not having someone here with me right now!" It's more like "Great I'm gonna loving die any day now."
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Pick posted:He still loses. Try volunteering with hospice. The men who are alone, and are dying alone, express a regret that you can't even imagine. I used to volunteer at a veteran's home, and there always seemed to be a HUGE difference in lifetime satisfaction between the widowers and the guys who never married.
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PallasAthene posted:I used to volunteer at a veteran's home, and there always seemed to be a HUGE difference in lifetime satisfaction between the widowers and the guys who never married. Do you mean the never married guys are happier somehow? 
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Don Tacorleone posted:I just can't take the rejection anymore, I'm too sensitive and emotional you really shouldn't ever "be rejected". play it cool and sense the vibe of people before trying to romance them. don't ask girls on "dates" thats too much pressure, just hang out and make a move if the vibe is appropriate. you will never be rejected, because you should already know if they are interested before you make the move
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Rutibex posted:you really shouldn't ever "be rejected". play it cool and sense the vibe of people before trying to romance them. don't ask girls on "dates" thats too much pressure, just hang out and make a move if the vibe is appropriate. I ask girls out for dates then I show up at their houses with a bowl of dates and we eat them then I go home
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naem posted:They call me war if the world's cause I'm a tripod also because you're dying from complications of pneumonia
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The Endbringer posted:I ask girls out for dates then I show up at their houses with a bowl of dates and we eat them then I go home thats not really going "out" for dates than is it? your not following through
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Rutibex posted:thats not really going "out" for dates than is it? your not following through yeah it is I go out of my house therefore it's "going out" duhhh
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and then we eat the dates outside so they are "going out" too why am I even explaining this?
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Cumslut1895 posted:also because you're dying from complications of pneumonia I laughed
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If you're at a point where you need a hospice and it's guaranteed that you can never live a normal non-assisted life again, you should just take a single month's worth of hospice fees, buy a crapload of drugs, and just OD. Go out happy, end your family's misery, and don't needlessly blow tens or even hundreds of thousands of dollars that could go to much better use
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Pick posted:Everybody hates rejection, it's loving terrible, it's the worst feeling in the world, but there's nothing you can do but face up to the fact that you're going to be rejected from a lot of things in life, and often. Eventually you get rejected from life, that's a whole thing. Anyway, just white-knuckling through rejection doesn't help people like this because the rejections are not a learning experience as they might be to someone with a more thoughtful and cautious approach to the opposite sex. In my opinion the "nice guy/shithead" duality is the real crux of the issue where most of these nice guys might be best to follow the "be yourself" trope instead, because I think they are more shithead than nice guy and they should probably just embrace that as much as possible.
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uhhh if i had a girlfriend where would i find time to wallow all day in my own filth????? doesnt seem like a good tradeoff
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Profondo Rosso posted:uhhh if i had a girlfriend where would i find time to wallow all day in my own filth????? doesnt seem like a good tradeoff 
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PallasAthene posted:Has anyone else ever heard the line from a nice guy that they "respect a girl too much" to ask her out and make her decide, or they "value their friendship too much" to ruin it with the possibility of romance? It's kind of weird because whenever I've heard that, it's from some dude who is fixated on some girl in my social circle, and it's obvious to everyone but the object of their affections. And it's usually not a core friend, it's some random guy who met her and sort of wants to go everywhere with her, but doesn't ask her out. Most the guys I hang out with have a relatively short window when they meet a girl who they spend a lot of time with where they'd start a serious relationship with them. If it doesn't click after a few weeks, they get over it or move on, and the girl just becomes a friend. I can't really think of too many times where I've seen irl Ross and Rachel situations with people I know. That's a reason some girls give for not dating someone who's a friend.
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Seriously though, what's this thread about?
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Gaunab posted:Seriously though, what's this thread about? Laughing at people lower down the social ladder, and people with neurological disorders
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Cumslut1895 posted:Laughing at people lower down the social ladder, and people with neurological disorders Well, as I always say, if you can't laugh at yourself....
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