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docbeard posted:My own favorite (mostly but not exclusively) workplace peeve reared up again. This sounds like my dad's child rearing strategy. He was also a manager  "Clean your room. " "Okay." "Let me tell you about how I was a room cleaning prodigy when I was a teenager and about the many medals and universal praise I won through this skill." "I said okay" "I wasn't done. Here is the family history of room cleaning, starting around the christening of Scandinavia and continuing unbroken until your birth. Feel the disappointment of eons of forefathers. Repent. You will never be an asset to society if your room looks like this." Hours of lecturing pass, during which I grow up, move out and clean my own apartment five thousand times over before we're done. 20 years later and it's still a pet peeve.
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docbeard posted:My own favorite (mostly but not exclusively) workplace peeve reared up again Related: People who just say "yeah sure I can do that" to literally everything, and will say "yes I can" to every question on whether you can get whatever thing done within X amount of time. Only say you can if you know you can. When you're constantly saying "well it took an extra 2 weeks because I didn't know how to do it" it is really annoying. If you had just said "I don't understand that code/physical process/whatever and need a week or two to read up on it" it would be fine, but when you pretend you know it already when you don't and just assume you'll pull off some magic it's a problem.
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Maggie Fletcher posted:That's exactly what they're doing. And in our company, Legal is always the problem, even when it's been sitting in Finance for a week because the client screwed up its own budget and can't do math. It's taking so long because you did your numbers wrong and refuse to log into the database or talk to your admins to find out where it's at. Sure, it's taking a long drat time, but it's with your people, not mine. It's important to understand that the guiding principle behind pretty much all business communication isn't "how can we make this thing happen in the most efficient way possible", it's "IT IS YOUR PROBLEM NOW". They talked to Legal, therefore it is now up to Legal to fix it, whether it's Legal's job or not, and certainly regardless of whether they could have solved the problem themselves by now. It's all a big game of hot potato.
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Aug 26, 2016 19:19
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Norrskensren posted:This sounds like my dad's child rearing strategy. He was also a manager My mother did this, but saying nobody would ever want to marry me if I didn't do certain things.
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Aug 26, 2016 19:43
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Brawnfire posted:My mother did this, but saying nobody would ever want to marry me if I didn't do certain things. I hope you did none of the things out of spite Being told not to do things because they're "unladylike" is less of a pet peeve and more an incandescent rage with embedded and insidious patriarchal norms but it's very annoying. gently caress you Nanny I'll whistle and swear all I loving like. Apparently being a rascist old shitbag isn't unladylike at all.
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Aug 26, 2016 21:48
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People who don't do chores or whatever you ask them to do and then 5 hours later they still didn't do them so I do it and they get mad. Me: could you take out the trash? It's full and smelly. Person: ok I'll do it in a minute *1 hour later Me: can you please take it out? Person: hold on! I'm in the middle of thing but I'm gonna do it *5 hours later I give up and do it myself Person: I WAS GOING TO DO IT WHAT THE gently caress YOURE SUCH AN rear end in a top hat ASSUMING I WOULDNT DO IT
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Aug 26, 2016 22:08
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My old roommate would push everything to the very last minute and then get upset at having no time do it all. "Look, I need to do a, b, c, x, y AND z today. I dont have time to do the chores Ive known about all week and put off to the last minute" Youve had months to do all those things and then it all comes to a head one day and he never ever learns a lesson.
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docbeard posted:It's important to understand that the guiding principle behind pretty much all business communication isn't "how can we make this thing happen in the most efficient way possible", it's "IT IS YOUR PROBLEM NOW". They talked to Legal, therefore it is now up to Legal to fix it, whether it's Legal's job or not, and certainly regardless of whether they could have solved the problem themselves by now. Since you seem to work at Middle Management Inc., there's something I've always wondered. Is anything ever done, or is it all paper passing?
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Thin Privilege posted:People who don't do chores or whatever you ask them to do and then 5 hours later they still didn't do them so I do it and they get mad. On the other side of things, as a teenager there was a significant period of time where my mom would say something like "Hey, which one of you wants to go to the store?" And if my brother and I took more than a minute to decide whose turn it was, it'd turn into "Fine, I guess I'LL just go then, no no don't worry about it, I can go, if neither of you want to go I'll just go. It's FINE." It's still a pet peeve of mine when people seem to assume that if I'm not completely and totally thrilled about doing a chore/running an errand, that means I hate doing it and it's a massive imposition on me. No, I just don't particularly like grocery shopping, like I'm guessing many other people on the planet. That doesn't mean I'm going to refuse and get upset if it's my turn to go out tonight. Maybe I just have a headache and so I'm not excited about doing anything right now, but I can get over it in five minutes! Parasol Prophet has a new favorite as of 01:51 on Aug 27, 2016 |
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Aug 27, 2016 01:44
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Parasol Prophet posted:On the other side of things, as a teenager there was a significant period of time where my mom would say something like "Hey, which one of you wants to go to the store?" my mom does this, too. she seems to think that if I take a moment to get my poo poo together that I'm basically telling her "eat a giant dick, mother, for you are a burden to me" no mom I'm just annoyed I have to put on pants I'll be fine in a minute christ
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Brawnfire posted:My mother did this, but saying nobody would ever want to marry me if I didn't do certain things. My mom told me this was ironing. My dad told me I'd never find a husband if I didn't learn to iron and make breakfast and pack lunches for him, so I knew how to treat my husband. Oh, and unpack his lunchbox too because after work he was tired. Joke's on him, I'm a goddamn dyke. He hasn't figured it out yet. Though it is telling that my older half brother he never had contact with is married and has a kid, and the two kids my dad did help raise are both single and childless and never form long-term relationships. Almost like being raised in a bad household is enough to make a kid decide marriage is a bad thing because all it is is two people fighting.
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Aug 27, 2016 02:11
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Parasol Prophet posted:On the other side of things, as a teenager there was a significant period of time where my mom would say something like "Hey, which one of you wants to go to the store?"
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Aug 27, 2016 04:28
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Tiggum posted:Whenever anyone phrases a request to do something as a question of whether or not you want to do it, you should always say "no". If you want me to do something, ask me to do it, don't ask me if I want to do it when you know I don't. I found a new least favorite pet peeve
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Gabriel Pope posted:I found a new least favorite pet peeve Tiggum doesn't usually understand how to human.
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Let me add "people who tell you to do something while you are already doing it, and continue giving you commands anway," and "people who tell you to do something, and then while you are doing it, tell you to do five other things at the same time," and, "people who speak to you only to tell you what to do and to tell you what you've done wrong, and btw, your first fuckup was needing to be told to do the task in question, even if you're in the middle of doing it at the time while they tell you." Or, my dad.
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Aug 27, 2016 06:29
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see also: people who ask you for help with something they don't know how to do, but somehow know enough to tell you that you're doing it the wrong way. If you know how to do it, why did you need my help????
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Aug 27, 2016 06:32
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See also also: People who ask for your help when what they really mean is "can you do this for me? by the way I'm still totally taking credit for this when it's done". Additionally - people who expect absolute quiet at unreasonable times. The room I have my TV in is fairly close to the sidewalk outside and I had my window cracked open watching something or other last night at about 8pm. I had someone knock on my door to tell me they can hear my TV from outside and to turn it down. After they left I went out to check how loud it was and you could barely hear it unless a lot of bass/gunfire was going on, and only when you're within a couple feet of the window. Maybe it was a little too loud, but come on, it's (was) a Friday. e: to be clear this wasn't even a neighbor or anything, just a lady walking by. yeah I eat ass has a new favorite as of 06:55 on Aug 27, 2016 |
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Aug 27, 2016 06:49
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People who take everything I say as absolutely genuine and literal, no matter how hyperbolic or absurd. Just kidding, it's hilarious. The image some people on these forums have of me must the craziest thing and it makes me laugh trying to imagine it.
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Aug 27, 2016 09:59
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KoB posted:
This is pretty much everyone in my department at my university at the end of the summer and the week before the term starts, except, of course, they contact me at the 11th hour screaming at me to do a, b, c, x, y, and zed today. I've pretty much worn off the 'N' and 'O' keys on my keyboard as a consequence of people like this.
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Aug 27, 2016 15:18
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Jumping on the bad-advice bandwagon: people who tell you how to do something that you already know how to do, while you're doing it. Bonus points if they praise you with "good job" or similar when you're done. People whose ears translate "I'm studying X" as "Please give me a lecture on everything you know about X, even if you learned it from TV or five minutes on Wikipedia and/or have no idea how to explain it coherently." Oh, and people whose first response to anyone else having difficulty with something is to suggest they quit. And chuggers, but that's another story.
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Aug 27, 2016 19:45
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It doesn't happen very often, but a pet peeve that always stops me in my tracks is the confusion between poisonous and venomous when it comes to explaining flora and fauna. When the wrong term is applied, its like nails on a chalkboard. I give myself a mini lecture on the difference between the two and give a tiny sigh of relief when I scroll down and someone has corrected them eventually. Very minor, very dumb.
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Aug 27, 2016 22:59
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Poisons are ingested and venoms are injected, right?
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People who turn the names of businesses into possessives. Sometimes they add "the". "I'm going to the Wal-Mart's, you want anything?"
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Sociopastry posted:see also: people who ask you for help with something they don't know how to do, but somehow know enough to tell you that you're doing it the wrong way. If you know how to do it, why did you need my help???? This always drives me up the wall. I've gotten to the point in my life that if someone asks for my advice on something and then argues about what I tell them then I say that they must be right and change the subject. "Hey you work in X field, can you tell me how to do Y?" "Sure, you do these things in this order." "Why would you do those things? That doesn't make sense." "Okay guess you know how to do Y after all good luck."
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Aug 28, 2016 02:09
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Yes, I'd like to let your kid play with my expensive electronics, thanks for volunteering me to entertain them. 
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Aug 28, 2016 05:40
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Youtube videos with normal English titles but when you click it it's completely in a different language. The title will be like "Apple Macbook Pro 15 Review" and then the whole thing will be in German. Misleading rear end in a top hat.
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Aug 28, 2016 05:46
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Intoluene posted:Yes, I'd like to let your kid play with my expensive electronics, thanks for volunteering me to entertain them. Ohhh you just reminded me of a good one! People who bring their young kids to restaurants and then shove iPads in their face to keep them entertained, and then they don't bother to keep the volume down or use headphones or whatever, so through the whole meal I hear "The Wheels on the bus go ROUND AND ROUND," over and over and over. Two things here: if your kids are incapable is sitting still for an hour LEAVE THEM THE gently caress AT HOME. Either hire a sitter or order loving take-out. The other thing is, if you MUST bring them and you MUST keep them entertained, how about something QUIET, in consideration for people who didn't come to the restaurant to listen to your children entertain themselves? For the record, I'm not talking about an explicitly kid friendly restaurant like, say, Friendly's. I'm talking about normal restaurants. Leavemywife posted:Poisons are ingested and venoms are injected, right? This is correct. Poisons can also be inhaled or work on contact, but venom must be injected into a wound.
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Silver Falcon posted:Ohhh you just reminded me of a good one! Ugh, I just had this the other day. Nice, charming, quiet cafe except for one kid that was playing some musical matching game or something, and SCREECHED at full volume whenever he got the combo right. And then his parents being incredibly supportive of his victory, thus assuring the next screech would be even louder and repeated for effect.
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Aug 28, 2016 15:36
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Parents who dont talk to their kids make me really sad, like why even have kids if all you're going to do is tell them to shut up while you get to talk to your friends or look at your phone Maybe they wouldn't misbehave if you paid attention to them and didn't treat them like a burden you have to put up with????
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Aug 28, 2016 15:44
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How about parents who don't bring anything to entertain their kids? Like toddler age. One of my monthly meetings is at an aquarium club and without fail, the couple with the toddler shows up with maybe one toy for him to play with for a 3 hour meeting. So I started bringing my old toys and poo poo my nephew and niece are done with, so he always has something new to keep himself busy. Still doesn't work for the full 3 hours, but gently caress, the family is Mormon, they have to have people who will babysit! Here's a peeve. Someone who needs you to go with them on an errand just for them. I have no interest in it, it cuts into my free time, and it never takes just a few minutes. My friend decided to get her tattoo recolored, and insisted I go with her, because I don't have any tats, have no real inclination to get any, but gently caress it, fine, after dealing with her passive aggressive whining for a week I said I'd go. She kept asking what tat I would be getting even after I told her none, and oh joy, the parlor she wanted to go to was an hour away. So off we go. For the next four hours I am at this barely air conditioned tattoo parlor while she gets a recolor, and then another one redone, and a small new one she wants the dude to sketch. The entire time I am sitting there on my phone or walking around right outside. I had absolutely no need to be there, no tat was being done that would impair her driving, but for some reason I absolutely had to go. gently caress, we barely talked the entire time because she was chatting it up with the artist and no one could hear over the music playing anyway.
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Silver Falcon posted:People who bring their young kids to restaurants and then shove iPads in their face to keep them entertained, and then they don't bother to keep the volume down or use headphones or whatever, so through the whole meal I hear "The Wheels on the bus go ROUND AND ROUND," over and over and over. Brawnfire posted:Ugh, I just had this the other day. Nice, charming, quiet cafe except for one kid that was playing some musical matching game or something teenytinymouse posted:Parents who dont talk to their kids make me really sad, like why even have kids if all you're going to do is tell them to shut up while you get to talk to your friends or look at your phone
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Tiggum posted:You are only seeing them at that one time though. Not that there aren't bad parents, but it's really not fair to judge them on such a small window. I can and will judge them and I frequently do in fact. If you're an rear end in a top hat to your kid in public you're probably even worse in private 
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Silver Falcon posted:People who bring their young kids to restaurants and then shove iPads in their face to keep them entertained, and then they don't bother to keep the volume down or use headphones or whatever, so through the whole meal I hear "The Wheels on the bus go ROUND AND ROUND," over and over and over. Brawnfire posted:Ugh, I just had this the other day. Nice, charming, quiet cafe except for one kid that was playing some musical matching game or something, and SCREECHED at full volume whenever he got the combo right. And then his parents being incredibly supportive of his victory, thus assuring the next screech would be even louder and repeated for effect. A friend of mine was on the train with some little poo poo who played his DS at high volume once. Overheard his mom asking him to turn the sound off and he replied "can't be turned off." So she went over and asked him the same, got the same reply, asked if she could see it for a moment and had it on mute within two seconds. Apparently it was completely worth it for the look on the kid's face. Just utter shock and betrayal at an adult knowing how his toy worked, and that's before he realized his mom was on to him now, too.
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teenytinymouse posted:I can and will judge them My Lovely Horse posted:A friend of mine was on the train with some little poo poo who played his DS at high volume once. Overheard his mom asking him to turn the sound off and he replied "can't be turned off." So she went over and asked him the same, got the same reply, asked if she could see it for a moment and had it on mute within two seconds. Apparently it was completely worth it for the look on the kid's face. Just utter shock and betrayal at an adult knowing how his toy worked, and that's before he realized his mom was on to him now, too.
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More or less so than the kid who lies to his mom and pisses off a carriageful of commuters so he can play his precious DS without headphones?
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My Lovely Horse posted:More or less so than the kid who lies to his mom and pisses off a carriageful of commuters so he can play his precious DS without headphones? Like much of modern history, there are typically no clear "good" people in this scenario. I wouldn't have done it but that look of betrayal would have made it worth it.
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Horse's friend made the situation for pretty much everyone involved, including the kid who now gets to learn that lying is bad
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Hey horse tell your friend he's good Also I love ur username a whole bunch and I'm gonna go watch that episode now
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Digirat posted:Horse's friend made the situation for pretty much everyone involved, including the kid who now gets to learn that lying is bad Totally. Not everyone has enough courage to do something like that but I bet everyone was miserable putting up with that kid. It's not being an rear end in a top hat to teach kids to think of others. I don't know why we view children's contentment and getting their way as sacrosanct. They are developmentally unlikely to be concientious of others. Adults need to teach them those behaviors. I don't see what's wrong with that. I used to be one of those quiet little kids who my parents could take anywhere. My mother was firm with me and also made sure she brought stuff for me to do. I never felt frustrated or abused, so I know it's not unreasonable to expect kids to behave. I mean, I feel like there's gotta be something wrong with all the kids being constanly engrossed in a screen, but a couple of things: maybe they have an otherwise rich life away from that screen and I'm just getting to see a slice of their life in a boring adult environment. Also, those aren't my kids and as long as it's muted they aren't bothering me.
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Parasol Prophet posted:On the other side of things, as a teenager there was a significant period of time where my mom would say something like "Hey, which one of you wants to go to the store?" I mean like 5+ HOURS PASS and they still haven't done the thing. I don't care if they wait an hour but 5! 5+ Hours and you still haven't taken out the goddamn trash!
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